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| 2 | Why I Call It Provider Services, and Why More Men Are Quietly Opting InBrother, no offense, but we always "pay for it". It's just that sometimes the currency of choice is not money. ( However I am not saying I agree with each and every last thing the OP is saying or bringing up. TRP is a toolbox, not dogma, he has to find what works for him) | /r/TheRedPill | 06/04/25 04:55 AM |
| 7 | Creating indestructible confidenceI believe part of the distinction some are making here is the difference between "authenticity" and "confidence" "Sammy", if he's pushing lies and fabrications, is not being authentic. Not to other people, and very likely not to himself. That in itself, creates a whole host of complex and toxic problems on it's own. However whether Sammy is "confident" or not, is IMHO a matter of subjectivity. He's clearly fearless. Now that might be because he's being intentionally obtuse in many social situati… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/02/23 02:49 PM |
| 8 | Creating indestructible confidenceWas "Sammy" actually a moron? Now I don't subscribe to anyone being an outright criminal and expect "good things" to happen to them, but maybe Sammy was actually happy. ( I'm taking fair consideration that the TRP is "amoral" ) What's mentioned is that attractive women loved him until they realized he was a loser. But to be honest, when "It's Just Your Turn" is over, and we, as men, don't get to control that, then that's exactly what happens. The women believe that the man they are with is a los… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/02/23 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Sudden insight dawned on me today about the idea of working/providing etcA larger issue that catalyzes much of what the OP is talking about is that there is only one socially/culturally acceptable emotion that men can display in public - Anger. It's OK for a man to show anger. But nothing else. Not fear, not doubt, not pain, not grief, nothing. A good crossover example is the tragic loss of a young child. If it emotionally breaks the mother, she can grieve as long as she wants and everyone will get out of her way. Or enable her. If it emotionally breaks the father, t… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/02/23 12:12 AM |
| 3 | Sudden insight dawned on me today about the idea of working/providing etc“The welfare of the people in particular has always been the alibi of tyrants, and it provides the further advantage of giving the servants of tyranny a good conscience.” ― Albert Camusvie | /r/TheRedPill | 02/02/23 04:37 PM |
| 38 | CorporateLand: Don’t Kill the Job v. Quiet Quitting.It's good to see Zaitsev still supporting his CorporateLand series, still very relevant and critical to surviving day to day modern working life. I believe a large portion of this is simply not to enter into any "covert agreement" with a workplace or company or corporation or employer. In some industries, if you want to stay, you don't have a choice. For those wanting to get into a front office and rise in professional sports, long brutal hours is the standard for everyone. A good consideration … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/09/22 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Andrew Tate is not your friend"Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have, ignoring them is the best revenge Remember: You choose to let things bother you. You can just as easily choose not to notice the irritating offender, to consider the matter trivial and unworthy of your interest. That is the powerful move. Desire often creates paradoxical effects: The more you want something, the more you chase after it, the more it eludes you. The more interest you show, the more you repel the object of your desire. This is because your i… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/08/22 12:14 AM |
| 185 | Andrew Tate is not your friendRian Stone is not my friend Whisper is not my friend Does anyone remember what Whisper used to say with all his thread topics? That if he could get away with it, he would steal the lunches of everyone here and steal the girlfriends and wives of everyone here, if he could get away with it. I've only listened to a few things from Tate in a cursory manner. He's not great. He's not bad. He's like most other "manosphere" pundits, he is, at this point, just regurgitating the same things over and over … | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/22 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Post QualityTRP has lost a lot of rank and file "veterans". A functioning community of any kind will tend to regulate itself. Losing those veterans in the community is like an army losing all it's sergeants. Post quality and inspired participation would go up if you had more established rank and file veterans still around. Some leave because there is a point in self development where they will tend to move on TRP. That's natural attrition. The question you might want to consider is what causes unnatural att… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/08/21 08:18 PM |
| 2 | How to Handle the Fat Ugly FriendI think fair argument could be made that it's pretty much pointless to argue and/or debate with anyone period ( maybe family on big issues and if you are a parent, then your kids sometimes, but I don't see much utility in it) I subscribe to the MattyAnon camp of seduction - Any effort is too much effort. That's not to say one shouldn't put effort into self development and self improvement, but the methodology should always be for you, not for riding the line on some kind of external validation. … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 13 | What was the moment that made you go MGTOW?I see sex as as biological need for men, so won't give that up. It's pretty easy to find a regular plate in today's culture if you have the basics down. I think what sealed the deal against marriage for me was the sheer number of married women who have showed me open interest over the years. Standard Red Pill says to use them and toss them. I just don't want to be a part of that at all. I don't want to be party to someone else's misery if I can help it. I also don't know any happily married peop… | /r/MGTOW2 | 14/09/20 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Ugly Guys Can Be Attractive, Stop Using It As An ExcuseI'll re-calibrate it here. Most men can get to average if they put in the work. Many men now are below average in part from lack of effort and ignorance ( they don't know how to improve this area) Once you get to average in looks ( or even a few shades above average) then you can supplement with wardrobe, lifestyle, career, hobbies, personality, humor, status, etc, etc and sort of build a well rounded situation. Some guys, however, if they hit every last bit of their ceiling, will still be less … | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/19 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Finally saw an instance of TRP theory proven untrue, and this is a big one. I'm completely blown awayIf a woman is really into you, everything you say and do will likely be seen and rationalized in a positive light ( this is why women can get railed by drug dealers and thugs and somehow justify it in their heads) If a woman is not into you, she will see everything you do in the lense of your utility. If you are a mechanic or a plumber, you are useful. (Everyone wants to know a plumber or mechanic on a personal level) So in that case, she might temper her treatment of you. If you have zero use t… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/18 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Finally saw an instance of TRP theory proven untrue, and this is a big one. I'm completely blown awayShe told me men crying was attractive sometimes (yes, yes, don’t listen to what they say...), and we had sex right after. It’s embarrassing now, but at the time it seemingly worked out What is more likely is her "feelz" in place at the time meant it didn't bother right that minute. However, at a later date, she will and likely did use it against you. I've seen this on Red Pill Women a few times, women will post and say their BF/Husband cried in front of them and showed weakness and they felt the… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/18 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Finally saw an instance of TRP theory proven untrue, and this is a big one. I'm completely blown awayThey've been fucking the whole time and been laughing at everyone who supplicated to her behind the backs of you and all the other guys there. Then dude just lied to you for sport. In a general sense, things like weakness and tears would only work two ways A) The person is a celebrity or a top 1 percent guy just underneath celebrity status and the dread level is so overwhelming that weakness makes the person seem accessible. We are talking stock "Action Hero/Action Figure" type traits. B) The wo… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/18 03:31 AM |
| 1 | (F/31) I feel like I settled with my husband (M30)I also know I am older and will probably struggle to find a stable, nice high earning man if I go back into the dating pool. Any advice would be helpful! Let me translate here - "I'll stay if I can't find anything 'better', but I'd rather be somewhere else with someone else." Some of the advice you are getting is stay because odds are you can't do "better" for status. Which is advice, though well meaning, that won't actually help you. Comparing yourself to others and seeing yourself and your sit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 11:24 PM |
| 1 | [Video] "When Men Make Less, Women Don't Want to Marry Them."I'll take this in a couple of different angles. From a biological imperative/survival adaption view ( i.e. our instinctive hardwiring to survive and procreate), women would compete for the strongest hunter. The most dominant male in the cave. Women who were altruistic in that timeline, if anything close to that could approximated, died. Her children died. Her gene pool died. In terms of material wealth/resources, nearly all women don't operate to abundance. This is NOT the optimal survival strat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 10:11 PM |
| 1 | [Video] "When Men Make Less, Women Don't Want to Marry Them."While those statistics are interesting, I don't think they cover the deep rooted issues involved. Fighting/conflict/stress over money is the NUMBER #1 reason for divorce and breakup of relationships. How people handle money is based on their FINANCIAL VALUES Nearly all people form their financial values from their "imprint" during their FORMATIVE YEARS ( Basically what they saw Dad and Mom do, they are likely to do, and this covers things like smoking, college, single parenthood, etc, etc, lots … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Red pill Women why is marriage important to you and what does it mean to you?? Is it a requirement in a LTR??Longer life expectancy is an important one for men. Studies prove men live a lot longer if they’re married. Women do the "picking" They are going to pick men who have outward signs of good health. Healthier men live longer. Longevity of lifespan comes down to genetics and lifestyle. Just having regular sex is a part of lifestyle and that does offer many health benefits to men. Statistically speaking though, rate of sex declines sharply after 4 years of marriage and after 10, it's pretty much a f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/18 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Raise your standards – a social and cultural imperativeWhen nearly all women say "There are no good men", they are referring to status, not character. Nearly all women pick to status first and foremost, which is why nearly all relationships fail. I'm not saying status issues don't matter, but they are pointless without looking at character first and foremost. Women will also disassociate their own view of "good men" once they are in an end game commitment. If she's already married with kids, she can say X and Y and Z are good men, but likely they ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 04:44 AM |
| 1 | How much SMV can you realisticly recover after having children?I still know a decent number of people who work in the movie/TV business. How it works for many famous female celebrities is they use surrogates and then just wear a baby "bump" device under their bigger clothes. Then when they have to "deliver", what they really do is go in for several rounds of plastic surgery. Make up/clothing also hides a lot. The classic everyday example is yoga pants for the average woman. Plenty of women look much better in yoga pants than without. Sometimes dramatically … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/18 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Well, I saw Guy 1 for another week or so, and realized we are just too different. Our senses of humor, lifestyles, and other points of difference were quickly grating on me and I realized I had to let him go. What was "grating"? Actually you don't have to answer that. It's a backhanded way to denigrate Guy 1. If you liked Guy 2 better, if he had higher status, was better looking, better career, better smelling breath, whatever, then that's that. It's not a crime to pick someone else if you are n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/18 10:50 PM |
| 1 | I gave an unlikely match a chanceMaybe over the short term, during the Honeymoon Phase, in the beginning, but since TRPW is a COMMITMENT STRATEGY sub, that implies the LONG TERM. Over the LONG TERM, if you have zero physical attraction for your partner, it's just not gonna work. This isn't just hamstering, it's bionic level hamstering. There is when a relationship is OVER. Then there is when a relationship ENDS. Many are over and yet never end. Some never end until someone dies and yet are over long long before that. I can duct… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/18 09:39 PM |
| 1 | I gave an unlikely match a chanceBeing considered "more attractive" on a social baseline in a couple where both parties are actually physically attracted to each other is entirely different issue. I'm not looking to doxx anyone or have them doxx themselves, but in this kind of situation, questions arise regarding the woman A) What is her current SMV/options? B) What is her age profile? C) What is her weight profile? D) How much success has she had in the past regarding getting commitment from men she wanted CONSISTENTLY? E) Wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 08:48 PM |
| 1 | I gave an unlikely match a chanceBeing considered "more attractive" on a social baseline in a couple where both parties are actually physically attracted to each other is entirely different issue. I'm not looking to doxx anyone or have them doxx themselves, but in this kind of situation, questions arise regarding the woman A) What is her current SMV/options? B) What is her age profile? C) What is her weight profile? D) How much success has she had in the past regarding getting commitment from men she wanted CONSISTENTLY? E) Wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 08:47 PM |
| 1 | I gave an unlikely match a chanceIf two people are happy, then they are happy. I don't begrudge anyone their happiness or their seeking of happiness. That being said, if one partner does not find the other person physically attractive, then I just don't see, in the long term, how it can work. My observation and experience is if a woman feels a "vibe" with a man she thinks is physically unattractive, one of three things are going on A) They are in a dynamic where he has massive social proof. Think an old ugly college professor a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Can I go my own way even if women didn't want me?It's good to focus on building a life. That being said, I think it does mean something to understand what you are giving up. While I don't think getting married and having kids is needed to truly understand what will or will not work for you, I think basic dating, maybe a few light relationships and sex will give you some perspective. There are places in the world where buying it is legal ( with consenting adults) and for some, maybe that's a good pathway to some experience. It's one thing to th… | /r/MGTOW | 31/10/18 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Failing to understand the female perspective of red pillTaking out blood relations ( No need to go "Full Lannister" here) When men interact with women, they are always employing some strategy to get sex. When women interact with men, they are always employing some strategy to gain resources/status from men to get the best genetic material/material needs for having children. TRPW is simply a modified strategy ( I call it Trad Con commitment strategy, but others may call it something else) to adjust for the fact that the traditional birth and marriage … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 02:15 AM |
| 1 | The importance of a journalThe best tactical value for a journal is you can start to see your patterns of thinking. This is why free flowing writing into it, esp if you are angry and frustrated, can reveal a lot to you when you read it weeks later when you are in a better emotional place. Should it be a "safe haven" from your emotions? That depends on the person. I can't knock something that works for other people and if they find it useful. I will say in this current Anti-Male climate, I'd change the names in it and if i… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/10/18 01:26 AM |
| 8 | The Barrier EffectConsidering males and females differing mating strategies, how could a man derive joy from a modern relationship, taking his biology into account? The answer is for men to operate within their own "dual sexual strategy" Amass vast resources i.e. "Fuck You Money" and hire high end escorts for sexual release WHERE ITS LEGAL AND WITH CONSENTING ADULTS. Time efficient, resource efficient and strangely enough, odds are the women will be cleaner than the average American Stacy. Then use surrogates to … | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/18 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Work friend lost everything to ex wifeI recognize the loss of the money is a big deal. But at some level, fuck the money. Not being able to see your kids and knowing your kids will be in a toxic environment is the real soul killer. I feel badly for the child/children involved. | /r/MGTOW | 29/10/18 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Post wall, carousel riding woman is confused why she can't find a good manShe had sex with him at an amusement park? | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/18 07:36 PM |
