Fellow RPers, need need your alpha wisdom!

MahlerNinth · 2013-11-21T12:23:00+00:00

Women who'll talk about meeting up with exes to fuck at any time are not worth dating.

You might be considering a monogamous relationship with her, but there are plenty of others out there. Bring up the ex story, then tell her she can either join you and your friends for your trip, or hang out with her ex in which case she can make plans for all of December with him as well.

Wolfwoodd · 2013-11-21T15:13:09+00:00

So you're going to be the one to ask her for monogamy? Is that how you want this to play out? And to do this, you want to hit her with some kind of ultimatum?

I have reservations about this game plan. Personally, I'd skip the confrontation, write her off as a good FWB (I.e. I mean, she WAS honest with you), and keep meeting/dating other girls while keeping her in the rotation.

After all, you want the girls to be the ones begging you not to sleep with other people, not the other way around.

Just my 2 cents.

wednesdays_eye · 2013-11-21T16:05:28+00:00

It may have just been a shit test, but it also might be that she views you as a beta orbiter, so in order to keep you around she's changed her story from "I'm going to spend Thanksgiving getting plowed repeatedly by my alpha ex until we're both spent" to "I'm spending Thanksgiving baking with my mom."

You need to confirm what it's going to be ASAP. My experience has been that unless the girl is a pathological liar (in which case you have bigger issues to deal with), they will usually crumble under pressure when directly asked whether they are lying or not.

If you think about it, it's the alpha thing to do. I just went through this last week. The girl I was seeing and thought I was in an exclusive relationship with had decided she wanted to get back on the cock carousel, but wanted to keep me in her back pocket as a safety option. My buddy saw her leave a bar and hop into a cab with another man and instantly texted me about it. The next day I called her and asked her how her night went. She lied and said she just had a couple drinks with some friends and was home and sound asleep by 10pm.

I straight-up asked her "Is that the truth?"

She hesitated a moment, and then said "No, it's not," and then proceeded to tell me about how she met some guy online and slept with him the night in question because he "cares" about her. All I could think of was how she'd clearly set her hamster to maximum firepower. I told her that we were done and never to contact me again. She asked if we could still be friends, to which I replied "no" before hanging up the phone on her.

But I digress. You need to ask this girl whether she is going to meet up with her ex over Thanksgiving. If she says no, look her directly in the eyes and ask "is that the truth." If she had just lied to you, there is a good chance she will fold and admit the truth. If she continues to deny it, you'll need to follow your gut instinct as to whether you think she's lying or telling the truth. Follow-up and ask why she said she was meeting up with her ex if it wasn't true. If she's lying, you want to make her keep lying to increase the pressure on her, because you're putting her on the spot and forcing her to not only come up with new lies but keep her story straight at the same time.

If she admits that she is going to see him, you need to tell her you aren't interested in being her second choice that you are terminating the relationship between the two of you.

Then, walk away and don't look back.

Archwinger · 2013-11-21T15:51:34+00:00

Women are at their most honest when they're drunk.

Drunk her admitted to you, point blank, that she is a suitable fuck-buddy but isn't relationship material.

Sober her verified that when she lied to you.

I'd say that I'm sorry this one didn't turn out to be good relationship material, but really, are you surprised? Nobody here is. 99% of women aren't relationship material.

redpillschool · 2013-11-21T17:14:20+00:00

/r/asktrp next time.

Title	Fellow RPers, need need your alpha wisdom!
Author	wednesdays_eye
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	November 21, 2013 11:54 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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