Am I doing tinder wrong? Shit test!

adiradirim · 2014-06-24T20:16:01+00:00

well, maybe she will reply, but "i just want to have fun tonight" is a sexual innuendo. you are asking her for sex after just a few words.

its good to be direct, but maybe something like "lets meet for a drink" is more likely to succeed, and you can escalate from there.

women are likely to be pretty nervous of random guys online, so you gotta show her you arent dangerous at least, before you start asking for her to meet you for fun. maybe some women will go for that, but im guessing that most probably will be more conservative.

chakravanti93 · 2014-06-24T20:13:18+00:00

Be busy. "Right now I'm trying to decide who I'm taking with me tonight. Why should it be you?" Bare minimum.

"Doing nothing," "Not Busy," "I'm free," and any such likeness are forbiden phrases. Never use them again.

1NV0K3R · 2014-06-25T14:06:28+00:00

You're asking questions. Stop asking questions. Tell her.

Me: [Proposition for sex or date or coffee depending on how I feel the girl will react]

Her: [Hamstering]

Me: [Agree and Amplify or Amused Mastery]

Her: [LMR]

Me: [Relay to her that I don't care if we actually do meet, display of aloofness]

Her: [Realizes I don't care and suddenly has a desire to meet]

Me: [Set time/place and give her my number]

Her: [She texts me]

And that's that.

redpillshadow · 2014-06-24T21:07:42+00:00

Me: I wanna meet you

She knows, you are on tinder. Forget non information like that. Hi or Hey is better. Go with Let us meet. Or you want to meet me if you want to be aggressive.

Me: yeah what do you say? what do you do tonight?

Tell her what she wants to say. Forget the second question. You don't care anyway.

There is a sharp disconnect between your first messages and the aggressive guy who wants her number and is not anybody who can pick whatever girl he likes you present to her at the end. And she doesn't want to hear that she is for fun only aka worth less than other girls.

niczar · 2014-06-25T10:33:46+00:00

You need to give her a way to be able to tell herself that she's not meeting you for sex even though you know, she knows, and she knows you know that you're going to have sex.

When I was doing PUA stuff with a master of the trade a while back, he would tell women we met that it was my birthday, and that I had champagne at my place. Then when we were there, they would usually pitch the "I'm not that kind of girl line", and we'd just say "c'm'on you knew why we came here in the first place." And most of the time they would put out. So many birthday parties I had that year.

leodoestheopposite · 2014-06-24T21:54:02+00:00

Me: I wanna meet you

No shit Sherlock!

How about you capture her fantasy (I'm giving away one of my lines here).

Step 1: DO NOT ask her what's up, or how she is doing etc..., no intro.

Step 2: start with I am planning my next breath-taking, lifetime memorable experience and I am seeking an accomplice. When was the last time you had a breath-taking, lifetime memorable experience?

Step 3: play along, be mysterious, be playful. When she asks, and she will ask, When was the last time you had one of those experiences or something like that just say Yesterday

Step 4: When she asks for more details, just state I don't kiss and tell maintain frame and continue playing along with the building up of a memorable experience.

The Goal: meet up for a drink to see if we both still like each other to go in private and hook up.

Meeting a semi-stranger for a drink in the hope of hooking up and then do it again and again is indeed a breath-taking, lifetime memorable experience partly because you've never done it before, partly because you are a sex-machine (you better deliver) that will give her the fuck of a lifetime.

Bonus: Tell her that she'll probably walk funny for a few days afterward

CrimsonIgloo · 2014-06-26T10:21:04+00:00

Mate, you sound needy and desperate for her number and to meet up. If she sees that over text, imagine how she's going to imagine you in person? Fuck. That.

'I can't see when you type here'.. What is that about?

/u/1NV0K3R has got it right on. You've given her too much of an open boundary to avoid your proposition by asking too many questions. It's filler and being used as a distraction from your intentions of wanting to meet her.

I'd suggest don't parrot her questions, or let her do the same. Get a conversation going.

Eg; her: 'I've just stopped working yourself' you: 'great, where abouts do you work? I'll swing past and grab you on the way to [name bar] for a drink..' or something like that, depending on rapport / comfort gained.

All about experience, you'll get it.

[deleted] · 2014-06-26T21:20:51+00:00

You need to load the conversation differently. It's best to not be direct because being direct makes her have to answer "Would you have sex with me" directly.

Title	Am I doing tinder wrong? Shit test!
Author	wazzym
Upvotes	6
Comments	11
Date	June 24, 2014 8:08 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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