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Many men who are married or in long term relationships are turning the tide. They are reclaiming their masculinity and because of this their relationships are reaching new heights. As these men improve they are helping their spouse improve as well. So, not only is the quality of the marriage rising but so is the quality of the two individuals who make up that relationship.

Side Note: You will see that I bounce from marriage and relationship often as this applies to both those who are married as well as those who are in long term relationships.

This post is going to touch on the literal side of balancing the scales as well as your woman’s confidence. Often times I write about the man embracing his inner self and through this action he will in turn become a better man for himself and for his lady. First he improves for himself, but that improvement directly translates to her as she is the one married to this improving man and it reaffirms her original notion that he was a masculine man and worth marrying and having sex with in the first place.

As your confidence grows through physical fitness, in knowledge regarding interpersonal relationships & the female mind, as well as your improvement in laying game you can transfer that to your woman through strategic planning and critical application of leadership through example at the right moments.

A lot of guys I talk to on the Married Red Pill subreddit have a hard time with getting their wife onboard the improvement train. A lot of the guys are raising their SMV by leaps and bounds and then get frustrated and disappointed when their wife does not reflect or experience these same changes.

What these men fail to recognize is that just because they discovered they were not satisfied and they found the need to improve – the wife hasn’t reached that point.

So, what should we do but inspire her to do exactly that. Here are a few of the complaints I am seeing repeated over and over. I will list them out and then go provide ways to combat this push back/lack of confidence.

  • My wife doesn’t want to have sex with the lights on or shower together.

  • My wife is not in shape and now I am finding her less attractive.

  • My wife just sits on her phone, unhappy.

When you look at these three quick examples it is clear to see these guys are pointing the finger and saying, “my wife” – when in reality they need to be looking at her as a reflection (see my post Man in the Mirror ) of their poor leadership.

Gentlemen, the onus is on you to lead your woman to wherever you want her to be. Do you see that all three of these examples share one common theme? A woman who lacks confidence…

When is the last time your wife stepped on a scale in front of you?

Some guys will read that and laugh… I’m fucking dead serious – tell me when.

There seems to be this persistent belief that women don’t share their age & women don’t share their weight. No fucking shit chicks are lacking confidence, society is telling them they are supposed to think and act a certain way and weak men are supporting it.

Does that sound familiar?

If you have the energy and determination to break the mold our feminized society has placed you into – then you had better be ready to provide the same efforts to break the mold your woman is stuck in.

She should be able to confidently step on the scale in front of you. She should confidently share her age and coming from a military background I am of the belief that too many have been deprived of the privilege to grow old.

You should be the man who gets her to that point.

My wife doesn’t want to have sex with the lights on or shower together.

Your wife is afraid of you seeing her bare body. She is afraid to be vulnerable in front of you. Think about it – in both of these scenarios she is exposed to you, as bare as the day she came into the world. Do you want to know how you get her comfortable with this?

Through slow – gradual steps with positive reinforcement.

You don’t force her by saying, “We fuck with the lights on because I say so.” That is domineering not dominant. I’ve said it before – you want to be the dominant force in her life.

You don’t force her to do these things; you inspire her to do them on her own. You provide the compliments of how you love her body, mind, etc. When you cuddle with her – put your hand on the parts she tries to get you to avoid – stomach, arms, wherever her sensitive area is, desensitize it to your touch and have her grow more confident in those areas.

Women think way too much. As time passes she will go from ‘he thinks my stomach, arms, c section, etc.’ are disgusting to ‘Ok, he isn’t disgusted, I’m going to trust him and open myself up – let the wall down and risk being hurt – but he’s earned it and he won’t hurt me’.

Maybe it is having sex a few times with the windows open but the lights off. Then moving that to sex with the lights on but under the blankets, then from there lights on and naked bodies everywhere. When the kids go to bed, ask her to come rub you down in the shower, have her wash her king. However you have to spin it to your woman – do that.

You can read the rest of the article here: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2016/05/24/balancing-the-scales/