| 7 | Post wall, carousel riding woman is confused why she can't find a good manPlenty of dudes are willing to be Jonah to the whale, so fat alone probably isn't the case. Odds are her face could stop a clock. BUT, even still, being pleasant/funny/interesting would still do a ton for women in this situation. Maybe she's not good looking but also mean. You can be not good looking and still get someone if you are pleasant enough. I know a girl who looks like Anna Kournakova and is miserable and lonely as shit. She's got this paint thinner personality though. It's not even shi… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/18 07:34 PM |
| 11 | Post wall, carousel riding woman is confused why she can't find a good manDoc, if we are talking Americans/Westerners, any woman who doesn't act like an outright ungrateful nagging bitch is often seen as at least a 5. While AWALT applies everywhere, I think there's a big difference once guys start traveling outside of the Western world. While women are the same, the strategy is different (i.e. this place is so poor/hard to live, that I can't get what I want by being a total bitch to everyone) | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/18 07:27 PM |
| 6 | Post wall, carousel riding woman is confused why she can't find a good manNever believe anything a woman says about her weight. (If you can't see her yourself) You can believe she believes she is 115. What women do is stop weighing themselves so they can hamster they are still at X weight. And to them, it's true, since it's the last time they checked. Which is why they love yoga pants. Watch someone in yoga pants and without, the difference is startling. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/18 07:24 PM |
| 30 | Post wall, carousel riding woman is confused why she can't find a good manMatty hits on a key distinction here ( As always) While the ratio we see is like 20/80 (maybe more like 12/88), for women, it's probably 50/50. The women guys in here talk about are in the first 50 percent range. Girls in the cute/pretty/normal/bangable range. But that still leaves a ton of room for plenty of lonely and emotionally worn down women who aren't getting much of anything. No one also wants to point out that even though women can have careers, esp if we are talking Americans, a lot of… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/18 07:17 PM |
| 2 | How is frame so damn powerful?Frame is not powerful. Frame is useful. The mistake many men make is thinking they can cowboy up/frame up/man up to absolutely everything. And that's not true. It's not human. It's not having reasonable expectations. What operates as real power is the ability to walk away from anything. Any time. For any reason. There are times a guy cannot hold frame, esp with women. Sometimes you meet someone who triggers everything, triggers all your hot buttons and your rationality takes a big hit. It's very… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/18 07:01 PM |
| 1 | How to manage being on a diet when your SO is not?Then let me clarify. He's giving you two in-congruent goals. To lose weight To eat out This is not real leadership. TRPW is Trad Con commitment strategy. He's not putting you in a position to be a First Mate, thus he is not a Captain. You are asking how to filter through two in-congruent goals. You are asking the wrong question. The question is whether this person is a Captain in behavior to you or not. That is my ADVICE TO YOU. Do not focus on how to meal plan with two in-congruent goals, ask y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/18 02:32 AM |
| 1 | How to manage being on a diet when your SO is not?Many people who want to diet and still eat socially at times use OMAD/IF One Meal A Day/Intermittent Fasting Basically the person only eats dinner, as it tends to be the most social/communal meal between couples and most couples only really eat one meal a day together anyway. Dinner also gives you a mental/emotional break, something to look forward to at the end of the day, and since it's only meal, you can eat more than you would in any other breakdown. You can Google 'Lean Gains' or find it on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/18 01:32 AM |
| 1 | LTR problemsThe Rule Of Twos This is something I could only learn through experience, pain and reflection for myself and from observing others. 2 Seconds 2 Minutes 2 Hours 2 Days 2 Weeks 2 Months 2 Years These are the benchmarks in the typical male/female interaction where things will be as good as they will ever get. The first two seconds you lock eyes together and you simply know this person is right for you (well for right then, as the oxytocin hits you) No look you will ever have will be better than tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/18 02:52 AM |
| 1 | I feel that I don't need a manThe simple answer is you are NOT self-sufficient, courteous, responsible and have lots of interesting things to do. People struggle when they split three ways What they are in reality What they PERCEIVE themselves to be What others believe them to be When all three things are divergent and extremely so, the person in question is likely going to suffer and be in constant turmoil. You are DEFINED as a person WHEN YOU ARE TESTED. If you throw tantrums, that's what you are. Period. If you are jealou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/18 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Women who are not sentimental or overly emotional at allThere's a Russian saying, it translate to "Women try to break men to find a man that can't be broken" Much of the imprint of how people behave comes from long term socialization in their formative years ( For most, it's seeing how their parents interacted) A lot of women see their mothers pick soft/Beta men then resent them for being picked and it's simply psychological warfare to batter a guy emotionally in the way her mother likely battered her father. There are PLENTY of rational and unsentim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/18 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Dating with a class divideFor COMMITMENT, most men don't really care about a woman's financial status unless it's an open and consistent detriment ( i.e. she has 80K in credit card debt and is always broke and so fiscally irresponsible that it damages everyone around her) The same is not true in reverse. The larger and more complicated issue is your entire discussion is about status. I recognize that no one can avoid the topic, it's not something that can be totally ignored, but you list the new guys best attributes from… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Should I focus on older men?Focus on PEOPLE of GOOD CHARACTER. Good character must come first above all else. Most women, nearly all women pick STATUS first, then fill in the blanks and see what they want to see. This is where the "hamster" in reverse is self destructive. They talk themselves into a guy who is bad for them. I am not saying status issues don't matter. They do matter. But only in context to good character first. Both Ryan Gosling and Chris Hemsworth cheat on their wives. Not a giant secret anywhere. At least… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 04:18 PM |
| 1 | She's just your Girlfriend, she's not your Siamese twin. She's not your partner on a mission to Mars. She doesn't control your oxygen supply. (How to do a LTR.)No! Living together is when you need to Act Like You Are Single the most. You need to get out of the house, stay busy, and create mystery. What in the entire world are you talking about here? If you live with a woman, there is no mystery. The image of you she had in her head, will be nuked when the real life human you is there every single day. You aren't a rock star, you aren't an astronaut, you aren't a superhero, you are just another human being. Chicks get bored, they take you for granted an… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/09/18 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Why people give you shit and how you should handle itFrame hack this. Use Dale Carnegie. Talk to everyone. Approach everyone. People will tend to bond with those they can relate with and find some commonality. If someone is the same gender, race, age, from the same social status, the same college, the same kind of career path, etc, odds are those two people will feel comfortable with each other. The reality is most people aren't thinking about you. Most of the time it's a cursory judgement for how useful you can be to them. Sometimes being ignoran… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/18 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Why people give you shit and how you should handle itThen they don't. Sometimes you have to fight. For example, Whisper usually signs out his top level posts saying if he and the endorsed core could "steal the lunches and the women" of guys here, they'd do it. I understand the point of it. It's meant to discuss to evaluate everything you hear with open eyes. That everyone has self interest involved. Also plenty of guys say go ahead and bang other dudes wives and gfs. Something to consider is most of these guys are American or in the Western world.… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/09/18 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Why people give you shit and how you should handle itEasiest strategy for everyone except work and family ( Different situations. Zaitsev wrote a nice series on handling work) specifically for other men. If someone starts giving you shit, just take away their personal space. Walk up to them as close as possible. If they've said something stupid, tell then you did not hear them and they should repeat themselves. If they say it again ( if they are that dumb) , repeat you did not hear them and they should repeat themselves, continue then to take away… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/09/18 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Why promiscuity reduces the odds of a woman being happy in her LTRA virgin would be unhappy in a LTR A slut would be unhappy in a LTR A "good girl" with a "moderate" N Count ( You define that for yourself) would be unhappy in a LTR She's unhappy because she's a woman. She will never be loyal to you. Once you give her commitment, she will find a way to fuck it all up. If you are exposed to her long enough, even without commitment, she will find a way to fuck it all up. AWALT. "It's Just Your Turn" What the fuck is this crazy notion that woman are happy or can e… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/09/18 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Don’t Overcomplicate Things.But we keep regurgitating the same stuff, and, in doing so, over-complicate things. The messages are often mixed. Nearly all time to be honest. Success with women is a "lagging indicator", this is said all the time here, esp by endorsed guys. ( This is a discussion of self improvement - i.e. be the "best version of you") TRP is about sexual strategy first and foremost, this is said all the time here, esp by endorsed guys. ( This is a discussion of how to impress women enough to spread their legs… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/08/18 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Submissive women can have their downsides in relationships tooThere is no such thing as a "submissive" woman. There are simply different strategies that women use to try to extract resources from men. The woman is using different tactics because she finds it's the best path to get what she wants or think she wants. It will appear a woman is "submissive" when you have higher SMV/RMV than her on a social baseline. Over time, and esp with crazy ass decisions like possibly LTR, living together and marriage, the fantasy in her head of what she thought you were … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/08/18 07:00 AM |
| 1 | My Pre TRP relationship vs my Post TRP RelationshipAny girl with a history of cheating had to start somewhere. Some dude had to be her first that she cheated on. All women play a game/the game, some play it better than others. "Sarah" is giving you classic Trad Con strategy. But it is still a strategy. This is the shit they push over at Red Pill Women to trick a guy into marriage. You are talking about evidence you see, but you don't see everything. Trust me, I know plenty of dudes, after the fact, were shocked they were being cheated on. The gi… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/18 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Yes, Women Really Are The More Empathetic Sex. Here’s Why It Makes SenseThe difference is this - Women will PRETEND to show empathy IN PUBLIC, when there is something in it for them or there is something to be gained. Notice in a group of female "friends" ( They don't have friends, they have short term alliances for personal gain) , if one gets a boyfriend and the rest are single, the rest see it as a betrayal. That "she abandoned us" If a dude gets a girlfriend or gets married, other dudes know he has shit to take care of and that's that. Also if a group of women w… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/18 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice about how to deal with feelings of bitterness, resentment, betrayal towards men.I agree and disagree with this. I recognize the intent is to help the OP, but it sounds an awful lot like acquiring Beta Orbiters as a proxy for attention/soft commitment. Pump And Dump = What men do to women when they want sex but not give commitment Acquire Beta Orbiters = What women do to men when they want a form of commitment but not give sex Usually both sides dangle hope and there are subversive forms of manipulation at work. There's too much undercurrent of taking benefits by ignoring th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/18 04:25 AM |
| 1 | The Myth of the Alpha FemaleMany of the replies including yours are not a discussion of disagreeing with his ideas, it's a discussion of whether he should post here at all. You are not obligated to read anything I write here nor anything Rollo writes here. But he is an endorsed contributor at the original TRP and TRPW is a brand extension of TRP. It means he can post as much as he likes, as often as he likes, he can pin any post he wants and he can edit anything he likes, including deleting replies. I've never seen him do … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/18 04:11 AM |
| 1 | The Myth of the Alpha FemaleRollo Tomasi is a pillar of the manosphere. Like Jordan Peterson, but not in the same scope, he's helped many men helped find their lost/inner masculinity, which in turn, helps those men who are still open to commitment/marriage, be better candidates for marriage for women. The fallout for some of you ladies is his writings/teachings also reach men who have no desire for commitment/marriage, which is opposite of the goal oriented strategy discussion in this sub. These men have no use for you lad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/18 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with Finding Committed FriendsJoin group activities. Things like hiking or biking or rock climbing. Something physical where you can get exercise. Attrition/hardship/challenges in a group setting bonds the group. Will help you meet people and will help you vet better because you'll see a full range of people in context. Couple of things A) In general, people will assess your value to them and how they can use your or not for their own benefit. If they can't find a use for you, they don't want to deal with you. B) In general,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/18 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Is it too late to repair what I've done?It's called "DTR" i.e. Defining The Relationship What it means is when you do things in the beginning of a LTR, you are setting precedent for the duration of said relationship. If you are the guy and you always do the driving, you will always do the driving. If you are the guy and you cook dinner for the couple every night, you will always cook dinner every night. If you are the guy and you always pack her lunch for her for the next day, you will always pack her lunch for her the next day. Whate… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:02 AM |
| 1 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleI suspect where the divergent views lie ( i.e. generally men will take the side that Brent was a Beta Bucks Commander and women will take an entirely different side) in the conflict over "sacrifice" and "burdens" I.E. in order for nearly all women to see male commitment behavior in marriages/LTRs/cohabitation as "sacrifice" ( Jordan Peterson himself calls modern American marriage just that - Sacrifice) would be to openly assess themselves and their children from another man ( if applicable) as "… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 08:50 AM |
| 2 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleAnd why would the husband/father’s death change anything? Bad luck/Tragedy versus poor choices. If you get cancer randomly, maybe it was genetically predisposed in your bloodline, then that sucks. Tragic. You could be healthy, live a good life and sometimes shit happens. If you get cancer because you smoke 5 packs of cigarettes a day for 20 years, then you are the shit that happened. How many women here would be cool being a young woman at her peak SMV, without kids or marriage or debt or life b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 06:23 AM |
| 1 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleHe was getting everything he needed for free. If that was true, he would have stayed. He didn't stay, what does that tell you? He got sex. Some. A lot. A little. No one knows. We weren't in that bedroom. But for a damn sight, it was surely not free. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 06:11 AM |
| 0 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleIf Lucy was a self made millionaire and Brent was working a minimum wage job ( There is NOTHING wrong with honest work. Obviously for dating it's basically a death sentence, but there is nothing wrong with it) , do you think Lucy would want "real marriage"? Let's just push aside for a second that women who are millionaires don't marry minimum wage workers. I'm sure someone will try to dig up some rare example and let's just call it bizarrely rare and close to impossible without the hamstering he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 06:08 AM |
