I'm Dora without inner happiness

AutoModerator · 2025-05-19T01:09:07+00:00

Title: I'm Dora without inner happiness

Author Economy-Criticism768

Full text: I've recently started reading fascinating womanhood and my eyes have really been opened. Although Ive read Laura Doyle's books and studied red pill concepts for quite a few years this book has given me a new perspective on who lovable women are rather than what women should do to get what they want. It really helped me see what type of women are conducive to male happiness.

In the book he brings the example of Dora versus Agnes and I feel like I'm Dora without inner happiness. I have a personality disorder called avoidant personality which causes me to be withdrawn socially and it causes melancholy. arguments often end with him saying something along the lines of "you'll never be happy, nothing is good enough"

This used to baffle me because he knows it has nothing to do with him personally, but now I'm depriving him of an important component of his life which is a woman with the inner happiness and stability that Agnes can provide.

Just looking for any advice anyone can give me, it's difficult to even word my question properly.

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CountTheBees · 2025-05-19T01:54:25+00:00

When he says "you'll never be happy, nothing is good enough" I see him putting a lot of effort into making you happy and none of it paying off. Like when you get someone a birthday present and they don't like it, multiple years in a row. It doesn't matter if it's their personality disorder's fault, you still feel bad because you put effort in and tried and none of it made any difference and you wanted to cheer them up but couldn't.

While you can't really change your disorder you can change how you react and how much effort you put into being grateful and recognising his effort. When you see him putting effort in, recognise the effort ("wow, you did all this for me?") and appreciate it (use it, wear it, praise it, integrate it into your life so that it gets its money's worth). Don't ask for a different thing from the one you got, or complain about it. Without more specific examples it's hard to tell whether this applies or not. But just basics of gift appreciation and how to receive. Treat everything he "provides" (salary, help with chores, etc) as if it's a gift and don't take it for granted. Be careful about what you complain about. Praise his effort in public to others. This only needs to occur while arguments are still happening about these topics, you can be more honest when the arguments stop.

Being internally happy is an important thing for your life not just for men. Of course men want to be in relationships with healthy, internally happy women (unless they're sick in the head themselves). But that's not the primary reason you should want to get better. You also shouldn't think that you'll always be this way or limit yourself from being happy. I found that when I wanted to be happy I went out of my way to change my life to achieve that.

Title	I'm Dora without inner happiness
Author	Economy-Criticism768
Upvotes	4
Comments	3
Date	May 19, 2025 1:09 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1kpzhed/im_dora_without_inner_happiness/
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