Help!! How do I slow down a progressing dating phase?

akaadam · 2023-12-03T10:03:01+00:00

Communicate to him that “he’s super nice but I don’t I want to be touched super fast”.

Go at your own pace otherwise you’ll not enjoy it. If he’s a good man, he’ll wait until you’re ready for more intimacy.

Independent-Hall4929 · 2023-12-03T13:26:03+00:00

Only accept dates in public until you’re ready to be intimate.

So when he asked that say ‘I’ll prefer to go out’ etc …

If he gets upset, he’s not the man for you.

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Title: Help!! How do I slow down a progressing dating phase?

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Full text: I’ve (18F) been seeing someone (18M) for a week. We met through mutual friends and he’s been so nice and respectful so far, yesterday was our first date. I feel like things are moving a bit too fast for my comfort, he asked me to come over and make out with him later this week and stuff. It’s getting very touchy very fast and I don’t know how to slow it down. I think he’s super nice but I don’t know if I want to be touched super fast.

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CellBig4354 · 2023-12-04T03:33:30+00:00

This is what guys do, they’re goal is to have sex with you as quickly as they can. That’s why they’re going on a date and are super nice to you. To charm you into having sex. That’s why all girls need to learn to stand firm on their boundaries. Do not go on a date unless it’s public. Do not kiss or touch if you don’t want it, just laugh and make him wonder a bit. Guys naturally want to rush the process, it’s the woman who decides the pace. Do not let him manipulate you into giving it away too early on. And chances are if you do so he will leave.

Leonhart93 · 2023-12-04T03:36:17+00:00

A common pattern these days to move things sexually pretty much right away. I personally don't agree with it, I think we should break that pattern. My recommendation for anyone that wants anything serious is that they wait to have sex until the committed relationship is established, and not just in the talking stage like you are right now.

You can start by asking him for that, and look closely by how willing he will be in the moment, that will be a good indicator. A lot of guys will appear unwilling, which is also the perfect filter you need.

MapInside5914 · 2023-12-04T07:02:06+00:00

You open your mouth and speak and say your desires out loud without input from anyone else

Title	Help!! How do I slow down a progressing dating phase?
Author	New_Initiative_2134
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	December 3, 2023 9:45 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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