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[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 28 points29 points30 points 13 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Fast forward an hour and I'm at the house of one of my exes
Yes love. Just fast forward past the important bits. No need to admit that you called up your ex-boyfriend.
one thing quickly led to another and before I knew it
Hamster translation engage: It wasn't my fault.
The whole time I kept thinking that if only we lived closer this could work again
This isn't cheating. It's just me realizing the potential of a past relationship. It's latent loyalty!
I didn't feel the slightest twinge of guilt the whole time and well, that bothers me.
I'm experiencing a lot of cognitive dissonance given all the Disney movies I grew up watching. I thought I was made of cinnamon 'n' shit.
My question: should I confess to the guy I'm currently seeing what I did? Should I bring up how unwanted I felt yesterday or would that be weird considering we've only really known each other a matter of weeks - although it's gotten really, really, really intense between us? Should I just chalk the whole thing up as a terrible vindictive mistake and keep it to myself?
In spite of the mistake, and my acknowledgement of it as such, I still don't want to hold up my responsibilities in this relationship, so I'm going to crowd-source the outcome.
Hamster translation disengage.
[–]be_tru 8 points9 points10 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mark of the hamster right here
[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 5 points6 points7 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Don't forget all the b/f-bashing she did to justify her actions. I question just about everything she wrote about him (although he probably did annoy her, I doubt it was as bad as she wrote).
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What's more is she tries to use the 10 day length of the exclusivity of their relationship to excuse her cheating.
[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Duh. Everyone knows you get a 14 day trial period when entering a relationship. You're free to fuck anything and everything you want to make sure there is no buyer's remorse! Oh, only she's allowed to that, of course.
/s
[–]DEVi4TION 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry to break yet another circle jerk. Stay focused. She wasn't excusing/justifying her cheating and claims several times that she feels like shit for it. The top few comments right now are doing a pretty good job of telling her she fucked up.she is breaking up with him. It's just another insecure girl ruled by her emotions.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My favorite
I know exactly why I went there: reinforcement that I'm "wanted" and yeah, I was an asshole to go there at all. Anyway, blah blah blah
"Since I'm totally stating that I'm a bad person no one should give me shit about it even though I don't think I'm a bad person but just said that so no one would give me shit. Also, the fact that I'm a bitch isn't the important part, so let's move on. Anyway,"
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[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Did you ever stop and think that she wasn't worth it?
You're assuming that if a girl cheats it's automatically the guy's fault. Newsflash: They'll do it either fucking way.
"Guy sounds like a chode." Of course he sounds like a fucking chode, look at who is telling the story. For all the nexting, beta, hamster, and buzz words you're throwing around, you're really missing the point.
I don't know the story, but I can almost guarantee you this is how it went down: Guy says he's going out of town to see some buddies, girl says she wants to come.
Guy says fuck, fine, but pay or own way. Girls goes out there, and bitches the whole time while the dude is getting drunk with his bros.
Girl gets pissed and fucks some random guy who is apparently her ex, and doesn't care.
I feel bad the dude didn't at least get to fuck her, but she sounds like a big enough cunt that I'd say he dodged a bullet.
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[–]DEVi4TION 5 points6 points7 points 13 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
This. A few of the guys here don't truly get it. The guys talking about hamster justifying or excusing. Just belittling like children.
Here is a way of thinking about it. How many cheating problem posts are like this? Most of them. Guy does something stupid, girl finds herself cheating. How many posts about Redpill guys? There was that one yesterday from SRS where she was madly in love with an autonomous man. That's because Redpill guys don't have this issue.
The guy was a douche.
[–]un-affiliated 7 points8 points9 points 13 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
You've got it exactly right (about her). She regretted committing to this guy almost as soon as the words were out of her mouth. However, she couldn't just tell him that when he had done nothing objectively wrong. So she took the first opportunity, "he gave me wrong directions and didn't pay enough attention to me for two hours", as an excuse to do irreparable damage. Prediction: Even if he completely forgives her, she'll still break up with him or commit further sabotage until he gets the message.
