I think its important for everyone, and I haven't seen this thus far, to acknowledge one reality of human nature... and how it applies to dating.

Humans like scarcity. When something is less available, we automatically assume it is of higher value. When something is more available we assume it is of lower value. When I lurk here, I see how many special terms you have to explain this phenomenon in action.

after all, being attractive vs not... being successful vs not... often comes down to a matter of availalbility. even if they don't personally want you, if all their friends do.... Its basic stuff. Its why having a high SMV is so important. Things fall like dominos. On the upside, because of scarcity your percieved SMV can skyrocket at a moments notice. Its a chain reaction.

So, the beauty of scarcity, of how humans really do "want what they cant" have - shouldn't be lost on anyone. Its a core component of any valuable dating strategy.

Playing "hard to get" is a classic for a reason. The concept of assholes getting laid... - that's because you are easy, and he isn't. He makes her think he has 5 other girls on call, you make her think you're her one and only. The biggest, and worst, problem with being the "one and only" is that it never appeals to scarcity. She already has you. She doesn't have to fight for you any more.

as a result.... well... you can't blame them (too much) for getting bored.

Ambition is natural as well. Along with the adoration of scarcity.

Understand the two and what happens when they coincide, and much of the red pill becomes natural. I am a casual observer here, but I've come across all of these (almost) values on my own. Personally, I can't date anymore, but I understand how people do. Most of what I've noticed... it's been from analyzing scarcity and how it effects women. I believe it may affect them more than men.

Regardless... the takeway? Find the girl who thinks you're nuts, play hard to get, and watch how all her friends will suddenly want you. watch them fight over you.

and in a flash, you'll go from being afraid of the fairer sex(in my case I really was afraid of girls), to having two of the fairer sex simultaneously.