| 1 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleLucy, fortunately, doesn't want more kids, so she's not facing a ticking clock, but she is nursing a broken heart and the loss of five years of her youth, when as far as modern dating culture dictates, she did everything right in this relationship. She told Brent, from the start, what she wanted and he agreed. A more specific way to put it is - As far as the average Westernized American woman sees how the dating culture dictates, she did everything right in this relationship. If the part of the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 05:52 AM |
| 0 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleBoth Brent and Lucy come out poorly because both chose poorly and the real damage was done to an innocent child. Looks like from the age of 6-10. I keep hearing about what Lucy and Brent got or did not get. Why the hell is no one talking about this little girl in this entire equation? What did she get? They both, as stated, cheated on each other. There is real mental/emotional fallout from that. Does anything think an innocent little girl suffers nothing by living in that kind of potential warzo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 05:16 AM |
| 1 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleIn that case, marriage is a really big sign to her that he loves her and is committed. In the eyes of the State, a marriage is a fiduciary relationship. Without this, there is no basis for the State to decide how much you should pay in child support or alimony and how often you can see your kids and who gets custody. Marriage = Fiduciary Relationship From a LEGAL standpoint, that's it. I'm not discounting there are emotional/mental/feeling standpoints as well, but none of those carry any legal w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 12:12 AM |
| 1 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleLucy bet on a 21 year old. ( And I'm guessing a MODERN AMERICAN 21 year old, which is like saying a 13 year old.... sorry to say it....) Brent bet on a single mother (If we are talking core TRP methodology, a "Wall Hitter", I recognize she is your friend, so this isn't fun to hear, but there's a reason plugged in men and unplugged men are both wary of single moms for dating/relationships) Here's a fair statement but not necessarily a fun one for anyone to hear. Did Lucy give up 5 years of her yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 08:28 PM |
| 2 | Would you marry the ideal man... who wanted to be polyamorous?Everything in the dating/mating/relationship game comes down to survival instinct and biological imperative. Any man with another woman, that woman is an OPEN THREAT to his "primary woman's" resources, for her and her kids. When any person asks to "open up the relationship" they are asking for one of two things A) Permission ( Rarely) or B) Forgiveness ( They've already cheated) At minimum, the person has already picked out someone else. The mere act of asking is DISRESPECTFUL if there is an est… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 08:00 PM |
| 1 | A Miniature Red Pill EcosystemI disagree with core TRP in this regard. Core TRP says men should spin plates, see if one survives vetting, then maybe promote one to a LTR. Then, for men open to it, see if she can be promoted to marriage material. Interactions with frequency with the opposite sex ( group activities ) I find are GOOD THINGS. A man raising his N Count, I don't see that as a good thing in bunches. I don't see men with high N counts as core marriage material. I do believe because of status related issues that most… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Why is it so difficult to STFU (even when you know better)?Here is the unpleasant reality of it all. You exist in a cultural and social structure where A) All of your feelings are absolutely validated B) You will never be truly held accountable for anything EXCEPT abandoning your children/openly regretting the birth/lives for your children Everyone feels something all the time. Not every feeling you have needs to mean something. This is why people who play competitive sports are often at a social advantage. You produce, you play. You don't, you sit. Tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 12:22 AM |
| 1 | [Advice] Apologies if this isn't quite the right forum, but I have a question about PMS and mood swings...I give you credit that you see a problem and you want to fix it. I recognize, stating this again, that nothing about relationships and living with someone is easy. Not by a country mile. But the pathways do not bode well for him or you. Pathway 1 - You cannot control it. ( Let's just call it this for sake of theoretical discussion. ) If you can't control it and it's a full blown medical issue, then you have a much larger issue than being in a relationship. If it's a lifelong issue, the best cour… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/18 01:07 AM |
| 1 | [Advice] Apologies if this isn't quite the right forum, but I have a question about PMS and mood swings...No Respect = No Relationship The relationship is, sadly for the both of you, over. If you can control it with other people, you can CHOOSE to control it with him. You simply choose not to do it. I did not say controlling "it" will be or would be easy. Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Living with someone is really hard. But it's a choice. Here is the true example of choice versus no choice. Let's say someone said they were crazy/unstable and could not control it. (Not calling you these thing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/18 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Jordan Peterson, Fallacies, and the Tragic State of this SubThings that several endorsed guys are doing that appear to be in violation of basic 48 Law principles. Law 9 Win through your Actions, Never through Argument Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate. Law 10 Infection:… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/18 07:52 PM |
| 1 | From Plate to WifeMen marry when it's "time" Statistically speaking, if a man doesn't propose in a two year time frame (Some stats say four years, my observation over time is about two) from meeting him, then odds are he won't. To each their own, my observation and experience is the progression from "plate" to wife ( i.e. the male is seeing multiple women at once) is a pathway of least resistance. Plate To Wife = A woman picking a guy at 32 after hitting the Wall and after riding the C*** Carousel If TRPW is Trad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/18 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Friendly reminder to all Men: ALWAYS use a condom. ALWAYS destroy after use.Go to bathroom Fill used condom with water from sink ( like half full) Use two fingers to pinch the open top. Shake a little. Pour contents into toilet ( but not the condom itself) Flush Tie off condom. Wrap in toilet tissue or facial tissue, whatever is in bathroom. Keep a plastic sandwich bag somewhere. Insert used condom in there for later disposal. You don't want to even leave used empty condoms at her place. Or a neutral place. If she's married and didn't tell you and pulled her ring off an… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/07/18 05:34 AM |
| 5 | Henry Cavill says he’s hesitant to hit on women bc of #metoo and the female collective goes crazyWhat Cavill discusses seems to be a growing grey area between The Red Pill and MGTOW ( I agree and disagree with points from both core TRP and MGTOW, but both are toolboxes and I get why those differences exist) The most valuable resource you have is time. You won't get any of it back. I've never seen anyone ever argue this. Here, at MGTOW, or anywhere. Ever. What Cavill is really saying is he doesn't want to bother with women who are not worth his time. And even if he has his pick of the litter… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/18 09:58 PM |
| 1 | You Never Took The Red Pill And Never WillI don't think it's some kind of idolization from most. I think most guys recognize Peterson's frame control. He holds frame really well. ANYONE can learn from that. He talks tough topics, while I don't always agree, I can see people trying all kinds of ways to bait him ( ad hominem, various other logical fallacies, etc.) and he just holds frame. You can learn something from someone you don't like. Or even agree with most of the time. It's probably harder but it's still possible to draw value out… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/07/18 04:08 AM |
| 1 | You Never Took The Red Pill And Never WillOne could argue Red Pill Women, linked in this sidebar, is far far far from core TRP. It's Trad Con Commitment strategy for women to strategize to appear to be NAWALT long enough to get a commitment ( i.e marriage) from a high value man. If TRP is "sexual strategy" then statistically, the average marriage in the Western world, your rate of actual sex plummets after the fourth year of said marriage. One could argue the strategy is "Men are wising up, so here's RPW for you women, so you can better… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/07/18 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Do you drink alcohol?Everyone has a choice in life. If a woman chooses to drink alcohol fairly regular, plenty of men ( not just any men, but the rare subset of men that most women want a commitment from out there) will not see said woman as marriage material. You will not be seen as "The One" You will be seen as "One Of Them" Plenty of guys who drink all the time and socialize that way will be cool with a woman who drinks all the time too. Do you all want to marry a dude who drinks all the time? I recognize there a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/18 05:41 PM |
| 1 | You Never Took The Red Pill And Never WillBecause he does a better job of monetizing his role in the "manosphere" than Gay Lube Oil. If Jordan Peterson reached out and said "Hey GLO, I want you to be my full time personal trainer, I'll pay you 250K a year plus expenses on a five year guaranteed contract", do you think the tune would stay the same? To each their own, but the OP's constant battering of JP comes off as scarcity mentality and ultimately a loss of frame. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/07/18 05:35 PM |
| 1 | I Get So Fed Up of The "If Only Elliot Rodger Learned Game" ArgumentSome dudes are just better off paying for it. I'm not advocating anyone here break any laws depending on where they live, but there are places all over where it's legal and you can pay for it. That angle tends to get some resistance because it contradicts the "Red Pill Brand" i.e. you can't monetize dudes using escorts. There are some dudes in life where the circumstances might need some calibration. There are some dude out there in wheelchairs. Burn victims. Guys who lost a limb somehow, maybe … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/18 11:11 PM |
| 1 | The Goddess MovementWhen we all lived in caves, men would go to hunt. No real promise at any given point that everyone would come back. People back then died all the time. The women who could not play the "social game", i.e. assess which other men she could steal from other women or how to climb up the hierarchy of women in the group died off. She died. Her children died. When people here say "There are no unicorns", they aren't kidding. Natural selection wiped out any chance at a woman acting like said unicorn. Th… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/18 03:21 AM |
| 1 | I’ve changed the dynamic and caused issues.My observation and experience is this - When a woman wants out of a marriage, she's looking for a soft landing. Meaning she will start thinking about the longer term finances of leaving. A SAHM going back to school is a marriage red flag. (I'm not saying a life one, it's good for a person to be educated and pursue things they like, but in the context of hypergamy and Briffault's Law, it's not a good thing specifically for a marriage) If a woman wants out, she will dredge up actual previous/past … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/18 10:32 PM |
| 1 | PrenupsThe asset in question cannot be "comingled" It means this. Let's say Guy With A Bike inherits a house from his deceased relatives before he marries Girl With A Bike. Over time, if Girl With A Bike buys a can of paint to paint the kitchen, she has now invested money into the asset and now it is comingled. It is now community property. Obviously this is a very very very extreme example. But it is very rare for most people period to not comingle their assets in a marriage. How many can keep an enti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/18 10:11 PM |
| 1 | My take on the term "alpha widow"I think this concept of "alpha widow" is just a character in a male fantasy where a man wishes to happen upon a girl that does fuck all but be sheltered, reject all male advances, and wait for him to take her in such a display of manhood that she is forever shaken to the core. If a guy suspects that someone did this before, the woman is deemed an "alpha widow". The "Alpha Widow" principle derives from hypergamy. Red Pill Women is a brand extension of the original Red Pill. Anyone on here, accept… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/18 02:56 PM |
| 1 | RE: Fighting ResentmentIn general, in situations like this, I ask these questions A) What was the lifestyle of the current wife growing up when she was a little girl? I.E. what did the dominant male figure in her life ( likely her father, but sometimes an uncle or grandfather, etc) provide in terms of resources. If she grew up with a SAHM with ample resources for paid help and still had things like vacations and family outings and money was never a problem, then my take is her current marriage needs to EQUAL THAT or B… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Clarifying strength - alpha vs empty confidenceIf you want to be supportive of someone in pain/distress, then great. However, because you are not going to hold it against him/punish him today does not mean it will not happen at some point. No one said the path to every display of male weakness was an IMMEDIATE EFFECT. My observation and experience is when a woman wants to exit, branch swing, consider cheating or consider leaving, then these small issues add up negatively and are used as stacks for justification for any of the above. I want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 12:26 AM |
| 1 | I think I have steadily losing attraction to my SOMy observation and experience is when a woman says something like this then A) She's bored and she met someone else. And B) The current guy has lost his utility. Women will focus on something the man has done wrong and if he's done nothing majorly wrong, she will simply dig until she finds something. The typical situation in the latter is to withdraw ( as the OP is doing) so that eventually he withdraws then it's "AHA! You pulled away from me! You pig! Now everyone will understand when I leave y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/18 10:20 AM |
| 1 | What is the male complement/equivalent to female hypergamy?In hunter/gatherer times, if a woman did not have group approval/social status, she and her children were thrown out of the cave. And they died. If they were ostracized, they died. If the woman did not understand how to manipulate and read the social hierarchy and how to basically steal another woman's man when hers died ( and they died all the time back then), then she and her children died. Hypergamy is essentially a survival protocol. That being said, you can do something that is instinctive … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/18 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Theory on Threesomes ?Ok, here it is. IF, and this is a IF scenario. IF, two people took "traditional" wedding vows, then the person bringing up the threesome option is showing that they don't actually respect their partner. "Do you want to have a threesome?" = I am confident I will make an offer that VIOLATES our previous LIFELONG AGREEMENT and that you won't leave me for it. Leave as in leave with your resources, your body, your affection and whatever else of utility is in play. No Respect = No Relationship. A pers… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/18 01:36 AM |
| 1 | I am trying to understand Jordan Peterson. I think this might be a good link to foster discussion.The best way to get a woman to understand how little most men trust most women is to find women who are mothers of sons who are approaching marriage type age. All that rah rah feminism stuff goes out the window. Nearly all women know exactly what other women are and are capable of and there is close to zero tolerance when it comes to their "Little Baby Boy" ( Hence why wives and mother in laws hate each other so much) Ask the women here how many women out there would be good enough for their son… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/18 01:33 AM |
| 1 | The Relationships subreddit strike again. This time they tell OP to abondon his best friend of 10 years for cheating and instead be a White KnightFriends are a "choice" in life. Nothing in the rulebooks says you can't downgrade a Best Friend to just a friend , and a friend to just an acquaintance and an acquaintance to a pure nobody. Someone who violates their word and promise will rationalize their behavior to do so. It's not just women/thots who do this. People will try to mentally find a way to make their behavior OK. If the Best Friend will do it to someone else, he will do it to you too if the circumstance permits. Should you go tell… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/18 01:21 AM |
| 1 | I keep ending up with beta males. What am I doing wrong?I just don't know if I'm being unrealistic. You are attempting to negotiate attraction for him. You are working a checklist as to why he's a great match when you don't respect him. Accept a person, or don't. Don't expect them to change. On the flip side, I'd wager you'd want someone to accept you for you. No one should think they found someone who loved them and only to find out they were "tolerated" How would that make you feel if you found you were only "tolerated" ? And the person went down a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/18 01:03 AM |
