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FIELD REPORTfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:12 AM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 02:37 PM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 07:32 AM
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METAfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 11:49 AM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 11:56 AM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 04:59 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 06:43 AM
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FIELD REPORTfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 09:09 AM
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GIRL GAMEfairydust91/r/RedPillWives21/09/20 07:50 AM
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INSIGHTFULfairydust91/r/RedPillWives21/09/20 07:18 AM
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PARENTINGfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 04:12 PM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 07:43 AM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 12:09 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 10:16 AM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 11:20 AM
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RELATIONSHIPSfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 10:33 AM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 08:22 AM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 08:01 AM
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LIFESTYLEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 08:39 AM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 10:19 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:43 PM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWives05/10/20 12:09 PM
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ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 02:48 PM
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ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 03:02 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 09:22 AM
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ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 07:45 AM
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DATING ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:19 PM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWomen30/12/17 08:46 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 03:36 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 05:10 AM
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LIFESTYLEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 09:06 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 11:07 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 08:51 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:54 AM
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DATING ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 08:44 AM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:14 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 10:47 AM
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SELF CAREfairydust91/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 06:13 AM
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LIFESTYLEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 07:02 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 09:21 AM
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LIFESTYLEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 08:37 AM
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DATING ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 05:18 AM
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fairydust91/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:42 AM
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LIFESTYLEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 06:40 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 09:55 AM
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DATING ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 09:51 AM
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ADVICEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 06:55 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 07:35 AM
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DISCUSSIONfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 09:55 AM
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LIFESTYLEfairydust91/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 06:41 AM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWives21/09/20 07:31 AM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 09:53 AM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWomen17/08/18 11:38 AM
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fairydust91/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 08:57 AM
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I took a screenshot of that last paragraph. Great stuff and sooo so true.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 11:25 AM
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This all over, great advice.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 10:21 AM
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Oof, that last sentence.👌
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 10:09 AM
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ASOS never fails me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 10:06 AM
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Lol I'm not proud of it but hey, it was a massive upgrade. I agree - let him be and you do you!! Xox
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 10:03 AM
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I had a feeling he'd be RP, I'm not surprised in the slightest. I definitely understand how soul crushing this is. I don't think my guy did ever cheat but there was a period where I was absolutely terrified that he was, and acted out in the worst ways. It did nothing but create an additional wedge between us. You cannot control him and honestly, who wants to control a grown man? That's not fun for anyone. You can only control yourself and how you react to certain situations. When he goes cold, d…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 09:32 AM
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Is he familiar with TRP? Keeping you on the brink of fear is called dread. It's a way to keep you on your toes and it ensures you're constantly trying to please him because you're worried he's going to leave you. Nagging him about it and being controlling is having the exact opposite effect from the one you want. In this situation I would step my SMV up and don't be so available. Go out for a walk, grab a coffee with a friend. Go get your hair and nails done. Smile. Look happy. Work on yourself.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 08:20 AM
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Hey hun I totally get that but I think its better to be safe than sorry in this situation. One woman versus several guys is not a situation that will leave you feeling empowered. Safety first, always. I definitely agree you should find another route. Can you get a colleague to walk with you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 08:09 AM
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And he requests screenshots of her conversations. 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 02:53 PM
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I'm using feminist ideology by separating men and women?! 😂 Didnt God do that first?! Are we the same now? I'm so confused. That was a hoot, thanks. You can condemn her all you want, I'm sure she's real torn up about it. I never called her a victim, she's a millionaire and you're sat on reddit condemning her. Joke's on you!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 08:31 AM
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Ideologically looking at it, or just looking at it? Where there is a demand, there will be a supply. If you don't agree with the supply of it, I suggest you look at why there's such a demand for it. That's where the problem is. :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 08:07 AM
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So its only OK when the beneficiary is male?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 07:18 AM
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I mean, our sexuality has been used against us for quite some time. Why can't we use it to our benefit? It's ours.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 06:55 AM
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That was so creepy to watch lol
/r/RedPillWives05/10/20 05:23 AM
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I wont go into politics although I do agree that if you want a traditional man, he will most likely be Conservative. In that case I think you should try meet him on his level and maybe come into the middle a little bit, at the very least. Try watching Ben Shapiro or Candace Owens, that did it for me. As for the man you're dating - he may have dated these super model career type of women, but did he marry them? No. Compared to them, you will probably be a breath of fresh air. Stay in your feminin…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 06:29 AM
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Yikes. You'd think at 36 he'd know better than to pull this shit. Unfortunately people will do what you allow them to do...
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 05:56 AM
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This... After a few years and at his age... He knows... He's just not telling her.
/r/RedPillWives02/10/20 02:03 PM
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So huge it's hard to miss.
/r/RedPillWives02/10/20 06:12 AM
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I think after 3 months you should definitely be exclusive with someone. I think he's just not that into you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 06:15 AM
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Thank you so much for your suggestions!!
/r/RedPillWives29/09/20 09:50 AM
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Wow, I had no idea specific kits were even a thing. Thank you so much.💡😅❤️
/r/RedPillWives29/09/20 09:49 AM
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I'm confused as to how its possible that you KNOW he's into TRP and MGTOW and yet you're being like this... Like my guy is barely aware of their existence and I still try to stay in my own lane and out of his. Does he provide for your family? If so, you really need to just STFU. It's really not that hard. Just close your mouth and make the man a damn sandwich. I think the pill is stuck.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 07:30 AM
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Yikes, cold hard truth right here, girl. I like it.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 07:23 AM
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Yes exactly my thoughts too
/r/RedPillWives22/09/20 10:02 AM
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Yes! I think her girlishness definitely helped!
/r/RedPillWives22/09/20 10:02 AM
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Yup, overnight, although I'm not sure at what point the illiteracy kicks in. :)
/r/RedPillWives22/09/20 10:01 AM
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Thanks for the award! X
/r/RedPillWives21/09/20 07:59 AM
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Should there be a pinned post here warning young women that the other sub is run by men? I had no idea what the difference was between the two subs, for example. What's the general consensus around here? Am I welcome here if I discovered all this after entering into a relationship or am I a lost cause? 😂😅🤔 I had no idea mods were coaching women....?
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 08:27 AM
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Kara, I thought you were gone!! Its nice to see you've simply migrated lol. What a weird post that was! Is there room for an engaged girl here at all or is it strictly for wives? (I suppose I can wait a few months.😅)
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 07:50 AM
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Has Kara left the sub?!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 07:33 AM
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Hadn't thought of it like that. I guess I did not approach is as casually as I had thought 😅🤔
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:03 PM
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I'm not conventionally hot yet my partner ticks all the boxes you mention and then some. Honest question : do you even like men? You've bashed them like, 3 times in this thread alone. Check out Fascinating Womanhood or get over to FDS IMO.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:44 PM
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It might not be your SMV then. It might be an RMV issue.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:31 PM
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If handled incorrectly, sure.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:30 PM
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I think the issue is the fact that your relationship is relatively young still. I wouldn't move for him if I were you, its too soon. I think you will naturally start handing out husband benefits waaay too early. Are you going to basically cook & clean for him while also paying 50% of the bills? Be very careful. He should be taking care of you as much as you are taking care of him. You also point out issues with time/attention. Imagine that doesn't improve, you're paying 50% and doing the househo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 11:49 AM
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Guys could say the same thing about Chad/Alpha types. You literally just have to be cute and emotionally / mentally stable (calm confidence). Work on those. What does your list of requirements for a man look like? Edit: Btw i am not gorgeous myself in any way. But I get my hair done (cut / dye) once a month, file and fix my nails weekly (used to get them done) shave my entire body twice a week minimum, do my eye brows daily and make sure my outfits are cute and feminine. With regards to your out…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 11:30 AM
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I kind of disagree with this, I tend to think we are the pickier gender. I think you have some unresolved bitterness, after checking previous posts. You previously considered yourself a femcel and although you've moved away from that in theory, you're clearly holding on to bitterness. That is not attractive. Men do not all want a professional model but this comment makes me think your standard is a bit high for your reality. You are young - I would suggest you exit the dating scene entirely, wor…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 11:17 AM
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Congratulations!! 🎉🎊🥂 Wishing you all the best with your new job and so glad to hear you're leaving a toxic work environment. Its hard to stay in your feminine with so much work stress isnt it? Happy for you ! :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 11:00 AM
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I am thankful that I finally got a new, better paying job. Thankful for my parents for the many sacrifices they made for me to get an education, even when it was sometimes undeserved. Super thankful that my fiance has been supportive during this time and allowed me to take the time to find the right job. Beyond thankful for this. Its been the calmest, sweetest 3 months I've had in about a decade. All thanks to him. ❤️ I will never forget this gift. During this time off, I've had the time to step…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:56 AM
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I love how excited you are about the holidays! 😄👌💕
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:29 AM
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That's sweet 💕 Sending early Happy Birthday wishes to your little one!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:28 AM
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Hey! This is so sweet 😍👌 Do you mind me asking how hes "taken control of finances" prior to marriage? Do you already have joint accounts? Just wondering coz we're also engaged and I'd love to hand it over to him entirely but I'm cautious to do that prior to marriage. I'd love to hear any tips you have. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:27 AM
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No but he did tell her he was going to cover it so its a bit cheeky if he doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:04 AM
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:) Amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 12:53 PM
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"Living the life you secretly wanted for yourself." Ain't that the truth!!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:54 AM
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Indeed it was. His needs are a top top priority. Satisfied man = happy man = confident man. I'm not worried about myself at all actually - I personally think the whole concept is BS, just wanted to double check what others thought. Thanks for your comment.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:50 AM
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She's worried about you. It's her job to do that. I would be more concerned if she didnt. Show her you've got a good head on your shoulders by studying hard and doing your best. Once she sees that, I'll bet she worries less. Also, you're 18. Take it from us older ladies, this probably WON'T be the guy you marry. Focus on yourself first and foremost at this stage in your life. Guys your age only want 1 thing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:29 AM
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Icky. 😂 Aww.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:24 AM
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Thanks, can't complain! :) Hope you are too.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:14 AM
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Thank you! You never miss a beat.:)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:13 AM
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🤢🤮
/r/askMRP10/09/20 10:42 AM
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Do you really think that would work on BP men? I feel like that would cause them to shrivel up (semi pun intended) further, no?
/r/askMRP10/09/20 10:39 AM
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Then it sounds like your set! Just make sure you are not stuck in a foreign country with no money of your own. Ever! :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 10:20 AM
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Make sure you have access to accounts then. You say you are in a foreign country too, right? This is extra important then. Have an emergency fund that is just yours.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:52 AM
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Blue haired feminism😂👌
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:49 AM
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Damn. 👏👏👏
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:48 AM
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Great post. That first point hit home way more than it should. I spent five years defining myself by my job. I quit three months ago and was pleasantly reminded I used to be fun before, I had hobbies ffs. Definitely needed to read this, thank you so much. How would one practise small talk? I will admit to hating it with a passion (I wish hairdressers & nail techs could just do their job in silence) but I understand its importance. How would one try to improve this?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:40 AM
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I think it's perfectly normal for him to go through this, in the same way women can be jealous of Stacy. What's interesting is that he's comfortable enough to open up to you about it. I like that about him. It could be a lot worse - he could be going through this blindly, get pissy with you over it and not work through it to identify the problem. I don't think it's the end of the world. Just try hyping him up a bit more. Stay cheerful and happy and be careful not to emasculate him in the process…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:26 AM
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Do you think a man would respond well to being told she thinks he may have low T? What would be a subtle, non-accusatory way to bring this up? A 21 year old guy with insecurities is not going to react well to this at all.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:20 AM
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"Rarely get told a nice word or shown appreciation." I hate that ☹️
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:18 AM
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👏👏👏 Exactly. This sub is either for improvement or not!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:12 AM
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Haha I can't. 🙃
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:06 AM
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👏👏👏 here here!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:05 AM
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Lol damn it, I missed the essay. As if we don't already know they don't like sluts. Well, apart from the ones they sleep with & watch online ofc. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:02 AM
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I think so too but always interesting to hear opinions/experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 02:26 PM
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No worries I got your point all the same. Do you not think if she's a virgin at marriage she will be more tempted later on in life?!
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 02:24 PM
