If you haven't noticed yet, the one thing that feminism and the social justice warrior mindset harbors most consistently is a thoroughgoing refusal to acknowledge the concept of personal responsibility.

This is a macro-phenomenon resulting from a fact about female nature that is in my view a crowning maxim of red pill ideology: Women do not want to be in control.

Meanwhile, the very meaning of alpha is control. The alpha has control over:

  1. The self through emotional stoicism.

  2. The external world via securing shelter, transportation, and disposable wealth.

  3. Other human beings by virtue of earned respect and charisma.

In relations with women specifically, alpha behavior consists of controlling a woman gracefully. An ideal pattern of male-female interaction is one in which a man, while calm and content, controls a woman in a way that makes her feel like she is being carried by the frame he provides.

With respect to the values of control and benevolence and their interplay, one could rank four different types of relationship by desirability in ascending order.

  1. No control and no benevolence: This relationship is one in which a grumpy and emotionally unpleasant male attempts and fails at controlling his female. (Malevolent beta)

  2. Control and no benevolence: This relationship is one in which a male controls his female using fear, intimidation, manipulation, etc. (Malevolent alpha)

  3. Benevolence and no control: This relationship is one in which a male is benevolent to his woman but fails to effectively control her. This relationship is probably the one with which members of this community are most familiar from their beta days. (Benevolent beta)

  4. Control and benevolence: This relationship is healthy because it is framed by a man who effectively balances the masculine and aggressive tendencies that draw her in and activate her tingles with more refined virtues such as thoughtfulness that keep her deeply emotionally invested and loyal. (Benevolent alpha)

To utilize benevolent control, court women that warrant it. A woman worthy of your benevolence is a woman with a low partner count, a fit body, and positive energy. These kinds of women are more likely to be found in an academic, extracurricular, or recreational settings than in tradition PUA environments like bars, clubs, etc.

It should be noted that allowing a woman to exist within your strong but comfortable frame is in my experience the best way to maximize the sexual aspect of your relationship to her. When women feel no ownership for their actions, that they are being enjoyed as a recipient of aggressive male volition, they are in the prime state to receive a solid fuck. Give and take? 50/50? Absolutely not. She must feel abducted by a strong male for the chemistry ripe for good sex to thrive.

TL;DR: Be strong but be good / be good but be strong.