| 1 | How to keep my hypergamy in check?Maybe consider how you might convert your current mate into more of an alpha No, just no. Everyone has right to an opinion and everyone sees the world differently and yadda, yadda, yadda, all qualifications made, and so forth, etc. But No. You accept someone for who they are or you do not. If you can't accept someone, then leave. The OP is not debating whether she WANTS TO LEAVE. She's debating HOW TO LEAVE AND NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. She's already left. She resents him and does not respect him. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/18 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Close male friend vs emotional affairAre you treating your husband in a way that you would not want him to treat you if the shoes were on other feet? This is ultimately what it comes down to and the most critical issue. Would you want your husband to do the exact same thing with another woman and would you be OK with it? If the answer is No ( And my best guess is it's a "No") then you don't respect your husband. No Respect = No Relationship Without respect, the marriage is "over", when it "ends" is another story. No one who cheats … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/18 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Morality wont save you from HypergamyThe Red Pill is "amoral" But every man NEEDS a CODE. Without "values" ( ones you determine for yourself) as guideposts, a man will be adrift. And you can't be the best version of yourself if you are adrift. One of the problems I see with guys in the subreddit is they only go as far as to point out the "amoral" part. If you feel it's part of your "code" to bang a married woman or an engaged woman or a woman in a traditional formal commitment, then that's on you. Your choice, your life. You've los… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/05/18 04:05 AM |
| 1 | What happens when women are given absolute power? Find out in the ancient Greek comedy “Assemblywomen”Want to see the destruction from a woman with absolute power? Find a single mother. "Mother is the name of God from the lips of all children." Eric Draven, The Crow It's something no one here wants to really talk about. Some guys here had great moms. Some had OK moms. I'd wager most, their moms were basically shitty human beings and much of the unplugging was trying to reboot from the damage inflicted from youth. I keep seeing the sidebar statement - She's the most responsible teenager in the ho… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/05/18 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Not sure what to do here.If you want commitment, you won't find it there with him. If you really like and want someone, you make the time. If someone is trapped in a submarine at the bottom of the ocean, and is building a robot out of old Legos to escape, yes, that person is probably "too busy". But everyone else? They just don't want to make the time for you. My unsolicited advice is to cut bait, move on and try to learn from the experience in the future. Listen, on a side note, I get that there are family, cultural an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/18 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Hamstering versus valid feelings: commitmentYes = Yes No = No A hesitation = No I'll think about it = No Give me some time to consider = No I don't know how I feel = No Do you want to marry this guy? I don't know how I feel. The answer then is "No" With something like marriage, you are all "in", or you are, by default, all "out" Taking this back to the tried and true Hunter/Gatherer/Caveperson Matrix, women want security and safety, because this is the ideal construct to raise healthy children who will survive. Your mate is working on get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/18 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Surprising male generosity/chivalry after applying RP as a woman"I often feel like I'm not worth it" I've seen variations of this comment and reaction over time, not just within the various subreddits. I have always taken many topics here back to the tried and true "Hunter/Gatherer?Cavepeople" Matrix, because much of how we behave is biological imperative/survival instinct. One large reason why many women are uncomfortable with "generous" men is that if he gives so freely, will he do the same to another woman, to other people, at the detriment to our childre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/18 06:58 AM |
| 1 | Advice Needed: Should I have Emergency Asset(s)?What if he dies? I've said this before in this subreddit and it's almost like I'm speaking another language when I bring it up and given the responses I've seen. Let's say you have a nice marriage, kids, they are young, things seem good, then unfortunately he gets hit by a car. A drunk driver at the wrong place at the wrong time. This is the bizarre fallout of the modern culture. Women INSTINCTIVELY still behave very much in line with the hunter/gatherer/caveperson matrix of behavior. Pure survi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/18 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Femininity isn't superficialThe open danger of The Red Pill Women is that it is a "commitment" Trad Con strategy, not a "self improvement" strategy. Baseline reality - A man who cannot get sex from at least a socially acceptable women, in some form, is seen as a loser. A woman who cannot get commitment from at least a socially acceptable man, in some form, is seen as a loser. I'm not saying I think this way, I'm not saying anyone here is required to think this way. I'm saying this is how our society and culture operates. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 04:23 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about a periodic gratitude thread?IMHO I think it would be a good idea but for different reasons. If "hypergamy" is a female trait inherent in all women as a part of survival adaptation/biological imperative, then for men, so is "loyalty" In a hunter/gatherer environment, men need division of labor to sustain the "tribe" It means teamwork, it means trusting the guy guarding the tribe when you sleep is doing his duty, it means when you are in a hunting party, the team pulls together and covers each others backs. Loyalty for men i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/18 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Anxiety while waiting for engagement-advice please"If I didn't mean it, then how I hurt him doesn't really count" I.E. I'm nagging him about marriage, but "I don't want to do it" because , see if you understand, it's very hard for me. He said and did this and that, therefore I am justified in feeing/acting this way. I don't want to nag him, but I can't control it. But the big thing is, I DID NOT MEAN IT, I didn't mean to nag him or make him miserable over this, therefore IT DOES NOT REALLY COUNT. First things first, Red Pill or any pill, you ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/18 10:10 PM |
| 1 | I white-knighted and paid the price... Never be the white knight.If you think someone is being a bitch and want to call them a bitch in public ( Obviously NOT at work or a work situation...), then do it. If you feel something is the right thing to do, and part of your "code" (Every man needs a "code" to live by), then do it. Fuck anyone who has a problem with it. But people will laugh at you! It's not ALPHA! You won't get laid for that, you need to lift more! Fuck all that noise. ABUNDANCE means pussy is everywhere. If you lose out on one or two pieces of pus… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/03/18 09:34 PM |
| 1 | First post. I need advice on husband hesitant about having kids.I hate to say this because it's easy to say in abstract when it's really about real live human beings and their emotions and feelings. The issue of kids versus not having kids is a functional dealbreaker and usually it's best discussed before any long term commitment happens. He doesn't want them. You do. Both of you are trying to wait the other side out. You control sex, you are the gatekeeper of sex, so usually the man buckles in this situation first. Here's what usually happens He has kids wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/18 08:14 AM |
| 1 | 5 Reasons to Have Female FriendsWomen don't have friends. Women have short term, and very very very very rarely long term, alliances for their own PERCEIVED IMMEDIATE BENEFIT. This is part of the reason why so many of them are miserable and lonely and have no real social skills. All they have to offer and all they've been taught that they have to offer is their dark roast beef pit of death. Without her vagina, odds are, she will be the worst relationship you've ever had in your life. That being said, some women are actually ve… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/03/18 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Families and ChildrenI want to calibrate this by saying you've written things in the past that have helped me and obviously other people. You didn't get endorsed for simply no reason at all. I think others here are also calibrating their responses with you taking all of that into consideration. "If you are alpha enough and smart enough then you can have your cake and eat it. To tell everyone exactly how to do this would take a detailed post or even a series of posts." Here is the problem and there just doesn't appea… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/03/18 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Metoo and the WorkplaceI still feel most guys here don't really unpack the Aziz Ansari thing all that effectively. Unlike virtually everyone else accused openly, many women came to Ansari's defense. He did what people here talk about doing, building social networks/social currency and creating a situation where being aligned with you, even in conflict, is worth more than joining the rest of the mob. The other issue is NEOTENY WORKS BOTH WAYS. Women have a natural maternal instinct. Ansari has one of the few benefits t… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/03/18 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Families and ChildrenHere is the hardest truth for Western society, the birth rate ( i.e. future tax payers) has been falling for a while now, but will soon nosedive off of a cliff. Talk to some millennials sometime. I know most are mind numbing and many are face down in a smart phone and have no real social skills. But if you talk to those around starting college age, it's not a huge secret anymore. If you want to get involved with women, you are probably going to get fucked over in various ways. I mean it's good t… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/03/18 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Tips on being the right kind of submissiveNot sure I want to go unpacking the dominant/submissive methodology but I'll say this - If the woman does not respect, admire and look up to her man, then the relationship is over. It's over completely. When the relationship ends might be another matter. Plenty of people stay together long after the relationship is functionally over. Sometimes it just never "ends" If a woman truly respects her mate, then everything else will naturally fall into line for that relationship. IMHO, the best way for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/18 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Conservative Men: Thoughts On Housewives?Basic thoughts Men want regular sex ( desire sex, not transactional sex) from someone pleasant whom they find attractive that doesn't stress them out too much. Other than that, as long as they can afford a SAHW/lifestyle, nearly all won't really care if their wife is a SAHW. My actual observation and experience is the SAHW/SAHM situation really comes back down to money/resources. The number 1 reason for divorce and marital conflict is money. Always has been money, will always be money. Money, mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/18 05:35 AM |
| 1 | How to Thrive in Upside Down Clown WorldThe biggest "threatpoint" to the modern Western man is his professional/career/job life. You need to put food on the table. This is non-negotiable. Some guys can carve out a business, but most to nearly all will have to submit to someone else to earn bread. I don't think the "personal life" situation is all that complicated. Pay for it. High SMV, low SMV, any SMV, just pay for it. Escorts/Hookers/Prostitutes/Whatever you want to call them are not going to be protected by Third Wave Feminists. No… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/01/18 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Completely disgusted by women and dating in this worldA lot of women actually do have it hard. Hard in a relative sense. They might have it easier than a male on the same socioeconomic footing, but in general, everyone has problems in life. My base point is recognize them for who they are, the threat they can present, but don't get to the point where one stops recognizes they are enduring the same human grind as the rest of us. As The Godfather says, don't hate your enemies, it clouds your judgement. There's no point in arguing with women. No point… | /r/MGTOW | 29/01/18 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Advice please, boyfriend cleaning too much?I mean you sort of have a point.....The issue isn't with the cleaning itself, it's about how it makes her feel: unwanted, under-utilized, un-appreciated. There was a thread here a few months ago. I detailed out a Captain's perspective. On why doing X and Y and Z would be detrimental to the overall emotional health and relationship period. I got some resistance, of course. Then another poster, a woman (this is one of the few times where that distinction will matter) came in and said something ver… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/18 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Advice please, boyfriend cleaning too much?Every two minutes, somewhere in the modern world, a child dies related to some issue of not having access to basic clean drinking water. Think about that, you can turn on your tap, and it flows without a thought. You could find a public place like a library, and turn a knob, and it's there. You could walk into any neighborhood and find a hose next to a garden, and turn it on, and it would flood your world. I recognize most of you have never been to a place where ethnic cleansing is real. Here's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/18 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Branch swinging 101 on the confessions subreddit: "I'm in love with both my boyfriend and our best friend"I usually quote MattyAnon, because he uses what I feel is the most effective methodology when someone tries to deny AWALT in their marriage in some form. But this time I'll quote the esteemed redpillschool. ( For what it's worth, I recognize many dudes were married and had kids before they unplugged and are trying to salvage their situations and keep their kids. Also many dudes are biological driven/biological imperative to have kids/legacy. And to each their own, as long as it doesn't directly … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/18 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Branch swinging 101 on the confessions subreddit: "I'm in love with both my boyfriend and our best friend"Rules Of Engagement With Women A) Assume she is lying about everything. B) Assume when she speaks to you, she either wants something now or is laying ground work for your utility in the future. She will cease when you stop being useful ( Briffault's Law) C) Attention and public validation are her currencies of choice. They are her "God" Whatever operates to give her those things, she will worship. D) Commitment is a runaway train going balls out towards the town of Utter Boredom. They can't hand… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/18 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Aziz AnsariThere's a saying they teach every first year law student (No, I'm not a lawyer, I'm still actually a human being) "The first time you hear a story, it's as good as it will ever get." Meaning the truth often lies right in the middle. The Ansari story is only told from one side, from a jilted woman who has her hamster in overdrive. The base assumption is that since Ansari looks and acts like a public beta, that this is the end of the narrative. Celebrities are a specific niche in our Western socie… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/18 07:57 AM |
| 1 | Advice needed, please.One of the pros of dating an older man is that they’re supposed to be more financially stable and have a stable career. He does not appear to have that. He's 26 years old. At what point in human history does a 26 year old classify as an "older man" who should be more financially stable to provide for a marriage? In the year 1892? I've seen some discussion of female "nature" and their biological imperative, here's some discussion of male "nature" and their biological imperative. Men do not ration… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/18 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Needing help - Is he really a Captain?Sounds to me like, A) You want to get married, right now, but the previous guy, not this current guy, but this current guy is all that is available right now. And as you are 30, you are weighing the "sunk cost" of time spent with the new guy. B) You've been "Alpha Widow"-ed. Meaning the previous guy was the Apex Guy for you, and all other men will be compared to him. And be seen as lacking accordingly. C) You want a relationship that seamlessly integrates you into someone's already established l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Unicorns do exist, but it doesn't matter.I used to work with a Top 1 percent guy. Still very good friend with him although we live pretty far apart now to see the same kind of daily interactions that we used to have. For women, he was "A Dream Come True" He was the archetype that the fairy tales talk about. Tall, handsome, ripped, educated, wealthy, good sense of humor, good with kids, generally kind, faithful. For men, he was "A Dream Killer" Because when women were around him, married , or engaged or with a boyfriend or any other cir… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/01/18 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Guy marries into sexless and open marriage with his "best friend"I know of a few guys who are gay that married women for business reasons/professional reasons/medical benefits. In some career paths, not being married is a hindrance. Part of the "game" is your wife socializes with the CEO's wife, the wives of the big clients, etc. In the few "masculine" careers with a high level of Alphas ( pro sports for example), again, being married or having a "beard" is going to be preferable to a lot of other alternatives. I still get that any guy getting married period … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/18 10:49 AM |
