A little help

RedSovereign · 2017-04-27T18:25:27+00:00

Questions belong in /r/asktrp.

YongeArcade · 2017-04-27T07:50:23+00:00

Financial stability and your future are more important then perusing some romantic notion. You have to be the adult, be unemotional and think of the future. Explain that to her

Now a warning for YOU.

This repeated three time so it is no coincidence.

My Brother-in-law worked two jobs supported my sister as she finished university, supported her as she pursued her art career and worked low paying contract jobs in her field. Then she landed a great paying job with union benefits with the government. Brother-in-law saw she was making more then all the time he supported her and said that he was going to pursue his dream that he went to University for -- Film. The Ten year marriage lasted One month of him making minimum wage ( even though with her salary they had more money then before).

My best friend got married bought a condo and then a house and was renovating it and everything was all happy and smiles. Then the fat government contract he had landed was ending and he did not have another to immediately switch to so said they were going to have to delay renovating the basement. Four year marriage ended in one month after that.

I too , the love of my life at the time, thought we would be together forever, we moved in and she did not like me working all the time so I cut back to be with her more. She did not like my rough friends whom I got a lot of side work from, so I did not invite them over or hang out with them. She was wanting to fix the place up, new furniture and rugs and kitchen appliance and then came to a new bedroom set I asked if we could slow down since guests don't see the bedroom and I have been working less and getting side jobs from my friends like she had asked me too.

After the neighbours called the police three times in two weeks from her loud and violent fighting, I stayed on my mother sofa till i found another place.

If you move and do not have a job that pays as much as the one you are leaving -- start the countdown clock till the break up .

Say no to her and you might only lose her.

Say yes to her, you lose her, your job, the place you live.

Easy decision , don't do it.

francis_sandow · 2017-04-27T07:59:55+00:00

How about "make a decision and own the consequences." How is that for advice?

I've seen a few threads pop up where someone wants advice, trying to figure out what the "red pill answer" is, and to this subs credit, most of the advice they receive is solid common sense along with general life-improving suggestions. But I don't think that's what you need. You make it very clear from what you've written that you already know what to do, and even the guys you work with are telling you what your brain is screaming. But if you're going to ignore them, and your brain, why should I believe you'll follow any advice here?

But ignore all that for now. Let's say all your co-workers were advising you to cater to your wife and follow her around the country (at the sacrifice of your family's future as well as your own) until she eventually leaves you. It would be better for your own personal growth to, if you choose that horrible option, to stick to your guns, own your mistake, and make the best of it you can. Yes, you'll have fucked up, but fuck up on your own terms. Chose, learn, improve and grow is a common thread running through the sidebar.

So no advice from me on your problem, other than make a decision like a man and stop waffling.

H42 · 2017-04-27T13:51:26+00:00

To all those guys who have not tied the knot: NEVER MARRY.

It removes from you your most powerful social move.

Your. Ability. To. Leave. That. Bitch.

Purpledrank · 2017-04-27T13:13:16+00:00

My daughter with her is now 2 and she is demanding we move back to where we are both originally from and she will do it with or without me.

Wow, this is the beginning of a nightmare. A woman should never dictate where the fuck the man, the guy running the household, moves his work and residence. Wow. Leave her, or berate the shit out of her. I mean really just yell at her and assert your dominance if she gets out of hand early on. Gator ain't neva been about play'in no shit.

I think you missed the boat on when to fight back. She already thinks she is wearing the pants. You should have cut her off as soon as the petty, childish berating came in.

MattyAnon · 2017-04-27T16:19:51+00:00

She was fine living here and now she berates me constantly for not seeing my other kids enoug

She wants you out so she's free to see someone else, or is looking to make you move because it's what SHE wants. The "other kids" thing is a smokescreen.

She doesn't work, and whenever I have asked her to get a job she freaks out and has an emotional breakdown.

how convenient. so you have to support her. you need to let her know that the alternative is to be a single mom.

Plus I just have this feeling in the back of my head that as soon as we move back up there, she's going to leave me and I won't have anywhere to go

Quite likely, and definitely not worth taking the risk for. Why should you?

. All of the guys I work with tell me I would be dumb to leave this job and I'm inclined to agree,

They're right.

Your wife is disrespecting and eploiting you. Don't make it worse.

Auvergnat · 2017-04-27T09:31:58+00:00

Read the rules, personal questions are to be posted on asktrp. We'll answer there.

Title	A little help
Author	zRaXcPk
Upvotes	9
Comments	7
Date	April 27, 2017 6:16 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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