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I think "on average you are doomed" if you're not a virgin when you marry is, IMO, a little ... far-fetched. I will look into it. I am not religious so I can't comment on that aspect. Thanks for your contribution, all the best to you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 02:20 PM
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I love that last paragraph, thanks for your input. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 01:46 PM
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Sorry, didn't mean to be pedantic about the number - even 50 sounds insane to me though lol. Like don't they have other hobbies? 😂 The desire/effort to improve seems to be a common theme in the comments. Very interesting. Thank you for your input!
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 01:45 PM
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My experience is very similar. I don't think its prevented me from bonding in any way but then again I only have my experience to judge from sooo... 🤷
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 01:42 PM
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Maybe. 🤷 I don't personally buy it. Interesting username btw. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 01:40 PM
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I wouldn't consider you a hypocrite personally. This sub is for improvement- if you were 'perfect' you likely wouldn't be here. :) Interesting perspective, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 01:39 PM
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How many women actually have an n- count that's so high though? I think most women today are somewhere between the two you described.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 12:43 PM
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"It would be hard to stay feminine if you dont trust him". Very well said.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 10:05 AM
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OP knows damn well what she's doing too though, she needs to own her shit. I hate that excuse so much. Would she like to be the wife in this scenario? What goes around comes around, brace yourself. 🙃 I am genuinely surprised at how nice everyone is being in the comments.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 09:32 AM
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... is this a joke? Get your own man.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 09:25 AM
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No, I don't think it's possible, unless one of them is objectively super unattractive.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 05:28 AM
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I'm pretty sure this is against the rules. Please do not reveal names. Mods please delete, wtf.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 05:33 AM
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😂 Accurate description.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 03:09 PM
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I'm European, was amused, ngl.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 02:16 PM
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This is true. If a guy has money he has options so he's gonna go for the hot woman. If the woman is hot she has options so she's gonna go for the rich man. Its sad, but it's true and works both ways.
/r/MGTOW207/09/20 12:36 PM
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Haha touche! And also they can't find a good man. 🤷 It's definitely not because their ass is the most interesting thing about them. It's definitely men's fault.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 11:09 AM
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:) I think you're doing very well. X
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 11:01 AM
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Ah yes I forgot my options are Career Woman or Instathot.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 10:03 AM
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Is the OP?
/r/MGTOW206/09/20 02:46 PM
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Cool username. 🐍
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 02:35 PM
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Yikes did we have the same mom? Lol
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 02:01 PM
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Not sure how she betrayed him. He's the one who basically gave up on life. Be attractive and she'll be attracted. It's not a difficult concept to grasp.
/r/MGTOW206/09/20 11:45 AM
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I agree with this; I don't see this situation as a relationship. OP don't let a man tell you twice he doesnt want you. The right man will think the world of you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 08:56 AM
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Same girl. I can't even find any meetup groups that seem appealing to me. It also doesn't help that my last friendships proved to be fake. It left a bitter taste in my mouth.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 08:02 AM
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Hey girl. I was raised in a similar environment & I also realized it was the cause of relationship problems. It takes a while to rewire, but this sub really helped with that. If you haven't done any of the reading, start with Laura Doyle's work. My man has been insanely happier since I've accepted certain truths and rolled with them. It makes for a much more pleasant relationship and daily interactions. I also lurk the men's subs and don't see an issue with it. I've also watched/listened to many…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 07:17 AM
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😂 It definitely works lol, I can't deny that either. I can't keep a pout for longer than a day lol he's got me hooked. Hope you get to see him soon! :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 06:24 AM
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Eh has anyone here actually spoken to anyone who is RP'd? Coz I guarantee you this is not a feminine 'woman'. She'd get a pump and dump at BEST from a low SMV guy if she's lucky.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/20 05:57 AM
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He sounds great but young men can be sneaky so keep your wits about you and like someone else said, watch his actions not his words.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 05:50 AM
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I use a leave in conditioner to tame the frizz & go over the ends and fringe area with a hair straightener. Works wonders.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 05:43 AM
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Why are your parents judging you for taking care of yourself? There's nothing unfeminine about wanting to look your best girl. Get that damn glow up and do it for yourself 💅
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 05:39 AM
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Aw man that would be awesome. Maybe they'll take a nice casserole instead? 🤭😅
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:08 AM
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How sad. It must be weird to be an American right now. I have no idea what you're referring to (Alex Jones/timelines??) but personally, I wouldn't bother. I think it goes to show that she's not mature enough to handle taboo topics without throwing a tantrum. If she wants to reach out and apologize that's fine but she's shown her true colours. Liberal and tolerant unless of course you disagree with her, in which case you're inherently bad and you get deleted. Lol the irony of it all.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:49 AM
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Glad to hear you're doing better 😌
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:35 AM
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What skills would you recommend apart from a job? I would love to learn some new skills.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:30 AM
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If only it were so simple! Most couples have to both work just to get by, especially if they want a kid or two.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:26 AM
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I would argue to wait til your married altogether.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:16 AM
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Fake it till you feel it!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:04 AM
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Great comment!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:04 AM
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Hi what book are you referring to? I watched Karine Alourdes analysis of Dita and I have to say I am intrigued.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:03 AM
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Great post 👌😊
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 04:33 AM
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🤣 I was equally confused
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 01:48 PM
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This is the impression I get too ... Biological instinct Vs feminism. It's sad.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 12:52 PM
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As long as I think he's attractive, I don't see an issue with height. Look at Dwayne Johnson. Tall? No. Hot? Hell yeah. You may think he's not attractive though. So it's all subjective. My guy is naturally slim, as am I. Some women don't find that attractive and that's fine, but I want to jump him on a daily basis. He is over 6 ft though. On the other hand, would I date someone who had all the looks (over 6ft) and no money? Heeell no. I'd take a short guy with a tall bank account any day of the …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 12:07 PM
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Men aren't cardboard cutouts or caricatures of short and rich or tall and hot. They're whole people with many attributes and deal breakers. 👏👏👏 Seriously, though.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 11:58 AM
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I feel you there. I was also fiercely independent before meeting my Captain. For the first time ever I'm happy to submit to my man. I think first and foremost, stop thinking in terms of labels and boxes. As long as the two of you are on the same page and happy with your choices,you can do whatever you want to do. You're obviously fairly established professionally so if you submit and fall into a more traditional role and the relationship fails then you can always re enter the workforce. Granted …
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 12:57 PM
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Get a job. I've been unemployed for 3 months since realising my job was sucking the life out of me, one day at a time. Luckily my fiance is amazing and has had my back, as always. However, although I am doing great around the house and he's barely lifted a finger in 3 months, I feel bad not contributing financially. I got a call back for another round of interviews yesterday and also attended a separate interview for another job. Fingers crossed one of them will lead to an offer. One of them als…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 12:20 PM
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Congratulations 🎊
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 12:10 PM
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Great answer, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 02:10 PM
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That was sweet of you, thanks. I think we got some good answers btw lol.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 02:08 PM
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I have so many jokes to make about how dry yours must be given your nasty tone, but I'll keep it civil and simply thank you for your contribution. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 02:00 PM
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Thank you so much for this! Crystal clear. I love that you mention Depp as an example btw 😂👌 What a shit show - literally and figuratively. Do you mind if I ask how this came about? Were you both independently RPed before getting engaged? Did he RP you or the other way around? Hope I'm not being too nosey, feel free to ignore if I am. X
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 01:55 PM
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Yey glad I'm not the only one. Hoping someone clarifies. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 09:56 AM
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My bad, your formatting threw me off.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 09:50 AM
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Cakes on a plate?! Lol what do you mean? Edit: Nvm googled it 😂 I prefer that too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 08:25 AM
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Thanks for your comment, it was almost funny. Maybe next time. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 06:03 AM
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Sarcasm isn't cute.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:59 AM
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And this right here is why you NEED to move on. This is something that will stay with you and will reappear every so often to crush your self esteem to smithereens. Don't do it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:47 AM
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He literally told her they're saggy and she also thinks they're saggy. I think you're outvoted here.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:45 AM
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... did you get lost on your way to TwoXChromosomes?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:42 AM
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Agreed. OP I would not even give him the benefit of a breakup "speech". This will give him the advantage of being able to "counter" your argument and convince you to stay. The problem is, he has straight up insulted you in the START of the relationship which is when you are supposed to put your best foot forward. I wouldn't even bother speaking with him in two days, I'd be so humiliated to ever see him again. This is not the man for you - next!!!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:37 AM
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I would be interested in this post too. :)
/r/RedPillWives31/08/20 01:21 PM
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Hahaha don't even get me started on my HS outfits. Less is more does NOT apply to clothing. 😂😂😂 Totally agree with you, I feel as long as I'm only showing one "asset" it's not too risque. Thank you - I love the combination too 😘
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 10:21 AM
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It is high waisted, hadn't even thought of that. Thanks! You're so pretty btw. 😍
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 10:15 AM
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😂😂😂 I'm quite small too but there are some great bras out there that help 😅 Actually, straight cut tank tops are what prompted my post. Like I'll wear a tight tank top with a bit of cleavage and a pleated midi skirt, for example, when running errands. I get checked out a lot in this kind of outfit, wondering if it's coz I look good Vs looking slutty/attention seeking if that makes sense. Thanks for your input!! X
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 09:28 AM
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Omg I can't unsee it now.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 09:01 AM
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Yes I think that's why I find it so awkward. Good point!! Splitsies just feels wrong. Where's the ronance?!?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 06:42 AM
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I've seen that kind of behaviour too, it's shocking. Bet they smoked during the pregnancy too. :/ Poor babies.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 06:39 AM
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May I suggest you change your Reddit username given that it's not exactly RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 06:37 AM
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Love this. My partner and I are exactly like you two, but I've never thought of it like this. Thank you for that. :) Also I feel like anyone who is genuine concerned about this will most likely make a decent parent. So many people have babies without really giving it much thought.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 06:15 AM
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I think you should pick up a copy of the Surrendered Wife. It covers everything you've mentioned here. Check out Fascinating Womanhood too - both have YouTube channels. Apart from sprucing up my appearance, cooking and cleaning more often (ie at least once a day) I've learnt (through the above sources of information) how to treat him like a man. For example: don't interrupt, don't finish his sentence, don't try giving advice that wasnt asked of you. If he asks for advice I'll usually turn it aro…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 06:11 AM
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Happy to hear it helped you. I don't know where I'd be without her book.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:55 AM
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Definitely read the Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. Once you read that I suggest you move onto Fascinating Womanhood. There are YouTube videos relating to both. I was also a feminist who unloaded my shit onto a great guy that I almost lost 3 years ago. That's when I discovered RPW. He has since proposed to me and we moved in together. When Covid hit, I got back into reading the above books and things really clicked. Go look at my post from a few days ago - my relationship has never been better.…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:53 AM
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This is great 👍 so true.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 01:26 PM
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Wow this is great thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 12:05 PM
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Depends on the activity. I'd maybe pay for a coffee /ice cream / one round of drinks. I'm not paying for the whole candle lit romantic dinner. We both know what he's expecting at the end of it all - let him put in the work, nothing is free in this world, especially not your time. I would definitely not suggest we split anything either, that's the most awkward thing ever.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 09:28 AM
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Hmm. I wouldn't personally offer to pay on the 1st date unless I invited him out which would never happen lol. We both know he's going to, so just let it happen and thank him for a lovely night. By date 4 maybe ask him out like "hey I know this cute coffee place" and you can treat him to that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 09:14 AM
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I guess by that definition. Not sure if that's how RPW define it though. My own interpretation is when your RMV exceeds your SMV. I could be way off though 🤷
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 09:04 AM
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Wow! Thank you so much 💖
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 09:02 AM
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I watched a Rollo Tomassi podcast that suggested the Alpha female is the prettiest girl in the room. Not sure to what extent that's true but it sounds about right.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 08:40 AM
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I'd be very surprised if he tried to feel you up by the 2nd date in the car. That's very cheap and if he tried something like that on the 2nd date I would say hard Next. Also I think at this point, drive yourself so you can leave if needed.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 07:33 AM
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Orsay are cool for work clothes too, I got a couple of shirts from there.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 07:11 AM
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Pleated skirts are simple to make?! My brain just exploded. How did you teach yourself how to make pleated skirts?! I love them so much. Please share ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 07:11 AM
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Yes of course.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 06:46 AM
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Beta orbiters of the sub 😅🤭 thanks for the giggle.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 07:09 AM
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Id like to add that I've never been this way for any other man. This guy treats me so well, he genuinely deserves the best.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 06:44 AM
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I have a higher sex drive than my guy too. I think it's great you don't want to make it a "thing". From my research in the RPW reading material I think you should make sure you're not being too aggressive about it. Let him be the hunter and just be available. Of course it's fine to initiate yourself but let him take the lead role. Make sure you're flirting all throughout the day with him and ensure some physical touch before you try initiate.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 06:42 AM
