[FR] - Shitlords! Get down here! Breakfast is served - 1

Precursor - Eye Contact

Which, metaphorically, is similar to the lube you use to get into her asshole:

Use eye contact to get inside pussy, Use lube to get inside buttholes – Remember this.

”When a woman is walking toward you, do you make eye contact with her? If so, for how long? Should I look away or should I hold it? If she doesn’t give me eye contact, do I still approach the same or do I change up my approach?”

If a woman looks at you, especially if you make eye contact, you better damn well approach her.

Why?

Because going up to her shows you “get it” and can judge social cues.

It’s also her way of sub communicating that she wants you to talk to her.

Don’t think that because you made eye contact you should wait a couple of minutes because she’ll “know something’s up.”

YOU know what’s up – She wants YOU to talk to HER.

Ask yourself, “Why the fuck wouldn’t she?”

...And no.

You don’t look foolish, awkward, or ugly.

You don’t have cake on your face.

She made eye contact with you because you caught her attention.

Girls eyes aren’t drawn to “betas”, the 80% that never get noticed, they get ignored

In fact, most times, it would be the natural thing to make quick eye contact and go on their day, but most girls will fight and resist it, making sure to never give the bobs of the world the opportunity to ogle the last few years of their SMV peak (you #shitlord).

Side note: Yes, there are times when your SMV will be too high and they may deem you “intimidating” – I don’t feel bad for those guys, so there will be no advice for them.

But be careful, don’t fall into the trap I did when I was just starting to receive eye contact.

Many guys learn how to build social proof and get positive attention in a bar, so women start checking them out.

(Women have a much wider range of peripheral vision than men. They ARE checking you out. You just don’t know it if you don’t pay attention well enough or never knew to look. You may be shocked.)

• Once you get a little taste of this and see how easy it is to open, you start looking for eye contact.

• Never reach the point where you need eye contact as permission to approach.

• If you get it, great. If you don’t, still approach. Don't be a "Do Nothing Bitch".

Once eye contact is established, go over and use the oldest direct opener in the book:

“Hey, you can’t look at me like that and not talk to me. My name’s Sleazy.”

*Shakes hand…hold for as long as acceptable.

She wants to get called out on it because it puts you in a more attractive social position and she definitely doesn’t want to meet a guy who is coy or afraid to call her out. That would put you in a less attractive position.

Girls put out signals like this all of the time.

They lure guys in, and of the ones ballsy enough to approach, they filter out for the best ones.

It’s a mating dance 101.

Field Report:

It’s amazing how far a little self-analysis can take us sometimes.

I’ve been meeting a TON of new women lately but running my game in a very haphazard fashion – I decided I needed to revisit the basics to figure out why I wasn’t creating awe-inspiring interactions lately.

Women just haven’t been enamored when they meet me recently, and the only way they fall head over heals for me is when I'm forcing their louies behind their ears... and god damn it - it's been throwing me off a little.

My new city is one of the best in the world, so perhaps some adjusting will be needed. Time will tell.

I’m assuming my conversational game is tight enough that women won’t walk away from me, but the lack of familiarity in a new place fucked with me.

(Inner game > Outer game)

I have been going out solo, mostly seeing where the good spots are for potential dates / and or to meet some like minded guys to go party with / maybe happy hour after work.

• I found that the more I knew about my city, the more confident and prepared I felt.

• If you don’t feel comfortable, the girls will read it on your body language and you will suffer.

• Check out places before hand – know the general lay out and where people like to go (It’s an easy example of DHV, too.)

Upon the recommendation of Yelp (Guys, use the tools available to you for fucks sake), I found my venue for the night. I chose this place because it's often crowded, near my office, and it's not obvious if you are alone.

I catch a cute brunette girl on my left look over in my peripheral, after doing this for long enough you’ll feel you’ve re-wired your brain and you associate hot girls with having to talk to them.

I turn my head, catch eye contact with her and say

Me: ‘So just because you’re hot you think you don’t have to say hi...’

She says (while smiling)

Her: ‘Hi….’

She responds positively but doesn’t hook too much so it becomes apparent I’ve got some work to do.

I smile, she laughs and I carry on.

I can feel she’s slightly resistant, and before too much time is wasted in the interaction I try a simple trick that I’ve known to work.

