Keeping a plate a plate?

throvvvvavvvvay · 2014-06-22T04:40:58+00:00

I'm dealing with this right now. Here's how I'm trying to keep from crossing that line. This is to avoid developing feelings myself and to communicate through my actions what I'm looking for. It's not intended to make them like me more or influence how they are with me.

No staying the night. Even at 4:30AM I will take the time to drive them home. I'll make an exception to avoid drunk driving but a cab is not a bad idea.
Usually don't see them more than once a week. More is fine if there's a reason, but never call because you feel obligated to and be ok with not seeing them for a while if your're busy or don't feel like it.
Avoid doing domestic stuff like going to the grocery store together. That's my example because it almost happened from not thinking about the signals it would send.

I think the main thing is to maintain an appropriate amount of distance in certain areas. It's part of communication I think - the things that are unsaid can be clear as day and the fact that you don't say them out loud spares feelings in a weird way. It's like, something can be true and you're ok with it but having a discussion about it ruins it. As a side benefit it gives them something enjoyable to pretend to puzzle over with their friends. (The girl version of Field Reports, don't act like you don't comment on those!)

bugman7492 · 2014-06-21T23:19:31+00:00

Do whatever you want. Why are you limiting yourself?

projectself · 2014-06-22T00:41:38+00:00

plates are plates, enjoy. Any more than once or twice a week contact at most, and she will develop relationship feelings quickly. Unless you want that, limit the amount of time.

Other than that, no rules, do what you wish and always remember that when spinning plates, plates do what plates do.. eventually they wobble and crash.. so always be adding new ones to when that happens it is a shrug event..

Title	Keeping a plate a plate?
Author	pjewa
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	June 21, 2014 9:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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