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Laura Doyle. You are so welcome. :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 06:25 AM
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Honestly I think a lot of it was pride, at least for me, combined with propaganda I guess. Like why should I be the one to do XYZ etc. Why not him? What's he doing?! Etc etc.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 06:24 AM
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Fascinating Womanhood. There's videos on YT and you can get (one of?) the books online free.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 06:09 AM
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That's awesome! Personally I'm always in the mood lol but I'm careful not to be the aggressor too often. Gotta let the hunter hunt. 😂😈
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 06:08 AM
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Well I think it's important to be clear that I've got a great partner so we don't fight that often/he doesn't piss me off that much I'll ask myself a lot if this is the hill I want to die on. It's usually not. Also I find it helps to do what FW refers to as treasure hunting when I'm pissed. E.g. he did this one thing that pissed me off but he's generally a great partner because XYZ, so when I do bring it up, I am not coming from a place of aggression. It helps if you try keeping in mind that you…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 06:04 AM
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🤷 It is what it is!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:54 PM
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Definitely agree with that. The last thing I need is for him to decide to "spin plates" 😂 No thanks!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:50 PM
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Thanks! I have kept it to myself - may I ask why its so important??
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:43 PM
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Agreed! Nothing to worry about there, I let him know when I'm pissed. 😂 I just do it differently now. Edit: Just to clarify, he definitely takes care of me in many different ways.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:42 PM
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Sending you all the good vibes. :) X
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:09 PM
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Thanks though we are not perfect. :) Sure - I think a lot of men (especially BP) tend to really focus on our pleasure more than theirs almost. On the one hand that's awesome because I also like pleasure (duh!😂) but also I would hate for that to be the focus every single time, if that makes sense? Sometimes he just needs that relief & I think that's so hot. I am very submissive though.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:08 PM
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Thanks, I am far from perfect though. It took me a loooong while to just swallow the damn pill and stfu. And I still make mistakes. But I try. :) I hope you get what you need. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:01 PM
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So jealous of this. I also bought into that idea and although I don't have children, I realized that my high stress job was freaking killing me. I felt so stressed, agitated and manly all.the.time. I was trying to be someone I'm not. I'm just not aggressive, I'm not confrontational. I quit my job and I'm now looking for something less stressful. This has allowed me to relax, detox all that negative masculine energy and I've never felt happier. You are so lucky to have pulled out and now you're h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:47 AM
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We sure did :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:41 AM
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Love this! I hate that saying too! Is my happiness supposed to come at the expense of his?! That's so BP it hurts.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:40 AM
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This is so interesting - especially considering the amount of women who want to stay at home but can't. Do we really have a choice in the matter? I don't necessarily think so.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:37 AM
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So true, I was always rooting for Aiden.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:34 AM
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That's just too much for Angela 😜
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:20 AM
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Most likely 😂 he must reeaaeally want it though if he's putting up with that!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 04:37 AM
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Most likely! In saying that though, most of them are looking for a green card on that show but Michael is one of the nice ones 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 04:35 AM
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Enjoy the madness! 😂😂😂 I just watch the clips on YT, not the whole episode. There's a channel called Master of Blackjack that posts all the best bits after an episode airs.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 04:34 AM
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😂😂😂 you used me Mohammed!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 04:33 AM
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Great way to describe the juxtaposition. Live and let live!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 11:45 AM
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Ugh I relate to this so much. I wish I'd never been brainwashed with that crap.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 11:05 AM
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Same. So tired of "how to be feminine" videos, we need better content.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:55 AM
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YouTube. I think there's a real lack of RPW content. How many times can we watch the same ' how to be feminine' stuff. I don't know how anyone can watch more than a couple of videos from Mrs Midwest. I like Jennifer Moleski on YT - she's got a lot of redpill content and it's great to listen to but I feel like although she's speaking to women, it's mostly men who watch her and she definitely considers this when making her content. I would love a channel that includes femininity with homemaking bu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:53 AM
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Yes, of course. Even more so, perhaps. At 26-27 she needs a man, not a teenager.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:47 AM
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This all over! He wants a traditional woman but is far from a traditional man. OP please read this several times.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 06:04 PM
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Haha amazing
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 06:03 PM
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What makes you say that?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 08:16 AM
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Get my hair dyed/cut/blow dried. Do my nails. Face masks. Ice cream. Listen to podcasts.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 05:06 AM
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Seconding this, threading is the best for brows.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 04:59 AM
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Confessed feelings? What, is he 12? No, he's 30. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:53 PM
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He may just be an asshole girl. 😂 You tried. He did not. I know you'll be fine. Xxx
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:39 PM
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Be very grateful when he treats you, receive gracefully, allow him to spoil you. But don't expect it/take it for granted. Be feminine and gracious. Let him take care of you financially if he can / wants to and you take care of him domestically. I'm really not sure what that looks like in the beginning though
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:35 PM
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You can say something along the lines of "you've been treating me to nice meals, now it's my turn" and maybe like turn it into banter?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:33 PM
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Yes that sounds good. I just want to remind you that you are pretty awesome for providing both financially and domestically, so don't forget that. ❤️ Hoping you find a higher value man who will appreciate everything you bring to the table. Xx
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:31 PM
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You could offer to pay on the next date or offer to cook for him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:18 PM
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Spot on about paying to protect his pride btw. Leaving him sounds like a great plan, hoping bigger and better things come your way. Xx
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:14 PM
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Spot on!
/r/MensRights20/08/20 06:17 AM
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Sounds like a beta orbiter. He speaks to you for 4+ hours a day and he hasn't even tried to hit it? So confused.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 05:31 AM
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I think the best way to ensure he won't resent you is to be grateful about it. Even 10 years down the line. Thank him for what he provides and show him that with both your words and your actions. I would love if my man was OK with covering all the costs for our wedding.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 02:27 PM
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Wow I just came across her on YouTube and remembered this post (I hadn't watched the video when you posted it). I love love love that video. 😘❤️ She's great, I'm binge watching right now lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 09:27 AM
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:) I think he looks amazing actually, the few kgs he's gained has been evenly distributed lol so he does look bigger / stronger. I don't think he feels that way about it though.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 04:38 PM
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I love the last sentence. Thank you ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:52 PM
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I know he's not talking to me but I find it fascinating, I can't look away. Plus there is no equivalent podcast for women apart from LD. I do see what you're saying though, and I appreciate it, so thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:06 PM
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No problem and sorry if I was harsh, you are the same age as my sister and like I said, I'd be horrified. I am 28 btw so I am closer to his age and it's just weird hun. In every way. Please take care and watch what he does not what he says. Anyone can lie to get what they want.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 09:05 AM
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It's not the age gap that concerns me but your age. I (vaguely) remember being 18 and I definitely remember being 27 - they are literally miles and miles apart from each other - you have no idea. I don't think it's a good idea for you. You should create your own life before you enter someone else's frame otherwise you will be vulnerable to all kinds of toxic behaviour, simply because you are less likely to identify it as such.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 08:10 AM
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Agreed! Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 09:45 AM
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Before discovering RPW I had a habit of refusing his help because "I can do it fine myself". What you're referring to is definitely true. Now I don't even attempt to open jars any more around the house, they go straight to his strong arms ;)
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 04:40 AM
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He may very well be a great guy, but he's not a good husband to you by any means. Even if I could get over the cheating and the kid (I couldn't) I could never get passed the abuse. Next time he tells you she's better than you I suggest you tell him "great then you should have no problem packing your shit and moving in with her." Good riddance.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 06:00 AM
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This. I will never understand why people stay in these relationships. How are you eventually going to explain this half sibling to your kids if you haven't already?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 05:57 AM
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Wow girl this is your husband the man who promised to love and honour you... Why would you even contemplate staying with someone who says these things to you! That does not sound like love. It sounds like this is already over. He's not going to break it off yet coz he's got the best of both worlds - a doormat wife and a side chick. The question is, what are YOU going to do? I'd rather be single in my 30s with kids than have to listen to that shit. You're letting him ruin your self esteem. Do you…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 05:54 AM
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I'm so sorry this happened sweetie. I felt that last sentence ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 05:48 AM
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😂😂😂 cute
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 08:38 AM
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I am thankful that my loved ones are healthy. I have a great relationship. My man let me leave job that made me truly miserable and has my back while I find something better. I am so lucky.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 06:55 AM
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Funny you should ask, last night I was playing WAP by Cardi B (don't judge!) and he turned and asked me if we could listen to something "less aggressive". 😂😂😂 So I played Beyonce's debut album Dangerously in Love. It makes me feel super feminine, sensual and loved up. I also like Mariah Carey, Whitney Houston, Jhene Aiko. Female RnB artists from the 90s have some bops that aren't aggressive but still girly/sensual.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 06:12 AM
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Yes!! Well said. I feel like "this is just what I'm like" is an excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 06:03 AM
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I also grew up in a messy house. My best tip is actually TRP. 😂 I can make all the excuses I want but at the end of the day, there is only one answer: it needs to be done. When I keep my place tidy, I feel like I'm almost feeding my RMV. Recharging it, maintaining it. This makes me happy. Why would I want to give off this impression to my man that I'm not good around the house? Or that I'm ok living in a mess? Absolutely not. My man and I deserve to live in a tidy clean house. There's no magic t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 06:02 AM
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Clean house haha wow 😂 Fully agree on the candles.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 05:57 AM
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Hey! I also was raised by a mom who never taught me any of that stuff. You sound quite young so you've got plenty of time. In relation to outfits and generally how to carry yourself - may I suggest School of Affluence on YouTube? She gets a bit of a bad name as a "gold digger" but she always looks extremely feminine & put together so I watch her for her tips of elegance etc. As for make up there is literally so much stuff online. My personal tips for make up is to really embrace the less is more…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 05:52 AM
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I do think it depends on the character of a person like the others are saying. I met my fiance while he was unemployed (but far from broke) and I was studying for the bar exam. He made it clear he was serious about me, so I gave him 6 months to get a job. He got one and has stuck with it for over 4 years. He's an extremely hard worker, and I would do it all over again. Last year he bought me a car that I could have never paid for by myself. He is also meant to inherit some money & land in the ne…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 05:38 AM
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Lol interesting suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/20 09:56 AM
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Are there really men out there who WANT you to stay at home with the kids? I feel like most guys today can't really afford that and would rather you work also so that the family is comfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/20 09:56 AM
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If you're not attractive then I suggest you stop looking for attractive men. Do you want to be more attracted to your husband than he is attracted to you? My personal suggestion is to find a guy who's not that conventionally attractive but makes a decent living. This doesn't mean find someone ugly & broke but you should be realistic. Hot rich men basically get first picks. If you're not "first pick" material then you will be waiting a loooong time for this perfect guy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/20 09:54 AM
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Girl I remember your post about the wedding invitation and I was honestly horrified. I'm so glad to hear you're leaving him!! Bigger and better things are coming your way - Yey!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 10:29 AM
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Hey can you recommend a steamer?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 11:26 AM
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I think you just need to be honest with him - I don't think this is a massive deal breaker or anything like that and frankly I am surprised at some of the comments. Say something like "babe I know I'm being weird right now, that was a pretty big fight and although I'm glad we resolved it, some things that were said hurt my feelings and I just need a couple of days to get my head together. It's not a big deal, it's just how my body responds to something like that, I just need a bit more time than…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 11:24 AM
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I second this question. I feel like my sides are limited to rice, some kind of potato incl. sweet potato, bulgur wheat, salad, boiled or roasted vegetables. Surely there are other sides 😭
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 11:11 AM
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:) That's so sweet. I don't see why we would get banned, nothing we talk about is that controversial.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 11:09 AM
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"Occasional glimpses", I like that! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 12:40 PM
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I just watched the scene and this basically answered my question - thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 12:31 PM
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I like this! 👌👏
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 12:17 PM
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Haha me too, although he is definitely trying to break that barrier. I refuse. 😂🖐️
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 12:17 PM
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Hi what do you mean serial and no in between?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 12:16 PM
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Yes even my ASOS order took 3 weeks to arrive when usually it's a matter of days! Also ordered something from Zaful that took two months to arrive - so annoying. Check in with their customer service, although it most likely is a delay caused by Covid. I've never heard of Shein, I'll check it out. Best of luck on your search :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:01 AM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with him expecting 50-50 finances as long as he's doing 50-50 around the house too. 50-50 means all aspects not just those that suit one person.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 02:53 PM
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Gotcha, maybe it's something to implement later on in life when things start heading south haha
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 02:37 PM
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If you don't like lingerie (and that's fine) may I suggest you just wear sexier lounge wear? When we went into lockdown, I threw out anything unattractive/masculine/tattered etc and bought 3-4 pj/lounge wear sets that are sexy e.g. lots of lace, silk etc. So now even though it's not lingerie, when he gets home from work and enters our clean, candle lit apartment, the first thing he sees is me in a skimpy pj set. ;) Lingerie is so expensive too! I got my little sets off ASOS. Sooo worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 02:10 PM
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Same. 😂 Thanks for the laugh. x
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 01:39 PM
1

