How to stop letting yourself getting affect by stuff

0x47 · 2015-01-03T20:55:18+00:00

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.

[deleted] · 2015-01-03T21:54:57+00:00

Stop giving a fuck. The past has passed.

loin_fruit · 2015-01-04T00:13:45+00:00

I read a comment on return of kings once where a guy pointed out how pointless it was to worry about little things.

His comment pretty much said "back in kindergarten you worried about getting your colors down. In 5th grade you worried if people liked your new glasses you got. In middle school and high school you worried about wearing the popular kid type clothes. Now youre older you're worrying about a certain woman or little things that ultimately don't matter.

Just realize that with every little thing you worried about before, it passed, it got better. And now that you look at it you realize how silly it was to worry about such small things that didn't have much impact on your life. Look at how small it is and you'll realize there's more than the small shit you're sweating"

Pussy and women shouldn't be your priority.

You, bettering yourself, working out, your career.
Friends and family and those you surround yourself with
Finally women and pussy

HumanSockPuppet · 2015-01-04T02:19:04+00:00

I figured something out a few years ago.

Everything that has happened to you up until now had to happen in order for you to become what you are today.

Getting cheated on by a girl. Losing money in a hasty investment scheme. Choosing the wrong major in college. Following the wrong advice, or the wrong role model. All of the pain, regret, and shame have shaped the perspective you have today. Without them, you would be a very different man.

Come to appreciate the tempering effect that your failures have had on your mettle, your plans, and your resolve. Each one grows your power.

cerebralfountain · 2015-01-03T22:25:37+00:00

Let it cut to your core and hurt all it can. But still don't give a fuck. Just take it. It won't be comfortable, but soon you will know that bad memories can't do you any harm, and eventually your subconscious will not bring them up. Like lifting a heavy weight, it will get easier.

getomc · 2015-01-03T21:13:25+00:00

Gotta put yourself above that. Their mistakes are theirs, let them suffer for it, even in ignorance.

Be so damn good that you know it's their loss, not yours. She wasn't special anyway.

ThrownAway408 · 2015-01-04T23:08:35+00:00

Lots of people will tell you to just let it go but if you could do that, you wouldn't be here asking for help. It will never fully go away no matter how much success you have. That is just life. However, you can minimize things. Here are a few concrete actionable steps you can take.

Keep a daily journal. Write in it at least one thing that you are thankful or appreciative for that day. It can be anything, no matter how small. Can't think of anything? Be appreciative that you made it through another day. Not everyone is so lucky. This will force you to develop the habit of seeing the positive situations in your life. Do write the bad stuff as well, but make sure you write atleast one positive for the day. When you are feeling stressed go back and look at your journal. You will be amazed at how many things you thought were huge deals that you have long since forgotten. "I was stressed that I smiled at a girl and she didn't smile back? I forgot that even happened." It will help you to put your current problems into that perspective. It affects me now but it will barely affect me in the future.
Distract yourself by engaging with others. Join a meetup group where the activity forces you to talk with other members. Socializing engages your brain and forces you to get out of your head.
Learn to meditate. Find a local group or mentor and give meditation a try. It will help you to acknowledge your unwanted thoughts, and then push them aside.

Remember, when you need to eat you feel hungry. When you need to sleep you feel tired. Sadness and anger are mechanisms your body uses to drive you to make a change or learn from an experience. They are often necessary experiences to affect a positive change in your life. Reframe your experiences so that they are helpful to you.

justheretobrowze · 2015-01-04T05:59:03+00:00

This may be direct, but I found this video about worrying, and when i start worrying about little things i watch it and it helps .

STOP IT

slcjosh · 2015-01-04T23:06:50+00:00

Only fools trip over things behind them.

conestogawagon2 · 2015-01-04T05:57:45+00:00

"You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space." - Johnny Cash

WhereRtheAnswersSway · 2015-01-04T01:31:50+00:00

The thing about the Red Pill that alot of people overlook is that it is a gradual process, but a tip to help you 'digest the pill' faster is to start looking at the moments that gave you a bad time as a good experience to look back to. Everyone makes mistakes, but only a few learn from them.

aa223 · 2015-01-04T02:02:41+00:00

Let it take its toll and then let it out. Look back upon it as one of many things you experienced and move on. Everything you do in the present will eventually decide the future and all you have to do is do what is good for you now which will then affect the future.

Movonnow · 2015-01-04T09:14:11+00:00

That's really a dumb question.

If you are affected by something, you can not change it, it affects you.

What you can control though is your response. If you suddenly see your ex and you feel a bunch of emotions, use that to get angry. "it's been one full year since the break up, fuck that shit!" and then use this anger as fuel for everything you need to get done.

SeekingTheWay · 2015-01-04T11:48:27+00:00

just let go. all things you mentioned are past wounds. those should be healed by now. invest in yourself, value yourself. that will make the healing faster. a day will come that wounds will disappear and maybe turn just to remainder scars. "i've been this bad, now i am this good"

black_inside · 2015-01-04T13:06:58+00:00

Quickly take your mind off of it.

Find a hobby. For instance, if the wife or girlfriend or whatever is ignoring you or something, go out and grab a bite to eat. Go hang out with your buddies. Play Xbox or something, whatever it is you like to do.

For me, I mix music. I search beatport for new stuff and go on YouTube treasure hunts to find new exciting music that I've never heard before.

It's hard to not be affected by things that you care about, but there is a solution and that in itself is warming to know.

FerrusMan · 2015-01-04T14:32:43+00:00

What helps me is doing a good workout when something is getting on my nerves like that.

N0TH4PPY · 2015-01-20T21:52:55+00:00

How to become Outcome Independent using a Stoic trick

https://archive.today/ifXO8

Title	How to stop letting yourself getting affect by stuff
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Date	January 3, 2015 8:46 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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