Enjoy the Hardship

aptway · 2015-01-12T02:26:43+00:00

Chaos is a ladder. Many who try to climb it fail and never get to try again. The fall breaks them. And some, are given a chance to climb. They refuse, they cling to the realm or the gods or love. Illusions. Only the ladder is real. The climb is all there is.

IllimitableMan · 2015-01-12T02:44:07+00:00

Sex is easier for girls, and therefore they don't appreciate the average male's struggle for economic dominance. Good. It helps separate the herd. They'll never have to work as hard to be the best, and therefore will never have to develop their personalities, social acumen, or fitness as much as men do. Now given these traits do help acquire a higher quality mate for girls, but they aren't necessary to get the carnal pleasures, or just an average mate in general.

All because eggs are more valuable than sperm. Kind of works against women in a way, rather ironically. They're nature's control group so they're predisposed to the mediocrity you describe. Note the lack of female Nobel prize winners. Even post women's-lib when women are getting more degrees than men, men still dominate the apexes of achievement. Women really have no excuse other than they don't give a fuck because they don't need to. Also, brain differences and all that shit.

My goal in life is to become Nietzsche's Ubermensch

A noble goal. One I share.

TLDR: to be successful you gotta love the struggle. I agree. Fall in love with the struggle, fall in love with self-improvement, and what would be a chore becomes a pleasure.

WardlyHasted · 2015-01-12T03:22:31+00:00

Fucking amen brother.

Once you understand how the world works, you can do one of two things: dedicate your life to self improvement and strive to be the best version of yourself OR you can bitch and complain about the world and coast through your meaningless, unfulfilling life.

X346 · 2015-01-12T10:19:02+00:00

"A Gift for My Daughter" "by Harry Browne" "December 25, 1966" "(This article was originally published as a syndicated newspaper column, dedicated to my" "9-year-old daughter.)"

"It’s Christmas and I have the usual problem of deciding what to give you. I know you might" "enjoy many things — books, games, clothes."

"But I’m very selfish. I want to give you something that will stay with you for more than a" "few months or years. I want to give you a gift that might remind you of me every" "Christmas."

"If I could give you just one thing, I’d want it to be a simple truth that took me many years" "to learn. If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in hundreds of ways. And it may prevent you from facing many problems that have hurt people who have never learned it."

"The truth is simply this:"

"No one owes you anything."

"Significance"

"How could such a simple statement be important? It may not seem so, but understanding it" "can bless your entire life."

"No one owes you anything."

"It means that no one else is living for you, my child. Because no one is you. Each person is" "living for himself; his own happiness is all he can ever personally feel."

"When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you’ll be freed from" "expecting what isn’t likely to be."

"It means no one has to love you. If someone loves you, it’s because there’s something"

"special about you that gives him happiness. Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you, so that you’ll be loved even more."

"When people do things for you, it’s because they want to — because you, in some way, give"

"them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything."

"No one has to like you. If your friends want to be with you, it’s not out of duty. Find out"

"what makes others happy so they’ll want to be near you."

"No one has to respect you. Some people may even be unkind to you. But once you realize"

"that people don’t have to be good to you, and may not be good to you, you’ll learn to avoid those who would harm you. For you don’t owe them anything either."

"Living your Life"

"No one owes you anything."

"You owe it to yourself to be the best person possible. Because if you are, others will want to" "be with you, want to provide you with the things you want in exchange for what you’re giving to them."

"Some people will choose not to be with you for reasons that have nothing to do with you."

"When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want. Don’t make someone else’s problem your problem."

"Once you learn that you must earn the love and respect of others, you’ll never expect the" "impossible and you won’t be disappointed. Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts."

"If they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things. And you have every reason to be proud" "of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the property you’ve earned. But don’t ever take them for granted. If you do, you could lose them. They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them."

"My Experience"

"A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me" "anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out — physically and emotionally — trying to collect them."

"No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence. And" "once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do."

"That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales" "prospects, and strangers. It constantly reminds me that I can get what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world. I must try to understand how he thinks, what he believes to be important, what he wants. Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want."

"And only then can I tell whether I really want to be involved with someone. And I can save" "the important relationships for those with whom I have the most in common."

"It’s not easy to sum up in a few words what has taken me years to learn. But maybe if you" "re-read this gift each Christmas, the meaning will become a little clearer every year."