Hahaha that made me laugh out loud. I think we'd all prefer dinner and a clean kitchen to "rose petals everywhere" as you put it 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 01:38 PM
2

Cute :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 01:36 PM
1

Do it for yourself not for your relationship. Go for it. I would see it as self improvement. Same as a physical doctor
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 11:58 AM
3

I feel you 100%. I had to unlearn a lot of weird lessons to get to where I am today in my relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 11:53 AM
2

"Clean house, candles lit, slightly sexy pajamas on, wine poured." Absolutely looove doing that for him every day. Let's him know I've been thinking about him while he was working hard all day and I want him to come home and relax. I could be a full time housewife just for that feeling. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 11:51 AM
1

I agree but I think it's worth pointing out that just as men are expected to go to work AND help around the house, so are women. In fact, more so than men. So while I generally love men, I do think this argument is invalid. Both genders work now but women still do most of the housework.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 11:48 AM
2

Nope nope nope
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 11:47 AM
2

I think it may never get to that point so you should try to stop caring. Next time they do something rude though, I would call them out on it. Laugh at them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 07:19 AM
1

If you know you shouldn't be annoyed and you don't genuinely want to be, try reminding yourself of something awesome about him and focus on that. E.g. He leaves his socks everywhere. but also does laundry himself without being asked so I guess it's all good. Plus you are also not perfect.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/20 08:50 AM
2

You get poems? 😂 I'm lucky if I get a card for V-Day 😂 (He's amazing in all other ways though, just not great with writing etc).
/r/RedPillWives01/08/20 08:40 AM
2

Lucky you!!! I am currently unemployed for the first time in my life so I am a temporary housewife and let me tell you, I've never been happier 😂😂😂 enjoy!!! ❤️
/r/RedPillWives01/08/20 08:34 AM
1

Woman here, wowza, that was a... fun read...true story, can confirm,
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 03:12 PM
0

:) that's sweet. Are you F or M?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 03:14 PM
1

Ask your dad 😘
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 02:43 PM
1

1) why do you put so much emphasis on looks and 2) so you'd rather be alone than date someone who isn't conventionally "hot"?
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 12:25 PM
0

Literally, in this scenario, you are the only one who is entitled. Dumpster diving dude, really? I think I speak on behalf of all women when I say by all means go your own way, you are doing us all a fucking huge favour. See ya later - or not, if you're standing Infront of a tall object. :)
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 12:13 PM
3

But you just mentioned how you're shorter than average so by definition you are not average. Or at least what you seem to define as "average". So maybe next time a woman with physical attributes that are considered less than (your definition of) average (e.g. a bit chunky, big nose, less than perfect skin) smiles at you, be receptive to that? I think if you lowered your standards the tiniest bit, you might find yourself in an actual, healthy relationship. On the bright side men age well, women d…
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 12:00 PM
-2

So there isn't a single average woman in your work dating an average man? Where is this magical place of work that matches average women to senior executives? Asking for a friend ;).
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 11:49 AM
-4

Can you point out some of these standards? Are you simply referring to looks?
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 11:38 AM
3

Love this response, this is also my tactic! ❤️ Also the occasional boob flash helps, ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 11:36 AM
3

Eh, did I write this post? 😂😂😂 Same, girl. If I know the negativity is coming from a place of self-criticism I will let him know that I thought it was great. E.g. "I really fucked that up." "It's really not that bad babe, I thought 'X' was great! Otherwise I just try lighten up the mood: Flash some boob - how's he gonna be mad at that?! Crack a joke. Baby voice "someone's a little grumpy" Change the subject altogether. I let him know he's heard but also, it's not really that bad in the grand sch…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 11:34 AM
-9

That's so sad, sending you all the hugs.
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 10:17 AM
-19

Sooo you're going your own way because hot girls won't fuck you 🤔🤔🤔
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 10:07 AM
1

A 40$ prostitute, wow my man, you are living da life.
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 09:44 AM
4

I feel that way although we are not married yet, just engaged. I am thankful every day and Reddit helps quite a bit with that lol. I cannot imagine not being with him anymore, it would be the weirdest thing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/20 09:03 AM
1

Oh wow that would be so amazing I look forward to it - thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 10:44 AM
4

Ours are always one big batch though. Pots, pans measuring cups, chopping boards, and so many other utensils. Do you have any meal prepping tips? Where do you get your inspo?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 10:22 AM
21

Oh believe me I would do some questionable things for a dish washer but I don't even think we have the space for it. ;( Edit: we are currently renting so hopefully in the next 1-2 years we will have a house with a dish washer but for the time being I am stuck tackling so.many.dishes.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 10:11 AM
2

I've read WH too many times to count, my book is battered lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 08:12 AM
2

I don't get free stuff unless you count tiny discounts i.e paying 2 € on a bill that's 2.08 € for example. I do however turn a hell of a lot more heads when I'm dressed feminine and men are more likely to go out of their way to help me and generally to interact with me. I find on days where I am in jeans/hair up/no make up I am essentially invisible. Put on a dress & make up and I turn every single head. Weird isn't it? I haven't noticed any difference with women though.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 08:09 AM
5

Definitely a deal breaker. I would not continue to see him as I think his "occupation" or lack thereof would be a massive red flag. the most likely outcome is that he drags you down with him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 08:04 AM
1

I love her ideas so much ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/20 09:12 AM
1

I've left a couple of other comments on this thread too but just wanted to say that I am also 28F, & feeling pretty much the same. Feel free to PM me if you want. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 10:43 AM
2

4 is not a high count in any way! Trust me on this. 😂 Get rid of IG if you feel that way. Those women are heavily photoshopped/filtered and usually have had some work done on themselves. Also they will normally date the super rich (i.e the average guy is not interesting to them) so keep your standards reasonable and you should be fine. As long as you look like YOUR best, you will be fine. Something that helped me was pushing myself to get a bit dolled up (just fix my hair/BB cream & mascara, pre…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 10:35 AM
1

Ugh really? This is somewhat comforting. I'm also 28 and feel pretty similar to the OP. Currently unemployed, considering changing industry altogether, wishing I could have a baby or two, look after my family and just never work again. I would be so.freaking.happy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 10:24 AM
10

You've avoided your partner...for a whole year? I think this has run its course, tbh. What a strange situation.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 10:15 AM
2

Yey. He certainly does. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 07:50 AM
1

Thank you so much for this! You've given me so many ideas, my man will be very happy. 😂❤️
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 07:34 AM
1

Yikes. With a mismatched libido and performance issues he's probably feeling pretty shit. I would give him the 30 days graciously but tell him he can't get off by himself either. And then just stop nagging him about it. You are taking all the fun out. I would also suggest not talking about it during those 30 days. Stay happy sexy and groomed but ONLY practice receiving his advances and stop being the aggressor/initiator. If you stop nagging/wanting sex but also look sexy and be RECEIVING during …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:42 PM
2

Wow, what's with the attitude?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:33 PM
4

Obligatory "I am not a medical professional" but excessive hair growth & irregular cycles sound like PCOS, or something similar to that. FYI I am from the Mediterranean so I feel you 100%. I basically shave my entire body every couple of days. I wasn't even allowed to shave my legs until I was about 15; it was not a pretty sight. I've just learnt to deal with it and it doesn't affect me anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:31 PM
2

That's so sweet ❤️ Hopefully when we get to 21 years we will be just as happy. All the best to you both.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:26 PM
4

😂😂😂 I hear goats are super in right now.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:13 PM
2

I suggest you read some Laura Doyle.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:12 PM
2

Hi I like your idea of ready to eat snacks - can you share some?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:11 PM
12

Fully, 100% agree. My fiance treated me like a queen from the start. He's been there for me emotionally and financially, because he wants to. He bought me a car last year, for example. He didn't have to do that - that's a 'husband' thing, really. Why wouldn't I do the same? If I am cooking, should I only make one portion? If I am doing laundry, should I only do my own? If I am cleaning, do I specifically exclude his areas? That makes no sense to me. It would almost be like going out of my way to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 12:09 PM
25

Honey there's nothing typical about that, no offense. This is a very sick individual.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 11:45 AM
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Wow, my brain just exploded. I'm so happy you're free of that and I hope there's a restraining order involved?! He sounds next level messed up.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 11:41 AM
10

Yikes indeed, wtf! I would be beyond freaked out lol.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 11:13 AM
22

Fucking what?!?!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 11:12 AM
1

Yes, this!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 08:00 AM
2

I love this! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/20 08:39 PM
1

Exactly this.
/r/seduction15/07/20 09:58 AM
1

I think it's not limited to RP men sadly. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 11:50 AM
1

