(FR) Why did she react like this

situ139 · 2015-10-27T20:15:21+00:00

dude what was going on in your mind when you said

"So now you can say you've met the legend"

Javier_Mendoza · 2015-10-28T01:29:23+00:00

Try hard much? You probably did come off as a weirdo. Your parting line was lame. Don't laugh so much. Don't apologize. Don't self-deprecate.

Your initial approach and questioning wasn't bad, but what was your goal there? Were you going for her number? Then ask for her number. Were you going somewhere cool? Invite her. You need to lead and direct the conversation more, especially when you are stopping her in the middle of doing something else. Basically it sounded like you were trying to smalltalk with someone at a party, when you were not at an actual party. Wrong venue.

Not a big deal. Keep trying.

bogeyd6 · 2015-10-27T19:35:20+00:00

My first guess is you were trying to punch above your weight. Your body language probably lacked confidence and you admitted as much. She sensed it right away and dismissed you.

edwardhwhite · 2015-10-27T19:41:04+00:00

All awkward. One open, if it doesn't work bail.

huge_gap · 2015-10-27T20:00:18+00:00

Hey. I'm 27, so take my advice with a grain of salt. You came off as a douchebag. The issue was you forced the encounter when it was a bad time. When you actually got her attention, you lacked confidence to close. Your discomfort leaked through and to save face your resorted to chest-thumping.

Catching girls as they walk out of class and you pass by is not the time to attempt game. I'd say lunch time or other free time is preffered. Also, most people who say they're a legend are not. You know the whole "show rather than tell" idea? Go with that. Also, as others have said, laughing a lot shows discomfort. Doesn't mean be serious and stone-faced, though. When I smile confidently with a twinkle in my eye girls usually warm up. Anyway, confidence and douchebaggery aren't the same thing. Keep working on yourself, lifting, making guy friends, being involved with school/sports, and focus on grades! One perk of this is ladies take note and half your work is done before you even attempt to close the deal. Keep it up!

Scurvemuch · 2015-10-27T22:13:40+00:00

Ok so you sound like a cross between creepy / trying too hard and "Hi I would like to be an asshole but I just sound High"

The way to have done this IMO would be to say Hi, introduce, just say whatever it is you wanted to say, kino in an appropriate way then find her later and talk about something.

you forced waaay too hard in a situation where it was an awkward conversation and situation

And dude, women do like the confident guy who is not part of the pack.
So be that rather than a validation seeking dweeb

BluepillProfessor · 2015-10-28T03:08:04+00:00

You were tweaking on Ritalin when you wrote this, right?

Read "The Natural" and try less hard.

stonepimpletilists · 2015-10-27T19:57:58+00:00

Apology in 20 seconds? Not very confident.

kempff · 2015-10-27T21:49:36+00:00

Delete this and repost in asktrp.

Iseeacloud · 2015-10-27T20:00:58+00:00

After you opened, you apologized and firmly set yourself up for failure.

Open, she doesn't take, back off and show that you don't give a shit and have better things.

When they come back and initiate with you, then it's on.

porcia918 · 2015-10-27T21:09:41+00:00

Positive note - the fact that she didn't just smile to brush you off and just keep walking makes me think this was probably a nice girl that did not think you were a loser in appearance.

'Why is this guy talking to me?' She stuck around long enough to try to find out why.

For the next one, a simple 'Hey', eye contact, and pleasant smile - [not like the Joker] to stir Possible interest and some mystery. Not saying anything to spoil any possible intrigue. If you're in the same school, you will likely run into the person again. No need to cram everything into the first meet and freak her out.

Miheegz · 2015-10-27T21:52:59+00:00

You kind of said it yourself. She caught you trying to pull a line on her bc she wasn't actually dressed up. Seems as if the interaction was going good until then. She was confused yes but that's bc you didn't lead the convo well enough. Like others said you should know what your end goal is when talking to someone new. Whether you actually just want to comment on something they're doing or wearing, just want to tell them they're good looking, or asking for a number.

Seems to me like you wanted her number in which case after getting her name you should have said something about her being cute and wanting her # or wanting to invite her to something and getting her #.

And for the love of god never ever again use

so now you can say you've met the legend

Assassin1476 · 2015-10-27T23:53:10+00:00

I'm a firm believer in not giving a fuck about what you say as long you say it with confidence, charm and funny. I worked as a security guard at a hospital, corporate building and a few other business places where I've had hours upon hours of trying different methods in harassing bitches and see what works and what doesn't. You can be a complete weirdo as long as it's charming and confident, don't qualify any women and if anything make fun of the bitch, you can use canned lines and if it bombs, make the chick feel stupid and slow for not understanding or not get why it's funny.

That "You've met the legend" was hilarious and corny as shit but those lines are the best if you know how to use them in conjunction because they kill when they're on point.

GrandmasterHurricane · 2015-10-29T04:22:35+00:00

"relax ahaha were all friends here jeez aha"

"well it was nice talking to you jamie aha, sorry if i creeped you out lmao, my name's (my name)"

"so now you can say you've met the legend"

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exilesoul · 2015-10-29T12:00:55+00:00

You bum rushed her straight out of the gate, you need to create a presence and let her atleast be aware of you for a few seconds before you approach.

You could have just smiled and said hey there... Then approached her later at a more natural time.

slcjosh · 2015-10-28T01:52:50+00:00

The fact you are talking about popular vs not popular I assume your under 18. Lift, read the sidebar, read the side bar, work hard and again, read the sidebar. Post something when you hit your mid 20s.

Title	(FR) Why did she react like this
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Date	October 27, 2015 7:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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