Accepting bad looks

kami_kakushi · 2014-07-19T20:19:27+00:00

very little of this stuff you are talking about matters tbh, its just a list of excuses. ive heard this so many times ....

its not your jawline, its not because you are skinny, its none of this shit ....

you dont get women because you dont ask them out.

lets test your argument shall we? no skinny guys ever get women? bullshit, many skinny guys have women. guys with weak jaw-lines dont get women? bullshit, many guys with weak jaw lines have women. ethnic average guys cant get women? bullshit again, many ethic average looking guys have women.

these are all just excuses you are hiding behind so you dont ask women out, because you are too scared to ask women out. this is an irrational fear, there is nothing to be afraid of. work on it and get rid of it, and get on with your life.

[deleted] · 2014-07-19T22:07:23+00:00

6' tall, smart, med school student, says he can't get women because of his face.

Dude, go up to a random girl at a party and tell her you're in med school and she'll be all over you. I don't know why but being in med school is playing the dating game in easy mode, I have a few friends in med school and even the ugliest one pulls chicks every time he's at a party.

Granted he's not socially retarded and is pretty jacked but these are things you can work on and if your only complaint is your jawline don't worry, many guys get sharper features in their mid 20s. Lifting will also improve your face somewhat.(though probably not as much as it would improve a fat person's face)

You know why you don't attract women? Because you think you're pathetic, which changes your body language to that of a pathetic loser. And everyone notices your huge lack of self-esteem which makes you unnatractive. I can assure you that most guys who label themselves as below average are usually above average.

Urbangent1 · 2014-07-19T17:16:26+00:00

All I can say to you is looks ok guys mean much much less than you think, it's good your lifting and working on yourself. Yes life is easier for better looking people, but! Game trumps looks any time. Initially you get more attention and you will get women to approach, but it's all about how you view yourself that matters. If you think your ugly, you will give off that energy, if you think you are the coolest person to walk the planet, you give off a much different vibe. There are 7 billion people on the planet, if you slept with 3 women a day until you died at 100 you wouldn't even touch 1% of the population.

Focus on you, do stuff that you like, if your not doing well where you are, visit a different country, explore, grow, build, create. Try new things, learn another language, learn to dance, learn a martial art. We are still animals, yeah, you will be a doctor one day, but you could be that doctor with a crazy physique, who has travelled the world, speaks several languages, can salsa and kick anyone's ass.

You will have the money, you will have the body, you will do stuff that you like, who cares what it is.

This is how you should view yourself. Imagine if you were sitting at a coffee shop and the most beautiful, interesting, cool, feminine woman walked up to you and asked you out. How awesome would that be for you?

You are the male equivalent.

Don't follow the rules, they were made up by someone who broke all of the rules.

Trust me there is a whole world out there of women who would die to have a person like you. If you live in the states, save up some money and go down to Brazil or Columbia. Your whole world will change.

[deleted] · 2014-07-19T18:31:45+00:00

Get really jacked. It will change your facial features ALOT. Also, if you're a babyface and you don't have a visible jaw line, try growing a scruff or a chin strap for that manly look. Hair also does alot, so try to find a style that suits you. Ethnicity doesn't make you undesirable, believe me. And as Urbanagent said, looks pale in comparison to the importance of game.

About having no friends and social interests - you need to go out and get them. The only way you can get new friends is to put yourself out there and be confident. The only way to gain new hobbies is to join a club. Right now you are trapped in self-pity. Start hating yourself for it and use that hate to fuel your self improvement.

You have a bright future ahead of you since you are top of your class in med school. The wealth/status will start playing in your favor soon enough, now you just need to improve in a few other aspects.

Good luck brother !

CyricYourGod · 2014-07-19T19:45:17+00:00

You need to learn to love and respect yourself. When you look in the mirror you should love what and who you are and feel great. If you don't feel like smiling when looking at your image you need to take immediate steps to improve yourself. Convince yourself that you're awesome first.

This is a process where there are no shortcuts. You will feel like shit if you know you're cheating yourself. You started your journey of self-improvement but you feel down because you know deep down you're not doing your best. DO YOUR BEST because that is showing yourself the utmost respect and when you show yourself respect, other people will respect you too.

You "joined" a gym but it doesn't sound like you're really joined a gym. Start lifting, and start lifting serious. Every workout you should be getting a pump, if you're not getting a pump you're not working hard enough. It will improve your mood I guarantee it.

Next, take your diet to the next level and support your weightlifting. Eat for muscle growth, eat for health. Since you're skinny, start bulking up. Look up a diet/fitness plan for skinny guys looking to put on some muscle.

You'll feel great every day you stick to your diet and fitness plan. You'll feel even greater when you catch girls goosenecking you and you start seeing the muscles packing on. Start today and work on it for 120 days. I guarantee if you do your best for the next four months you'll come out feeling like a different man.

mordanus · 2014-07-19T20:02:16+00:00

Lol.... you're six foot man. Women dig tall guys. You need to lift weights and find some confidence. Learn game and learn how women think. You have bright future ahead of yourself with your career. Flesh out the other aspects of being a man and you will have it made. Find exciting hobbies and chicks will come flocking.

xililxililxixlxixlix · 2014-07-19T20:36:20+00:00

You sure you don't suffer from body dysmorphic disorder or any other underlying mental illnesses? I'm 20 years old and face the same exact problem as you. Despite being 6'1 and skinny (man I need to hit the gym up), I can't stand to look at pictures of myself or even in mirrors. I just feel like a peasant with inferior genes.