"I hope so, for I want more than anything else for you to understand this simple truth that" "can set you free: no one owes you anything."

holybad · 2015-01-12T18:35:27+00:00

I use my ability to easily get sex from women as a metric. What I mean is I use how easily I can get sex to gauge where I stand in the 80/20 rule. I want to be top dog and women are a great way to tell if I am. Sex is not my main goal but it's a great way to keep track of my goals.

the_red_scimitar · 2015-01-12T21:57:42+00:00

Another thing to realize is that we men pretty much made them that way. I suspect any child subjected to the entitlements of a pretty girl would end up any other way than hamstery, self-obsessed, hypergamic personality-free airheads.

When everything you say is considered intelligent, funny, cute, clever, and complimented over and over, you're probably going to believe you're smart, funny, etc.

It's always amusing to me to see a dating profile in which the woman insists her friends "tell me I'm really funny", but there is no visual or written evidence anywhere in the profile.

I think very handsome, tall, well-built young men often get a dose of this, although not as bad, and can be equally vapid.

But despite all this, yes - work with what is there.

Edit: Anecdotally, the most personality-rich, good looking women I've known were all overweight or had other problems when they were younger (like that terrible whole-head braces thing, or an eye-patch for lazy eye, or whatever), and thus had to develop a personality because people weren't handing it to them. And they can become very beautiful indeed, with stuff to actually talk about.

deepthrill · 2015-01-12T12:14:44+00:00

I prefer to avoid the easy path in life. I like that I have to work hard on self-improvement, knowledge, culture, strength, etc., to get sex.

I will might say something you won't 'like'.

When one is become the Übermensch, one does not need to describe the path as "easy" or "difficult", one just walk the path. To describe the path as "easy" or "difficult" means one is still in a mental framework where this kind of thinking is an output of it.

Yes, one has to overcome obstacles, but one does not need to "see" them as obstacles. The Übermensch defines his own values and his own objectives, then he will act to achieve the objectives without having to describe his path to achieve them. He just walks.

Perhaps you already know, but it cannot be said just by reading your words.

Thelaterbloomerstory · 2015-01-12T03:19:52+00:00

hardship is what makes men into men

-Tyler_Durden- · 2015-01-13T04:01:54+00:00

JFK on doing things because they are hard.

Radox_Redux · 2015-01-12T11:43:40+00:00

Back when I was struggling with motivation, one of things I did to get me in the right mindset was to treat everything I didn't feel like doing as a test. No, not just a test: a mocking songbird, calling me names and insulting my manhood.

A man responds to threats, not passivity. Contextualising everything as a threat to your frame, you can get motivated to do everything.

Johnny10toes · 2015-01-12T14:09:21+00:00

I'm not sure what the technical name for this is or if there are any long term negative effects from doing it but this mind hack works for me.

Associate the struggle or anxiety with adrenaline or something you enjoy. I'll give you a real world example that happened to me. My job is hazardous. We work with high voltage and in an elevated position. None of that mattered much to me. With the voltage I would be very cautious about stuff but not fearful. A highly alert state of mind with a bring it on attitude. But when it came time to climb the poles, most of our work was done from a bucket truck, I would be stricken with almost crippling anxiety. It, logically, didn't make sense. The high voltage work was more hazardous than climbing. We killed power and lock out, tag out when climbing most of the time. Sure I could fall but I'd rather break a leg than burn my face off.

Sometimes I'd climb and not be bothered. In this way I'd do better and stuff was easier. I had to fix me. I started looking and stumbled on the answer somewhere on the net. Associate the good feeling of accomplishment with what you're about to do. So I held in to the feeling of badassery I found when I was done along with the bring it on attitude of the hot work. I'm estimating here that after doing this for about 6 maybe 7 times it stuck and I started looking for excuses to climb.

This may not work for approaching but it seems like it would for standard talking.

I read The Good Psychopath's Guide to Success and in it they made a game out of who can get 10 rejections. Not 10 phone numbers but rejections.

tallwheel · 2015-01-13T04:20:21+00:00

The struggle and hardship may all be fine and dandy in the long run for those who ultimately succeed, but it sure sucks for those men who will be left behind.

Title	Enjoy the Hardship
Author	deepthrill
Upvotes	47
Comments	36
Date	January 12, 2015 1:07 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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