Edit: This class of shit test seems like one of the most common ones in early dating, that's why I didn't move to /r/asktrp - the answers should be applicable to all of us since women are flaaaaaaaaaky

I was just handed my first clear shit test from my favorite plate. I've been seeing her on weekends for a couple months, and I'm not exclusive and have other options, but like I said she's my favorite and has been pretty awesome in all areas so far.

What happened is I asked her to meet up and got a "maybe I can I'll let you know" and then nothing until after the weekend was over when I got an unprompted "sorry about that I was sick".

I sent back a polite "thanks/get better" and that's it. I had backup plans and had a fun weekend with another prospective plate so I'm fine. I'm well prepared to next her over this rudeness since I'm obviously not enough of a priority for a simple text message, but I also don't want to overreact if it's just a shit test I need to pass. If I'm honest I felt like crap about it for a couple days since I like her but I didn't react or let it drag me down too much. I'm more or less over it now but it still bugs me a little.

I see my options as:

1. Soft next and the ball is in her court to make an effort. No more contact from me until then, and if nothing happens she is forgotten.

2. Wait X weeks (At least 2-3x as long as I normally would) and hit her up like nothing happened.

3. Do either 1 or 2, but call her out in some way when I do speak to her, ie - "that was bad behavior" This one seems like the easiest one to mess up.

Am I seeing things clearly?

Another edit: Well ok #1 just happened sounds like she wants to make plans now. That was surprisingly quick. I think I passed but we'll see.