TL;DR I have been with this girl for about 9 months, living together for 5.. Experienced emotional cheating and physical cheating at month 6 and started lining up other plates to get my fill while I checked out. Desire for each other increased, no hard feelings on either side, moral is at an all-time high, and fights are virtually non-existent.

Summary The longer story is this, after we moved in together we went to another country to see her parents. We had to sleep separately and for a shorter time live separately while we were there. While living separately I went on business trips and she undoubtably fucked around or dated, there was evidence on her phone of ex-flames being in contact and some other very suspicious behavior during that time (like periods of no contact, and dating site profiles), among other things my pole not getting polished. On the flight back I had an epiphany that I really have no reason to care about the cheating. As long as we're fucking and there is no marriage commitment then I have no obligation to care that she cheated on me. Hear no evil, see no evil, right? I agreed to myself that if she wasn't going to fuck me or at least blow me down every night then I will rotate one of my plates when that happens- And that's what I have been doing.

Thankfully she is a heavy sleeper so the routine is I keep this plate on stand-by, who happens to be a student and stays up late waiting for me to respond to her every night. When it's time for the girlfriend and I to sleep I wait for her to blow me, tug me off, or fuck, if none of that happens I just act like I don't care, some subtle dread-game, and she falls asleep. I sneak out at 2, go to the other girls place, and we fool around until I cum. Then I jet. The best part about this is, I get off every night, sometimes two times a day, and I don't feel guilty at all. I'm not stupid and I know what she had been up to before, but now looking at how things are at this point, they're better than they have ever been. As soon as I showed that I don't really care whether she wants me or not, and made sure I was getting my pole polished on the regular, is when she started to desire me the most. When I stopped being the neggy little blue-pill that feels he needs to ask for it, now I just dominate her. As a man I have a drive to be successful, if she doesn't understand that need and have the desire to fulfill me with pleasure then I dread-game and line up my plate.

Now that I have this routine, the fights are gone, she cooks for me and I actually have a desire to cook for her sometimes, her desire is much stronger and now fully recognizes that as a man I have a need to cum every day, after withdrawing attention she seeks it out from me. All contact with other guys has dropped to none since a couple months now, her full undivided attention and desire is directed at me.

Lessons Learned * Having multiple women lowered my attachment, raised my confidence/attitude, and as a reactive woman also improved her desire * Sexual activity is directly correlated to emotional well-being in LTRs and also acts as a good way to measure desire * When I stopped being attached and "waiting" for sex, seeking it out in others, she could sense something... Women will sense when you are checking out, getting other women's attention, even if she doesn't see it. She doesn't know I am cheating, but she senses something which is telling her I am at a higher bar than she originally thought, that I am desired by many; I deserve to be polished every night because I am a man that will take what I want if she isn't giving it to me-- because I can. * Other women that you line up can wait on you and always forgive you, this is the kind of guy they truly want, the one that withdraws his attention and lets them know he has options and is ready to fuck someone else when she won't. This is how I treat my plate, I am always ready to walk away because I am set with my primary. Whenever she fucks up, says she doesn't want me coming late, or that she doesn't like when I talk dirty, I just say Ok, others do, and walk away. By the end of the day she is asking me to come over for the night, cum on her, leave because I want to, and then she wants me even more after that.