Help with guy

crimsonswitch · 2016-03-22T16:36:54+00:00

From my own experience and others:

If you have any doubt that he's really into you or not, having sex will not make him more into you and he's almost certainly not into you the way you want him to be. The ones who might be into you without seeming it are usually painfully introverted and shy.

If he doesn't treat you well, he does not respect you, and having sex with him will not make him treat you better or respect you more. You say "he does not feel like I deserve to be treated well" - did he say that to you? The reddest of red flags.

If you feel like you are using sex to 'hook' him, or that sex will hook him when your personality clearly has not, having sex with him will not make him like your personality more or be more attached to you - it will mean you've taken away the one thing he was curious about.

dalls18 · 2016-03-22T16:32:00+00:00

Ummmm......were my thoughts reading this post.

I think the answer is very obvious or at least it should be. You said "you don't want to be used" "you feel like he doesn't treat you well" which is saying the same thing in different words. I don't know if this is fully RPW advice but I think it crosses over.

Firstly, of course he wants sex, this is man 101, and of course he'll try to get it from wherever and however he can which includes maybe telling you things that will make you give it to him. Your job is to understand the male creature and the female creature. You cannot control a man nor should you but you can control yourself, by understanding what you seek which seems to be deep down, love in the context of a relationship, which will not come easily but you should not settle for less. You should learn to respect yourself and become the best woman you can be and then look for a man in that context.

There is a greater than 90% chance that he will sleep with you but not offer you commitment, think about that and think about how you will feel about that in the long run. Decisions take a second to make, but consequences sometimes last a lifetime.

-TheOutsid3r- · 2016-03-22T16:34:08+00:00

Let's see, confident, successfull, you gave hints you were sexually available. There's no talk about relationship or any kind of commitment in the room.

Try to look at it from his PoV or an outside one. To me at least this would more seem like a fling and some fun on the side rather than finding a partner.

[deleted] · 2016-03-22T16:41:13+00:00

Next. Don't become a plate.

Title	Help with guy
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Date	March 22, 2016 4:16 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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