I get her laughing and as I feel it hit the high point, I turn my body 90 degrees away from her, get my phone out and start glancing at the screen like I'm reading a text. (Doesn’t matter what you’re looking at – just sell it.)

I can tell her heads scrambling because I was just making her laugh, (we had been sharing our values - I made it seem like her opinions were always way too obtuse so every time she came back she tried harder to be agreeable) and then turned away from her while she was mid sentence, dropping all eye contact and positive body language.

She grabs my arm and says playfully –

Her: ‘Hey don’t ignore me!’

I smile, turn back and re-initiate conversation.

(This works because you hope to emulate in her the feeling of loss, not necessarily anxiety like she would if you stated your boundaries, but more that she has to chase you, then the reward which was a smile and re-initiating conversation is essential to make her feel like she’s got your attention back.)

Her grabbing my arm and having to chase a little made a big shift from me chasing her, to her chasing me.

(This move is great because they can also be used as pings; you can tell how much a girl is into you by how much she is willing to chase.)

We continue on, I meet some friends she’s with (2 guys, shit faced – don’t be those guys) and move to the dance floor.

I ordered a drink and paid with cash.

She ordered one as well at the same time as me, but I only left a $10 – beers here are $8.00 a pop.

She picks up on this and gets out her clutch.

(Most AFC’s end up buying drinks because they are awkward and cant handle the tension. DON’T ACKNOWLEDGE IT)

After a few drinks, I start to ramp up the kino while we both enjoyed some bar food (They sell hot dogs and other cheap good shit at this spot, makes for a fun game of seeing her attempting to deep throat a hot dog. She sorta sucked, not gonna lie. I teased her pretty heavily for this, and she flashed me the eyes that said "you'll see" - ALWAYS TEASE.)

I go take a piss and as I walk into the bathroom I see her two friends in there talking about Tom Brady.

I make a comment and we all laughed, and I went on my way (this becomes relevant later.)

Shit tests

Her shit tests were easy enough to handle, but because I wanted to focus on the weak points of my game so I steered away from the typical AA and decided on a minor nuclear option - (Always be willing to walk, it probably helped in the whole interaction...)

Her: ‘Are you a player’

(Now, I knew that I wanted to sleep with this girl, but I also knew that I wanted to test my limits on establishing strong boundaries – I wanted to know how submissive she could be – Thanks Rollo!)

Me: ‘Look I think you’re really cute and I’m having fun talking to you, but just because you seem to think It’s easy for me to talk to girls makes me a player?? Does that make a girl with guy friends a SLUT?

Stating boundaries give the girl the feeling she needs to correct her behavior. It wasn't a huge boundary, but I could tell it affected her.

She then responds with:

‘I’m sorry I just didn’t know if I was just another number to you’.

(Translation: AF or BB??)

Now she’s complying, remember the reward is essential so I say:

Me: Well, are you having fun?’

Her: ‘Of course!’

Me: ‘Then let’s keep having fun’

(That simple, really. Don't bite her beta bait... simply ignore)

It's starting to get late, and the bar atmosphere is winding down. I didn't stay till last call, that would be 4am..

Me: ‘You ready to get out of here’

Her: ‘Yeh I think my friends are outside’

Me: (Motion towards door and latch her belt hoop with my finger on her outside hip.... Domiance and leadership)

We make our way outside but her friends aren’t there so she says:

Her: ‘Wait here I think my friends are still inside’

Me: (playfully) ‘What makes you think I’m waiting?”

She goes back inside and she comes back out with her two guy friends & two “girls” (dumpster divers).

They remember me from earlier in the night so it works in my favor big time when they say:

"This is the guy?! He’s cool as shit you’d be crazy not to take him back!"

(No way this plays out if they didn’t have chicks, I got lucky as fuck, I know)

When a girls guy friends say that, it’s close to impossible that you’re not going to bang her that night.

We talk with her friends for a bit while we wait for the Uber.

(I actually enjoyed this conversation because it was about the Giants & Eli manning. Knowing general “Man” topics is a good idea – in fact talking to dudes is a great way to start building confidence and social skills, get into the mood by greeting the bouncer and asking how the nights been)

Turns out she was using a Fake ID, so I didn’t fuck her.

I’ve been considering calling, but something doesn’t feel right, so I probably wont.

Maybe one of you fuckers can shed some light on these feelings.