Ideal first date?

[deleted] · 2013-10-09T02:08:37+00:00

This little logistic problem was something I struggle at first, and a little revelation helped me wonders on this regard.

When we men wan to stablish a first date the whole pressure is on us, as you can clearly see if you read your post.

The thing is that the date is not about entertaining her, is about you, you invite her to a place you like and let her be part of your fun.

If you like to get coffee, invite her there, if you like movies get here there, if you like to hike take her hike. Catch my drift? Don't think about it where to take this girl to entertain her, think about a place you want to go and invite her over, let her be part of your fun, if you are having fun she is having fun, as simple as that.

Cheers.

Demonspawn · 2013-10-09T04:53:28+00:00

Pick something you like.

Text her "I'm doing X at Y:ZZ. You're invited. Wear QQ (something nice, suitable for location, and also optional if you don't think you can pull it off)"

Show up. If she doesn't show, who gives a fuck?

Example:

"I'm watching the hockey game at (bar) 1900 Thursday. Heels for Hockey is a tradition."

If she shows.. great. If she doesn't... fuck it, I've got a game to watch!

Followup: if she balks ("I dono..."), don't pursue (no reply). If she asks reasonable questions (where is parking, etc.), then answer.

RedSunBlue · 2013-10-09T06:45:57+00:00

I find that lunch/coffee doesn't really lend itself for much kino, and it's too boyfriend-y.

This is just poor logistics/lack of imagination. Find a cafe with counter seating at a window over looking a busy street, touch her while you people watch. Have a picnic in the park (with booze), get frisky playing frisbee.

So what's the best move?

Drinks at a bar/restaurant near your place. Opt for counter seating, plant a seed early in the interaction of something cool that you have back at yours.

pcadrian · 2013-10-09T13:40:55+00:00

I find that lunch/coffee doesn't really lend itself for much kino

I agree. I prefer walking somewhere. A park.

Zackcid · 2013-10-09T05:16:36+00:00

Avoid movie theaters and "romantic dinners" at all cost. I haven't done it much, but my prefered idea is taking them to the frozen yogurt place and then walking outside. I never frame it as a "first date" either. We're just hanging out.

Saying that it's a first date gets a lot of ideas in both your minds. You'll both feel a social pressure and she'll also expect you to pay for her (since, ya know, it's a date).

tagged4life · 2013-10-10T14:01:13+00:00

Action dates, book of pook.

[deleted] · 2013-10-09T16:57:11+00:00

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whatever6 · 2013-10-09T08:53:27+00:00

Read anti-dump's machine at the bottom

http://www.nick-hill.com/djb/

Hateblade · 2013-10-09T03:30:48+00:00

Make her take you out. Problem solved.

Title	Ideal first date?
Author	mvpalpha
Upvotes	7
Comments	14
Date	October 9, 2013 1:42 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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