Flake Compendium

MattyAnon · 2019-06-03T15:35:56+00:00

As you know, I hate the "how would she act if Brad Pitt was in your place" exercise

This is actually a very valuable exercise: you know she wouldn't flake for Brad Pitt, therefore the problem is lack of attraction. This stops guys believing her dumb little excuses.

By the way, the easiest way to avoid wasting time on such girls is to postpone the meeting by 15 or 30 minutes "because I’m running late. First round is on me."

My plan is not to tell her the whole plan. She gets a time but not a place. The place is agreed an hour beforehand, if she doesn't confirm then I don't bother trying to show up. This avoids any needy "we still on for tonight?" rubbish, while the onus is still on her to confirm.

An even better solution is to invite her somewhere that you're going to be anyway. Another is to have a solid plan B in place - something fun you'll do if she's late or doesn't show.

In short: never put yourself in a position where her flaking is in any way a problem for you.

Don’t say stupid things like "If she wants to meet then we'll meet. I don't have time for playing games"

Again, this is a very very reasonable position. I've no time for games or bullshit, if it starts with her flaking or being late it's not going to be awesome 3 months down the line.

or "If she flakes for whatever reason, I'm done with her."

If she ever no-shows, I'm done. There is zero excuse for that. Last minute reschedule is ok occasionally, but it won't be me chasing to make things happen again when she's fucked up the first option.

Being a doormat (rescheduling, tolerating shitty female behaviour) doesn't lead to hot monkey sex if you "stick with it long enough". All that sticking around is just making you look weaker and weaker.

Much better to honestly tell girls that you ditch girls that flake, and then stick to it. This is a great way to both filter out the users, and keep the good ones in line.

Yeah, macho, good for you. You will lose a lot of great girls just because you're too proud and/or socially uncalibrated

No, you don't. You save yourself a lot of time, and you filter out the girls who will just mess you around.

Girls don't start off flakey and then magically get super interested 3 months later. The flakey ones start flakey and don't change. Filter them out the first chance you get and go spend time with girls that actually want to spend time with you.

SmilingWatermelon · 2019-06-03T14:49:42+00:00

Girls are flaky as hell because they have so many options.

Although I rarely completely ditch girls even if they flake. I just stop chasing.

I've had times where once my smv got higher they came around on their own.

Zech4riah · 2019-06-03T15:32:18+00:00

Most of the time you should next if she doesn't try to reschedule after the first flake - especially if the first interaction (cold approach) was longer (15-60mins) when you opened. If the initial interaction was short I may try to pitch another date even if she doesn't reschedule after first flake but it depends on the vibe she is giving and level of investment.

Brutal13 · 2019-06-03T14:52:21+00:00

Why do you think 3 strikes are enough? In sales recommended - 5 contacts.

Don_Himself · 2019-06-03T20:27:15+00:00

LOL chances? what the fuck are those?

if a girl that claims to be attracted to me so much as leaves me on Read/Seen for more than 8 hours it's a hard block on everything. only exception is if she has a BF.

if we make plans, and she flakes for ANY reason = hard block. only exception is if she herself reschedules, sends nudes, shows high interest/engagement, brings up the rescheduled time & place etc etc.

the #1 way to minimize flaking is facetime her beforehand and show her a fantastic time (displaying high value etc), and cutting it at the PEAK of the call so she yearns for more of. Few Understand This

Cryptoguru777 · 2019-06-04T11:15:54+00:00

"Much better to honestly tell girls that you ditch girls that flake, and then stick to it. This is a great way to both filter out the users, and keep the good ones in line."

This is some serious beta behaviour. This suggests to someone else that you are someone that often gets flaked on. If others flaked on you then why the F wouldn't she, will be her logic. Instead, when you get flaked on, rub it off and pass it to her.

FlakeExample: I can't make it this thursday. Something came up.

Answer example: No worries, just give me a call when you know you will be availible and we'll try to plan something then.

Even if you are mad or dissapointed don't act like a butthurt betacuck.

Imperator_Red · 2019-06-04T00:28:03+00:00

Wtf is this drivel? One strike and you’re out. I’ve never been no-call/no-showed, but last minute cancellation or cancellation with no attempt to reschedule is a next. Just respond “K” or “cool” and say nothing else.

This is basic shit. Your other option after a last minute cancellation is to text her late on a Friday/ Saturday night a few days or week later. “Hey what are you up to?” or “hey you should come to x bar.” This is just a last minute swing for the fences. You’ve already written her off as a flake so you don’t want to waste time, but you lose nothing with one last swing for the fences.

Ivabighairy1 · 2019-06-03T18:31:43+00:00

Pretty simple really.

They either want to be with you or not.

Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t want to be with you.

Title	Flake Compendium
Author	OutsideTheCage3
Upvotes	86
Comments	18
Date	June 3, 2019 2:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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