Found this sub recently and I think it's amazing...

30303030303030 · 2013-11-27T10:15:31+00:00

I'm sorry you had to experience this, sounds incredibly painful and it's funny how much your ex wife didn't give a fuck about you and your feelings. Just keep ignoring your ex, she's a no good whore and you know that. They usually work very hard on reclaiming their sweet beta providers, pretend love and affection, then they come back to cheating with guys they are really attracted to.

I look forward to finding a great woman but I don't ever want to place her on a pedestal.

That's fine but great majority of them is like your ex wife so don't waste your life.

Wear a condom and don't get married again.

drios1 · 2013-11-27T07:42:09+00:00

Sorry for any spelling mistakes i'm writing this via my cell phone and sometimes I don't catch the auto corrects

nSaneMadness · 2013-11-27T13:05:27+00:00

I'm just going to say curve that last thought now. YOU are the prize. Think it now. Believe it now.

Live for you, no one else.

NextBrownMamba · 2013-11-27T12:25:48+00:00

That sucks man, glad to hear you've solved the problem and have taken her out of your life and have also been improving yours.

Modified_Hackware · 2013-11-27T12:30:42+00:00

Hey everyone I really about how this sub is dedicated to rebuilding the man that had become lost and pushed away by todays societal norms. Reading some of these posts has me realizing that I have many 'beta' traits that I no longer want in my life.

I was married two years ago and during that marriage and before I was the nice non compromise guy. Thinking that being that guy was what a woman wanted was a horrible self view. I learned the hard way when my ex wife was having an affair. She had been with a total of 5 different guys in the span of four months. I was depressed and hurt. Trying to do the right 'religious' thing of forgiving and working it out. She didn't care at all.

One of the last times I saw her I gave in and had sex with her. That was a mistake that could've cost me alot. After the sex I had many thoughts and ideas that it could work. She was trying to convince me that it would. I almost called off the divorce. But as I sat there talking with her after our sexual encounter deep down inside I felt a burning screaming piece of me that was warning me of my foolish choice. Well after that feeling wouldn't go away I manned up and told her, "if I take you back deep down inside I will regret it." I then up and left. It was the first time i've done that. I look back now and am very grateful that I left her and finished the divorce.

I've since then have been rebuilding myself, lost weight, worked out, and am finishing my associates degree (something I never thought I'd do). I haven't spoken or searched for my ex since the divorce. She's tried to befriend me by chiming to my work and trying to get my attention. i'm not looking back but only wanting to look forward. I look forward to finding a great woman but I don't ever want to place her on a pedestal.

I want to reclaim my manhood where when she sees me she knows that i'm the ultimate prize and not her. So i'm going to stay in this sub Reddit reading all the advice.

Cyralea · 2013-11-27T17:43:18+00:00

But as I sat there talking with her after our sexual encounter deep down inside I felt a burning screaming piece of me that was warning me of my foolish choice. Well after that feeling wouldn't go away I manned up and told her, "if I take you back deep down inside I will regret it." I then up and left.

The exact moment of you swallowing the red pill. Congrats man. Now fix your shit and do what it takes to make yourself happy, fuck your ex and fuck anyone's opinion of your decisions at this point. It's an uphill climb, but the view at the top is fucking amazing.

cugar · 2013-11-27T14:38:17+00:00

i highly highly highly recommend reading "no more mr nice guy" or grab the audio book, it's excellent. i read/listened to it twice over, it will blow your mind in conjunction with this sub. after this a good book to get back into the dating world is "models" by mark manson which is the same tone (the audiobook isn't great though)

IllimitableMan · 2013-11-27T13:15:04+00:00

Women are pretty much soulless fkin creatures in the west. I mean what you described isn't even rare. Bitches are soulless when a man can't make them feel anything. They think that is justification enough, but the fact they do not have an internal frame of reference strong enough to not be so immoral, despicable and disloyal says enough about them as beings. Their actions are always the fault of the mans, bitches don't do responsibility and self-determination when it comes to relationships.

You always take the blame for a relationship going bad, as by merit of being leader, its the responsibility of the man to make sure the relationship is working, and it always will be if anybody is to have a happy and lasting one (which is why you should treat your commitment like its gold-dust, most of these crazy bitches are just not worthy of the best of you), however what we cannot take responsibility for is the inherent nature of women, to betray you, exploit you and shit in your heart when you "don't give her the right feelings" and "she gets bored" or "there's no spark" or whatever other romanticised emotive bullshit she speaks to cover up her own inherent lack of moral decency which she uses to justify her atrocities.

Women are not credible people and their eptitude for psychological destruction is huge.

Irrational + Immoral = Destructive.

Clarify my meaning: women aren't always immoral, they just have the most flexible morality in existence when it comes to romantic endeavours.

mordanus · 2013-11-27T22:10:04+00:00

Never forgive someone if it isn't asked for or wanted. All the people that say you should forgive for your sake don't understand the concept. Forgiveness benefits the forgiven not the forgiver.

Hateblade · 2013-11-28T18:12:15+00:00

Sounds a lot like what I went through, except I have two small children. You're golden, man. Keep working on yourself and hang in there.

RejectionEquality · 2013-11-28T03:56:53+00:00

Trying to do the right 'religious' thing of forgiving and working it out.

There is no god. There is no Heaven. There is no Hell. But that's truly a wonderful thing.

I feel your pain. Having been cheated on myself (by someone that likewise made it abundantly clear that she did not care the least little bit, even going so far as to describe her feelings as "indifferent" while she was cheating), one of the hardest lessons I took away from that was: in addition to the above, there is also no need to dwell on the past. There is only here and now. Carpe diem.

I would suggest reading this thread immediately. It struck a chord in me and was one of the most liberating post-betrayal feelings I've ever experienced.

After reading it, I realized that I drove her away because I badly wanted her to love me (and I think it's safe to say that she shared that desire). But what I did not realize at the time is that women simply lack that capability (q.v., The Iron Rule of Tomassi #6).

I have realized now that I don't need love from women. In fact, I don't need love at all. And if you can accept that fact and realize that it will never happen, and manage to get past the depression stage, as I have, you will find it strangely comforting.

Welcome to TRP. May you move on with your life and spin plates to your heart's desire.

Title	Found this sub recently and I think it's amazing...
Author	drios1
Upvotes	36
Comments	34
Date	November 27, 2013 7:39 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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