Insecurity in current relationship

stripethrowaway · 2018-08-15T17:51:29+00:00

1. Do not voice your concern to him about this. 9/10 times you will look like a jealous, crazy, controlling girlfriend.

Rely on careful observation and be prepared to next instead.

2. Raise your SMV so you can stop feeling inadequate to her.

Whatever you gotta do. Make yourself look and feel better. You need the confidence boost and you deserve it.

If he notices and reacts negatively or tries to sabotage you doing this, next.

3. He picked you for a reason. Don’t let him forget that reason.

Be the best gf you can be, that’s all you really can do. If he reacts negatively to this or increases his communication with her, next.

If he’s orbiting her, don’t waste your time being the one he settled for.

VisitingfromJapan · 2018-08-15T17:17:37+00:00

He's orbiting her, no question about that. I don't have the solution, but...

I've seen guys who orbit girls simply "forget" about these girls they orbit when they get more things going on in their lives. It often happens when they either get new girlfriends or their girlfriends treat them so well they totally forget all about the other girls.

Step up your girl game and this problem might solve itself. If it gets worse, then i'd consider bailing.

RatedRDisney · 2018-08-21T16:35:02+00:00

This seems like a giant red flag to me, and honestly a deal breaker in my eyes if I had known about it during the first dates/vetting stages. Obviously you are beyond that and want to make this relationship work. I have no new advice for you but second the previous comments. If you don't mind I would like an update report whenever you go through with this, if that isn't asking too much. If the results are painful or too much of a privacy issue for you then I understand completely. Good luck to you!

Hammocknapping · 2018-08-15T17:08:05+00:00

For me, this would be deal breaking behavior. One of the reasons I felt so comfortable when I started dating my husband was because it was so clear that he had no contact with any of his ex girlfriend or flings.

Men and women cannot be just friends if they have been intimently involved. There will always be the existence of sexual tension. The only avenue for men and women to be friends is if the relationship is always strictly platonic.

(Yes, I’m aware that some commenters believe it is never possible. No their arguments have not changed my mind.)

CalvinRichland · 2018-08-15T16:55:58+00:00

He is an orbiter. Make his life amazinig and then tell him you want him to move on and withdraw awesomeness until he does what you want.

Title	Insecurity in current relationship
Author	fuschia-amaryllis
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	August 15, 2018 4:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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Comments

1. Do not voice your concern to him about this. 9/10 times you will look like a jealous, crazy, controlling girlfriend.

2. Raise your SMV so you can stop feeling inadequate to her.

3. He picked you for a reason. Don’t let him forget that reason.