Hi all,

Me and my partner have been pondering over dilemmas about questions like “where should we live”, “should we buy a house or invest in a business”. We both feel like we don’t know where we belong, where to settle and have kids.

We are expats living in Denmark, we make good money despite the high expenses here. We save about three times more money by working a lot less hours as we would in our home country. But... we are really fed up with being foreigners, not having our close circle of friends and family. His parents and mine live in different cities in our home country.

We have both been quite depressed and unhappy recently. We are constantly discussing our options and getting lost in pros/cons, financial analyses. Financially it makes more sense to stay here but how much is it worth it if we are not happy? Will we be happy if we move back? How and where should we invest our savings?

I want to ask to especially experienced women here who had children, is it better to try and save as much money as possible maybe for a couple more years before having kids, or go back to our country where we feel much more belonging? Friends from back home keep saying how lucky we are to be working in Denmark and being in Europe and that we should not come back. All this is really confusing for both of us and started to be very frustrating. I am afraid our relationship will be damaged being so immersed and anxious about the future. I really appreciate any input and advice. Thanks!