How to come back from a breakup.

kez88 · 2016-05-24T06:42:12+00:00

Probably better of in ask red pill, but anyways.

You should have been lifting, watching PUA videos, improving yourself in the first place. Probably added to why she dumped you. Second, who the fuck cares if you dump her or she dumps her, having you care about this indicates you need to work on your inner game and core confidence.

Go lift, go pick up girls, do well in school, improve yourself, get hobbies, do things to fill up your time so you don't think about her/are to busy to actually think about her.

Understand its gonna take time anyway. Doing all the above mitigates how much it might hurt, or how well you bounce back, but will still take time to properly bounce back and not care anymore.

flutie_did_it · 2016-05-24T05:32:51+00:00

You're taking the right steps by talking to other girls and lifting. Keep at it.

Just think of this way: she was never yours, it was only your turn. Go into every relationship with this mindset and I guarantee it will make the breakup easier. Its okay to feel lonely and sad, but you can't let others see it. Maintain frame.

mrbossman123 · 2016-05-25T04:20:40+00:00

I'm sure she was happy with you in the beginning, but not anymore. So what changed? It's likely that she's simply had enough time to compare you to other guys and she has ultimately decided that she can do better than you and she wanted to trade up to some Chad.

The pain you feel will subside as always. Remember that pain is the feeling of weakness leaving you.

Good job pulling the plug before she did.

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-05-24T17:03:09+00:00

Who gives a fuck if you are happy or sad? The world moves on - you might as well spend that one night sulking, then wake up refreshed and recognize that this woman was a part of your life - not your life.

Take the lessons from it and move on.

Also, you're 17 and dealing with shit by drinking - so what. Numbing yourself isn't the answer but again, take the 1 night and get it out, no more than that.

Develop yourself as a man.

CTLS83 · 2016-05-24T22:01:16+00:00

The way she treated you was your fault. People may only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. This is a good lesson.

Up side? You're 17. Seriously, who cares about this girl. W Not to condescend, but what you had wasn't a relationship—it was glorified FWB.

What do you do now? Whatever you like. That's the beauty of this. Lift, read, improve yourself, whatever you want to do, do it.

Having said this, think long and hard about why you let a woman have this much power over you. Feelings are okay. Don't feel bad about liking her. Feel bad about displaying your feelings for all to see. Think about why you did that. What about her made you feel like you had to act in the way you have acted?

Hint: it wasn't her that made you act this way, it was your feelings for her. You can control your feelings. You can take control and never repeat whatever mistakes you made.

Oh, and if she comes around trying to hook up? Just say no.

Robert_Robz · 2016-05-25T10:34:07+00:00

I am 18 and I can tell you that I went through the same situation last year and it has stalled my progress considerably. I have managed to rebound mainly by reading about manliness and TRP. I have seen my mistakes and made a point to never repeat any of them.

So that's where you start. You analyse your mistakes. You figure out where you acted like a beta and why. I can't emphasize enough how important the "why" is.

The next step is figuring out what you want in life and start walking in that direction. Women want men with drive, not losers. Hit the gym to get a masculine body. Read what tou can to upgrade your thinking from people much smarter than you. Then apply the knowledge. Want to make money? Pick up the Personal MBA. Want to build a body? Pick up Body by Science. Want to date? Learn about dating and start adding experince under your belt.

Don't expect instanta gratification. Realize that nothing worth having comes easy. Work steadily on your goals. That is what I am doing. LTRs are not incompatible with the monk mode.

For example, I found a study on female mating strategies and since then I have never mateguarded my girlfriend. I never ask about what she's doing. The result is that the relationship power balance has turned towards me. If you're the one that can walk away then you're the more important one. My sex life is also intense due to that.

Knowledge is power if properly applied. Get out there and back in the saddle.

ecosci · 2016-05-24T21:28:45+00:00

Get back on your game plan dude this girl wasnt going to be your first or last ltr your 17 so just keep about 3-5 women that interest you in some way women love guys with options but dont admit it.Put yourself first and demand respect from them because they are thrilled to serve you and make you happy always make eye contact and dont blink away and be direct tell them what you want it triggers her sexually and look for a job dont ever depend on a woman.

Title	How to come back from a breakup.
Author	TheProspecter
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	May 24, 2016 3:09 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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