| 1 | What is your and your captain’s opinions on navel piercings?All women love attention of some kind. They especially love the attention of "high value men" High value men, the rare ones that most women want and want badly to get into a commitment have many options with many women. They are exposed to more women and usually have a greater understanding of base female behavior. One thing that most high value men learn very quickly is any sign that a woman likes attention a little too much, is a negative thing over the long haul. Tattoos. Keep changing your h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/18 06:44 AM |
| 1 | New RPW Needs Help With LDRIMHO, "disrespect" is a relationship killer. There is when a relationship is "over" and when it "ends". Over meaning the bond between the two is severed beyond any kind of repair. But some people in this situation stay together, some forever, many for far too long. The "end" is sometimes death of natural causes, but sometimes divorce and breakup. Usually when a woman starts jabbing at a man, showing signs of disrespect, these are the first two thoughts in my head She's met someone else who inter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/18 06:20 AM |
| 1 | Yes, Men Do Leave the MarketThe larger problem is not men who have announced they have left the market, but men who don't realize they have left the market. The most valuable resource for anyone in this life is time. You never get any of it back. Don't waste it. Many men out there are trying to build good lives for themselves say, sure, sure, I'll invest in a woman, when I finally meet one who is WORTH MY TIME. After a period of bad experiences and likely be cheated on and slightly resourced jacked and facing solipsism and… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/01/18 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Dangerous Times – Part 3I had quite a few men ask me where I think we’re headed with regards to intersexual social dynamics ..... All Out Gender War. The next great war is not going to be fought with nukes. Not battling economies. Not some religious fervor. It's going to be women, after just far too long of cornering men and prodding them with a sharp stick over and over, finally realizing that human beings are just savages that have been conditioned over time to be "civilized" but it won't take much to unpack their br… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/01/18 10:34 AM |
| 1 | Men and Suicide | 7 in 10 suicides are men (majority white) between the ages of 45 and 65. As expected from gynocentric media, the primary reason always cited is men’s so called stubbornness in seeking out psychiatric help...again absolving women’s influence of any complicityApex Fallacy. When a woman talks about a "man" in a positive tone, she is usually referring to men she'd like to sleep with and desires to be around to raise her social status. Like 3 percent of men. The rest of men? A small percentage would be just good enough to buy her a house and pay her bills while she resents him for it. A few are related to people to she knows, people she works with, people who are neighbors, where the social cost is too high to be too ruthless. The rest? Like 90+ percent… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/01/18 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Prenup?So you don’t think a woman should stay at home and raise the kids or homeschool. I'm not saying that. I think two people, if they decide to get married, need to talk it out and it will only work ( maybe) if they have shared financial values and talk it all out first. Sadly most people don't. In terms of prenups, I see some resistance to women signing them and I don't understand why honestly. 95 percent of men, they don't have the money and resources to actually protect what they have. Getting fi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 12:21 AM |
| 8 | The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. - BRIFFAULT’S LAWIf you want to get some hard ass Red Pill into your life, go visit Cancer wards with adult men Men who have been crippled or lost limbs due to work or combat injuries Men who suffer/have suffered from brutal mental illness Don't look at the men were the women have already left, look at the men where the women are still there BUT DESPERATE TO LEAVE. Why have they not left already? Maybe the money isn't workable yet...emphasize "yet" Maybe there are kids. Maybe it's too soon, if she leaves too soo… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/18 11:55 PM |
| 4 | We want to be open and honest. We want to have a safe haven.. where we gain strength...instead of having it pulled from us. We want to stop being on guard all the time... to simply be with someone who can understand our basic humanity without begrudging it... If we do, we soon are no longer able to.I think the larger issue is the idea of a man and his "castle" Think of Batman and his Bat Cave. Everywhere outside the Bat Cave, Batman has all the answers. Is invincible. No one sees him limp or bleed or cry or wince. But in the Bat Cave, he rearms himself. He fixes his wounds. He lies on a table suffering. He faces his losses, his mistakes, his regrets. There is also the "lockerroom concept", where in any shared male team environment ( sports, military, etc) , the leaders and bosses know the … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/18 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Prenup?Some thoughts A) I believe every married woman should have a functional career. While they might meet a "Captain" who can financially provide, the question persists. What if he dies? I recognize that it's likely I've seen more death in my life and career than most people here, but life is very cheap and it's very fragile. You can't live in fear, but you can't wake up each day and assume the life as you knew it will stay static. Men don't live as long as women. Many take riskier careers and more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/18 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Best way to respond when Captain says "I need to make more money for you"?Just really curious what your thoughts are. Then he said, "I have to start making more money to keep taking you to fancy places." A couple of things A) He either believes a failure to maintain a certain financial lifestyle will end the relationship ( Most likely case) or B) He's testing you ( Less likely, but more likely to happen with a man established with financial resources and somewhat "game aware") On the Red Pill side, there is the discussion of "shit tests" On the flip side, nearly all m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/18 10:54 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with boyfriend's bad moods when he gets home from work?Don't be there. If he can't be civil, then don't be there when he's home. He can cook his own dinner and hug himself. A true "Captain" understands his own feelings are irrelevant. Even on his own ship. Showing weakness in terms of his discontentment out in the open isn't going to make anything better. For him, for you, for the goals you might share. This is how men display true love and devotion and loyalty to another man they consider a "brother" You ask him how he is doing. Implying its OK to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/18 10:11 PM |
| 0 | Dennis Prager on "I'm Not Ready to Get Married"Many single men, for example, say they are not ready to get married because they don't have the income they would like to have prior to getting married. As responsible as this may sound, however, this is not a particularly rational argument. "That's Just The Way It Works" Most men would prefer that women don't nag. But nagging is simply a tool in the toolbox that women use to communicate with men. It's not changing. Nothing will ever change it. No appeal to logic will ever change it. It's here t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/18 03:29 AM |
| 1 | The vast majority of people I know who recently had a baby are unmarried. Why is this the new normal?If you really love each other then marriage is just 'a piece of paper'. Flip the shoe on the other foot and let's see how this plays out. Currently men have to Do the initiating Operate against a long checklist of attributes to be seen as marriage worthy Operate with most of the financial burden and risk ( Most men, not every situation, but enough to where it's considered nominal ) Have to buy the engagement ring Carries the burden of responsibility for everything ( As BewareTheOldMan points out… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/18 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Bluepill Professor's Manifesto: Why I am a Radical Advocate of Men’s Rights and What Do We Can Do NextI don't think it's so complicated. The actual government and law is in favor of women in general. In the "Western world" and esp in America. In the Court Of Law, men are just plain fucked. However in the Court of PUBLIC OPINION, EVERYONE IS PRIMED TO GET FUCKED. Two simple things A) Every time a woman cheats in a marriage or an engagement or a LTR or when in a commitment to a man, he gathers evidence. Emails, photos, copies of letters, video, audio ( where legal) and then uploads it to the Inter… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/18 02:09 AM |
| 1 | How to tell him that I was assaultedI'm sorry for your pain. No one deserves that kind of treatment. It's abhorrent that it happened to you and I only wish you the very best moving forward. There are support groups for abuse of this nature. It would be good in some ways to find others and find solace as a private group. There is also Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is sometimes seen as very useful in situations as such. You can look it up further online, there are techniques and strategies that might help you. My best unsolici… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/17 02:11 AM |
| 0 | Wife's husband makes millions, he asks for a post-nup to protect his assets, but she's "confused" and doesn't feel the need for a post-nup because she would never hurt him.Ironclad rule of women and money - "Whatever You Make, She Will Spend" I know married guys making just above minimum wage. I know married guys making 7 figures a year. I know married guys who have deep rooted old family money. When someone gets a massive SMV kick, usually someone leaves and someone is left. Women are not immune to this, it's just not usually the case where a guy's SMV skyrockets. If you associate with women in any way, you "owe them" You could be paying them for a service. Like … | /r/TheRedPill | 28/12/17 12:52 AM |
| 1 | How do I Always end up losing power in relationships?In ANY relationship, the person least invested in walking away completely is usually the "powerless" one in the dynamic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Keep it to yourself. Honestly.Never be upset because others don't think like you and act like you. That's something women do. If there's anything that should curb one's behavior here, it's that if women do it, then men should probably not follow suit. Live a good life, for you, live a life that you can be proud of and be above reproach in everything. At some point, people around you will start to ask you what you are doing, why you are doing it and how they can do something similar for themselves. When that happens, tell oth… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/12/17 07:39 PM |
| 6 | How does asexuality fit within the Red Pill?I do worry about leaving him frustrated, especially since I know if his past sexual history (due to our honestly rule): he's had around 20 partners, among whom 3 affairs during his marriage. But I'm not worried about him straying away. I know that his infidelity were due to both a dead bedroom and a lack of emotional intimacy. You seem to have concerns with whether he will be fulfilled or not. If he says he is, you can't believe him. If he says he is not, you can't believe him. If he says his ey… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Are women truly capable of loving you at your weakest?Two things A) If the man's injury is very public, and his role in that injury was seen as either heroic or a form of full sacrifice, women won't leave right away. My observation and experience with the men under my command was about three years. Guy comes home, his leg is blown off, or he's got some other pretty horrible permanent injury and she will BASK in the attention and validation that come from "her man" is a hero. He sacrificed. He gave all while most only gave some. And he picked her. S… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/17 03:19 AM |
| 8 | Don't be afraid to be a child again!I always took the meaning behind "Find The Child Within", in terms of TRP and dealing with women as - Don't take anything they say seriously. Kids don't take anything seriously. If they do, they forget fast. If a woman says the house is on fire. Or it's a zombie apocalypse and everyone is dying around us. Or this ship we are on is sinking. OK, then you can take her seriously. But everything else? Amused Mastery. Don't take anything she says seriously. Don't let her stress become your stress. Don… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/17 02:44 AM |
| 19 | Why you must believe AWALTThis is where the male N-Count issue becomes an imperative. It's very unfortunate, IMHO, that there are several dudes here on this subreddit who beat their chest and proclaim, if you don't have true over the top sexual abundance, you can't be a true Red Pill man and you can't truly have the option to walk away from this game. It's a mixture of truth, bullshit and marketing. The truth part is the more you EXPOSED to direct female behavior, i.e. the "mask" coming off, and this is mostly achieved b… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/12/17 10:33 AM |
| 6 | Jodie Foster: Every Man Over 30 Is Culpable For Sexual MisconductTwo things about Foster 1) She had a long time female partner for 20 some odd years, then dumped her for a younger woman. In about a year, the younger woman then proceeded to dump her. No loyalty 2) After John Hinkley shot Ronald Reagan, claiming he did so to impress Foster, she got no traction in Hollywood. No one wanted to work with her or cast her because of the negative feedback loop over it all. The only one who stood up for her and tried to help her was apparently Mel Gibson. ( Who also he… | /r/MGTOW | 22/12/17 11:23 PM |
| 4 | Made some very UN-RPW moves, help?The best advice I could give to you specifically, factoring in you are 18 ( It sucks to hear someone say, You are just 18, but we were all 18 once in our lives and something to consider is the things you think are super important now, 90 percent of it you will wonder why you even bothered to think it was important at 25. At 30, then 90 percent of what you thought was so important at 25, well you find out it's not, and on and on and on) Why do you even have to date anyone right now? This is a goo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/17 10:41 AM |
| 16 | Nice Girls Win, Nice Guys LoseBe who you want to be with good boundaries. For most guys, to be the best version of themselves, the women are implied to come to them. I.E. "success with women is a lagging indicator" But if you are true to yourself, with good boundaries, and seek to be emotionally healthy and always seek to self improve, and women are not implied, then fuck them all. Actually "Fuck Them All" applies to anyone except maybe your own biological children. "Nice Guy" is often unpacked on this sub as a precursor to … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/12/17 10:17 AM |
| 3 | Reminder (novice advice): Committing into a relationship does not change the conjecture and modality of the sex she is willing to give you - not a single bit, everSome thoughts here A) Until you figure out what you are going to really do, STOP HAVING SEX WITH HER RIGHT NOW. (Sorry to say, doesn't sound like this is going to be hard, and she might not even notice) The last thing you need to do is get a girl who resents you pregnant. Then you are stuck with her for life. For Life. Forever. B) If you live together, when you know she's going to be gone for half a day or so doing something, or at work - Search your entire house/apartment/condo. I mean top to b… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/12/17 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Made some very UN-RPW moves, help?Best advice I can give anyone, man or woman, of any age, is when you are in a romantic relationship with someone and it ends, it's just better to never speak to them again or associate with them again. The exception being if share a child with them. Then you are stuck with that person in your life forever. Forever. The moderate exception is if you work with them, but it's just not a good idea to date people you work with in life. My take, from my perspective, if the person is really into you eno… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/17 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Your Competition Online: 100 to 1, Offline: 3 to 1.The most "efficient" thing I've seen for a non Chad/non celebrity guy to do to skew the numbers in his favor is to dance. If you just don't enjoy it, then there is no point. BUT, if you actually are one of the less common guys who enjoy it AND you have some facility for it, it's really like firing a shotgun into a duck barrel. Kino. Social proof. Access to women you might not meet otherwise. Endorphin release. Something in common with the person. Showing your appeal to women you aren't even danc… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/12/17 07:11 AM |
| 9 | My boyfriend seems like Captain material but he's not very political. It matters a lot to me. Does this even matter for a long term potential?Fortunately, I am able to see that this guy is going to be an amazing husband and supportive partner. He is enough because my version of an hb10 isn't attainable and certainly would have no incentive to commit me at my current RMV. To each their own, obviously no one can fully see the dynamic of your personal relationship with this guy, but my perception is that "negotiation of attraction" is what is happening here. I hear a listing of his positive attributes. I hear if you don't lock him down, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/17 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Are women just completely incapable of dealing with stress?Maybe the simple answer is they don't see you as a human being. I know that's actually pretty sad, but it answers pretty much everything. You aren't a human being. You are useful tool. When you are no longer useful, you are disposable. I know a woman who married a man and works for his family business. She works four hours to six hours a week. FOUR to SIX. And complains constantly about stress and needing to cut back. To be fair, I've seen her look at her husband. Standard resentment look. She's… | /r/MGTOW | 20/12/17 03:55 AM |
