How do I get past this overthinking paradox?

trippinallday · 2016-09-16T06:28:55+00:00

You honestly barely ever need to think ahead. The only time you should ever be focusing on the future is when you're actively making a decision that could affect it.

As in, when you're walking down the street, you should just have a quiet mind and be in the moment, but when you're deciding whether to take a loan out for a house, you should consider the potential outcomes before you do it.

You should never be "worrying" about anything. My best advice to you would be to just not care about stuff so much, and not take life so seriously. Then you won't be worried about anything, and you'll just be taking things as they come.

Also, assuming you're taking medication for your ADHD/OCD, that probably is contributing to this over analysis issue, especially if you're on amphetamines or a similar stimulant like I'd presume. Another option you could try is tapering off of the medication and just focusing on mindfulness and the quieting of your mind. It might be more difficult because of your issues, but you can still improve/"cure" yourself of them with constant, concious effort over time. It's all, literally, just a state of mind.

jonnotie · 2016-09-16T18:31:31+00:00

I have the same issue. One of the pieces of advice I got about it is: anxiety is the inability to control an outcome. You can't control what an evening will bring you or how a partner will react to something. All you can do is go with the flow.

I still suffer from it and I still overthink a lot of things. But remembering that nothing is really in your control helps me get out of my head and be present.

unknown4534 · 2016-09-16T05:36:25+00:00

Id say this is just about how every human being feels. I feel this way often. I have made some really dumb mistakes. Mistakes that to this day I over analyze and wish to change. I over think my future and think that it could be inflicted in some way by my past. But the truth is this. Every day you are a new person. Wake up every day looking to improve yourself, because yesterday was a lesser version of you. It's a marathon, not a sprint. You will figure it out. I still haven't, but there's hope.

rporion · 2016-09-16T07:15:42+00:00

Unrelenting action.

You WILL make mistakes, learn from them and don´t make mistakes that can wipe you out.

You do not need to be perfect you only need to be good enough.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-09-16T09:15:07+00:00

Reported for personal advice questions should go to asktrp

Litl1 · 2016-09-16T13:39:03+00:00

Here's something to help. Imagine that in life, every single person is the the lead actor/actress in a stage play of his/her own life. Everyone else is a bit player. This is what is going on in everyone else's head. So, to everyone else, you are a bit player. This means that they really aren't paying too much attention to you because they are too worried about themselves. Once you understand this one fact, you can calm down. All you have to do is recognize how they are all thinking, trapped in their own plays, and relax. Take your time. Know that mistakes are no big deal. People are too worried about themselves to pay attention for too long.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-09-16T14:40:38+00:00

Lift Weights

Cold showers.

Title	How do I get past this overthinking paradox?
Author	DotComod
Upvotes	2
Comments	16
Date	September 16, 2016 5:13 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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