Read the entire post on the Family Alpha: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/12/30/creating-your-slut/

Sometimes you carry the memories of your previous ‘beta’ self and it prevents you from allowing your masculine self to ever have a chance.

There are a great deal of posts on The Manosphere by both married & single men that share this running theme of that’s how it was so that’s how it is.

For the gentlemen who find themselves in this mindset, basing current standards and expectations off previous performance, it’s time to let go and just say ‘Fuck It’.

While researching post-traumatic stress disorder and ways to identify those who have it and those who feign it I came across an article that discussed recognition and management of individuals who have PTSD from a senior leadership standpoint in the military. One of the phrases that immediately stuck out to me from the study was, “Traumatic experiences in some individuals can lead to the development of several different disorders including major depression, specific phobias…stress, and personality disorders.” As I was reading about the various traumatic events and often times repeated exposure to traumatic events that lead to them developing PTSD.

I thought about the other repeated stresses that masculine men living in a feminized society are dealing with on a daily basis. Not only that, but what are these repeated stressors doing to our psyche and ultimately what ‘disorders’ are being developed as a result.

Most men who come to my blog, TRP, or elsewhere in the Manosphere have experienced relationships where they pigeonholed themselves to being a weak, emasculated man who is unable to lead his woman. By simply accepting his place in this weaksauce society and trying to fit into the cookie cut mold that was laid out before him, he never truly develops a sense of ‘masculine self’. The Manosphere brings the female imperative to light; it provides you with the opportunity to take The Pill, and it offers masculine men (and those who want to regain their masculine identity) a place on the internet in which they can reclaim their genuine ‘self’. This blog and the many like it are looking to end the suffrage of masculinity and destroy the idea that we should repress who we are as men.

When a guy stumbles across the Truth he becomes enlightened to the reality of his situation. This usually occurs when he reaches his wits end after a sexless period and stumbles across The Family Alpha, Rational Male, or The Red Pill. This guy finds the sites and he reads it all, recognizing how he fits the typical ‘Blue Pill Nice Guy’ mold; and then something happens. It’s like all of those past events that have formed this person are viewed with disdain and shame.

We call this the Anger Phase and it is essential for true growth to occur.

There are two approaches that guys are taking when they wake up or ‘Unplug’. They look back on who they were and take the I will NEVER be like that again approach.

Or they whine about the lost time and keep repeating, “I used to be somebody.”

Neither of these approaches are going to produce results, because both keep you looking back and reliving the moments of ‘trauma’. This type of ‘Relationship PTSD’ is something you need to address now. After you recognize your tendency to look back to how things used to be, action needs to be taken to promote a healthy habit of self-improvement and advancement of your mental health in the now.

She denied you sex? She said you were weak? She cheated on you? You cried to her? She hit you? You weren’t allowed to do things without her? Blah, fucking, Blah

I don’t want to hear it and no other man wants to hear it. That was the past, that’s who you were then. Do you feel you should be treated better? If so, then act like a man that people treat better. You will be treated according to the standard you accept, not the one you expect.

Do you want to know why my wife isn’t a bitch to me?

It’s because I won’t tolerate a bitch in my life and she knows that if she wants to keep me in her life, she has to reach the standard I’ve set – period.

As a man, you should command respect at all times. If you’re still acting like the butt-hurt boy who was cheated on or whose woman left for another man that she had said was an ‘asshole’ and that makes you sad because you’re such a nice guy then you still suffer from your past and the PTSD of that relationship; it will keep you from breaking through that glass ceiling in your current or future relationships.

You can have the exact marriage/relationship/or life you want if you’re a man who sets the bar to that height.

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