Omg I am so so sorry 💔😢
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/20 09:13 AM
2

I agree with all the below especially Kara. I feel like a man who truly cares for you will really go above and beyond to make you feel safe and supported. I don't think you are the problem here. Edit: I've just read your story about what happened in relation to the invite and I find it even more troubling that you didn't put your foot down and say "he is not invited and if you reach out to him in any way I find that very concerning given what he did to me." You need to learn to put your foot dow…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 07:54 PM
2

My fiance is also like this. He loves helping me and being there for me. We are lucky ladies. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 07:52 PM
3

That's so incredibly sweet, you both sound very lucky to have each other. I know exactly what look you mean. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 07:51 PM
7

Your title and story do not match. The issue isn't your level of attractiveness, it's that your bf has no respect for you. I don't get the twitch girl thing at all but the cam girl is unacceptable. Every minute you stay with this guy is a minute wasted. Break up and find someone who truly SEES you as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 08:52 AM
3

Totally agree. I once had an ex obsessed with some kind of female robot/sex doll that he watched a video on. I thought it was weird but whatever. It was only after we broke up that I realised that nothing I ever did was good enough because I was a real life woman with opinions and needs, whereas his ideal woman was a robot with none of those. I should add he was also a gamer. My now fiance is also a gamer but he treats me like a queen and I've never been happier.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 08:50 AM
5

OMG, nope. Just the thought of this is enough to make my blood boil. This is not the man that you will create a life with. Stop wasting your time with him. You should have ended it right after you found all this out. Wtf.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 08:44 AM
6

When they are truly committed and wish to marry you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 08:41 AM
3

Is that you singing in the video you posted? I think you're really cute. I think you put yourself down way too much.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 02:18 PM
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Stuffed peppers last night, roasted chicken and roasted vegetables tonight. I'm between jobs right now so I've been enjoying spending a decent amount of time in the kitchen instead of throwing processed food in the oven or relying on take aways or easy pasta recipes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 09:22 AM
2

I think that was sarcasm.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 12:50 PM
3

I'm sorry this has happened to you but you should always have your own income & independence. This is vital especially if you're young bc if you leave the workforce at a young age, this will make it harder for you to get back into a decent job later on down the line. You'll have no recent skills or experience.. Don't do that to yourself!!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 06:40 PM
2

Agreed, what a great wholesome response. OP, I'm steadily approaching 30 and I'm still on the fence about it. There's actually alot of women on this site who are childless by choice - more than you'd think! (I notice these women bc I can relate) At your age your focus should be ONE: education. Then once you get abit older date but don't sleep around. Just be careful who you're dating and understand that every time you have sex with someone who isn't serious about you, you're basically giving it …
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 02:31 PM
3

I like this too! Also, OP, consider literally leaving it there and see what happens?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 02:23 PM
3

Thanks for this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 01:44 PM
7

We are both slim but yes, out of shape. I want to start working out but I need a spotter/someone to motivate me. He has much more experience than me in that department so I would love his help. I've expressed this several times but it falls on deaf ears.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 12:21 PM
1

Same. At this point I'd just be happy that I had female friends.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 09:50 AM
18

It's a cultural thing but u need to nip this in the bud asap.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 09:22 AM
21

Honestly I would put my foot down very hard on this. Tell him you thought you were dating an adult, whys his momma calling him for dinner at 9pm! Ew.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 09:22 AM
7

So mine was 28 and we still had that problem. I made it very clear that we had to get our own place, cut the umbilical cord and be my man rather than his mums son 24/7. He has managed to adapt very well and honestly we're doing great. It did take some tough love from my side because no matter how many times I explained it politely he didn't understand how serious it was. Then one day I told him to grow a pair and it worked.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 09:20 AM
1

This was really helpful, thank you so much, I'm excited for n00b gainz :D
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 03:54 PM
2

Wow I literally just watched a FB video & I'm about to try it! Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 03:52 PM
5

This!!! Marie Kondo all the way ;)
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 07:30 AM
1

Or, you know, he liked her and did something about it.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 07:54 AM
1

Fucking geniuses, why the fuck would we want to be a fucking PLATE when we can have an actual relationship and be treated like a HUMAN??😂😂😂 yall are just mad she bounced to the better dick 😂😂😂😘😘😘
/r/askTRP25/03/19 03:39 PM
3

Aw this is amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 11:13 AM
2

This!! I am naturally deferring to him a lot more now. I used to argue with him about this kind of stuff just to "prove a point" & in reality he knew a lot better and I was being ridiculous. 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 06:43 AM
1

That's so great! I love RPW for teaching me to STFU every now and then 😂😂😂 sometimes the best thing to do is leave them be and they come find you when they're ready to talk.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 06:40 AM
9

Well I mean, you went to a superhero movie. If they remade Little House on the Prairie and Laura was super aggressive then I'd get your point. But shes meant to be a superhero. That's literally the whole point.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 07:57 AM
1

Get your own place, he'll either get jealous and want to move in with you or... Well, you know!
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 12:44 PM
2

When you figure it out let me know.😂
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 12:33 PM
2

Yes to both of these comments! All my dresses must be cinched👌👌😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 03:48 PM
1

Why is he supporting her in the first place? Who is she? This is a whole lotta no.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 04:05 AM
12

Hahaha this... I would take them more seriously if they werent so bitter... I feel like they're mens version of feminists
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 08:17 AM
1

If roles were reversed, what would happen? I would not accept my man messaging another girl telling her shes pretty. Beyond unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 03:17 PM
1

I don't, because he's not. Or at least he shouldn't be. We went through a phase where he might have been... Id rather be single than deal with that stress at this point in my life. You're either all in or all out, there is no gray area.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 03:13 PM
10

Honestly it would first depend on how long you've been together. Generally I would be against it but if this job opportunity is so fantastic that you would go for it even if he wasnt coming with you then I suggest you go for it. Worst case scenario you come out of it single but with a great career, best case scenario you come out of it married with a great career. :) Do you objectively like the city itself? What's the weather like there? I moved abroad and quickly realised I don't function well …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 05:19 PM
2

No, I dont even know my own.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 11:54 AM
1

Things are great, thanks though. :)
/r/askTRP06/01/19 11:51 AM
5

That first couple were painful to watch...
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/19 08:04 AM
2

Nop, if anything he is now underweight.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 09:46 AM
2

No, he's actually great around the house. He will tidy, hoover, do dishes etc. He just refuses to take the initiative to put on food even if its just to take it out of the freezer and stick it in the oven!!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 09:47 AM
2

:) fantastic comment.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 11:25 AM
4

Both. It usually means he's driven and ambitious, aka a provider. I'm an ambitious woman so an ambitious man is a massive turn on. A man with no ambition resembles a flacid dick to women like myself. But it is also absolutely partly due to the fact that she can say "my mans an engineer, he works so hard and we are well off because of it". Theres a pride element to it.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 11:18 AM
-12

And the other solution would be to procreate with the first D thats available?😂😂😂
/r/askTRP28/12/18 10:13 AM
2

Its not that I don't believe it, I guess it's just easier to say "awalt" rather than "maybe i was just shit."
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:58 AM
1

It's okay, they probably had a weird relationship with mommy.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/18 09:51 AM
2

Hmm.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:38 AM
2

Exactly. So we are all kind of "like that" then??
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:33 AM
-1

Stop calling them hoes and you might be one step ahead of your competition. :)
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:18 AM
0

No, by definition it would be the majority of women.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:12 AM
2

Hmm..but would you stay with a woman who stopped taking care of herself and her home, gained weight, became needy and insecure etc?
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:11 AM
2

If they were having all this "success" they wouldnt be on this so much... They'd be living their life
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:02 AM
1

Whats a solid looking girl?
/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:59 AM
1

Go on 90 Fiance😂😂😂
/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:57 AM
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😂😂😂 If by damaged you mean they dont take shit from creeps who says things like "cock carousel" then sure! 😂😂😂
/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:55 AM
4

Yep women love them a man with a high status job
/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:53 AM
1

I'm so sorry that you feel u were ruined by irrationality. That unrestrained diving is one of the best feelings in the world. It would be a shame to never feel it again simply because you got burnt in the past.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:48 AM
1

Love this.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:45 AM
1

Wow these responses are so harsh. If you've been friends with her for years and there haven't been any issues, I don't see the problem. You even said shes been supportive of you! So now she's ill and your knee jerk reaction is to abandon her? Im sorry but whoever is commenting is obviously awful.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 08:27 AM
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Yes I realised I've been putting barely any effort in my appearance due to work stress. Going out today to invest in make up and lingerie.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 09:05 AM
7

You do own it though! One way or another you ended up with your very own brand new car! I'm 27 and my car is 10 years old, so I'm pretty damn jealous right now! :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/18 10:45 AM
1

Probably the same. Half the time, these tantrums are merely tests to see how you handle it.
/r/askTRP16/12/18 11:30 AM
1

I'm curious as to why nobody pointed out that anyone can cook and clean? These arent the cornerstones of trp, OP. Sure, they help with the RMV but trp is about a lot more than cooking and cleaning? Most men would probably prefer a submissive woman who respects them and lets them lead but doesnt love cooking and cleaning rather than someone great at housework but regularly disrespects him, right? If at her core, her goal is not to love and respect and uplift you as her man, it literally doesnt ma…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 07:59 AM
2

Actually, AWALT. I've been in a relationship where I acted like above. Mostly because I had 0 respect for him, because he acted like OP. My fiance made it clear from Day 1 that if I wanted to be with him, drama had to be kept at a minimum and if there were other men involved he would just straight up leave with no notice or anything. It worked, because I respected him for it. People will treat you the way you allow them to, regardless of gender.
/r/askTRP16/12/18 07:52 AM
1

Yes I occasionally visit - its always interesting to see mens point of view on things. Go over to our side and have a look too :)
/r/askTRP16/12/18 07:47 AM
1

Thank you, nice man!
/r/askTRP15/12/18 09:32 AM
1

Wow. Amazing reply.
/r/askTRP15/12/18 09:24 AM
-1

You sound very sweet though, dont waste it on someone SO undeserving! We find it HOT when a man puts his foot down and puts us in our place (when we deserve it) and we respect you 1000 times more for it.
/r/askTRP15/12/18 09:09 AM
2

Hahahaa I can't with these comments
/r/askTRP15/12/18 09:05 AM
4

Hahahaah this was amazing. "of course she did, she found her beta-bitch" 😂😂😂😂im done. On a more serious note, OP, DUDE!!! I'm a woman & can assure you that the above is not a description of a woman who respects you or loves you, AT ALL. At least not in a healthy way - I'm definitely curious about her upbringing. She is the opposite of what TRP is about, were you joking when you wrote your title? Hahaha the above will keep me laughing for the rest of the day.
/r/askTRP15/12/18 09:02 AM
0

Even if hes much less than an 8? What if hes literally a 3, how does that work?
/r/askTRP15/12/18 08:54 AM
-2

Woman here, I second that one. There is no way we'd say that on a date with someone we were sexually attracted to, that's very weird I'm pretty sure she's telling you that you need to spice it up.
/r/askTRP15/12/18 08:51 AM
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Wow that's one heck of a menu!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 06:59 AM
4

There aren't any actual problems here though... He gives you money to buy things in exchange for you tidying up and you're mad? Honey there's housewives getting less out there, I wouldn't be so angry... He's working towards something with you, I'd easily give him another year.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 02:09 PM
2

Is that you?? Damn girl!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/18 08:38 AM
1

You have a concerning amount of free time
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 07:47 AM
7

