I need(ed) this sub so bad.

Pugilanthropist · 2013-06-13T21:26:51+00:00

One piece of warning: do not let this consume you.

I've seen it happen too many times. The hatred of women, the cultivation of the "bad boy" persona, and you start to view the entire game as a series of mechanical transactions. Do this to get this. Do that to get that. It's not a good way to live.

Make yourself into the man you want to be.

Always put yourself first, put your own self development first. Along the way, you'll develop game. But if you don't have that solid foundation, all the work in the world will be for naught.

neXianXavia · 2013-06-13T19:48:37+00:00

you should probably stop blaming your mother at this point. not because its not true but because its not helpful. if you take responsibility NOW, you also take POWER over yourself. when you are responsible you also have the power to change your situation.

so, i would advice you to just forget your past for now. just close that chapter of your life and begin a new one. focus your thoughts and what you want and how to get it and than keep working in order to achieve that goal.

figure out how you want to make money long term and where to live. then if you have an income and a place to stay, think about where and how to improve yourself in other areas.

ubercoolhipsterguy · 2013-06-14T00:32:12+00:00

Delete your fuckin games and break the cds or delete the accounts.

Get in the gym.

Get your shit together.

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-06-13T18:24:17+00:00

Go to /r/becomeaman

It's run by the people here, you've got some work to do.

buffalo_taco · 2013-06-13T22:47:16+00:00

Think of it this way. Some would argue you are in a pretty good position when you are at rock bottom. It means you can build your life again from the very foundations how you want it to be. You're not locked into anything or any other commitments. The world is your oyster, and you are young enough to reinvent yourself.

You really want to know what I think your first step should be right now? Destroy your Games console and computer games. All of them!

It might not be a popular decision, but I think that is the best thing you can do right now. Don't even try and sell it, or pack it away somewhere for later. Physically destroy it. There are 3 reasons why you need to do this:

Firstly; You are full of rage right now. This is an emotional state, which means it won't last. You'll settle down again, get miserable and go back to playing your computer again. If you decide that you'll do it later...you won't. It's the same as when you get really motivated to do something for a small while, but once that wave of enthusiasm has passed, you fall back into old habits. While the iron is still hot, do it! You can always buy them again in the future. I'm sure there are no one-of-a-kind games there so don't worry.

Secondly; it will be mentally symbolic. It will be memorable for you and be a source of motivation and inspiration for you. It will symbolise the end of something childish (I know I know, adults can play computer games too, but in your case you are not able to do it as an adult as you have let it take over your life) and becoming a man.

Thirdly; it is clear that computer games are your biggest distraction stopping you from achieving your goals. It is similar to the story of the general who burned all the ships at the beach so his soldiers knew they had no choice but to win the battle. This will physically stop you from going back into your old ways. Real men make touch decisions and take strong actions. This is what you need to do.

So that's what I think you should do right now. In terms of what you should do in a longer term, you need to spend the next 3 - 6 months getting your shit together. You need to make a PLAN, and stick with it religiously.

There are 3 areas of your life you need to get sorted straight away.

Firstly; You need to get a job and getting your living situation sorted. You need to have a goal in life, and a plan of how you are going to achieve it. Are you going to go back to university? If you are, you need to sort out whatever you need to sort out to compete your studies. You need to face your problems head on. If you don't want to go back to university, you need to decide what you want to do, and direct all aspects of your life towards that goal. I think no matter what you decide to do you are going to need a job right now. Talk to your ex-boss and see if you can use him for a reference still and try to keep good ties with him. Once that has been done, you need to dedicate all your efforts into getting a job. It is fine to have longer term goals, but right now you need a roof over your head. Do everything you can to get a job. Get your resumes out to everyone for everything. Just get a job of some sort to get some income coming in. Once that is done, look into getting a roof over your head and some sort of 'safety' net. Once you have some money and a place to live, you can start working on the longer term things. Also, with your unique situation you are not tied down anywhere, so you can look for a job and a place to live ANYWHERE! (unless you stay at university). This gives you a big advantage. Once that's done. Get your driving licence sorted and start looking for jobs more in line with what you want in life, or study whatever it is you're looking for. Stop being so directionless.

