So last weekend I made a short trip to a nearby city with one of my plates. 29 y.o., HB 7ish, world traveler, former (or current?) CC rider, party girl. No LTR material at all, but very affectionate and nice conversationalist, which are rare qualities in women. Also fun, and sex is really good. And we split all expenses.

I just want to point out some things that came up during our night out.

We were at a bar, a lot of people there, and a quite some of her guy friends who also where in town.

Social proof

First thing, I got the social proof principle straight from the horse’s mouth. We were talking and she randomly said, “did you notice that people look more attractive when they are in a group?”. Pretty self-aware bitch it seems. The issue became a good opener to engage with other people in the bar.

Dread game to keep her in check

Second, I had to use some dread game to keep her slutiness in check. On a couple of moments she started to get flirty with other guys in front of me. Maybe it was just her way of talking and she cannot hide her slutty nature, but anyway I felt awkward for a moment. In my previous BP conditioning I would have felt butthurt and really bad. But I remembered myself that I only wanted this girl to spend some time with and fuck her. So I decided to try some on-the-spot dread game. Right after she started talking to this guy (really attractive guy btw; I’m 6’3’’ and he was taller than me, probably 6’5’’ or 6’6’’, very muscular, shaved head, etc.) I looked for the girl on that same group of people and started to flirt with her. It only took a couple of minutes to have my plate coming to me and looking for a kiss. Then I went and talked to this tall guy, who was really nice and kept talking of her girlfriend and that he was going to propose in the following months. Anyways, I felt like I had disabled the bomb by both (i) showing myself more attractive by flirting with other girl in front of my plate and (ii) showing the other guy less attractive by facing him and showing some of his beta-ness.

Later she started talking to one of her male friends. Not an attractive one but it seemed they had a good relationship. She introduced the guy to me, and he offered to pay for shots for me. Cool guy. No problem. As she continued talking to this guy I got bored because they were talking about shit I did not know about, so I did the same thing again. Left and started flirting and dancing with another girl that was around, probably from the same group of people. She was back again very soon and made some comment asking whether I wanted to fuck that girl or something like that; I can’t remember because I was already kinda drunk. Anyway she got back to me and some minutes later she started talking dirty to my ears. We tried to go to a dark place in the bar to have some dirty make out or even sex / BJ, but got kicked out by the bouncers. Got back to the hotel and gave her a good fuck.

Some shit tests

Third, I got shit tested a couple of times during our time there. During dinner she asked me if I always split expenses (seems she’s used to guys paying everything). I was not very inspired to dodge that shit and simply managed to say “not everyone; only with girls I respect”, or something like that. I proceeded to mention that I considered her to be an independent women who could pay for her expenses. I don’t know if it was the best way to handle it. Any other ideas?

On the following day, we were at a really enjoyable concert during the day, having some drinks and chilling out. Then a guy comes to me and asks me to take a picture of him and his girlfriend, which I do. After that my plate says “that was really nice for him to do for her”, and a second after she shoots a “we should have a picture of us taken”. Now, note that I’ve been hanging out with this girl only for a month. No LTR intended; she’s staying temporarily in town and she’s not LTR material. No exclusivity. I don’t use social media but she does, and I have other women. Although it sounded like a good idea because it was an enjoyable moment, I didn’t want to give up to her shit. I would probably have taken a picture had she not asked for it.

So I said “no, there’s no way you will have proof that this relationship existed between us”, or something like that, in an amused tone. She responded well, kinda following my joke and saying “but I already paid for the hotel so I have proof in my account statement!”.

Anyways, BP me still wanted the picture, so I had to control myself in the following hours not to go for it and show myself giving up to her wishes. I even felt bad for not taking the picture, because it was something that I would have liked to do. However, doing so I would seem to have failed her test by making myself more available. I kept stoic. On the following day she invited me to her place; she’s cooking dinner (for the first time since I met her). So I guess I could hold frame against her shit.

TL;DR: Out of town with a plate. She confirmed the social proof principle. She got flirty with other guys; I had to instill some strong-arm dread game (flirt / dance with other girls right in front of her) to put her in her place, and it worked almost instantly in enhancing her tingles towards me. I had to keep my BP-me in check to do so and not feel butthurt before doing so. Felt awesome after that. She also shit tested myself with splitting expenses and taking a picture of us together. Held frame, more or less, in both cases, and she’s cooking dinner soon for us for the first time.