It was late last night and I was being blown out by group after group of women. Apparently my small talk interview questions didn't make for wet pussy. My friend finally instilled some valuable techniques into me and told me to tell the next woman I want that I was bad at dancing and wanted to dance with her to practice. I found a woman, walked up to her and did this. She laughed and said she was bad at dancing too to which I replied that we could be bad together. She said ok and we went on the dance floor.

I wasn't lying when I said I didn't know how to dance. Fortunately my friend's goal for the night was to get me grinding on a woman and he told me this so I pulled her up next to me and started grinding on her, to which she complied. We danced for a bit and had a brief makeout before I closed with her number and she went back for her friends.

What I did was nothing compared to what my friend has pulled off. Last week he went up to a woman and said that her breasts were showing with that low cut shirt and that they looked magnificent (or some wording to similar effect). She laughed and caressed his arm, meanwhile they connected, danced together, and unfortunately he wasn't advanced enough to get past the friend obstacle but I could see in her eyes and body language she wanted to go home with him.

Where unabashed honesty works

  1. At nighttime. Nighttime is a no holds barred event to where you should be saying anything and everything. Another one of my friends always opens up with the line "have you ever slept with a black dude/how many black dudes have you slept with" to which they respond "derp derp derp..." and humor him. When I was in NYC he did this to open up a woman then introduced me to her where I proceeded to makeout and finger her. All because he opened her up with the black dude question.

What unabashed honesty is: the verbal and the physical

  1. Physical: getting physical with a woman you've known for a brief amount of time is unabashed honesty. You want something, so you go for it. In the beginning I struggled with this. My friend would tell me to go up to a woman and make her do a twirl, to which I was robotic and stiff in my muscles. It didn't work out at first and a few repulsed looks was the most harm done, but eventually I caught my stride and now women love it when I get them to twirl on the dance floor.

My first one night stand literally happened because I was unabashedly honest with my body. We were sitting at the park after a bland and relatively nonintimate date, when I went in for the kiss, we started making out and my hand was moving around her chest when she said she didn't want to have sex in the park, so we walked back to my place and did it there. All because I went for it, making no excuse for my actions.

  1. Verbal: telling her what's on your mind. Mark Manson in Models has the famous line "can I pee in your butt?" to which his friends attract woman. It doesn't matter what you say as long as you are congruent with your body language and even better if it's potentially polarizing.

You have permission to over-escalate

  1. One of my coaches urges me that whatever I think I'm doing with regard to verbal and physical escalation that I think is enough, that I need to push the envelope even further because I am definitely not taking it as far as I can be. This is especially true with newbies and beginners with meeting women.

Where unabashed honesty fails

  1. Texting. Texting you don't control the tone of the message received. Send an unabashedly honest text, you will come off as creepy. Also, you shouldn't be sending these kind of texts anyway because even if it's successful, you have no means to escalate.

  2. Over the phone. Again, you have no means to escalate unless you are in person.

The worst that can happen

  1. Your worst nightmare: she pulls out her rape whistle, blows it, yells out "stranger danger!" while a bunch of white nights run in and beat you to a pulp as the police arrive and arrest you, all the while you are socially ostracized in front of all those strangers who point and laugh as you are whisked away in a cop cruiser and pee your pants.

  2. What will happen: she will walk away, and/or say she has a boyfriend. Her body may get rigid to your touch.

tl;dr Especially when you go out at night, be polarizing with unabashed honesty including with your words and your body. Say over the top statements and escalate beyond proportion with her. By implementing this system you open the door for a lay or at least other physical escalation with the woman.