Secondly; get your physical health sorted. This should be relatively easy to accomplish. You are in no position to join a gym, but just a few hours of research should give you some basic home/bodyweight workout plans and eating plans you can adopt. Many are designed with frugality in mind. Once life is going a bit better for you then start going to a gym and maybe joining some sports / martial arts clubs, etc

Thirdly; Sort out your social life. I would first make sure the other 2 areas are covered first as they are more important. Also, once they are covered, you will have a lot more friends and people you know as a result. Having a job is a very good way to make new friends, or joining the gym or sports/martial arts teams. However, once the critical areas of your life are done, work towards going out, meeting people and growing your social circle. That means making genuine friends. For now I would suggest that above even hooking up with girls (although if it comes along, then that's fine too...these things are rarely so cut and dry).

So to reiterate, destroy your computer games and games console. It is obviously something that is ruining your life. Maybe once all the other things are sorted you can play them again moderately. After that, put a plan together. And more importantly, stick with it. Right now you are full of rage and so you are highly motivated. That will fade. What is more important than motivation is discipline. So while your motivation is high put everything you can into putting a plan together and sticking with it. Put all aspects in your life towards this goal and put purpose and direction into your life.

Anyway, that's what I'd do.

DaddyMonster · 2013-06-13T19:10:17+00:00

Rage is a legitimate response to the shit you've gone through.

Rage is good.

Rage is energy.

Rage is testosterone.

Rage lights a fire under you ass and gets shit done.

Rage is focus. Use it.

You've woken up. You've seen the glitches in the matrix. There'll be pain, oh there'll be pain... And it's only started. There is no going back, but do you know what? You're all the better for it, because this pain is transitory.

Your old pain was the slow pain of death by decay.

The pain you're going through now is birthing pain.

Your life can begin now.

socal83 · 2013-06-13T19:22:20+00:00

btw in these circles 'game', 'gaming', 'the game', 'gamed' means picking up bitches

you need to specify 'video gaming' for clarity or it's tough to follow what you're saying

Cask_Strength_Islay · 2013-06-13T22:41:04+00:00

"Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life." — J.K. Rowling

You have nowhere to go but up, man. Focus on improving yourself, and things will start to fall into place

Hateblade · 2013-06-14T01:14:11+00:00

To say the pill tastes like shit is an understatement to say the least. Welcome to your new life.

yourlogicisflawed · 2013-06-13T18:38:57+00:00

Good luck on the journey, you're not alone. Often it takes hitting rock bottom to realize you need to change, and anger can be an amazing motivator.

If you haven't already started, I strongly suggest reading everything on therationalmale. The way Rollo puts redpill ideas into words is like a surgeons knife cutting out the cancer - read, internalize, read, put it into practice, repeat ad infinitum. On mobile but you should be able to find a link in the sidebar.

Limpador · 2013-06-13T20:47:43+00:00

I've been trying to figure this out, but I can't.

Why do mothers teach their sons things about women who don't work? It's not that they don't want to see their son to suceed.

Is it because women themselves do not understand how attraction works on them and keep giving clueless advice (like when you ask random women for dating advice).

Or is it because in the past in a different kind of society it was much more likely for an average male to attract a quality female by traditional courtship methods?

Kerokerokerokerokero · 2013-06-14T03:02:18+00:00

Well, at least you can become a real man instead of the pathetic loser you are now.

Good luck finding your balls.

Ragnar09 · 2013-06-13T21:23:15+00:00

Get angry but channel it for your personal growth. Make that money and bitches will flock to you. Good luck

wrongful_ignorance · 2013-06-14T01:41:27+00:00

Aussie, x-gamer, x-beta here too.

Sometimes the best thing to do is to question everything objectively and somewhat covertly including expectations, morals, values - the lot. Of course you will always have to do things against your will (uni, housemates, work), but this is where you'll need to maintain some sort of facade/tradeoff in value to ensure you can better reach your goals. And along the lines of that... honesty is not the best policy for this blue-pill world unless it's delivered in a really funny relatable way.

Some support even as backup can be a great thing too as lone wolfing it is the much harder of the options.

Good luck.

Ossuari · 2013-06-14T02:28:22+00:00

Aussie here too

Good luck

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Title	I need(ed) this sub so bad.
Author	neXianXavia
Upvotes	15
Comments	28
Date	June 13, 2013 6:10 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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