Beta male needs advice

Asoka11111 · 2015-07-06T14:52:42+00:00

Don't hang out with her. What utility does she even bring to your life?

Jessie_James · 2015-07-06T16:19:18+00:00

She has a boyfriend

She's using your weakness and she knows it. Stop giving her any of your attention.

altra_hex · 2015-07-06T14:41:47+00:00

If you feel compelled to hang out with her tomorrow, then focus on her weak points. She absolutely has them, so it's a matter of spotting. She's probably overly-emotional and entitled like most women, so she'll be doing and saying stupid shit a lot.

Also go on your own schedule. Don't show up until it's convenient to you and leave as soon as you start getting the sense that you could be doing things more useful with your time. Make decisions without taking her feelings into account. Just fucking look out for #1, cause that's what she is doing.

You should find yourself feeling disgusted by the displays, instead of the jealousy. If that works for you, she won't be pedestalized anymore.

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tobascoslice · 2015-07-06T17:47:16+00:00

I would cut contact with this chick.. Just me.

She's manipulating you. "If you're my friend then do XYZ for me" That's straight up manipulation. And of course you do the XYZ, right? Bad mistake. She knows you are interested in her, which is why she keeps you around. She probably gets angry when you don't check up on her because she knows you are interested (this gives her leverage for her to get you emotionally roused), if you are interested, she can convince you to do something to benefit her. If you don't, she gets angry; really mature.

Make no mistake about it, strong possibility that she isn't interested in you sexually, just favors (typical "he's a nice guy", we all have heard it and been called that before we changed our personalities). Not trying to ruin your confidence, just observe her actions and her true motive here.. As someone else posted, she's only looking out for herself, you need to do the same.

If you keep her around (only going to hurt yourself), see her as practice to better yourself.

"She's not actually cheating", sounds like some rationalization and making excuses for her actions. Start taking notes on her behaviour.

The way to not develop feelings for this one: find more girls

MicroMinion · 2015-07-06T20:30:14+00:00

Yeah you have a clear issue of overvaluing women. Just wait until you find out all the downsides women have. They are almost all deceptive, selfish and honorless.

There isn't much point in trying to teach you how to be calmer around them. Right now you overvalue them. You need to be broken first. Go through the anger phase. After that you will realise women don't have nearly as much value as you think and you can act naturally around thek again.

Fukkthisgame · 2015-07-06T20:35:19+00:00

Honestly, op, just don't hang out with her. Make her come over and then be somewhere else, let her wait around for 20 minutes until she texts you, then tell her you forgot you two were supposed to hang out and went to a movie/friend's house, whatever. Don't apologise beyond maybe a "my bad."

I can almost guarantee she doesn't have any sexual interest in you. Use this as a chance to practice some RP witchcraft on her and see what happens, and if it doesn't work out, you're at no greater loss than you are right now.

juliusstreicher · 2015-07-07T12:13:57+00:00

Also...your dipshit so-called friend...scrape him off. Don't let him know that you want this chick...he'll White knight sabotage you, for sure.

cmiovino · 2015-07-06T21:49:03+00:00

Been there.. well kinda.

In my past life, I would go goo goo over a girl who was up to my standards, which were relatively low to medium. Basically, equal SMV at the time. Oh man, someone likes me?! They're kinda cute.. I'm all in!

Why? Because I had no other options, no game, low SMV, and took whatever the frier spit out. I've recently fixed this though 6 months of greatly improving SMV, but also talking to more girls and getting out there. Abundance.

It's as easy as having two girls interested in you. It keeps you in check. You won't get one sided feelings for one. The more the merrier here.

Still, this is more of a 'cheat code'. The BEST way would to be so busy with you, your passions, your hobbies, career, being awesome.. that even having one girl, you can only give her 10-15% of yourself. Enough to keep her interested, but certainly not enough that if that part of your life was cut off, you wouldn't have a crash.

The cheat is, maybe you're only 60% investing in yourself, instead of 90% (let's use time as the valuation here). If you split your time 60% to you, 40% to a girl... if she leaves, or you get overly invested, you lose half your well being. With maybe 60% in you and 10% between 4 different women, if one leaves, you're still relatively solid. With abundance, another will come into the picture.

Bonus tips:

Lead
Don't buy shit. Maybe a drink here or there. Make sure she's reciprocating back. NOT $1000 jewelry.
Turn her on. A lot. Get her addicted. Fun for everyone.
Make sure you have your life in order, and have things going on at all times. DO NOT, I repeat, do not, go all in with one girl. When she leaves, you're burned, toasty. Then for six months or more, you're in monk mode trying to regain your life. Time wasted.

benusmc · 2015-07-06T19:49:54+00:00

Alright you son a bitches!! Everyone in for a group huge... Guys where you going? guys....

gymgoer205 · 2015-07-07T11:57:59+00:00

Did not read because of your pity hungry title.

Title	Beta male needs advice
Author	[deleted]
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Comments	38
Date	July 6, 2015 2:03 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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