The best thing to beat depression and other mental illnesses is to read. You won't understand why after reading one book, or maybe even five. But eventually you will grow this hunger for knowledge. You want to digest all information about topics that interest you.

Check out this book called Feeling Good by Dr.Burns. He combats a variety of mental illnesses, for example, how to deal with anxiety, depression, anger, negative thoughts, etc.

You seem like a smart, cool dude, if you ever wanna text-chat on skype, pm me.

ReddishTablet · 2014-07-19T18:39:55+00:00

Try a 3-5 day stubble. If you don't feel comfortable with no facial hair, try growing a beard. Just don't look like a homeless guy. Wear some jewelry. Maybe try sunglasses. Get some clothes that fit you. And make an effort to smell "good." There's plenty of nice lotions and perfumes out there for men.

Misteralcala · 2014-07-19T21:19:00+00:00

Your problem is that you are referencing Tinder. Going online to meet women is a horrible idea. You need to learn to approach in person. Get out and mingle in the real world, because that's the best sandbox to play in and try out your approach and game.

I was a shy polite beta kid until I hit my 20s and got out into the clubs where I could drink and mingle. I was also very self-conscious about my looks, but I saw uglier, less talented men than me with hotties on their arms, and the only difference was that they had the confidence to approach them and close the deal.

What I decided to do was teach myself to be confident. I played it like a game, where I was competing against my own high score. I would go out to clubs, I would approach girls that I thought were better looking than I deserved. The eye opener for me was when I realized that I could be as charming, witty, forward and dominant as I wanted because none of those girls knew me. I was a stranger to them - a blank slate that I could fill in however I wanted and most likely they'd never see me again, so each time I'd talk to a girl I'd go for broke.

Each time I got shot down, I'd move right on to the next girl that caught my eye, remembering this was a game to me and I never let the rejection get to me. Every 'no' was a victory - these were girls I would have never approached before deciding to do this crazy experiment.

After a few weekends I was starting to hit my stride - I would engage longer with them before they'd lose interest. I got a few numbers I had no Idea what to do with. I was learning from my rejections and gaining confidence which was helping my game. Soon my approaches were solid. It was no big deal to walk up and strike up a convo. I had to work on closing, and advice from successful male friends was very helpful with that.

One summer was all it took to transform me from shy beta boy to a man of confidence who has zero social awkwardness.

needless_pickup_line · 2014-07-19T21:24:41+00:00

I'm at the point right now where 9 times out of 10 if I want a specific girl I can get her. And these are attractive girls, like 7s and above, I don't fuck around with unattractive girls.

Conversely, the last time I used Tinder I got only 4 likes in one week swiping right on everyone. Your situation is not as bad as you think. 30 likes is not bad at all compared to how some guys have it. Just keep lifting, dressing well, and doing interesting shit.

moonsuga · 2014-07-20T00:02:09+00:00

you need to change that attitude and start seeing yourself as a man, bro!

mormon-virgin · 2014-07-20T06:37:00+00:00

bro you got 30 matches in a week? can't be that ugly

[deleted] · 2014-07-20T05:48:22+00:00

I'm a med student and I love medicine

That's all that matters. Fuck women, fuck what others think about you. You have a prosperous and rich life ahead of you, and if you really care that much about your looks, get into genetic engineering after medicine and change your appearance (through the methods provided in the future).

Do you know much fucking power you could potentially have? I'm just a high-school student who wants to get into genetics and medicine, but you're already fucking there. Take advantage of the changing dynamics of reproduction (stream-lining of reproduction), and get into a field related to human genetic engineering. That will equal STATUS. In terms of you being skinny, just start some light-lifting and cardio so you look like this athletic guy, instead of some useless gigantic tub of muscle, uttering "LIFT, LIFT, LIFT, DO U LIFT, BRAH?"

This may sound condescending:

Having studied so much, I would've thought you'd developed an ability to think abstractly and reason your way out of this bullshit you've put up here. You base your value on girls, so WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING IN MEDICINE? Seriously buddy, go worship at the altar of pussy. That was a bit of a joke, but my sincere advice to you is to evaluate where you stand in relation to other people your age, and to enlighten yourself by not following the mainstream religion of sex

In terms of your hobbies and interests:

Get the fuck out of your house when you're not studying, and start volunteering at a local hospital, hell, a food drive is great too. Call out some of your buddies and start playing soccer, or join some sports club. Hit up the gym, and meet some people there. I think you should check out /r/nofap, if you masturbate furiously, that is certainly a cause of social ineptitude, as you derive all your dopamine from that action and feel depleted, mentally, physically, and spiritually.

If you have any questions or inquiries, please message me. I might be half your age, but I'll bring all wrath and fury and drag you down this rabbit-hole with me, and begin a process of self discovery.

so euphoric

Title	Accepting bad looks
Author	The_BitterTruth
Upvotes	18
Comments	21
Date	July 19, 2014 4:47 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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