| 1 | It's not an accident, women are very deliberate when they are using you.Something to consider is when guys here talk about other guys they know getting cash jacked or resource jacked, they are likely talking about guys they work with or are in their social circle or on the fringes of their social circle ( neighbors, relatives of their friends) In the same way that women who like to sleep around try to keep it on the down low, women who are cash jacking are also going to try to keep it super low profile. Emotion jacking is probably more common. Hot girl has ugly guy … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/12/17 12:49 AM |
| 1 | It's not an accident, women are very deliberate when they are using you.^ That's actually a super interesting question. My best guess is that women will assess, like animals in the wild, who are "soft kills" and who are "hard kills" No hunter in the wild is going after the Carl Lewis/Deion Sanders/Billy Hamilton's of antelopes. They are going after the old ones, the limping ones, the ones who look weak. Some dudes are clearly Blue Pill/Beta, but extracting resources might just be a ton of work. One byproduct of the social media age is the alarming trend of folk who … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/12/17 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Sir Ian Mckellan on the sex scandal controversy: women sent directors nude photographs that said" DRR' — directors' rights respected. "- Offering sex in favour for roles..Gandalf/Magneto is a stalking horse, pure and simple. He has a deep background with Bryan Singer, one of those under heavy scrutiny, and even was in a movie with Brad Renfro, whose manhandling from Singer is said to have contributed to his death. Gandalf/Magneto is openly gay. Thus he is socially insulated from any criticism for anything he has to say on this subject. He's also ancient, so at worst, he will be dismissed as a tottering old man. By making the situation "transactional" ( it doesn't… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/12/17 09:16 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend seems like Captain material but he's not very political. It matters a lot to me. Does this even matter for a long term potential?"I'm disappointed" Someone can be attractive. They can be seen as desirable on a social baseline level. Even to many other women. But if you are not truly attracted to them, then you are not. What might be an issue to talk slight pause at for yourself is that you are listing his positive attributes in manner that is almost akin to A) Convincing others and B) Convincing yourself The best unsolicited advice I can give you is would you want someone to marry you if they had doubts about you? If they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/17 11:21 AM |
| 1 | Dangerous Times – Part 1Surprisingly a good amount of my female friends are not crazy irrational feminists and it's nice to not be skewered when I mention how stupid it all is. They might say this stuff to you one on one But some things, of course A) AWALT, always AWALT B) Put enough irrational women around them, and they will likely put on "Join The Herd" T shirts and grab their pitchforks and torches too. Women just aren't going to want to look bad/feel bad to their female peers by standing alone from the crowd, even… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/12/17 10:16 AM |
| 1 | Dangerous Times – Part 1At what point does "Men Going Their Own Way" morph into "Men Forced Into Going Their Own Way" for an entirely different subset of "unplugged" guys? Once you get out of college. It's not the easiest thing in the world to find time to meet new people, this is both for men and women. I'm not saying it's not possible, I'm saying you've got hundreds of things you need to do in a week to survive, work, sleep, if you are here, lift, do some self improvement stuff and there aren't exactly a ton of venue… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/12/17 10:00 AM |
| 2 | Is Formal Education Necessary?If the end goal is to seek commitment and marriage from what is considered, against a social baseline, a "high value" man Then A) A formal education, i.e. something like college is not a prerequisite for a guy to commit to a woman. For the most part, guys don't care about woman's level of education, earning power, career as long as it's not detrimental to a basic lifestyle. He wants someone he finds attractive, who will have non transactional sex with him and is pleasant to be around. B) However… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/17 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Hate From Other Women Because I'm a Traditional Housewife.It's completely human and understandable to stand up for ourselves by hitting back when we are hit first. Two wrongs do not make a right. When someone says, "Be the bigger person", it doesn't mean to stay in a situation where people are being unpleasant and unkind to you. It doesn't mean to tolerate any behavior you don't like. But everyone has the option to simply walk away. "There's nothing good that's going to come out of this situation. This is how they feel, I don't agree, I believe this is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/17 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Hate From Other Women Because I'm a Traditional Housewife.She is single. Works at a dead end job. Uneducated. Cheap swill. You are unhappy because you feel judged. Your response is going to be to judge them back? Why is it relevant what job they work, their dating status, what education they have or don't have, or what they drink? Yes, yes, the base response will be that you have it "better" so they must not like you for it. They are taking jabs at you. You are TAKING JABS AT THEM as well. Our actions say something about us, our REACTIONS say the most … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/17 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Appropriate expectations for emotional support?I'm truly sorry for your loss. My best unsolicited advice to you A) It may be helpful to find a local support group. I.E. specifically other women who are right now or have gone through the same thing. Their experiences and coping strategies, specific to this situation, might help you in some way. I hope you seek it out, I hope the resources are there for you and I hope it does help you B) People can only be who they are. Men are "fixers" This is a situation he cannot fix. What happens a lot, an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/17 07:52 AM |
| 1 | A step-by-step guide on becoming a charming,funny,confident man!I disagree. Be true to yourself. If the OP's suggestions means a person is not naturally an extrovert, but to do it anyway, then that's not being true to who you are. There is ZERO WRONG with being a joke maker, class clown, talks alot, shows happiness, always smiles if that's who you really are as a person. If this is your NATURAL STATE of being. If that's who are person really is, and the advice is to "chill out and be mellow" just so people won't think you are a clown, then FUCK ALL OF THEM. … | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/17 06:45 AM |
| 6 | Low T HubbyNearly all men who are "game aware" will tend to see a wife suddenly making dramatic changes at the gym and fitness as a "red flag" Not a red flag to her health, as it is self improvement, but the questions generally arise 1) Is she preparing her highest SMV so she can land soft when she eventually leaves? 2) Is there someone else already she is interested in and wants to appeal to that person? Sounds like you like the stability, but as you say, you want a "life trajectory without him" Best unso… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 06:55 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend is broken.My take is ( and this is my gut call, everyone else including you can see it how you wish of course) is that deep down, you don't really respect him. Women are biologically predisposed to abhor weakness. It means the person in front of you, you can't be sure he can provide and protect for you and your potential children. You are hardwired instinctively to run, but seems like his SMV is high, and finding that combination of SMV, including a guy you think won't cheat on you, is hard to find, and t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 06:28 AM |
| 12 | The subreddit Deadbedroom is a cesspool of blue pill madness...I disagree. Their "problem" is they got married in the first place. To each their own, but I see the same wheel spin from the Married Red Pill guys - Tell dudes who have marriage problems to go fuck themselves, shame them, tell them to self improve ( nothing wrong with self improvement, at least that's one thing MRP is doing to help dudes) then imply you can take some kind of control over another human being and their behavior. Then MattyAnon shows up, says marriage is a fucked up rigged game an… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/12/17 12:05 AM |
| -1 | The subreddit Deadbedroom is a cesspool of blue pill madness...I disagree. Their "problem" is they got married in the first place. To each their own, but I see the same wheel spin from the Married Red Pill guys - Tell dudes who have marriage problems to go fuck themselves, shame them, tell them to self improve ( nothing wrong with self improvement, at least that's one thing MRP is doing to help dudes) then imply you can take some kind of control over another human being and their behavior. Then MattyAnon shows up, says marriage is a fucked up rigged game an… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/12/17 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Seriously think about who’s writing the shit you read here. You need to learn to think/judge for yourselves.I click on posts sometimes that end up being non-useful to me ( I won't say useless, since it might help someone at different stages of unplugging) because there can be the potential of really helpful replies, where the initial post simply served as a starting point/catalyst to open up the discussion on a specific subject. I've seen some pretty mind numbing type topics where MattyAnon will come in, sling truth like prime John Stockton would dish a basketball then leave like Batman goes ghost aft… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/17 06:56 PM |
| 1 | "I'd love to see her get plowed by a BBC"I've fucked enough wives and girlfriends to know that any bitch will cheat given opportunity and plausible deniability. Well, I'm not a huge fan personally of the idea of banging some other dudes wife, I recognize TRP is amoral ( and to each their own, to determine their own litmus of risk versus reward) Though as a teaching/discussion point, I think it would be interesting if you created a new top level post about women who do cheat and the nuance behind it. Sure there are things usually said l… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/17 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Ignoring a woman will make her want you and Focus on yourselfPro Tip - Give a girl your phone number. Say you are interested and want to hang out. Then walk away. If she calls, she's interested. If she doesn't, she's not. When a woman actually has to expend some kind of effort, then she's likely not within the "negotiating attraction" danger zone. Two things A) Women pick B) Women have made up their minds about you already, usually before you even open your mouth Here's the thing. There are two kinds of sex. Transactional sex and Desire sex. The first kin… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/17 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Want to ruin a girl? Be a mix of Alpha and Beta.If you want to ruin a girl, then be the man she thinks is the best she could ever find anywhere in life, then have her watch you commit to her greatest female rival and give the rival said lifestyle she wishes she had. It would mentally destroy someone. I basically described what happened when Tom Brady ditched Bridget Moynahan, even after she pulled the goalie on him, for super model Giselle Bundchen. Then again, Brady got an Alpha Widow from Leo DiCaprio. So maybe the moral of this story is Le… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/17 08:10 PM |
| 5 | Things are so out of hand right now...PAY FOR IT At some point, for many guys, it will come down to just realizing it's easier to pay for it. I am not advocating for anyone here to break any laws. There are plenty of places where it's "legal" If Harvey Weinstein paid for it ( and he had plenty of money and access to just pay for it), he might one day get embarrassed. But he wouldn't be run ragged like this. (I'm not trying to defend the things he did, he sounds like a douchebag honestly) If he had specific "kinks" or proclivities, h… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/17 07:48 PM |
| 6 | Highly recommend this article on #metooIn the modern workplace, in America, every adult male should be MGTOW by default. I recognize on a social level, outside of work, that won't apply to lots of guys, it's not the strategy they want. But at work, how you put food on the table, you are just better off saying "Good Morning/Good Evening" and only talk about work and nothing else and learn how to have "non conflict small talk" like discussing the latest Pixar movie and basically avoiding any kind of open conflict with women when possib… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/12/17 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Is there an RP explanation/theory?Do you remember the scene in Silence Of The Lambs? Hannibal Lecter ( Anthony Hopkins) is watching Clarice Starling beg him to tell her about Buffalo Bill, the killer who now has a Senator's daughter. What does he say? "He covets. What do people covet? What they see every day." People get bored. Sometimes the simple answer is the person is a jerk. We live in a culture designed to assign some kind of blame for everything. Sometimes the person is a jerk. Yes, there could be something latent from he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/17 03:12 AM |
| 1 | How to add positivity to high value male life.My observation and experience is to defuse what is considered a "high value" man against a Western social baseline is to A) Ask him to show you how to do something B) Ask him to explain something to you that he understands ( whether you already understand it or not is not relevant) A man's weakness is his ego. It's also his biggest strength. Men communicate with other men with strategy and tactics. How to do something or problem solve or do it better. He's in his natural state when he's in "teac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/17 02:41 AM |
| 16 | Don't be fat.I'm going to take a much different spin on this, based on my observation and experience. Be who you want to be and be true to who you are, but be willing to accept the tradeoffs and consequences of that life you have chosen. I used to be friends with a woman who was extremely overweight. Very insightful, good conversation, very astute on how to deal with people and "reading" them. But she wanted to enjoy her food, but also wanted to date a high value guy and fit into the nice clothes she felt go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/17 02:06 AM |
| 1 | 6 year relationship ended because she met a better looking taller and more educated manSorry for your pain. It sucks. Most to nearly all guys have been there at one point or another. Key to note, when a girl wants out, never speak to her again. Never. Never show weakness nor weep in front of her. What she will respond with is not sympathy nor empathy. Deep down, she will feel VINDICATED that she made the "right choice" in leaving you, when you show weakness. If she says you never took her out on enough date nor made her feel special, think about that. She had to DIG DEEP to try to… | /r/MGTOW | 12/12/17 01:29 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with making more moneyThe number #1 cited reason for divorce in America are issues regarding money. 94 percent of all American marriages do not make it to the 10 year mark. (And for those with "money", that decade mark often is a hard line where certain issues with assets come into play, alimony, etc, etc) Some people are not married, but for all intents and purposes, are living in a situation similar to marriage. Something I've learned though observation and experience is this - You have to accept that the person in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/17 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Don't talk about fitness with women.In general, it's pointless to argue with people 99.999999 percent of the time. You aren't going to change their minds. They won't change yours. Save your time, it's precious and walk away. As for family. After some time, you'll come to terms there are certain topics that will only incite them, whether it's rational or not. It's better to avoid those topics. My observation and experience is most women and yes most people will only praise when it's a reflection on them. (i.e. "He graduated from Ha… | /r/MGTOW | 02/12/17 03:29 AM |
| 6 | Men can fight back against the workplace #meetoo trend - withdraw ALL male attention at work"Hide In Plain Sight" If you totally ignore women at work, they will take it personally, then likely gang up and try to ruin you at work. No good. Women don't like to feel bad nor look bad in public. Ignoring them outright does both. If you don't want to be alone with a woman in an office or a situation where she can accuse you, take action but BE SUBTLE. There's nothing wrong with talking about the most recent Pixar movie. Just learn to deflect personal topics. If they want to talk about themse… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/12/17 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Tips on how to STFU?You can only be "who you are" Some people are naturally more talkative. My first suggestion would be to get blood work done, exercise regularly if you are not, and make sure you hydrate and get enough sleep. Failing any of this will create anxiety and some people trigger to outburst and talking a lot when they are anxious. Some people have actual mineral deficiencies (Most Americans are deficient in Vitamin D3 and Magnesium. ) Then I'd just find an outlet. Start your own blog. Your own YouTube c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Would RP men consider it a red flag if their GF asked for an FMF threesome with them?In order to create a "new relationship" under new terms, you have to end the "old relationship" Most people get together into basic monogamous commitment. That's the average. When the guy, if he does it at all, asks the girl to marry him, he's killing the old relationship in hopes of a new one. If she says No, all relationships are over. "Over" and "End" are two different things. Plenty of people have No's to marriage offers and stay together. But the relationship is "over" One person wants one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 02:24 AM |
