For most guys one of the worst things that happens when trying to meet a girl is the dreaded flake. You're excited for your date, have your outfit picked out, venue(s) picked, heck you probably even trimmed that bush up.

Then about an hour or 2 before the date something comes up. She "realizes she had something she forgot about" , she's "not feeling well" , blah blah we've all heard it. Now this hurts because you're already invested and there's so much pressure on being able to earn her attention.

That letdown you feel is scarcity mentality. What you need is abundance. People ask about how to build abundance mentality without having abundance. A way I've found to do it is to turn the tables and flake on them.

Now Flaking on a girl is something someone with scarcity can't do. He has limited prospects and can't afford to lose any of them. Someone with abundance knows he can lose the prospect because she doesn't matter. But getting yourself to the point where you can flake on girls without staring at your screen for a response with sweaty hands and a knot in your stomach is crucial. If you've never done this to a girl, do it.

It's very easy to do: 1) make plans with a girl and follow standard rp protocol. 2) shortly before the date (day of is essential) text her and let her know you can't make it. Tell her you aren't feeling well, you're tired from work, forgot you had plans with a friend, or even something as vague as "I can't make it tonight".

And that's it. You don't need to try to schedule another date, you don't need to contrive a story, you don't need to lie, you don't even need to apologize, you don't need to let her know you're Flaking because you'd rather just watch TV and eat doritos... It just needs to be fairly apparent you're Flaking and that there's not some real, pressing issue. At first you'll be nervous and that's fine. She might reply, she might not, but who cares? You will feel liberated.

You'll realize you don't need to always get your hopes so high for dates, that Flaking really isn't a big deal, that you don't need that girl around to have a good time. Sure maybe you'll never hear from her again. Who cares? Instead of hoping that she allows you to be in her presence, you're the one dictating things. You'll start to get a glimmer of what abundance feels like.

Afterwards it's up to you. Never talk to her again if you want. Set something up in a couple days if you want. Pretend it never happened. You can worry about what happens afterwards once you pull the trigger.

Don't do it out of spite, don't do it as part of a revenge fantasy, don't do it because she flaked on you... Do it because you've never done it before. Do it because part of the rp journey is realizing you don't need her and being okay with that.