Is it too good to be true?

DankPanties · 2014-07-28T19:04:32+00:00

"Now, don't get me wrong, but I am getting a bad feeling about all of this. I feel like she's somehow on to the tactics I've been using and she is actually making me think I'm in charge when I'm not.. i.e. feel like she's going to say in a couple of months 'ok, you've had your fun little boy, now go buy me those shoes' kinda thing."

That's your own hamster spinning, and it's bullshit. Fear and doubt are your enemies, ignore those feelings and stay strong. Keep up TRP tactics until that methodology is so ingrained in your subconscious that it's not an act anymore, it's just who you are. Then these misgivings you have will cease.

And don't call yourself "little boy" even in your head. You're a goddamn man now.

trpMilo · 2014-07-28T16:53:00+00:00

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purecyse · 2014-07-28T20:04:26+00:00

You're just out of practice.

Consider this: for SIX YEARS, you didn't even know what it was like to be loved by a girl that was totally into you. You're actually having to rely on your MEMORY OF FEELINGS right now to judge whether or not the current situation is right.

It's not too good to be true unless this period of you being the man in your relationship is just a phase. There will be plateaus that you have to find a way around but, as long as you continue to improve as a man, she will be guided by your direction.

There will undoubtedly be a point where she reveals whether she would prefer you to be weak (beta bux around these parts) or if she loves what you are becoming. That point will answer everything IF you have the vision to recognize it.

I, myself, think that the blowjobs are a very good sign. Especially after 7 years, the fact that she has returned to blowing you could be taken as evidence of her renewed submission.

On the other hand, you need to access your level of attachment to this young lady. To WASTE six years of your life in a dead bedroom situation with her knowing how you felt and having an insight into how she felt is unhealthy, imo.

Tebore · 2014-07-28T17:50:40+00:00

The whole point of TRP is that it's not just better for you, but it's better for her as well. She prefers it when you're in control and dominant, enjoy it and enjoy knowing that she's enjoying it too.

monsieurhire2 · 2014-07-28T18:02:41+00:00

You've made yourself more attractive to her, so now she wants to sleep with you again. There's no mystery there. You should try and determine if she cheated on you though.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-07-28T20:16:24+00:00

I feel like she's somehow on to the tactics I've been using and she is actually making me think I'm in charge when I'm not.. i.e. feel like she's going to say in a couple of months 'ok, you've had your fun little boy, now go buy me those shoes' kinda thing.

Yep, I get you exactly. I have been Red Pill for a year now and that feeling is still with me. It decreases but the underlying reality is that she can crack your newfound confident/cocky/fun frame just by denying sex and cutting it back again. Ultimately she is in control because her submitting to your leadership (and to sex 2 X's a week or more) is a voluntary decision on her part. We can manipulate them into that decision (or command it) but whether to give in (or obey) is ultimately up to her.

The solution is to maintain an abundance mentality (and reality!!)without causing such fear that she gives up on the relationship. Maintain frame (i.e. DO NOT LET HER KNOW OF YOUR DOUBTS) and handle the shit tests- but don't overdue the dread.

Otherwise, relax and enjoy the ride brother. Stop worrying so much cuz in my experience The Red Pill really is almost to good to be true. The shit really works. All those years chasing the Disney fantasy and you have found something that works. It's not easy, but it works.

MahagonyXY · 2014-07-28T16:50:31+00:00

What specifically have you been doing differently?

Brambull · 2014-07-28T19:04:37+00:00

and wants me to cum on her...

Unless you introduced that to her, that's a huge red flag. Best case scenario she picked it up watching male oriented porn, but more likely it was introduced to her by someone else. I've never heard of a woman yet who just randomly started asking for that. In every case it was by matter of introduction from a man, then she started going along for the ride because she recognized how much the male wanted it.

If this is something you introduced or suggested that's one thing.. but out of the blue? Nope.. not buying it.

IamAwaken · 2014-07-28T20:59:31+00:00

Nah your attitude is/was shit. Glad you're doing better. Putting yourself down is the worst attitude a man can have. Keep you head on your shoulders and keep moving in the right direction. This is just fear from lack of confidence from lack of experience from lack of practice.

Now as for other guys. After 8 years you should be able to deduce if any specific guy was a threat. If she talks about another guy too much. If she goes out drinking "alone" often. There's countless tells if you think about it.

Sounds like she is just a pathetic creature like yourself that didn't fuck around, but couldn't fake it either. Not enough information to really say for sure though. You should figure it out on your own if you think about it.

__ROOSTER__ · 2014-07-29T01:35:43+00:00

What does it matter if she is paying a game and decided to try to call you out? You still have the power to hold frame, put her in her place, or leave her.

I've fucked plenty of divorced women who by their choice had sexless marriages. They THOUGHT they didnt like sex and weren't sexual.

They found out after getting divorced it was their husbands they weren't attracted to have sex with. They actual wphad sex drives like anyone else, they just needed the right men.

Darth_Pete · 2014-07-29T03:58:57+00:00

Oh gawd. Not again. If you read my previous posts, you are in a similar situation I was in over a year ago. Now I don't know all the details, but if she is cheating, you MUST lay the hammer down hard and firm. There is no more negotiating, there is only one option - move on.

If you fail to do this, to move on, and get tricked into "working it out" because she has "changed", you will only setting yourself up to be taken advantage of in the future.

"Once a hoe, always a hoe." ~ Abraham Lincoln.

The key factors here is her history. Has her libido always been good or is she just not very sexual? Any life stressors or illness that can effect her sex drive to only giving it to you 2-3x a year? Only you will know these facts about her. Put all the pieces together and see if it fits. Be logical no matter how painful it is to think about it.

Also listen to your gut instinct on these kinds of things.

But that is all for now. Just some advice to a random dude who has a similar story to mine. Saving one guy at a time.

niczar · 2014-07-28T16:37:24+00:00

No, the shit works. She's not up to it, because women tend not to be able of significant introspection regarding their desires. But honestly, after all this time ... you need to start widening your options all the while pushing things forward.

You should read the "sex god method." Escalate the dominance. Sprinkle some beta shit so that she doesn't feel unsafe, but keep the pressure on to escalate. Threesomes. Get good at anal sex. Tell her you're going to only fuck her in the ass for a month. Cuckolding her. Don't ask for it, tell her to imagine how excited she'd be to see you fucking another woman while you're plowing her.

MagicGainbow · 2014-07-28T16:24:28+00:00

My advice? move on she;s trying to lock you down/lull you into a false sense of security, she senses you have options and aren't content.

Title	Is it too good to be true?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	13
Comments	19
Date	July 28, 2014 4:10 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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