So I hit up my usual bar after work and was just planning on hanging out and socializing with a few drinks. I’m a regular there and am friends with the bartenders and other regulars plus I like to play darts there.

Anyway I’d been there maybe 30 minutes when a very attractive girl came in by herself and sat at the bar. I played darts for maybe another hour and went outside to smoke with my friends a few times. Ended up doing a bump in the bathroom with them too which I hadn’t planned on but fuck it.

Friends had to leave to go do family stuff so I wrapped up the darts and then went outside for a cigarette. Came back in and all the bar stools were taken except for the one right next to the girl. Perfect. I went over and sat down and opened up with “I feel like you lied about “neighboring bar” (She had told the bartender earlier that she went to the bar next door first earlier but left because nobody was there and I overheard while I was getting another drink) and told her I saw people outside on their patio.

That’s all it took and we started chatting. She’s on a solo road trip to Florida and just passing through today. She starts asking me what other bars are around and I rattle off all the nearby places. Tell her I like a certain bar and she says she should check it out but is asking for directions. I say I have to meet a friend at 9 (I didn’t) but I’ll walk her over there and get a drink with her because I’m headed that way anyway.

So we walk over there and at that bar we have a few more drinks and chat a lot. I just kept asking her questions about herself and her life and she kept talking... I’ve struggled in the past with talking too much about myself so I’m glad I’ve improved on that I’d tell her just enough about myself to connect and then redirect it back to her.

Somehow social media got brought up and she tells me she has 10,000 followers on TikTok and I just laughed and teased her some about installing Chinese spyware on her phone. Told her she should uninstall it. Honestly it felt good because I wasn’t just fronting not being impressed I legit wasn’t fazed at all like you have 10,000 simps on TikTok good for you girl. Think that’s legit self improvement on my part there’s a time I would have freaked out about that. Anyway she’s asking about my Snapchat and instagram and I categorically deny having social media. Say I just call and text people. A white lie but I’m not active at all on social media anyway.

So that bar wasn’t very crowded and she had said she wanted to see the city and go somewhere bumping so I suggested the barcade that’s a few minute walk away. But I tell her first I need to go get my coat because it had gotten cold out and hey what do you know I live across the street.

I take her to my building and we go up to my apartment. She had teased me saying something about me taking her down a dark alleyway (the entrance is kind of in an alleyway) but I was like nah come on my balcony and look at the view (I have a pretty nice view) and we chatted up there a bit and watched people walking their dogs she told me all about her dog back home.

So we leave and go to the barcade. At the last bar I’d been kind of touching her on the shoulder and thigh when teasing her. Barcade was perfect for this since we were playing the cabinet games where you basically have to touch each other. They also have an old N64 you can play and I put in Smash Bros and beat her ass not going to lie. I actually made her blow on the cartridge for me before I put it in lol. But it was perfect because she didn’t know how to play at all so I put my hands over hers on the controller to show her the controls if that makes sense.

Anyway after maybe an hour there we found out they were closing kind of early so I suggested we go back to the bar we met at because they have darts and I knew they were open until at least midnight. She agrees.

We walk back there and we’re like the only people there. We start playing darts and touching each other a bit more. At some point idk what it was but we were making eye contact and I didn’t even make a conscious decision I just leaned in and kissed her on the lips.

As soon as I did that she straight up grabs me and starts shoving her tongue in my mouth. We make out briefly and then I kind of pull her away and take my turn at darts. From then on we’re basically grabbing each other and making out in between every time we throw.

The talk becomes more sexual. She asks if I’m a man whore and I act super offended in a joking way and make her apologize. We’re laughing it’s all good. She asks me how many girls I’ve been with and I tell her I don’t kiss and tell and then that I’m actually a virgin. She doesn’t believe me.

We dance a bit and I pirouette and dip her and all that shit she’s loving it. She’s laughing. She’s looking me in the eyes and can’t keep her hands off me. She’s probably in the top 2 hottest girls I’ve ever been involved with but the game is coming to me naturally and effortlessly. She’s hooked. I feel like a king.

So the bartender is closing down sweeping up that kind of thing. I look her dead in the eyes and ask if she wants to go back to her place because it’s just up the street. I tell her I want her. She says yes. We pay our tab and leave. We can’t walk more than 5 feet on the sidewalk without stopping to make out. She jumps in my arms and I carry/make out with her for a bit.

