How does ignoring shit tests help?

frequentlywrong · 2014-09-06T13:23:08+00:00

Best option: agree and amplify

OK option: ignore

Bad option: take her seriously

No one is saying ignore shit tests. You need to defeat her shit tests.

Plimden · 2014-09-06T13:05:58+00:00

I think rather than ignoring the shit test you actually disregard it entirely, almost as you would dismiss a child trying to argue with you. Maybe a more experienced veteran can give a better answer.

johndoe21012014 · 2014-09-06T17:28:19+00:00

Mine was yelling at me once over my association with another woman. I just ignored her as I got out my work clothes. Since I didn't react the way she wanted, she got in my face and yelled about it expecting me to react. I laughed and walked away.

She followed me into the other room and ended up throwing a book at me because her previous shit-tests failed. I told her (calmly) "I can throw much heavier things a lot faster than you can. Do you want to introduce violence into this relationship? You will never do that again." Then I went out drinking and didn't come home until the next day.

What's the point behind that? Ignoring a shit test is valid, but when one violates your boundaries, then you have a problem that needs to be corrected. Shit tests will escalate until they get a reaction.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-09-06T15:57:50+00:00

Women throw shit tests unconsciously for the most part. The "test" is whether she can rely on your strong frame to pull her through an emotional rough spot. One way to show that you are the rock is to ignore it and be unfazed by her psychotic, emotional ramblings and complaints. In psychological terms this is also known as "extinction." You completely ignore undesirable behavior and (after a short increase spiked by her trying to get your attention even more) it WILL decrease in frequency and intensity over time- unless you give in and respond to the Shit Test.

Alternatively, you CAN respond with 'agree and amplify' which also shows you are not emotionally affected by her bullshit AND has the bonus effect of showing her how ridiculous she is being (i.e. "I NEVER help you? That's right babe, I never do anything for you because I don't even like you."

You can also Nuke a shit test- call it out CALMLY and stop it- "Sweety, I don't respond to that tone of voice, try again."

demilitarizdsm · 2014-09-06T14:21:29+00:00

From my understanding the tests are often to see how much of a bitch you can be and what she can get away with. You want to answer those questions with 'Not at all/Nothing" but if you don't have a rock solid way to do that then ignore... because that leaves the question floating around and she will be too afraid to put the shit test into action without prior information.

tmonsta1 · 2014-09-06T16:48:57+00:00

acknowledge the test, just refuse to perform

it's more of a "hey, I know you're shit testing me. And no, I won't take your test."

letting a woman know that you see right through her bullshit is key Shit tests are her trying to gain control.

Mjazz3 · 2014-09-08T09:20:50+00:00

I often ignore my wifes shit tests. You dont have to respond to every bit of crap that comes out of a womans mouth. Just talk about what u wan to talk about. I still use laughter or A&A to deflect shit tests but lots of times i just ignore them. Often they r just so much twaddle.

Title	How does ignoring shit tests help?
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Date	September 6, 2014 12:31 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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