Never heard the phrase but we are in a similar position and I am loving the opportunity to be his safe space. Like us, men also go through tough times. Considering hes held me down for years, I am happy to do it for him
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 07:05 AM
5

Exactly! The grass is greener where it's watered :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:39 AM
1

No, it wasn't a financial thing, I tend to struggle with confidence issues and I got jealous every time he spoke to another woman. I have since got that under control, mostly due to discovering TRP at a very critical point in our relationship (TRP is the reason why our problems didnt 'end' us)
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:28 AM
1

Thank you xox
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:26 AM
2

Thank you. xox
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:26 AM
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You literally had what you wanted right in front of you but ended up sleeping with his friend who clearly isn't what you want, and now you want Oliver to turn into Sam. No no no. Posts like this make me realise why MGTOW is a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 10:57 AM
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Hahaha this. Im sure you are gorgeous etc etc but you may want to tone the self praising down.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 06:10 AM
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Im hoping you are a troll....
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 05:07 PM
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I have considered this but he denies it and I cant see how?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 08:45 AM
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Women know how women think. He's not a faggot for acknowledging that. He's not looking for "validation," he's asking very valid questions. Get outside of your head for a moment. Why haven't admin removed this comment? This was mean & unnecessary.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 06:59 AM
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It is indeed. A year ago exactly, we were in a situation where I sensed he was keeping his options open (particularly with women at work) so of course I did the wrong thing - nagged, cried, snooped, the whole 9 yards. This was when I discovered RPW and realised that if I were bringing my A-game, we prooobably wouldnt be in this situation. So I read more on RPW, changed a few things, and voila, we did a 180. I make sure to feed him, carve out a lot more time for sex, keep the place tidy, myself l…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 06:26 AM
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Can't we say finding a better man IS improving in some way? If of course the current man isn't the man for her.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 06:21 AM
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Me too!! I was so against the very core values of PR before I discovered it, but it's literally fact.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 06:19 AM
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Agreed. Ex or not, I would never date a man who was close to a female he wasnt related to.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 08:29 AM
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It takes years for some victims to identify the abuse so please dont blame HER for allowing it - shes 17 and it was from her father.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 06:13 AM
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Relationships change after a while, thats not unusual. Unfortunately as the couple grows more comfortable, the fireworks start to dissapear but a more mature, deeper loves shows up around the same time. At 17 though, I feel like you have your whole life ahead of you to worry about this. He wont abuse you, but if youre worried about that at 17 then Im more worried about YOU than anything. Dont allow ur dad to ruin the REST of ur life, he has done enough.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 06:10 AM
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A 17 year old is not responsible for her boyfriend "becoming a better man." Be careful what advise you give to children please. Shes responsible for nothing but herself and her school work.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 06:06 AM
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Oh come on ladies, own your intelligence. What a waste.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 05:24 AM
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I watched my dad go off to work every day for years without leaving my mum a single $, expecting her to stay home all day, cook clean and look after the kids, ensuring she couldnt go anywhere and couldnt spend "his" money. It broke her spirit. I love my BF to absolute bits but I would never allow myself to be financially dependent on anyone, ever.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 05:21 AM
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I was like that in my late teens but by my early 20s I realised it had the EXACT opposite effect of what I wanted. I dont know what to say other than Just Stop.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 05:15 AM
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I should add we no longer have this problem it was just in the beginning.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 11:18 AM
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We had this problem in the very beginning too, it could be just anxiety bc he wants to impress you but it ends up backfiring.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 11:18 AM
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Hey Im 26 and interested!
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 11:16 AM
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Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I wish i could get everything ready for him but he gets off work before I do :( i will take everything else into account xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 10:18 AM
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We still struggle with this two years into the relationship. 98% of the time I smile and ignore or say something very nicely. Unfortunately there will still be times where he will catch me in a bad mood and say something that sounds like I have the mental capacity of a 2 year old. It goes downhill from there, but I am a lawyer and know exactly how smart I am.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 07:55 AM
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Oh if only all MILs were like you!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 07:50 AM
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Love this! My man also retreats into a shell when hes stressed. I usually back off but perhaps Ill try your solution ;)
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 07:40 AM
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We just got our own place. Ive never really cooked much but he cant make a single meal so Im doing the majority of the cooking. Any time I try to make cous cous or rice they come out SO mushy idk why. But I make a mean pasta.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 07:33 AM
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Thanks for your lovely answers everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 06:22 AM
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Ugh ok so hopefully its just the situation we are in! Fingers crossed it gets better soon!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 06:21 AM
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Not until you are officially the Wife.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 07:10 AM
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Hi Brooke, thank you so much for your sweet response. Times do get tough eh? Time is on your side though so keep your chin up and soldier on xoxoxox
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/17 01:22 PM
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Sure, I realised if I kept trying to get him to confrorm to what I thought he should be/do/say I would lose him. I let him be himself and do his thing and realise that I either take it or leave it as it is. Unsurprisingly its brought him closer to me :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/17 10:27 AM
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I dont mean to be harsh. It sounds like he needs a therapist & not necessarily a gf. Ideally people should be over one person before they 'love' another.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 11:05 AM
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Ok Im the first person to get jealous and draw bounderies BUT I like that he TOLD you this - you didnt find this out by snooping. So he trusts you enough to tell you once he gets his own head around it. How long have you been dating? If its under 6 months its fixable if he does cut her out (i would ask to read the conversation) and provided u get his passwords. But at the same time a part of me feels ur wasting ur time. I would never date someone while they worked on themselves so we could be of…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 09:30 AM
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HAHA I love this. I also kind of like it when he's sick because I get to take care of him the way he takes care of me when I'm not feeling well. & I think mine freaking loves it too haha!
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:36 PM
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I like getting to take care of him when he's sick, especially since he takes such good care of me. :) I just make sure he's super warm and I'll fetch him as many teas and snacks as he wants & a massage if needed. I do encourage him to go to the Dr but will back down if he's decided he's not going. Like you said, he works hard, so when he's not feeling well, he deserves the most TLC ever.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:31 PM
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You two have been together for years, i think one xmas with your family is not much to ask for. I would be SO angry if this behaviour went on years into a relationship at those ages as well. Honestly, just go see your own family & let him hang out with his mama if he wants to. I'm sorry but a grown man should shut that down, not enable it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:18 PM
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I think it's already really nice of you that you didn't lose your temper, when you're married you need to be honest about finances because it ultimately affects the other person. dont give him control of the finances but do continue being nice about it, when you stop being angry you can go back to normal, just take a long bath and read or something till you feel like u can move forward.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:13 PM
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I'm also "waiting" so I can't give you tips but I stopped by to say CONGAAATS! That sounds so romantic & I love the age gap, it's perfect. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:01 PM
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Oh. Well I'm don't know the exact numbers obviously maybe he's a 7 and I'm a 6 or a 5? But either way it's literally been the exact opposite of what you've listed above..I remember being so blown away in the beginning by how OPEN he is about us. He wanted us to go out, post pics, hang out with his family & friends, the whole 9 yards. It was amazing. It's been two years & 3 months and we obviously don't go out as much but we've been been getting more and more serious, so go figure...it does baffl…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 05:56 PM
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I'm pretty sure he will, at that age there are still a lot of thirsty little thots and if he's also in any way friendly, they will jump at it..
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 05:28 PM
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I am dating someone that I believe has a higher SMV than I do & I get what you mean. First of all, I can't imagine hypergamy-ing even though "AWALT" because I do really love him and seeing so many women wanting what I have definitely keeps me loyal if that makes sense. But this only works if you can stop the jealousy otherwise dating a hotter man will drive you nuts. I literally hamstered TF out and almost lost him - then I found this website and snapped out of it hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 06:25 PM
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Hmm this is so interesting. I consider myself to have a slightly lower SMV than my partner but he was still very eager to "show me off" as you put it and was very quick to express how he felt about me & was super quick to make it public & official. Reading what you wrote, I am now very confused. Edit: I should also add that I don't even cook nor am I obsessed about tidiness.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 06:16 PM
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Oh damn girl why
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 06:05 PM
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You're 4 years away from 30 about to break up with a hot rich guy who has already mentioned marriage - 5 months in. If you do not want this unicorn let him go, so someone who will appreciate him can find him. You have a hot rich guy talking about marrying you and you're sat here moaning about something that, while important, isn't really going to affect your daily life. You sound smart & I understand these are theories and ideologies that are important to you, but you need to realise that we're …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 06:02 PM
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Yikes ladies I read her post and thought the exact same thing. Start trying to bring your RMV & SMV up asap OP. You have a good one - now you have to try keep him around. A guy with money and abs will get hit on very often.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 05:52 PM
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I am hoping once I get back on it, it will jump-start me a little haha.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:32 PM
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YAS! Ladies to the rescue. xox
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:31 PM
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Thank you both so much for commenting on my behalf! Very true, every other day is most definitely NOT low. & Yes, it wouldn't hurt to put a little more effort :/
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:28 PM
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Soo true. Before I discovered the RP I was a feminist and thought sex without commitment was empowering. I'll just say that I am sooo happy I found the RP.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:22 PM
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You might not want marriage but do you still want serious relationships with a man who takes you seriously and loves and values you? I am a feminist-turned-RP, aged 26 now, and honestly, no man wants a total newbie but men DO care about your n-count. So while you might not necessarily need to go into "monk-mode" I would also say that you probably shouldn't make a habit out of doing that. If he can't wait until you're "exclusive" then he should at least hang around long enough. Try to find a nice…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:21 PM
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You know what, that's a great idea. Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 04:03 PM
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I am 26, living with him for one year, together for two. He has one more year to propose and then I'm out. I've made this clear, in a much more eloquent way. If you are financially OK, IMO there is no reason why you shouldn't at least get engaged by next year. I would leave if I were you, something doesn't smell right. I understand that men are terrified of 'divorce rape' but a) you can't always assume he's got more money than she does and b) can't you tell when someone is a horrible gold diggin…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 03:48 PM
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No I haven't and I'm dying to. I've used up all my days off studying so I have to wait till 2018! A holiday would be perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 03:37 PM
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I love this! My father says the same things :) I feel like if it's coming from the people who genuinely love you, you know it's likely to be true. Sometimes we need a gentle reminder that I am overreacting and things aren't as bad as we've made them out to be in our head.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 03:09 PM
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I talk to my parents about it and neither of them ever say anything to anyone. I don't talk to anyone else about him negatively though. I've always been this way even before I found the RP coz I don't want to be "that" couple. Parents are great because they know you and they can tell you when you're in the wrong without any sugar coating. My parents have regularly told me I am overreacting and I take their advice. I bring it up as a difference of opinion between the two of us rather than "omg he…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 03:07 PM
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Thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 07:00 PM
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Thank you so much! :D
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 07:00 PM
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thank you SO much girl! so glad to see another lawyer here! good luck to you too :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 07:00 PM
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Can I ask what things you do to get yourself out of this rut? Like I said I am trying to save money so in general it's quite difficult right now to balance having fun with being frugal.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 09:36 AM
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Thanks. I am heading back home to resolve this...make it or break it moment coming up. I will use the above even though I've expressed it that way before.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 05:50 PM
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Thanks. I thought he did and then we had that fight and now I have no idea. My head is all over the place.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 04:14 PM
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I will try do that. The problem is that there aren't many activities, if any, that will get him excited, apart from gaming and sex.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 03:51 PM
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I like that. Honestly there's a part of me that feels silly and wants to call him and apologize for being harsh and another side of me that's sat here crying my eyes out because I feel like if I choose to stay with him, I will spend the rest of my life competing with whatever game he is hooked on. The series was Comrade Detective, an Amazon prime show that was just released. I only watched it coz I was bored and he was gaming. Neither of us had heard of the series before.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 03:44 PM