| 1 | Why Marriage - Part 1 - FinancesThe best way I can see to unpack this is by imagining children. Some people here actually have young children. Some want them and plan to have them. Some might consider it in the future. In any case, if you do have or imagine you have two young children, a son and a daughter, given the way modern society works, would you want them to marry. I really don't care how unplugged a person is in life, odds are they will want their daughters to get married. The "Father" perspective is safety and securit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/17 04:51 AM |
| 9 | Dealing with male/female attraction at work while in a LTRI really don't vibe with most of what PUA theory says ( Pick Up Artists, the precursor to what has become the Red Pill methodology) Most of what it pushes that works is just simple and raw approaching. Take action. That's the biggest takeaway from that system. But the one hard truth from it was from David DeAngelo, who said- "Attraction is not a choice. " You are attracted to whom you are attracted to and that's basic biology at work. No ones fault. How you choose to ACT or REACT to that attract… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 03:51 AM |
| 4 | When did you discuss your timelines?My observation and experience is at some point, even in the early stages of basic courtship, people will talk about wanting or having kids or not ( I suppose people with multiple divorces and already blended families and pre-existing kids, that's a different animal, this thread seems to be, my guess, more focused on two people truly single and unattached) Easiest thing for a woman to do is determine if the guy wants to have kids. If she wants them ( most do) and he says 1) No kids - Then leave. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 10:16 PM |
| 5 | YOUR BEST FRIEND’S WIFE: THE UGLY TRUTHI thing it was Stephen King who’s said when you get three people together you have a conspiracy. “Show me a man or a woman alone and I'll show you a saint. Give me two and they'll fall in love. Give me three and they'll invent the charming thing we call 'society'. Give me four and they'll build a pyramid. Give me five and they'll make one an outcast. Give me six and they'll reinvent prejudice. Give me seven and in seven years they'll reinvent warfare. Man may have been made in the image of God, … | /r/TheRedPill | 28/11/17 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Utilize The Full Potential of Cold ShowersHere's my experience. In the winter time, cold showers run the risk of increasing your chance of getting sick. The downtime possible is a huge drawback compared to the benefits during that time IMHO. I find they are most effective at the gym. After you lift, hot and cold, sauna/steam and shower, that all helps your recovery. When you are running on short sleep, and you need to be alert early in the day, it helps as well. I just know way too many dudes who ended up catching the flu from it when t… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/17 04:29 AM |
| 7 | Since you guys are into Nofap, here is the final conclusionI don't really get the "arguments" over this kind of stuff. Like anything else in life, maybe it would help to try it once, see if it works for you, if it works, keep doing it and congratulations. If it doesn't work, then try something else. Be happy for those who have found their path and don't judge them if what works for them won't work for you. The arguments are bizarre. 5x5 is the best! No, Wendler 5/3/1 is the best! You are wrong! I am right! Sometimes the biggest sin people commit is not … | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/17 04:20 AM |
| 2 | I've lived on TheRedPill for years, I still get depressedThe people I know who are the most profoundly sad ( this is outside of people who are mentally ill and who have had true shitshow upbringings like molestion and the like) are folks who are truly "game aware" I mean life game aware, not just men and women. You can love women. Or you can understand women. You can't do both. That's a quote I like, but you have to expand it. You can love people. Or you can understand people. You can't do both. When you get to the point where you really understand pe… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/17 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Uglier girls are harder to gameMy guess is many of them simply want "revenge" on society and men who rejected them and every woman who is a competitor to her. "See what I got" I think fundamentally nearly all women operate this way mentally and instinctively, but the ones lowest on the SMV spectrum are the ones more likely to outwardly have this constant rage. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/17 03:17 AM |
| 31 | Uglier girls are harder to gameMy observation and experience is that women who fall the social baseline for average attractiveness to men simply fall into deep despair. This is where being ruled by "Feelings" is simply overwhelming for people. If you have lived your entire life where your feelings were always validated, or handled with kid gloves, you become accustomed to the idea that your feelings, all of them, matter. Nearly all men have to get past this to survive. As a man, your feelings mean jack shit. No one cares abou… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/17 03:12 AM |
| 2 | My first engagement about MGTOW with my family.If you choose any path outside of the "mainstream", it's just better, IMHO, to "hide in plain sight" Stealth. Go "grey" if needed. Just tell people you are focusing on establishing yourself and your career first and foremost. If it's a woman who asks, tell them if you met a woman as great as them ( the person in front of you), then you'd do it today, but of course "that quality is so hard to find, won't you agree?") Deflection is a true skill. You are going to be better off IMHO deflecting most … | /r/MGTOW | 26/11/17 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Took a paternity DNA test 6 weeks ago and got the results last wednesday...The best and most effective argument for mandatory paternity testing, in line with "Best Interests Of The Child" is accurate family medical history. For a child to receive the best available medical care possible, there must an accurate family medical history available from both biological parents. Should a child, any child, face ANY risk in terms of their health, no matter if the odds are very very very slight, because one parent refuses to actually reveal the true genetic lineage of the child?… | /r/MGTOW | 26/11/17 03:26 AM |
| 1 | RP male on 'Good Morning Britain with Piers Morgan' - Why men are turning to Eastern Europe.they want a gentleman not a nice guy, there’s a difference Color me intrigued. On a surface level, I get what you are saying. But for the sake of nuance, to see if there are elements others could not see completely, you mind unpacking this a bit more for everyone here? Thanks in advance.... | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/17 03:50 AM |
| 1 | RP male on 'Good Morning Britain with Piers Morgan' - Why men are turning to Eastern Europe.Everyone plays a game, just some people play different games. My observation and experience is that, for the most part, Eastern European woman have come to terms that it's a very small price to pay, to do certain things ( appreciation, being feminine, small gestures in return,etc) to get the lions share of the return they can get from most men back. The major criticism of "Western women" is they don't play any game at all. It's a smash and grab. No Thank You, no appreciation, just demands and ta… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/17 03:48 AM |
| 1 | My Biggest Red Pill Lessons (Part 2)Have nothing in your life, have no attachments, that you cannot walk out on in 30 seconds flat, if you spot the heat around the corner. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/17 09:03 AM |
| 1 | The challenge of a successful LTR.To me, a successful LTR is two years max. If a woman is attractive, has options, solid SMV and "value", she's going to likely want a monogamous commitment. She's going to eventually want to live together, then eventually get married, then eventually have kids. Any woman who doesn't want that, is odds on, just plating you as "useful plate" for the duration. My personal experience, talking to other guys, things I've seen, and even some discussion here over time from other guys, after the two year … | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/17 08:00 AM |
| 1 | Recently married and questioning everything. Unsure where to go from here.You don't have to answer this here, of course, but the question presents itself. Have you recently met someone ( not your husband) who , as you say, "intrigues you, inspires you, attracts you" ? Apply the Golden Rule here. How would you feel if you really wanted to be with someone, and they were reluctantly with you? They felt "unfulfilled and unsatisfied"? My observation and experience is when a woman wants to leave a monogamous committed relationship, she starts to look for reasons to do so. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/17 07:38 AM |
| 1 | When your SO opens up to you: what do you do?Isn't this trying to negotiate attraction? It's a fair question, and I see where you are coming from here. Am I saying to be devoid of humanity as the "Captain"? No. If she's crying. Hug her. If things are bad in her life, you can do things to make her feel better. Sometimes she will need compliments. Sometimes she will need you to listen for a long time about things you probably won't find all that serious in your own mind. Sometimes you'll have to eat obligation as a extension to her ( her fam… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/17 06:36 AM |
| 1 | When your SO opens up to you: what do you do?One prevailing theory is that when women say, Open up to me and share your feelings, I want to help, that it is actually a desire for comfort. Spin this around from a level of survival adaptation/biological imperative ( i.e. humans behaving instinctively to survive) If a dude shows weakness, and we are all cave people with fires and spears, then the woman will have to evaluate - Can this person protect me, feed me and do so for the duration, not just for me , but also for my kids/our kids/our po… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/17 07:54 PM |
| 2 | My Tolerance for ANY Kind of Bullshit took a Big Hit from MGTOWand if I act like a polite kind considerate gentleman, then people will like me, they won't think I'm a douchebag. This is a "covert contract" i.e. taking on a specific behavior for the unspoken expectation of a payoff of some kind. I.E. a certain type of response or validation or attention. Be true to yourself. Some people's base nature is to be a polite kind gentleman. If that's who you or anyone else wants to be, then be that. You can be those things and still have good boundaries, but it's j… | /r/MGTOW | 14/11/17 06:23 AM |
| 1 | She needs commitment but she wants hard dickDuring World War I, there were times when a cease fire would called between two trench lines. So wounded could be pulled off the battle field. So the dead could be dragged out and not become an unintentional form of disease to wipe everyone out in said trenches. Sometimes during the Holidays, they'd have a day where they was a general cease fire. Some sides even would exchange small things they needed. Even when dudes were getting mowed down by the tens of thousands, it wasn't just some non stop… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/17 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Louis CK 'Scandal' and the spread and dilution of OutrageIMHO, male celebrities ( this is a very very very small and niche group in the entire population) should just pay for it. If you get caught paying for it, sure, there's some embarassment, but it pretty much washes out the "He raped me" vibe to it. Most women despise hookers/escorts, because they are a frame hack too the power leverage of the wet roast beef miracle. Hugh Grant got caught. He paid for it. He was embarrassed, but his life was not on the line and he wasn't completely destroyed caree… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/11/17 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Incels got banned. What does that mean for TRP?Generally when something gets canned like this, it's usually for reasons of potential legal liability or projecting future bad PR in general. People start offing themselves and it links back to Reddit in any way, that's not good. It opens up unpleasant social and legal questions. People get triggered to do something violent to people other than themselves and it links back to Reddit in some way, even indirectly, even if it's just a perception issue, it opens up, again, unpleasant social and lega… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/17 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Law 38 explains why a lot of you here are actually struggling.While it's a little bizarre to think about at first, all of the laws you mentioned, including 38, apply if you dance. I recognize not everyone here will dance or will enjoy it, but it sort of goes right down that checklist like clockwork. If there is one thing I've learned, is that social proof matters most when it is "efficient" A college professor with 200 students, he's reaching a bunch of women all at once. He gets to dominate the conversation. He gets to command the attention. It's heavy wo… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/17 04:39 AM |
| 1 | The so-called 'Dark Triad'The base problem I see with "Dark Triad" and the manosphere is the same problem people have all over and pretty much everywhere. People trying to monetize something. There is zero money in MGTOW and Incels. Zero. Guys either out of the game or guys who feel they were forced out. These dudes are not buying ebooks. They are not trending some other dudes stuff on Twitter. They are not lining up to be personal "coaching clients" They are not racking up YouTube hits for someone. Married Red Pill is a… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/17 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Any tips for a girl who's never been on a date before?The best way to learn to handle people is to handle people. Strange, I know Get a job that forces you to deal with people, like sales. Join group activities and group athletics. Chat up strangers at like the dog park and the grocery store ( Start with the elderly and other women first, probably safer to start) The more you have to handle other people, the better you get at it, the better you learn to read other people. Dates are not the only avenue to improve your social skills. Practice in LOW … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/17 03:02 AM |
| 1 | My siblings do not like my fiancé. UPDATE: To invite or not to invite?Best unsolicited advice I can give Imagine your siblings as non siblings. Imagine them as neighbors or coworkers or light friends or associates. Do you respect them as PEOPLE. Is someone you would want in your life BY CHOICE ( Family to some degree, is not about choices very often...) If you RESPECT them as PEOPLE in general, without factoring in the family element, and they all don't like your current mate, then my take is IT'S PROBABLY A SIGN SOMETHING IS WRONG What is wrong, I can't say. If y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/17 02:12 AM |
| 10 | Incels is banned, don't be surprised if this place is nextMakes sense. Sadly they comprise the group most likely to, perception wise, of snapping and doing something horrible in public and reflecting badly back onto Reddit itself. I don't blame anyone for not wanting to get sued, fair or not. | /r/MGTOW | 08/11/17 01:41 AM |
| 15 | It seriously feels so good to watch all of my friends be miserable with their relationships.I do not enjoy the misery of others. Because part of that is comparing yourself to others and doing that is actually pretty toxic IMHO. Nothing productive in comparing yourself to others. Only thing you should compare is the current version of you to the past versions, to see how far you've come and take pride in your progress. | /r/MGTOW | 08/11/17 01:39 AM |
| -3 | I actually dealt with a competent, friendly and helpful woman today. Then I realized that shouldn't be noteworthy.Some people are horrible people in general, but USEFUL and/or ACTUALLY OK in very limited doses. If you only saw her once a week, maybe she'd be cool and funny and OK Had to work next to her for 8 months in a cubicle farm? Yeah, I don't know. Had to take a road trip with her? Yeah, I don't know. Some people are dicks all the time. Some are only dicks if you give them a chance to stretch their legs. Some people like that are useful to know in LIMITED DOSES. You just have to know how to limit them… | /r/MGTOW | 08/11/17 01:36 AM |
| 1 | To those nervous about going to a gym: once you step foot in the door, nobody gives a fuck about you.When I was living in Texas, a new guy joined the gym I was in. He must have been at least 400 pounds. I swear to God, he must have dropped 200 in a span of about 3 years. He was there a lot. Lots of people kept asking him why he spent so much time there. (Maybe trying not to die at 25?) Then I guess there was a period where he wasn't there as much, and the same people nagging him for being there all the time kept asking him where he was because they didn't see him as much anymore. Same as any ot… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/11/17 03:43 AM |
