What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue? Yesterday he decided to tell me he has been talking to his x this whole time we have been back together. He admitted to hiding it from me because he was scared I wouldn’t understand. He finally decided to tell me because he knew the longer he waited the worse it would be. He said it was about him getting closure.

How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem I told him this isn’t how a partnership is supposed to be and how he clearly does not trust me or he wouldn’t hide it from me. I also told him I didn’t think it was a good idea to continue to talk to her since she abused him emotionally and hit him. I told him that having to put conditionins on talking to her like keeping her at arms length meant it was already bad thing.

What is your current relationship status? We are dating while he works to be better so we can have a long lasting relationship.

He has agreed to tell her about our conversation and cut contact. He apologized several times and said he let his fear control him. He said he did trust me he was just scared because he knew I would be upset. I just am not sure I can trust him now since he kept this from me. He let me read the messages and they seemed platonic. I’m unsure of how to proceed. I’m hurt he thought I wouldn’t understand and trust has been broken.