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:( I would like that but I dont know how to go about it :( Do we make a weekly schedule?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 02:32 PM
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Ugh for a 23 year old you sure are smart.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 02:18 PM
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Constant improvement is indeed the point Shaela provided each party pulls their own weight. I can drag the horse to the water or even entice it to get there but I cannot force it to drink.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 01:50 PM
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Can I ask how you overcame your own addiction? We are talking about marriage and our fight the other day really opened my eyes to serious differences. I don't know what to do.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 01:08 PM
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I love this. Thanks. I love my man and I am always willing to work to improve our relationship which is evident from previous posts of mine. However it's a two-way street and I refuse to believe that the problem or solution lies within ME and that I need to dance around like an idiot for some attention. You either want to be with your SO or you don't.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 12:53 PM
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Thanks. I like the suggestions. I am already at my folks home looking to see if anyone is up for going out tonight.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 11:04 AM
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So if it's just to unwind then what do you suggest? He just games every night till it's time for bed with little interaction between us
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 10:23 AM
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Yeah I do all that believe me. Should I dance around like a circus animal to get my own partners attention?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:58 AM
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If games are a better option than his partner, why is HE with ME? If video games are a better option then by all means knock yourself out. I don't really feel like I should be actively competing with an inanimate object.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:56 AM
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I'm sorry but I will not blame myself for his actions. We all make choices and we are responsible for them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:22 AM
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Thank you, you have made some very valid points. He frequently tells me he loves coming home to me so your words above rang true to home. He might be saying it but hes not exactly showing it. It breaks my heart, idk what else to do.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:10 AM
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Exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 08:58 AM
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Basically, yes. It is the most awkward thing I can imagine.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 03:44 PM
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I moved in with my boyfriend and his parents 7 months ago, we were a little over a year together by that point. We wanted to move in together but funds were/are low. They are lovely people and my BF is great but after discovering this site it does make me wonder whether I made a mistake. It makes me wonder whether he would propose earlier, or make more of an effort to plan fun dates if I hadnt moved in with him. We had discussed marriage as a possibility in the distant future but its our two yea…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 03:38 PM
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How do you up girl game without playing housewife?
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 10:11 AM
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Ugh that's just too freaking cute. I'm a lucky girl.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:04 AM
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Love this comment! I realised the same thing. At the end of the day if I just treat him the way he wants/deserves to be treated, he will in turn cherish me. I freaking love this site. A lot of it has to do with puttin your pride aside too!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 07:50 AM
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So true - and it rarely works because we can usually smell the weakness unfortunately. like the girl who tries way too hard to be one of the guys.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 05:06 PM
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Very interesting!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:48 PM
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Hahaha I fully agree with you :) Feminists are missing out!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:37 PM
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Can you elaborate?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:18 PM
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Those are all great ideas but passing the bar is my priority right now and I can't afford to dedicate so much time doing other activities.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:10 PM
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Be careful indeed. & this is coming from a woman. the above sounds beautiful, but you must make sure you vet her first and know for a fact that she wants to support you throughout everything you described. too many girls nowadays want the ready package without being half a package themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:02 PM
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May I ask how most men would love to view marriage as a contract? Meaning, how does that sound any better to them? What part of the contract would make them happier than believing their wife wanted to marry them for no reason other than she loved him?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:59 PM
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Hobbes, you are 20 years old. Some of the women on this are twice your age. They know a thing or two, as well. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:51 PM
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If you're nagging, there's a problem. Take the problem to your Captain, not the solution. "Sweetie, will you pleaaaaase do XYZ for me, I can't quite do it myself for ABC reasons and I really need to get it out of the way, its stressing me out/upsetting me/other reason why I feel it should be done" He will either proudly offer a helping hand, or explain to me why it can't be done now/ever/you get the point. He is either going to do it, or he's not. 5 months ago my BF started painting the room. He…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:46 PM
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:) Same here, we both work equally hard but I recently realised that everything he does, he does it for us and our future. Well, maybe not everything, but a lot of things. Good men are not valued enough in today's society. Some of them are actual gems. <3
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:37 PM
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emotional tampon hahahaha I love that, thats probably my most difficult one, I don't have a lot of friends so he typically has to listen to me chat about pointless shit, I have to work on that.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:34 PM
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:) :) I can't wait! Thanks again! xox
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:28 PM
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He actually suggested that himself, which we might do this month :) Thanks, I think I needed to hear it from someone other than him, and I hate talking to others about my finances, so I came here instead ;) I half expected to be criticised for it! I know it's nothing in the scheme of things, but I literally hate it, I am not a freeloader or a mooch but borrowing from him sometimes makes me feel like one.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:27 PM
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Thanks girl we have discussed a joint account for certain expenses but I'm not sure we are there yet. I need to have a clear budget to be able to do that. I am quite bad with numbers myself whereas my man keeps track of everything using Excel and he is just amazing with finances in general. Glad to see you are letting him help you, I am actually looking forward to letting him take the lead and help me out, he gets so much satisfaction out of it. :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 02:56 PM
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One more point: how about dating someone who isnt aware of TRP so that you can still incorporate it into your relationship but he doesnt REQUIRE you to serve him. My bf has no idea about TRP but ever since I discovered it, I have noticed that changing the way I viewed / did / said things to suit TRP actually improved my relationship. It doesnt mean I am deprived of anything. It just means that I am aware that if, for example, I give my man the problem instead of the solution, everything seems to…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 02:36 PM
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Honestly your second question is one that concerns me and I asked sthn similar not long ago. My bf is 3.5 years older than me but we look roughly the same age minus his gray hairs :) We are both attractive but I would say he is more attractive than I am. So it makes me wonder whether continuing to be with him and even marrying him in the future would be a mistake. If women are already blatantly hitting on him now ( a whole other issue in itself, drives me bonkers) what happens when we are 50s an…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 02:31 PM
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Feminists like the ones you described above are the reason why I, a self-proclaimed and proud feminist, have begun distancing myself from the group/ideology/whatever you want to call it. They are more concerned with proving a point due to a chip on their shoulder than literally anything else. Seriously, what benefit do you get from antagonising and critisizing men all the time? It is bloody exhausting. TRP saved me from that spiral. Most men like a certain type of woman and that's a fact, just l…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 01:08 PM
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Yes :) You have made my day. Thank you xox
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 12:01 PM
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Are you male? Would you view your partner in a negative light if this was your situation? I would just hate for him to freak out and think that I will always be draining his funds etc, especially with the RP idea that AWALT. I work full time and study for the bar after work and have proven my worth to him by being offered higher paying jobs in other cities but I turned them down due to travel costs since relocating right now is impossible.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 11:27 AM
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I hope so, I really do. Thank you. I would hate for him to view me as burden especially long-term so it's really messing with my head, it goes against my most basic value of paying my own way but I don't see any other options right now :(
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 11:08 AM
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Thanks for this. I don't feel brainwashed. I want a marriage and a life with my future hubby, I don't want a white princess dress and a huge party. As an introvert, a big wedding sounds like own idea of a stressful, awful day. I literally just want to start the next chapter of my life with the man that I love
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 10:42 AM
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I am aware of both. RMV is mostly up to me. SMV isn't.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 03:49 PM
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Honestly they can just look at my previous question where I talk about wanting to do more for him because he is amazing. To say I love him would be an understatement at this point, he is my best friend. I'm not even pressuring him, we both equally bring it up and I am saying the ring is acceptable because he told me he thinks rings cost 7 grand minimum but what I actually want is a hell of a lot more affordable. I am being realistic. I don't need a huge rock, just a cute ring that tells everyone…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 03:48 PM
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Hmm I want to believe that but I can't. My SMV is lowering as the years go by and if I leave it for too long it will be slim pickings.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 12:16 PM
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If I could just get him to propose sooner rather than later :(
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 09:06 AM
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Ugh that's so true. Part of me wants him to propose today. I dont want to be single and older.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 05:21 AM
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Almost two years. He is unaware of TRP but his parents both adhere to the different roles quite heavily so he definitely has that influence. Part of me wants him to propose today and part of me is terrified of taking that step.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 05:20 AM
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He is everything you described and more...we've been talking alot more about marriage lately and it's got me thinking of the dreaded Wall.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 08:03 PM
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There has never been any I just feel like men are more likely to stray and it's why I would never date younger men. What happens when we're older and a younger hotter woman flirts with him...Is it untrusting of me to feel stressed by that scenario? It makes me feel like actually staying married is almost impossible even though I only want to do it omce...
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 08:02 PM
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Oh wow well then I guess I should read it? :D
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 06:07 PM
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Ouch that stings but it's probably true. I was raised in a weird dynamic with a bitter feminist mother and was genuinely unable to pick a good partner for a very long time. It's only now that I am with someone I actually vetted. Then I discovered TRP and here I am. You can do it OP, break up with him, take care of yourself, bake some cookies and find a man that is worthy of a good RPW. (And maybe do a few sessions with a therapist)
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 01:56 PM
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Exactly. She's only doing those acts bc she feels like she has to. I literally posted a question not long ago about cute things to do for my king. The difference is that my guy is amazing and treats me like his queen so I am more than happy to step my game up. She needs to leave this guy and find someone who deserves all that she is doing. Hopefully then she can be happy about actually being a good First Mate.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 01:47 PM
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Great comment. He might be the Captain honey but you are also the First Mate. Make sure you are taking care of yourself too.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 01:40 PM
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I think maybe she needs to ask herself why she is doing so much. It seems she's doing it more because she feels she has to rather than because she wants to. I, like the poster, grew up a feminist and then discovered TRP. I will admit I am not perfect at it, but I try and do things for my man but because I want to. I think maybe she's wearing herself out, seeing no immediate benefit and getting resentful. Just calm down a bit girl it doesnt even count if you're being nice only coz you have to. Is…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 01:38 PM
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That's actually so sweet of you. I posted a similar kind of question not long ago so I can't wait to read some of the answers on here. I would love some ideas, my man is so sweet and I would love to step my RMV up.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 04:44 PM
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Oh and my guy is far from beta, he is my King and I could not be prouder of him or more in love with him. Telling me I am in idiot for being pushy is one thing, telling me I bring nothing to the table and that my guy is beta is another.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 11:17 AM
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I dragged him out of depression and pushed him to get a job which he has since excelled at. I continue to cheer him on and I will push him to the next promotion every time because he deserves every bit of it. You dont know shit about what I bring to the table so I suggest to take it easy on the assumptions love, cheers.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 11:13 AM
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:) thanks
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 11:12 AM
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This was very humbling to read, thank you for that. Sometimes bridal magazines and the likes of Cosmo fill my head up with nonsense. I love this site, it never fails to slap some sense into me. On another note, I don't bring it up often at all and I never inject too mucb emotion into the conversation. I don't believe in arguing or crying over a conversation that should be exciting. In saying that, we spoke about it later on after I posted that and apparently it's coming very very soon. He joked …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 11:09 AM
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I get what you are saying but he did not ever say to me "I want to marry you" or "I cant wait to" etc etc. It's always "if we get married" or "in due time." I just feel like I deserve a better answer.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 12:00 PM
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Hi Brooke, I am in the same position. I would suggest sports if you are into it, or some volunteering.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 06:33 PM
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My thoughts exaclty. Do you wish you felt differently? I feel like a cold hearted bitch.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 09:08 AM