Know why she didn't feel guilty when cheating? In her mind he was already gone, and that's not something she feels bad about. She felt bad when she woke up because the reality hit that relationships don't magically end when you cheat, you still have to admit it and go through that messy separation. That's where the real dread comes from.
Her problem isn't that she sabotages good things as people in there have concluded for her. It's that she's really bad at communication and confrontation.
Edit: Turns out she hasn't had sex with the "boyfriend", though she's randomly fucking an ex. I wonder who's decision it was for them to not sleep together yet... The picture is becoming clearer all the time.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While she knows what she did was fucked up she's still hoping to have someone help her hamster believe she did nothing wrong. In other words it isn't wrong until she completely feels that it's wrong.
"Feelings over facts" is the hamster motto.
[–]Endorsed Contributor30303030303030 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
it's seems to be more about her not understanding why is she not feeling bad and guilty about it
And we could all explain it to her.. But that would be misogynistic, sexist, not politically correct or socially acceptable. Shit at this point this stuff is so obvious to me that I feel like it's just TOO simple for people to figure out. The writing on the wall...
[–]SenorTroubadour2 points 13 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Meh, sleeping with someone after you've been "dating" someone for a week and a half is not cheating, maybe in high school, but not the real world. Even if there is a commitment, there is no REAL commitment at this point. If a chick would have treated me the way her new BF did then I would have done the same thing. Wouldn't you?
[–]thelostapostle 15 points16 points17 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They were dating for a couple months.... they agreed to be exclusive and she cheated. Ten days in...
[–]The_Man_Radan -3 points-2 points-1 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I concur, a week (+3 days) is not a relationship. [Early] Dating does not mean commitment at all. If it was the second or third date of a girl who just did not seem interested in talking with me/ignoring me throughout the date... I would totally just leave and find someone else.
If you are still dating after a month, that's when "committed" relationships begin.
However, I do think she wants reaffirmation of her actions, which then again, why? You already did the act... a bunch of people on the internet going to make you feel better for what actions you took? Or better yet, she did want the attention, but took an easy way to get the attention.
[–]The_DukeDevlin 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Can't say I blame her, the first guy jerked her around for 2 hours and then showed no interest in actually fucking her or interacting as a man to a woman. The guy who fucked her actually viewed her as a woman and wanted to fuck her (I wanted to feel "wanted"). The rest of the post is just plausible deniability in text format. :)
[+][deleted] -7 points-6 points-5 points 13 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
This subreddit is rather amusing. It's not satire and you're all serious. What's even more is you all claim to be alphas and talk shit and belittle anyone who isn't. Then you go and act like SRS, linking posts, belittling and downvoting them. Yup, a bunch of alphas.
[–]un-affiliated 10 points11 points12 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People here definitely don't all claim to be alphas. You'd be surprised if you took a poll.
You'll find quite a bit of humor if you stick around long enough.
The purpose of linking posts is to point out how much better the ideas here fit the situation than the mainstream narrative. It's not to downvote people and belittle them. We actually try not to blame people for following their natural instincts, but we are harsh critics of people who ignore the truth of those instincts just because it's uncomfortable. For instance, the girl in the linked post isn't evil because she cheated, but she is a joke for pretending like she didn't know what she was doing the entire time.
Yes there is a lot of bitterness and cynicism. That comes from people feeling like they've been lied to their entire lives to their own detriment. That also is natural, we're not going to apologize for it.
[–]Are_You_A_Real_Man10 points 13 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
We don't all claim to be alphas, though we aspire to be.
[–]MSoftHarem 5 points6 points7 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As soon as women and beta males stop giving us example after example of their ridiculous behavior we'll stop.
[–]2StandardDeviations 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What's even more is you all claim to be alphas and talk shit and belittle anyone who isn't.
Kind of the exact opposite of what this sub is about. THP is mostly nice guys in Recovery. They critique these guys because we used to BE these guys...and aspired to be more.
[–]be_tru 5 points6 points7 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You sound pretty beta, brah. Go eat some Alfalfa
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