How do I stop feeling guilty?

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-07-25T22:41:59+00:00

You have to directly confront the source of your cognitive dissonance. Religion was a huge source of cognitive dissonance to me, I was taught I would burn in hell if I didn't believe that it was the inerrant word if God. The only way for me to get over this fear of questioning things was to read about the history of Christianity and I've also studied multiple other religions. My dissonance has faded a lot from when I first began.

It's going to feel very uncomfortable, but you have to take the source of your dissonance head on. Read a bunch of red pill blogs and pick up books. It'll get easier as you face it.

[deleted] · 2013-07-25T22:25:47+00:00

You don't need to be a cunt to get what you want. For instance, on Saturday a girl I am seeing will be cooking me dinner. I have told her that's what we are doing. I won't be lifting a finger.

Is that selfish?

I say no. I will have a terrific time being waited on, but so will she. She wants to impress me and care for me because of my attitude. It's not just you who will be happier with this approach, women are too. There is nothing selfish about it, it's better for everyone.

browndelicious · 2013-07-25T21:42:00+00:00

What's the dissonance about? Do you believe that humanity and compassion are not compatible with alpha traits like assertiveness, confidence, and decisiveness?

noblepaladin · 2013-07-26T04:16:42+00:00

Why do you feel guilty? Think about how many people you have met over your lifetime. Probably thousands. How many of them are in your close circle of friends? Maybe ten or so? You don't go around being as nice as you can to everybody you meet. You don't want most of them in your life. You have a high ethical and moral standards and strict criteria for who you allow into your inner circle. Why does a pretty face override this? That is actually where the cognitive dissonance lies. Because you act selfish and aloof to the 99.9% of the people you come across every day in life, and they don't fault you for it because they do it too. You only feel guilty when you do it to a pretty woman.

Most behavior that pretty girls label as "being a jackass" is actually far better than how minorities get treated on a daily basis. Scientific studies have show that everybody treats pretty people better, from helping them to paying them higher salaries. That is where the cognitive bias lies. Society will incorrectly view you as "being an asshole" if you don't give pretty people special privilege because they are using the wrong baseline as comparison.

For example, if my best friend throws a temper tantrum, I would throw him out of my house. Technically, I should treat him better than a pretty girl I just started dating because he has a 15+ year track record of being a loyal friend. So should I really feel guilty for tossing the girl out if she throws a temper tantrum?

Hateblade · 2013-07-27T11:29:00+00:00

I've been having the same problem. I've spent a lifetime being a gentleman and being a "mean" person to people is hard for me.

Title	How do I stop feeling guilty?
Author	Melodramati
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	July 25, 2013 9:33 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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