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You're in the right place. Take a step back. Observe your relationship from afar. What is the root cause of this? I am sorry but hin not calling you every night does not make a terrible relationship. No woman would enjoy it, sure, but is it a hill you want to die on? I have ruined previous rships this exact way. You are sucking the fun out of it. I almost ruined my current rship with a man I want to marry. Then I discovered TRP and my favourite thing ever: STFU. He didnt call you? He's asleep ge…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 09:07 AM
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Yes I am also terrified I will have one and my reaction will be "what have I done, I don't want this." And I would never ever want to bring a child in the world who felt his/her mama didnt want them. That's just heart breaking and the thought alone hurts. Women who feel that way dont want to feel that way nor did they know that they would be in that situation. Look at Hayden Penetiere (sp) I feel like its the biggest gamble I could ever take.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 08:46 AM
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Exactly. It's too important of a decision to be made arbitrarily which makes me think I shouldn't.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 05:14 PM
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I've always believed that when men say things like that, they 10000% mean it and even if you "convince him" into being exclusive with you, it won't be worth it
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 04:28 PM
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I am so happy to read your comment. We live together as well and I literally couldn't imagine NOT living together at this point. I basically live with my best friend and I love every single day of it 99% of the time. Most on this site feel rather strongly about waiting to be engaged/married so it's nice to see a happy couple that live together. I don't see it as a holy thing either but I'd like to get married eventually. I'm kind of hoping he will see living with me is something he wants to do f…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 05:06 PM
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You would think a med student would be well aware of what shes getting herself into. You are obviously extremely smart - act like it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 09:35 AM
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This. It is just not worth it for a random man. Your own brother is a different story ofc. But there are so many fine men out there, do yourself a favour and find someone who will not sell your shit for a hit. This isn't even a topic of debate - it's a very hard no. You're a grown woman with self-respect. Why date someone with this kind of baggage? It doesnt make sense and it is more likely that he will ruin your life than anything else. Sometimes we need to be selfish in life. You should strive…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 09:32 AM
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I dated someone who was an addict or at the very least, close to becoming one. Please don't do this. It might be wonderful but chances are it will be one of the biggest mistakes you have ever made. Addicts are habitual liars and you will drive yourself crazy trying to help them. Seriously, RUN.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 09:27 AM
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Hey! Just came across ur post again - hope everything is going well for you. RP may have saved my relationship, I still can't believe it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 08:29 AM
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I totally agree about breaking him down, I noticed that too! Glad you found the site :) x
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 07:52 AM
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I never thought about it like that but I am starting to agree with you that women's suffrage maaaay have given us the short end of the stick here..I mean it started off great but the truth is, we really do need them more than they need us. And this is coming from someone who considered herself a feminist until not long ago....
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 07:55 PM
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Sometimes we need to pick being right v being happy..
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 07:16 PM
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I was a feminist too and I came here due to my relationship about a week ago. I understand it's a weird transition for you and I totally understand where you are coming from. What I have learned from here so far is this: Back Off. With Capitals. Swallowing the red pill for me means accepting most men need to run the show. Not WANT to, but NEED to. Like, it comes natural. At least it should. RP men especially don't seem to like men who are not dominant. You being here suggests you may have a fair…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 07:13 PM
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Agreed - it is 3 years. If no ring in the next year and 5 months then I will walk.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 04:55 PM
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Hi ladies - quick update. So the party went great and some of his colleagues even sent me friend requests on FB. I was classy fun and friendly. Then last night I was giving him a massage with coconut oil and I decided it was another great timing for an otherwise awkward talk. So I asked whether his vague response was due to the fact that he wanted to achieve certain goals / milestones or whther it was vague because he just isnt thinking in those terms / that far into the future. His answer was s…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 03:58 PM
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Oh honey I'm so sorry to hear that. :( :( look you have a great man by ur side and i am sure that you two will figure something dont stop communicating with him or trying xxxx
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:53 AM
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That's great, just make sure that the decisions you make between now and then are decisions you would be proud of. Don't assume you can do whatever crazy thing you want and then decide to put on a serious wifey face and expect a man to believe it. You are at a great age. Just focus on improving yourself, professionally, psychologically and your appearance too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 04:31 PM
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Wholeheartedly agree. I had a similar friend who was like this and try as I did to get her to stop hoeing, all it did was make her think I was judging her and being a superior prude. It's just not cute past age 19. Meanwhile I am 25 in a LTR with my dream man and shes still sucking dick in the backseats of absolute losers. She won't listen OP. Let her figure it out.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 03:09 PM
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Literally could not have phrased it better myself. I have a relatively high count and I know this isn't a great thing to say, but its possible to be diplomatic when discussing this topic with a male. Nobody is going to make you take a lie detector test, you know. I love my man and want to make his life better on a daily basis, but I am more than the mileage on my hooha and I would never be interested in a man who valued a womans worth based on how often she uses one specific body part. The trick…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 02:46 PM
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Honestly the last few times he would pick up his phone while we are chilling and he will scroll through FB and if there's a msg he'll just check it infront of me. I agree that asking to see anything is bad - I am working on trusting him and realizing how unhealthy it is. I don't even feel the need to check now that I can't and we spoke about that very briefly and agreed that it is definitely working.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 11:24 AM
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Is that really my other option? How is that more realistic?
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 10:10 AM
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:) I like that. Thank you. X
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 08:57 AM
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And tomorrow night we are attending a party hosted by his closest female coworker. This girl is a tom boy, in fact to me she looks like a lesbian so I am not intimidated by her being friends with him especially since they dont text after work etc. But he will be watching to see if I am friendly to his female coworkers due to our fights, if you have read older posts of mine. I am so uncomfortable with the idea of attending this party - they are not the classiest bunch and alcohol will be flowing.…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 08:45 AM
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Me neither! I can't mention it anytime soon bc I'm pretty sure he will feel cornered. I'll give it a few more months.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:33 AM
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Yes it does - a couple of times I've asked him and a couple of times he's done it himself if we are browsing together on a device. Last time was 2 days ago and then a few days before that. He will leave his phone on the table for hours and it never buzzes or he will barely check it - if he does we will be sitting together on 9gag or FB together.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:23 PM
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Sadie if you're addressing me then you are right - he is doing exactly that so thats why I want a ring. Plus the conversation started bc he said the word girlfriend isnt enough to describe what i mean to him so it kind of makes sense to me..if it walks like a duck etc..make it one :D i dont think after almost two years its terrible to ask if he sees that for us n if so when?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 07:21 PM
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OP here, just wanted to say massive thanks to the ladies & gents of PRW for taking the time to comment. You all added your own input and this is so helpful, you have no idea.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:33 PM
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He doesn't text anyone. It would be a deal breaker for me too believe me. I am learning to trust him. He is hardly ever on his phone and if I look over his shoulder it's usually a gaming website and if he's on FB sometimes he will humour me and go into his messages. You will never know what goes on behind your back and you will go crazy if you focus on that. I am quite a jealous woman but a) hes not late coming home from work and we are essentially always together b) he barely uses his phone. I …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 04:43 PM
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Haha I won't, don't worry.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 04:19 PM
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Thanks for acknowledging it. There is nothing I can do about women at work. As long as he comes home to me on time every night and he's not glued to his phone, I don't care what bitch wants him. He has made it very clear after our fights that other people who are not in his fortress are just pawns. I am in the fortress along with his family. I plan on holding it down. The only way to prevent him from cheating is to be someone he looks forward to coming home to every night.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 04:00 PM
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I will do exactly that Kara you boss. By the two year mark I will be a qualified professional with a better salary in an industry packed with hot rich men. I have a feeling that once that happens he may change his mind. Thanks xox
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:41 PM
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Thanks - its probably this. We dont have much money atm. By the end of the year I will be a qualified professional bringing in more money and he is a great saver so perhaps it's just a topic for next year. Honestly I just want a ring and then a marriage. I would totally skip the wedding if I could as I hate being in the spotlight for ages.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:37 PM
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He sounds great :) many congratz to you both! Yeah I feel like it may be that we are essentially broke but at the end of the day I see every day how hard he tries to be a good partner and he said he wants to marry me and he's the freaking best so I'm going to do something I hate doing: STFU and trust him. For now. ;) I just wish he could voice his actual concerns. Thank you xox
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:34 PM
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Did he actually TELL you what those standards were? Honesty I feel this is exactly what he was thinking but couldn't phrase it properly or maybe didn't want to say it for fear of looking inadequate. How long were you with him before you asked the questions and how long after that did he propose?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:27 PM
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Also Kara I should add that he has seen me at my worst and he is still here. Someone who isnt serious will surely run at the first sign of serious trouble? This man will not rest until he have resolved the issue at hand and he refuses to let me go. He definitely loves me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:16 PM
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I told him straight up after a year and 7 months I am well within my rights to ask and he agreed. Kara, I like your comments. Do you have any suggestions? I fear bringing it up sometime soon is a bad idea. Honestly I expected a much better answer from him as he was always the one pushing the rship forward at least in the start before the fighting. One time we were in bed and he said "just propose to me will you" without me mentioning anything. He frequently made comments like that and I had to t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 02:53 PM
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I have already told him my timeline is 3 years and he is aware.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 02:30 PM
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Actually the BJs were brought back after I discovered the RP and I had no intentions on having this talk just yet but the opportunity arose so I took it. How do you suggest I work on myself to get him to lock it down apart from looking good, being good around the house and keeping our sex life spicey? Seems to be what men look for in a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 02:07 PM
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intended What is this Girl Game I keep reading about? Coz I may need to top mine up haha.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 10:44 AM
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Thank you very much for your response.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 10:43 AM
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You are 100% right. It does make me feel better :) we had a very long talk and I see how silly I have been. Since he changed his password I have been able to face reality: He comes home to ME every night and he's never even late coming from work, and when he IS home, he is never glued to his phone. There is obviously nothing happening. I have a great man who is committed, I have just been conditioned into thinking that unicorns don't exist.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 10:41 AM
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The girl with the notes happened waaay before he locked me out btw so the two are not related at all.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 06:51 PM
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These are all good questions, questions that I also asked because it IS weird. He is not texting anyone regularly and definitely nobody out of work. As to why he doesnt shut it down, I asked and he said that the company has lottle cliques / groups and at the time he was new and didn't want to make things awkward but just didnt really respond to it. It does make me think what else goes on or is said since hes only just admitted she was coming onto him hardcore. In his mind, I snooped too much (gu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 06:48 PM
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:) Fingers crossed my man thinks that way too about me. Thanks, best of luck to you too! Love the username btw hahaha wtf :D
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 06:24 PM
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Amen girl me too, I have a big of a temper from my Italian dad so once that flame starts it needs a freaking ocean to put it out. Not fun at all. Thanks I will read some of the material after this exam period is over. I have actually tried that approach too but he will still get mad. The only solution is to STFU otherwise I will continue to push him away. Its bloody hard though hahaha but he is worth it :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 06:18 PM
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Hahahaha I feel for your girl and I can assure you I most definitely am not nailing it unfortunately. This is the first live in partner either of us have had and I swear it is so difficult. Cut her some slack though, she's only worried bc she wants to nail it, as u put it, but unfortunately there is no manual for "how to act when xyz happens" so sometimes things get messy :/ she is most likely scared of messing up
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 06:13 PM
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Thank you SO much for your help I will do exactly that. I may be over compensating
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 04:27 PM
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This is basically what's going on. I have dented the rship and I'm struggling to fix it. He has changed all his passwords so no more snooping either way.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 04:02 PM
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Well it was obvious, any time I have 'snooped' I always found something, never anything outright suspicious which is why he was so angry. He basically said yes, of course other women flirt with me, but I am a grown man who knows where the limit is. Then he gave me an example of this girl who used to work at the company who I never met but was getting too friendly for me liking, so I asked around and found out she is the nastiest of nasties (small town, my bff knows everyone.) So I was very clear…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 03:54 PM
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I should mention he will be 29 soon and before this madness we were extremely close and we were eseentially best friends too but I messed up
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 08:55 AM
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