Advice required ;"cheated "on girlfriend / attachment issues /oneitis

jb_trp · 2015-01-19T05:57:38+00:00

Look kid, you need to next her. She sounds young, manipulative, and bitchy. I'm sure she is really attractive, but you're wasting time and energy on a losing cause. She is not LTR material.

If you want her back as a plate, go no contract, lift weights, and fuck 10 other girls. You'll be instantly more attractive to her. The more you try for her, the more beta you'll appear. You've already given her all the balance of power.

You know what you need to do. Now do it.

King2realz · 2015-01-19T06:01:44+00:00

You've only been with 3 girls.. ofcourse you'd rather be with her.

Don't be a pussy, you what to do. This is some pathetic scarcity you need to slap yourself out of.

AssedM · 2015-01-19T07:31:56+00:00

She is a dream killer. That term should be very familiar with you if you are at the athletic level you say you are.

asd1100 · 2015-01-19T09:28:24+00:00

/r/asktrp

second year student but fucked 8 guys ( red flag for me)

you think?

she texts first everyday

was that really negesary?

She is openly jealous of other plates and is possessive.

because she is not a FWB, she is in a relationship with you.

We agreed not to see anyone else in early December

that "we" is delusional.

she gets upset, thinking that this was after the agreement ; it wasn't .

and that is enough, that was the last oportunity to handle it like a man. You should have called her a cunt and walk out on her.

Is that the most effective way to get her back ? We've had arguments / she's been dropped as a plate before and texted me apologetically the next day . A heartiste post says this is.

Put a ring on it. That is why she trows these tantrums, to break frame and have you come back weaker and weaker each time.(this may not be to get the marriage, she might just want to break you out of ego)

s there something else potentially going on besides her hamstering being hurt ?

no, you are the one hamstering all that bullshit. This is just about her: she was really into you and then one day she smelled beta blood. That is a horrifiying repulsive feeling, to find out you submited to a weakling. So she pulls the "change for me" card, a classic, you should have trown it out instantly like you would have done in the begining. But you fall, you fall hard. You even self impose celibacy on yourself. Now she doesn't only feel angry for lying but she feels confused. Where is her alpha, she has you, but are you an alpha, have you ever been one? Is she really that great that she got to score a player? If she is why would she settle? she can find a guaranteed alpha.

She was bidding for a mona lisa and after she won the bid, you told her she won a picture of the mona lisa. Can you get why that might make her angry?

but I'd rather be with her than bang the usual tinder skanks I get ( can't go out to meet girls ATM )

false dichotomy. You can't have her. You are simply to invested in her to be able to manage a relationship with her. You really don't get it do you? She doesn't care about you, she cared about the tingles, you the player where giving her when she got a text from the "skank fucker". You don't matter for a woman at least not at a primal level. You are your status, your attitude your frame. Throw those away and you basically collapsed her fantasy her love story and her world.

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Dev_on · 2015-01-19T15:12:44+00:00

What do you get out of this, what does she bring to the table?

Take those answers, and see how hard they are to get, and how much of her concerns are you willing to concede to?

If what she offers is rare enough that it's worth what you give up, then stick around, if not. There'll be another one.

MachiavellianRed · 2015-01-19T15:59:48+00:00

This belongs in /r/asktrp. Don't flout the rules.

Title	Advice required ;"cheated "on girlfriend / attachment issues /oneitis
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Upvotes	1
Comments	40
Date	January 19, 2015 5:29 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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