We get to the door of the apartment building where she’s staying in an air bnb. Fuck. I realize I left my phone at the bar. We go back and thankfully the bartender is still there and knows me so she unlocks the door and lets me in to get it.

We walk back to her place which is thankfully just down the street and close. She won’t stop making out with me. Pulls me into her starts undoing my belt and sticks her hand down my pants grabbing my dick. Looks around and asks if there’s a camera. Fuck if I know lol. She spots one and redoes my belt (wonder if she was legit about to suck my cock right there in public if there hadn’t been).

Unfortunately I now start getting serious LMR. She won’t stop making out and grabbing me but keeps saying “we can’t do this”. First I joke with her and say nah we’re just going to chat and talk about Jesus. Still making out. She’s saying how bad she wants to fuck me, she feels like she can’t control herself yadda yadda but still saying we shouldn’t do this. This goes on for maybe 10 minutes.

I tell her we’re grown adults and can do whatever we want. I want her. She wants me. What’s the big deal. Finally she says she’s sorry she can’t. Damn. Okay. I get her phone number and say goodnight knowing full well that she lives 6 hours away so we’re almost certainly never going to see each other again. Walk home and then smoke a cigarette and contemplate my blue balls.

For context I’m 27 and have slept with 7 women starting from when I lost my virginity at age 15 with my then girlfriend in high school. Rest were all one night stands and short flings. So I’m not a virgin and it’s not my first rodeo but I’m also not one of those guys who’s banged 100 girls and I definitely have a lot of room to grow. So what did I learn?

1) Just go and fucking talk to her. I could have said damn near anything to her when I first sat down and it wouldn’t matter. What matters is actually approaching.

2) Continue to work on my self confidence. If I’d been sober I probably would have been a little bitch and talked myself into thinking she’s too hot for me and never approached. Fuck that shit. As I said earlier I’d taken a bump of some pretty good stuff maybe 30 minutes before I approached and I did not give a flying fuck and didn’t think twice BUT I want that feeling all the time and without alcohol or narcotics. I know I can get there I just have to keep working.

3) I’d seen the idea here and other places of taking girls to multiple locations in one night and I do think that’s a good idea. Second girl I’ve tried that with and both times there’s been a definite increase in rapport. Also taking her to my apartment quickly to grab my coat was good too. Let her see my place which is nice, good location right downtown and it’s also clean so she knows I’m not a slob or creep and that if we end up there again later it’s all good.

4) Touch touch touch. Kino. Whatever you want to call it. Huge factor. I’d begun casually touching her on the shoulder and arm, maybe thighs too I don’t remember, when we were at the second bar and then later at the barcade I escalated to showing her with my hands on top of hers on the controller how to play Smash Bros. Then dancing and making out at the end. I intentionally made an effort to touch her originally but after the first or second time it was basically autopilot and escalation came very naturally.

5) Social skills and proof. Definitely didn’t hurt me that I was friends with at least 5 other people at the first bar where we met and a first name basis with the bartender. Casually chatting with the bartenders at the other bars while they were serving us. Stuff like that is small but I do think it makes a difference. Establishing playful banter with her early on. Not letting her phase me with the TikTok or Instagram stuff.

I definitely have areas where I need to improve and I will. Probably the biggest issue is self confidence. I can be pretty outgoing normally but sometimes I’m not feeling it and get quiet and reserved. I have to put myself out there. It’s like anything else you need practice to do well consistently. The bump I took definitely helped me go into full blown “Fuck it I’m a king I’ll do what I want” mode but I need to get in that zone myself and at will. There’s no reason I can’t. By the time we were wrapping up at the second bar I’d sobered up anyway and from then on it was all me. I have the capability I just need to execute.

Finally the LMR. Fuck. I’m not mad at her it’s not her fault. It caught me off guard considering what we were doing 10 minutes prior and on the walk there but I should have been ready. I think her having to put the pin in for the door lock was that “crossing the rubicon” moment for her and that’s where it came from. It’s on me for not making her 110% comfortable I guess. What I absolutely should have done was let her maintain that “plausible deniability” and tell her to come back to my place instead. I’ve got a bottle of both red and white wine let’s just have a glass and chat more... You know how that would have went. I should have thought quicker on my feet.

Anyway I think I’m starting to ramble so I’ll wrap it up. I hope I have enough detail for some advice and feedback. I would greatly appreciate that. Thanks for playing along with me and I hope you guys all have a great Friday night and weekend.