Hi i'm a 29yo man who spent last 12 years of his life trying to figure out why women treat me like shit when i've been nothing but nicest person on the planet.

After trying and failing with all kinds of women, i realised the problem was with me and i decided to change myself.

I used to be quite fat (lost about 30kilos and still losing more), now i look decent. I have a good paying job, and i dress nicely. I am comfortable talking with women that i am familiar with and even enjoy their company more than men, but have hard time making new friends. I've read the book of pook and realise it's actually how things work. I have no problem embracing TRP stuff. Currently working on my inner game and planning to just go talk with random women on the streets just to be more comfortable talking with new people.

My issue is, i live in a very small city which is very conservative, not much social stuff to do and i'm not the guy that goes to bars often naturally, especially on my own to meet other people.

The only young and interesting people i like are college students, but i'm a research assistant at the college here and it kind of makes it weird (student/teacher stigma). They are very young, most of them are just bimbos and i'm a guy who is deep into philosophy/arts etc. I don't really know where to meet women that i might genuinely enjoy spending time with.

One more thing, i know cocky&funny works, i've seen it many times. But is it a must? I -as a person- am a very humble guy, i hate insulting others even as a joke. Most of my jokes are very safe, i never take shots at people. How important is that one?

Any help is appreciated.

PS: Not sure which flair would suit this the best.