[Long Post] Thinking Out Loud. Insights Welcome.

Archwinger · 2013-10-11T18:47:58+00:00

There's a fair chance your redhead would have liked you even more if you'd been snarky toward the big-tit girl. You could totally have played that situation off as you not being attracted to her, even with her big tits, and she just came over and invited herself to chat up your group of friends, obviously feeling entitled because of her tits, so you called her out.

Even if she'd have thought you were making a slightly serious pass at the big tit girl, that would just amp up her desire to keep you. The rules don't change when you're in a relationship, or even when you're married. If you're a boring, polite, milktoast guy, your girl is eventually going to stop respecting you.

If you want to please the redhead, manipulate situations like this one so that it's clear you had an option with another woman, then drive off the other woman and "choose" your girlfriend over her.

[deleted] · 2013-10-11T19:05:38+00:00

Is my redhead this woman? Of course I don't know. It's far too early to tell. But if I don't treat her like that woman, like she has the potential to become that woman...what am I doing? I don't want to waste my time, and even if I don't select her, I want to leave her better than I found her.

A concept often brought up on this sub is value. In this case, what value does your girlfriend bring to you and your life, and how unique is it based on your previous experiences? Thinking through the answer to that question will help guide your decision.

RPstudent · 2013-10-11T17:57:59+00:00

One takeaway I have gotten from your comments past was an emphasis on authenticity. In particular that your game is an extension of who you are naturally. You're describing a transition from that natural asshole frame to a different one. And there's nothing wrong with that on the surface.

What I would question you about is this:

I don't want to waste my time, and even if I don't select her, I want to leave her better than I found her. She's fragile, and needs my protection. She needs a rock, which is what I've devoted my life to becoming.

What motivates you to want to leave her better than you found her? Does her fragility inspire your desire to protect her? What prompts you to be the rock she needs?

You may choose as a rational agent to act in whatever manner you choose. But there is an air of oneitis in the paragraph I quoted. And that is up to you to determine whether that coheres with the rock you have devoted your life to becoming.

kadidle51 · 2013-10-11T20:08:51+00:00

OP, you and me are very similar. I have bedded many women in my days. But I was never deceitful to them. I would always be up front with them about what I expected from them and what they could in turn expect from me. I don't hate women, not by a long shot. I love them actually, even though they are crazy. But I personally think it is shitty to be a lying deceitful asshole to them just to fuck them on a one nighter. I've pulled plenty of one nighters just being honest about the situation.

"hi, we should have sex, no strings attached. If it goes good in other areas tonight as well we may meet up again"

paraphrasing obviously

I value family as a legacy, I also value a good partner as well. Luckily I have a fantastic women in my life that is beyond loyal and has a high sex drive.

tl:dr you can be alpha and get tons of women without being a raging dickhead and lying asshole. Actually you probably get higher quality ones this way.

Thors_Cock · 2013-10-11T20:09:18+00:00

How is she fragile?

batfish55 · 2013-10-12T02:37:29+00:00

Tough call. A couple of thoughts...

...When you START moderating yourself, there's a fair chance you're going to do it more often. It's what happens when you get comfortable in a relationship and stop trying as hard. It's happened to me more than once. It's hard to come back from that.

...Granted, 'show us your tits or go away' would be a ballsy move (and not all guys could pull it off), but I don't think it would have equated to blatantly hitting on someone in front of your woman. Plus, if Tits did whip them out, it'd be showing your woman that you still got it, that you can get any woman you want, so she better keep up her game.

....Tell me you don't take your woman with you to most Man Nights. Man Night is for you and your boys. You're not allowed to have bad days in front of her, but you can in front of your boys.

Title	[Long Post] Thinking Out Loud. Insights Welcome.
Author	_whistler
Upvotes	5
Comments	15
Date	October 11, 2013 5:40 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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