Alpha asks /r/dating_advice for the blue pill

RedHonest

January 28, 2013

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Title	Alpha asks /r/dating_advice for the blue pill
Author	RedHonest
Upvotes	11
Comments	12
Date	January 28, 2013 6:27 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/17ezqg/alpha_asks_rdating_advice_for_the_blue_pill/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/alpha-asks-rdating_advice-for-the-blue-pill.235354 https://theredarchive.com/post/235354

[–]ham_and_cheese5 points6 points7 points 13 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

[–]WorkThrow993 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

[–]throway34b2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]WorkThrow991 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Sure, you can tell yourself that Santa Claus also exist. Deep down you'll know, but I guess as long as everyone fakes it, even if everyone know, you can have some kind of happiness. Or, you can find someone who also fully understand that Santa Claus doesn't exist, and that you can both work in the real world, towards real goal. You've got friends, right? Think about it as a friend you'd want to see every day, but with whom you can be real, and also fuck. These are the women you want. They fully realize that there are no special snowflakes, but that doesn't mean you can't have something together. Think of it as a business partner who'll respect you and you can also respect. Think of it as nothing but an Hollywood and Disney fluffy bunny, fake, superficial, relationship who consist of fulfilling roles you have you been told, and instead go with someone who wants to be who they are, and understand your worth and whom you are. There is no such thing as "pure love" either you go out with someone who's a blue pill girl, and you fake being there too, which give you control, but runs the risk that she'll wake up to her hypergamy. Either you accept an hypergamist while knowing that nothing will ever be serious and solid, or, you find someone who's been rational enough all along to have woken up from bill pill, seen hypergamy for what it was, skipped it, and is now a god dam self-actualizing women who built her self worth not by the amount of dick she rode, and by deriving her worth by auxiliary worth, sucking up some men's worth and making it her's, and is instead a god damn self-built, solid individual.
A man can only dream ... lol

[–]throway34b3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]Modredpillschool2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I've been desperately searching for that woman who would prove me wrong,

I know your pain man. Part of this subreddit (the red pill) is about realizing that women aren't how fairy tales portray, and changing your expectations accordingly.

Most of the guys who end up here started off beta, realized they weren't successful with women, learned some game, got laid a bunch, then ended in your boat.

You are already successful, skipped the beta phase, and are now longing for women to be the completion to your picture- the salt to your pepper.

You'll find no solace in that view of women, and you already know it.

Take comfort that we understand the plight, and you should definitely stick around. Check out the sidebar while you're here, especially the following:

[–]throway34b0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]WorkThrow99-1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Life your life for the sake of your life and yourself. Let women come and go, but don't put more effort into it than what you get in return. You shouldn't never invest yourself 100% in only one thing, and women are one of those things.
When you are living your life for it's own sake, at some point women might come and join you, and you might part ways. Don't try and force it.
You are already starting to focus on the road instead of the destination, now you just need to realize that everyone are on those roads. Some are just looking at destinations, you want to avoid those. Some are going to be going to same way as you for some bit, those people you want them around, but you have to know how to say goodbye when you get to a fork, and you aren't going the same way. Talk about goals, talk about inspirations, talk about what they are doing, and what they want to do, and try to see who want the end goal (be married) and those who want to live the road (be in a marriage).
You might or might not share the road with some other, the period for which you'll share it might be long or not, just focus on going you own way, and don't get suckered into just tagging along.
Sometimes it's worth it to make a detour to see something, as long as you don't lose sight on where you were going in the first place. You don't want to be one of those lost soul on the road of life, who are stuck in an unknown place, because they tagged along for too long, and have no clue anymore where they are. (This is when you have to stop, focus on yourself, and find yourself.)

The journey. Sometimes you travel along, sometimes you travel with someone, companionship isn't the focus, but it sure does help going along, unless you are dragging someone who just wants to tag along.

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