How do you know a friendship will last?

velvthamr · 2023-05-21T17:16:33+00:00

Sometimes friendships naturally fade. You don’t have to have a big, sit down discussion about it. It’s just the ebb and flow of friendships. Many women have the “career is everything” mindset, so a RPW’s friendship would look quite different.

I’m very conservative and have always been in the RPW mindset, even when I was school age. I’ve always wanted to be married and have kids. My best friend from junior high and high school has a similar sense of humor as me and we kinda “click”. As we’ve gotten older, she’s become more and more blue-pilled. I don’t want to get into political stuff on this sub because I know now everyone agrees with me, but I’m a conservative Catholic and she’s very into the “anything goes” way of thinking politically. She told me last year that her sister is on Only Fans and I said how concerning that is and one of the worst things a young woman could do. My best friend said it wasn’t a big deal and even said “Hey, at least she’s making money.” I was shocked. That’s just one instance- she’s becoming increasingly blue-pilled. It’s difficult but like you said, you aren’t her mom. If she asks you for input or advice you should absolutely be honest, but I’d honestly just lead by example.

My friend and I haven’t spoken in about two months. I’m waiting for her to reach out. But I’ve come to realize that if someone values you or wants to make your friendship a priority whether it’s a man or a friend, they will. It hurts when you’re discarded by a man or if someone you thought you’d have a lifelong friendship with veers off into the modern mindset, but all you can do is stay true to yourself 🙂

A woman going to college and getting a degree isn’t a death sentence but it does make it more difficult to find a RPM, especially when she’ll have to focus so much of her energy on studying.

countrylemon · 2023-05-21T18:08:20+00:00

To me sounds like you’re fixated on the person you “know” her to be but people are fluid and hobbies interest personalities change, not thinking she’ll achieve what she’s trying to sounds judgemental, just because she’s not going about life the same way you think is the best for her doesn’t mean she’s not going to meet the man of her dreams and have kids after medical school.

People are dynamic, friendships are dynamic.

If she treats you and others with respect, if she’s still kind and fun to be around, then she’s still a good friend to have. Sure people are influenced by friends but like you said at the core people are who they are and if you truly think she’s a good person and a good friend at her core then she’s still a friend. The dynamics of that friendship may change and how you both navigate it and it might not have the same feel as before but you can still be friends.

AutoModerator · 2023-05-21T16:30:16+00:00

Title: How do you know a friendship will last?

Full text: My MOH (25 f) who is also my best friend has been acting a bit different. Now I know we are both different people in general but one of the reasons why I love her is because she was pretty similar to me. Our personalities meshed very well and we had pretty much the same beliefs. However, since I moved away I feel like seeing how she is acting is new to me. I knew her as being more introverted but I think since she is meeting new people at university she is becoming friends with more outgoing, extroverted, party people. She has a tiktok and has been going out a lot more. I am not her mom and she is a full on adult so I’m not going to tell her what to do with her life. But internally I think I feel a little bit weird because I think there is some truth to you are who you hang out with. And since we haven’t seen each other in months (I live across the country) she is making a new friend group. If she is genuinely happy then I am happy for her. I just know she’s told me that she wishes she was going to be married and have kids and she wanted to give it all up since those areas weren’t going very well. It makes me sad because I’m not sure if she will achieve this since she is putting her medical degree first and everything else second. Like I said I feel like I know the real her but I’m just wondering if down the road our dynamic will change? It’s not my job to change anyone but any other ladies been through this like female friendships where your lifestyles don’t align?

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Title	How do you know a friendship will last?
Author	No-Guitar993
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	May 21, 2023 4:30 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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