LTR help me figure this shit out

Crailberry · 2017-11-06T01:14:31+00:00

My advice, which may not be popular, is this. Remember that a lot of the dudes in this sub are butthurt over the fact that they couldn't keep their women. They weren't alpha enough to hold on, and now they have a sour taste in their mouth that they want to infect unto others.

With that being said, its true that all women have the ability to cheat, even your "unicorn". This is not something that you should have needed TRP to reveal to you. You need to lift. You need to continue bettering yourself. You need to continue learning. You need to not be a bitch. You need to stay valuable and alpha.

To me, it sounds like things are actually going quite well for you. I would keep doing what you're doing, and add on good principles from TRP. This doesn't mean you need to start being a dick and worrying every second about what's in her phone. If she starts giving you a reason, reassess your strategy. Just don't get caught up in the whole "Your woman definitely has a strange cock in her" and "All women want to be raped" aspect of TRP.

Blackhawk2479 · 2017-11-05T23:46:32+00:00

am I lying to myself that I found an unicorn

Short answer yes, longer answer yes but it’s not black or white.

You’ve got a number of things going in your favour here, particularly that you took her virginity and that despite being engaged, you’re not planning on marrying. You need to keep it this way; you’re going to find this increasingly difficult but stick to your guns.

Best advice I can give you is, continue to lift (you’re lifting, right?) continue to build your career, amass wealth and constantly work on yourself. Be improving, always. Never make her the focus of your life, you should have a mission for that; she should always be considered first mate to your captain and simply along for the ride, not the ride’s destination.

You haven’t mentioned where you guys are at on the kids front. The dynamic changes drastically if you have kids. But in a nutshell, always be prepared to walk away at the drop of a hat if necessary - it is the key strength a man has in any relationship (if he has the required abundance mentality).

Good women are out there, you may indeed have one, but always be prepared for AWALT, always accept that she’s not yours, it’s just your turn and realise she will never love you the way you love her.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-11-06T03:12:13+00:00

I'm coming from a single mom environment

Here's some help for that.

Blissfully · 2017-11-05T23:54:49+00:00

I would add - if there’s something making you feel insecure then address it. I’m curious as to why you’re having this thought. Please don’t sabotage your relationship! If you’re thinking of something or have a concern address it. At least I would.

MentORPHEUS · 2017-11-06T01:07:53+00:00

As a personal question, this belongs in AskTRP. Read "There's this one girl..." near the top of the sidebar while you're there.

AnonymousThrowaway97 · 2017-11-06T01:12:19+00:00

You have a great deal of emotional investment on her behalf however it does not mean that she won't change her mind one day. Your best bet is to not give her your full love and commitment that she craves and always keep her wanting more.

Lateralanouncer · 2017-11-06T03:10:23+00:00

My only thought would be around her getting her masters degree. If she stops looking up to u (only has to be emotionally) her hypergamous nature will kick in and she will want to trade up. If you want to be in a LTR. My only suggestion would be to set your life up so that if this happens your not financially and emotionally fucked. A side note, When LTRs end woman recover very quickly, cock and free meals are just a click away while as a man your I have to get back in the game and be physically and emotionally fit.

TheLaughingRhino · 2017-11-06T04:02:57+00:00

You are her best option RIGHT NOW

You might be her best option for the REST OF BOTH OF YOUR LIVES

That's entirely possible. Unlikely in some ways, but possible.

The day she is presented with what she FEELS RIGHT THEN AND THERE is a BETTER OPTION, you are disposable. You could be disposable for a minute ( she'll cheat but not leave) or you could be disposable forever ( branch swing)

The danger points in any major long term relationship are big transition points. Usually for men in terms of their women, it's finishing college and going out into the workforce, or a big move like leaving high school for college, or college to a grad school. New pool of people, new dynamic, more chances to branch swing out or cheat.

She MAY never cheat, if you are her BEST OPTION

There's some show on Discovery Channel or History Channel basically about people surviving as a couple in the wilderness or off the land long term. Just the dude and his GF or wife and pretty much in isolation and living like hunter/gatherer types and/or farmers and/or hunters.

I keep thinking to myself. Once dude goes hunting, she's gonna suck the cameraman's dick.

Print a T shirt out man - "Once I go hunting, she's gonna suck the cameraman's dick"

You can't live in fear. I would simply never trust her and accept this could end at any time for any reason.

Here's the biggest unplug I had to face with the Red Pill. When you are done fighting all day to make a living and survive the brutal ass world, you want to go home and feel safe. Feel like this is one place you can find refuge and be yourself. To find comfort and peace. Well, if you are living with a woman and are in a LTR or marriage, that's basically a plan to get completely fucked. Once you walk through you front door, you have to brace yourself again to fight for your very survival, all the time, without any mercy. She's not looking for a partnership, she's looking for utility.

Fighting the entire world just to survive is hard enough. Other dudes want to do it, wage a war on a 2nd front, just for some regular sex ( if that for most of them), then have at it. For me? Fuck that. I'm cool with the 6 hour marriage. From 10PM to 4AM, I'm married to power driving her cervix into submission like a MMA cage fighter. Then I make a sandwich out of her fridge and leave and the 6 hour marriage ends.

Seriously though, dude, good luck. I hope you are the exception to the rule here. ( Probably not but good will between brothers right?)

JaspersChest · 2017-11-06T00:55:24+00:00

"She's not mine, it's just my turn"

Most pathetic nonsense I've ever heard from this sub. Maybe this goes for club chick's or hookers, but not every woman in the world.

Title	LTR help me figure this shit out
Author	Ankuno_
Upvotes	14
Comments	30
Date	November 5, 2017 11:28 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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