Looking for some Red Pill advice.

Metalaggeddon · 2015-07-20T12:44:35+00:00

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Archwinger · 2015-07-20T12:49:19+00:00

Deleting text messages when you have an open phone policy is a deliberate attempt to hide shit from you. If it were me, my "live in girlfriend" would be finding a new place to live.

Remember, what she admits to and what you find out is a very tiny fraction of the full truth. If she admits to something bad, the full truth is ten times as shitty.

SeekingTheWay · 2015-07-20T12:59:55+00:00

Next time post in AskTRP, but this exact shit has happened to me. A few days later I was reinstalling my gf's phone firmware and when I restored the messages, it implied she cheated on me.

Do you notice any change in your sexual activity recently? Less desire to sex in general, less desire to perform acts focused on your pleasure (oral, anal, etc)?

Riddick_ · 2015-07-20T14:20:45+00:00

You're basically red flag camping. You're out bro. Time to move out and move on.

my_redpill_account · 2015-07-20T12:55:25+00:00

Well you could try dread game see how that works for you.

SkorchZang · 2015-07-20T15:24:11+00:00

Button down all the hatches, the shitstorm's coming your way. TRP advice would also include a warning, don't for an instant let this shake your dominant frame: they all do this, it's normal. Avoid coming down on her with accusations and hurt emotions at any cost. You're never going to out-passive-aggress a woman, it's futile. And they lose all respect if you try, which can subconsciosly score a hit to your own self-respect if you loved the girl with all your heart, not good.

She will hamster it away in her mind until the instant just before Chad's dick goes into her pussy. They're "just friends", what do you mean it's inappropriate. After it happens, she feels dizzy for about 2 sec, then starts a new hamstering spin: "she was human after all, all too human, and made a mistake that wasn't her fault because..."

After you've seen this shit over and over, many times, you do not even get to feel that blowback hitting your ego. You no longer really wonder "what the other asshole got that I don't". You simply summarize your accounts with this bitch (without her knowing what you're doing), and decide what you want - does she get to be a casual plate, or are you done and not interested in seeing her dumb face any more. If you continue to hold her in your dominant frame of "well sweetie, you do what you want, but start looking for a new place yesterday.", you retain the most control and give her the most tingles in the process. You hold to it, at no time accept any excuses or justifications, or let her make a case that she's innocent. The bottom line is, it doesn't matter if she is actually innocent at this point; she already gave you "the scare", and that's quite enough for disqualification from being the live-in-GF.

Chads are like colds (assuming you held frame), she'll be over it quickly 99% of the time, and it's very possible the two of you will make up, perhaps as fuck-buddies nonexclusive. Or even exclusive, if she convinces you somehow. Only difference, she'll have more respect and appreciation, because she'll be living in her own apartment and working on mindfucking you to let her back in, instead of taking you for granted. Idle hands the devil's work do... A woman that's well-managed is always working on something, toward something, because as soon as she feels like she got you, she will instinctively start working on something new and lunching with "Aaron from work" suddenly seems natural to her; where before, when she was busy, she would give him the cruel cold shoulder. It is not magical unicorn loyalty or your amazing qualities as the boyfriend, it's simply her being too busy (especially emotionally) working on a hard-to-get man, for Aaron's shit to register on her radar.

Getting her out of your place is a win for you even if you are completely wrong about her cheating on your arrangement.

KyfhoMyoba · 2015-07-20T17:45:27+00:00

Dude, you are clearly not attractive enough for her, and she believes, rightfully so, that she can do better.

Do you even lift, bro?

GrandmasterHurricane · 2015-07-20T17:52:10+00:00

She's already trying to swing to a new branch. Texting during dinner is disrespectful. Deleting the flirty texts is her covering her tracks. She planned a date that you found it by yourself, red flag. Her going on a date with another guy, red flag. Not the type of girl you want in the long term. You could apply heavy dread and get her back in line, but as soon as you slip just a little bit she'll try to branch swing again. That's in her character, you can't fix it.

I'd say apply heavy dread and demote to plate, permanently. Have her move out also and reclaim your space and peace of mind. Tell her things are really stressful these days and you need some time apart lol. It will be in her advantage, since she'll capitalize on the situation by fucking that guy while you're "figuring things out". There's no coming back together since she probably will cheat, which you will have proof of with phone logs from mobile carrier. She will hamster and hamster, then you'll tell her you don't know if you can ever trust her again but you're willing to take things slow. Congratulations, you now have the upper hand by playing victim, and have successfully demoted her to a permanent plate.

This is all theoretical, but good luck.

MachiavellianRed · 2015-07-20T18:04:00+00:00

/r/asktrp is the place to go bro.

Title	Looking for some Red Pill advice.
Author	drivenbyambition
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Date	July 20, 2015 12:33 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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