I very recently joined this community and I'd be lying if I said it didn't have a profound effect on my thought process. For the most part I agree that there are more than a handful of self-destructive, manipulative, hypocritical women out there with low self esteem (mostly due to anecdotal experience). I also agree that the disproportionate amount of said women can be considered attractive. That's not what I'm posting about.

I noticed that there is large amount disdain towards individuals described as "betas." It's beta ideology that is pathetic and self-improvement as well as directing others towards self-improvement is the goal of this subreddit.

While I've seen a few examples of helping those individuals get out of their self destructive thought processes, there seems to be a hell of a lot more resentment moving their direction.

Too often we see guys getting manipulated: their affection unreciprocated, their wallets sucked dry, and their dicks not sucked at all. Too often we see guys become literal doormats. They're not respected and serve only as organic ego boosters to whoever decides to adopt them as a pet.

There should be sympathy for these guys. There are effective ways to show them how they can discern whether or not their "friend" actually cares about them.

Two tips that I learned for 2 days on TRP on how to figure out if someone actually gives two shits about you:

  • When you're in a rut, ask them to do something outside of their comfort zone for you. It should be a realistic request. If they're unwilling, they don't give a shit about you. They may say that they are incapable, but more often than not that is a load of bull. I once asked a "friend" if I could borrow two dollars. Now I've put up with a lot of shit for this friend, so when I got the response that this friend couldn't spare a few bucks, I dropped the shit stain like a hot potato.

  • Ask them specific questions about yourself that they should know. I know about your insecurities, your exes, how your day was, when your birthday is, etc. I've been your lapdog for 2-3 years now, listening to your shit about your asshole boyfriends, shit friends, and crumby parents. When's my birthday? What are my parents' names? How old is my brother? What are my anxieties? You fucking cunt. You've never given two shits about anyone but yourself. Get the fuck out of my apartment.

Help your friends that are getting shat on. Spread the word. That is all.