Don't be yourself.

Don't be yourself.

Everyone's heard the age old truism, be yourself over and over again ad infinitum. Conversely you hear on TRP, to not "be yourself" because being you can potentially encompass being a porn addicted, overweight slob with a near 0 N count and low esteem. Probably a nice neck beard growing too with that low testosterone you've cultivated.

So where does the truth lie? Should you be yourself as everyone including your parents have told you your whole life? Or be the fake it till you make it pre-alpha that redpill literature screams at you be. (although this did work for me it might not always work for everyone at first)

Note: I make assumptions based on experience here. Not going to link articles or anything cause im sure some of it is potentially pseudo.

From my experience I believe the saying "Be yourself" should be first understood as "Love Yourself." Don't be yourself but love yourself. Its a subtle difference but think about the repercussions with me.

Although "be yourself" could've started as an extremely important principal of meditatively and mindfully fully being in the moment and acceptance of your humanity etc. It has evolved into an SJW nuclear weapon keeping the lazy on their asses, and the unhappy people unhappy. How you ask? Well because people are fucking inherently lazy and weird in our society and deep down we want an excuse to keep being lazy and weird.

I believe this principal of acceptance of "being yourself" is actually meant to appear as more of a checkpoint in a period of growth. A rest stop for the weary traveller on the journey to confidence, financial freedom and physical health. A way to reflect on your hard earned from whatever the fuck you're improving on.

For example, you've worked out for months and still are slightly overweight and arent as fully happy as you can be. Accept who you are now for who you are at this moment and be yourself at this period in time. Accept this is as far as you've gotten and love the shit out of it. Love your hard work, long days at the gym, love the confidence you've built from lost weight, love your new weight BUT don't stop here. You will still be yourself when you're at your final weight goals. Being yourself isn't a end destination. Being yourself is being present for the whole fucking journey. Every painstaking step. This seems to be exactly opposite to what society and the SJW/feminist etc narrative would have you believe. They seem to attempt to allow anyone to be exactly as they are amd fucking ubereats the definition of perfection across the finish line to them, rather than forcing them to do the work and cross the line themselves.

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NA/AA has something called the serenity prayer that we did before every meeting that I will quote here but I don't want to go too far into this topic.

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."

So bear in mind, I'm not saying to change the things you can't... Obviously. But fuck go figure out what makes you unhappy and change that something. Don't let the society tell you you're perfect the way you are. You're only perfect if you... Love everything about yourself!

Loving yourself is different. When people say "be yourself" they probably picture some holy acceptance for their quirks, being the person they want to be without fear of what others think. This conjures images of the mega neck beard and deep simpery for many of us on this forum. But what about when you say you should love yourself? People probably see some sort of squishy, unrelatable truth that hippies use to feel less bad about their ritilan addiction in college and a tool get them through a few NA courses.

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Betas see the confidence and swagger of a fully realized red pilled male and they say,

How can he talk about anime with girls, and still be as confident as he is?

How can he enjoy the same beer as me at this bar but not have a fat gut like mine?

How can he have both girl friends and a girlfriend and fuck other hoes without them getting mad?

Well because he loves himself. He knows deep down that he is the shit. His love for himself literally leaks out of every pore. Is this cockiness? Not always, but its okay if it is because who fucking cates? Chad knows when he falls on his ass there probably ain't gunna be nobody there to catch him besides himself (which is why hes in the gym 5 days a week to catch his own 200 lbs of chiseled self)

For a moment, think about something you truly deeply love that isn't a family member or friend. Think hobby or item. You want to be part of it. You want to know more about it, you want to grow with it. You want it to always be there. You are interested in it and want to share it with others, and these examples could go on forever.

Now imagine being that, taking those feelings towards that love object and building them inside of yourself. Get interested in yourself, who are you? What are your limits. What are your true and honest likes and dislikes? What do you wish you could've done different. Who do you want to be in the near future. Do you know the answer to any of these questions? No? Yes? Maybe? Well figure that shit out and you will be on the first steps to self love. When you love what you do, then fill your life with that, you will see you're the master of your own destiny. Love that you love what you do you will eventually absolutely exude this positive energy from every pore. Do what you love, love yourself for doing what you do. Then bring others into that frame of pure interest, fun, and deep understanding of yourself and the world you surround yourself with.

Doesn't that sound eeriely familiar to the idea of what the SJWs want "being yourself" to encompass? Where the problem lies is people are lying to themselves that they want to "be the person they are as they are and not have to ever change anything". They see these twitter feeds of people accepting themselves for being a overweight and then say if he can do it I can, and use it as an excuse to not to go to the gym.

Now stop. And be yourself. And no I don't mean like the mainstream, and SJWs would want you to do. I want you to be in yourself, stand in your body. Stand in your life for a minute without thinking about your fucking future, past, or whatever. Be here now. Do you like who your standing in? Do you enjoy being lazy, unmotivated, anxious and socially awkward? No? Do you love any of those things? Well fucking do something about it. Just in the same way you want to work with and help the objects of your love, become the object of your own eye. Turn inward and start changing yourself into something you DO LOVE. Its okay to change. Don't let the media tell you its always okay to be yourself. Its not okay to be an addict and steal from your kids to get high, its not okay to be 950 lbs, its not okay to kill someone else because they are a different skin color. There are many situations where you need to change. And that's okay, be yourself (even if your a complete asshole cause everyone can change). But you'll never be able to be comfortable in yourself, if you don't first learn to find what you do love, and change the things you don't love about you.

BUT there are also many situations where it IS okay to be yourself. Its cool to watch stupid cartoons, embarrassingly thrash around to techno, and write love poems. But if you don't love yourself first and have an aura of confidence about yourself while doing all of those things can looks intensely cringey and can you become hateful towards what you're doing, rather than getting mad at yourself for being the emanator of the cringe. The activities arent cringe, you are. Listen to your heart but please don't be an autistic fuck.

Last but not least for today, please remember sometimes what makes you uncomfortable is exactly what you should be doing. Nobody likes going to the gym at first. No one likes to fail when trying to kiss a girl and she pulls back. There is no one who likes trying to show a cool hobby to a disinterested third party. But we all can appreciate a good healthy body, a good kiss, and someone excited about the music they took years to make. So just because you fail doesn't mean you should stop trying. Just get back in the reigns and keep going.

If you truly love something you don't always let go. Sometimes you gotta let it rest, but other times you gotta lay into the mother fucker and hold even harder than before.

Good luck lots of love RP family <3