| 1 | LTR help me figure this shit outNever regret being true to who you are. Never. If you are not the kind of person who wants to give a commitment and break it, then don't be. What she is seeking is a "Comfort Test" She wants you to tell her everything is going to be OK and love is forever. She wants you to make her "feel" better. Likely because your SMV and RMV is much higher than hers. Consider this - Basic Red Pill Theory 101 - When a woman says, I love, she means "I love you (RIGHT NOW)" When you say, "Everything is going to … | /r/TheRedPill | 06/11/17 05:28 AM |
| 2 | LTR help me figure this shit outYou are her best option RIGHT NOW You might be her best option for the REST OF BOTH OF YOUR LIVES That's entirely possible. Unlikely in some ways, but possible. The day she is presented with what she FEELS RIGHT THEN AND THERE is a BETTER OPTION, you are disposable. You could be disposable for a minute ( she'll cheat but not leave) or you could be disposable forever ( branch swing) The danger points in any major long term relationship are big transition points. Usually for men in terms of their … | /r/TheRedPill | 06/11/17 04:02 AM |
| 3 | Who Cares if She Cheats!!Guy I used to work with, his uncle and his aunt were in their prime years during the 80's AIDS/HIV era. His aunt cheated on picked up HIV from her boy toy. She proceeded to give it to said uncle. Since the times were different, it progressed into full blown AIDS and both died. His cousins were basically orphaned as kids over that bullshit. Depends on the commitment. If you have a formal monogamous commitment with someone, I'd call it a huge deal. I think what you are trying to say is, if it's a … | /r/TheRedPill | 06/11/17 03:37 AM |
| 1 | "Your" woman likely has strange cock in her.Sometimes I see guys from Married Red Pill on here. ( To each their own right) And they pull the same thing here they pull over there - Shame dudes constantly. Here's some shame and man up, everything is your fault. (As if you can control another person or shape their character....) All for what? To sell some ebook? To sell some personal "coaching"? ( I guess if you wanted to monetize the manosphere, then aiming for guys proven to be resource bleeders for shame is probably a good marketing strat… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/17 10:34 AM |
| 1 | Relationships are like business mergers, approach it as such.The complication I suppose is working a "checklist" is a precursor to negotiating attraction. This was an odd but painfully realistic ( in a show with bouts of serious non realism to it) storyline in Sex And The City. Charlotte (Kristin Davis as the Pollyanna archetype) marries Trey ( Kyle McClaughlin) who is an archetype guy. Hits all the checklist points. Except she wants him for "What He Is" ( status, career, money, looks, envy generation) than "Who He Is" (he's a bore to her, they don't have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 09:59 AM |
| 1 | What is the mans vs womens "jobs" in a RPW household?Duty Versus Favors If you live together with a woman, there are things that guys have to do that are 'duties'. If the roof is busted, your job to fix it. If there is something heavy to move. Your job to fix it. If the sink is busted, your job to fix it. Shut up, dude, do it, deal with it, make it happen. If it fails for something out of your control, it's your fault. If it doesn't happen fast enough, it's your fault. If you need a part and it take two weeks to get it, it's your fault. You are ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 09:33 AM |
| 2 | Are the kinds of guys you're mostly approached by an indicator of what "league" you're in?If a man doesn't approach a woman, he doesn't find her attractive. Or something else is on his mind. In a social situation like a party full of singles, where people are actively looking to "mate" then he just doesn't find her attractive relative to his other options there, the ones he finds attractive are the "something" else on his mind. My observation and experience is that, sadly, most women have a very very very skewed view on general SMV for women, esp themselves. If they use other women a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 09:01 AM |
| 1 | Are the kinds of guys you're mostly approached by an indicator of what "league" you're in?Color me intrigued, what would you define as a "Crazy Nice Guy", I've run into most every TRP concept out there, and I've genuinely never heard of this. Thanks in advance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.I'm going to unpack this topic a little differently. I see there are complicated issues for kids, time, roles and career. Mostly though, I think there is a severe misunderstanding by most men when it comes to most women and issues related to complaining. This topic could be any topic, it could be about parenting roles, it could be about living situations, it could be about traffic patterns, and at the end of the day, no matter what happens in a woman's life. She is going to complain about someth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/17 09:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with gossip?One thing to consider is if it's work or a situation where there could be actual damage done to your work, your career, your work reputation, etc, etc, is when you see two people gossiping in front of you, gently and socially gracefully find a way to exit the room or situation. I've seen plenty of people get nailed later for just being in the same room as two people gossiping. The Rodney King situation is a deeper illustration. (No, I'm not trying to drive this into a political spin here) Lots o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/17 08:10 PM |
| 17 | Introducing the "Leftovers": Formerly desirable women who are past their prime, and who now complain about being single and alone."Nothing fucks you harder than time" - Ser Davos Seaworth Nothing will cure a man of potential oneitis than to literally watch a woman you've had it bad for, just age before you, right before your eyes. It happened to my good buddy. He had oneitis bad in his more Blue Pill days, and in a period of about two years, it was jarring to see how much his beloved had aged. Makeup covers a lot of it, of course, but it doesn't cover everything. When you like someone and they don't like you back, they are… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/10/17 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Reflecting on bad habits I want to quitI hardly think it's helpful for you to make such a strong and sweeping statement about my relationship. Life isn't black and white - most men are a little of A, a little of B, or A most of the time and B just in certain ways, etc. Just as most women on this forum are great partners sometimes, and less great partners other times. To claim my relationship is not "healthy" or "functional" is, frankly, offensive. To claim our 2 largely very happy years are a "waste of time" is frankly offensive. I'm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 11:16 PM |
| 15 | Story of a hollywood broad who fornicated her way to the topSteinfield was phenomenal in that movie. As the story goes, she would receive notes from the Coen Brothers on specific parts of the script on shooting days, then she would literally do her own interpretation of the character. Eventually everyone just left her alone, figuring if it's working, just let her roll with it. She was apparently was approached by Meryl Streep, saying to give up the wannabe music career, and if she wanted to just focus on acting and taking good roles, she could be one of … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/10/17 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Reflecting on bad habits I want to quitMy observation and experience has shown me ( and I understand no one else has to subscribe to this) that women break men down into two categories, once he's past the "I'm OK having sex with this man" phase A) A man she believes is the best she will ever find. Period. Bar none. or B) A man she believes is the best she can get a commitment from, right now. The men in Group A are men that women don't want to lose. When those men talk about their hard day at work, she is going to listen. She is goin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 05:08 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Sleeping with easy girls...I see human contact as a biological and emotional need that is a requirement to keep ones long term sanity. Even if it wasn't sex, but a good long hug each day from a woman who actually and truly cared about you as a person, I think that would do wonders for most guys. Too much isolation is bad. I'm curious for the guys who use escorts, no shit here, what if you just cuddled with them for an hour? Or 15 minutes? Human contact is shown to have positive health and mental benefits to it. | /r/MGTOW | 24/10/17 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Chris Pratt married a hoBranch swinging works both ways, it's just usually never the guy who has the opportunity to pump and dump onto a "better option" Couple of guys I used to work with ended up working in Hollywood for technical support/security, etc. As the story goes, Pratt got famous and didn't hold himself back from his opportunities. His wife or soon to be ex wife has/had a drug problem as well. PEOPLE, not just women, not just men, most will exploit as much as they can get away with in life. It's just not usua… | /r/MGTOW | 24/10/17 09:59 PM |
| 1 | I think I (30)have screwed everything up with my husband (35)and I don't know how to undo the damageI'm sorry for your pain. Big moves are very difficult. Doesn't seem like it was a seamless transition as well. Don't know what to say other than you can't change the before, you can only manage the now. There's a difference between when a relationship is "over" and when a relationship "ends" Sadly many relationships are over, but take a long time to "end" Take for example, a couple who should probably split, but the child is 15 and they both silently wait until the kid is out of high school and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 04:33 PM |
| 5 | What counts as infidelity?"We are judged in life by the company we keep" A person of good character is generally above reproach. Meaning they will not go near anything that could be be perceived to sully their good name and reputation. Snooping isn't justifiable. I don't know what to say except two wrongs don't make a right. He did something that creates mistrust and I understand why. You did something that creates mistrust and I understand why. On the matter relating to him, trust your gut. If it smells like a bad situa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 03:25 AM |
| 2 | Am I out of his league?If he's not asking you out or moving on you in a romantic way, he is not interested. If it's presented to him on a platter, he might partake because it's the path of least resistance, but he's still not interested. Nearly all women just don't like any kind of rejection period. Real or perceived. Too often I see the "positive/negative" spear getting thrown. I.E. here is this amazing quality about me, here is this flawed quality about him, this has to be the reason why. He could be really busy. He… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 03:12 AM |
| 2 | They Ask Me Why I'm MGTOWHow do you have 15 women propose marriage to you? I mean, I'm not saying it's not real, but if it was real, Shonda Rhimes would literally make a TV show about your life. In between bouts of crying and cocaine of course. | /r/MGTOW | 23/10/17 02:41 AM |
| 1 | He offer me an official ring, but don't want to wear any ring himselfSome people work in career fields where wearing a ring is unsafe or possibly creates too many conflicts to be practical. The ring industry has made "Breakaway type ring" where for safety, a ring can detach from the hand under pressure. Not sure how practical that is though. Barring that, for an average civilian, I don't see the huge issue in wearing one. If it's important to you, then it's important to you. It's how you feel, so then feel it. This is the tough thing most guys don't really get ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 02:31 AM |
| 5 | I [32F] never had a serious relationship. Will men assume I've been promiscuous?Men care about 1) Does he find the woman physically attractive? 2) Is she tolerable personality wise/pleasant/not a ton of stress to be around? And that's about it. There are other issues that come into play later, if it's a possible LTR/Marriage scenario ( kids, previous divorces, financial values, etc) but to start, that's about it for men. If a man finds you physically attractive and thinks you are pleasant to be around/won't break him down emotionally from stress/drama, then the rest doesn't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/17 03:42 PM |
| 6 | Women get a man fired because he was isolating himself from them. Thoughts on this story?When it comes to work/career, you have to just learn how to play the "game" No one said it had to be fun, but you have to do it. When people pass the hat for everyone to put in for a baby shower gift for Random Woman X in Marketing, just put in the 10 bucks. When they pass around the card for Woman Y in Research, just sign the damn card. When random Woman Z wants to small talk at the work Xmas party, just humor her. Every so often, buy donuts for the entire office. Don't think of it as a gift, t… | /r/MGTOW | 19/10/17 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Women don't know what they want, but they know what they don't wantWomen want - A) Everything B) What other women want ( Everything) C) What rival women want ( Everything, but mostly so they can say "See Ya' Bitches!" to them) Women want what they want (everything) when they want it ( right now) and never want to ask for it nor express gratitude for it ( Fuck you for not being Chad) | /r/TheRedPill | 18/10/17 05:34 AM |
| 3 | Best Fictional RP CouplesRealistic "relationships" in movies or TV that have some TRP and/or TRPW concepts? Mike Nichols' film Closer, starring Jude Law, Clive Owen, Julia Roberts and Natalie Portman. Brutal movie. But some very honest discussion of relationships and fidelity Short TV series by Neil LaBute - Billy And Billie from IIRC the HD Net channel. Ten episodes, again, some interesting discussion on modern relationships. X Files episodes Small Potatoes and The Rain King. Interesting subtext about relationships, fr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Let’s talk prenups.Best unsolicited advice I could give anyone here is , given the nature of RPW and that the desired goal for many is the Captain/First Mate dynamic, I'd wager the most effective general terms of a prenup would be a "structured buyout" Pragmatically, if she's staying at home to raise the kids, and you are out working, and if the marriage fails ( and 94 percent of marriages don't survive to the 10 year mark), it's not like you can just let your children starve or the mother of your children starve.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Looking for ways to improve my RMVI see male/female interactions into two distinct categories SMV - Is Pass/Fail for Sex RMV - Is Pass/Fail for Commitment If a guy asks a woman out on a date, he considers her Pass on the Sex part. If a guy wants to only date her exclusively, he considers her Pass on the Commitment part. For commitment, there are going to be some universal dealbreakers all the way around ( drug abuse, convicted felons, history of violence, currently incarcerated, in a wheelchair, severely mentally ill, etc) OK, b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 04:12 AM |
| 1 | The reasons why men marryMen will typically pick the strategy most conducive to getting regular access to sex. That's it. If the guy is high SMV, he's going to have access to regular sex all the time. It's working for him, why bother getting married? Guys aren't that complicated about this kind of stuff, it works, why rock the boat? If the guy is higher RMV but much lower SMV, he's not going to have access to regular sex all the time. In this case, commitment and marriage seem like the best path to get regular sex. As a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Surprised by the difference staying at home vs working made in our relationshipMy observation and experience when it comes to men and women and money and relationships ( SAHM and Career, etc, really boils down to money. And money is cited as the number one reason for divorce, i.e. money problem or money conflict in America, and always has been No#1 on the list) , and I recognize these are only my views that don't need to be shared by anyone else here, factoring in my own life, and seeing people around me that I've lived near, lived with, served with, fought alongside, knew… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 02:39 PM |
| 1 | When a beta makes progress, its quite disturbing to women, and I have found nothing but confused, hostile people around me going out of their way to knock me down.Here's the one universal truth I've learned from around the world. People will leave you alone when they understand three complete absolutes about you You will embrace confrontation, if needed, with full measure. They don't know what you are "going to do to them", they only know they won't like it They understand at a certain litmus of your "reasonableness" that you simply won't negotiate and your will cannot be subverted in any way I'm a big believer in being "kind" ( not nice, not a simp, not … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/10/17 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend sets poor boundaries"Get A New Car" Ever have a car that was older, though it was cheaper to obtain, but it had a ton of problems with it. Always needing to get something fixed, always unreliable, never sure how long it would last. This is fine when you are a teenager and this is your FIRST CAR. There's a bit of charm to something sort of hobbling along while you make your way in the world. But the best you can get, after blood, money, sweat and pain is basically getting to just barely reliable. At some point, it's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 02:00 AM |
| 4 | Back when you were dating, what were your non negotiable deal breakers?Previous cheating of any kind. ( You have to wait some people out for this to be revealed. But give anyone enough time and the cracks will show) Substance abuse ( Either they are a crackhead, an alcoholic or their life is defined by their sobriety, none of it is great for a relationship. I do wish those who are recovering the best of luck though) STDs. ( Met a girl I thought was awesome in my past. We both liked each other. Then one day I saw the cold sores on her mouth. She tried to hide them. … | /r/MGTOW | 08/10/17 08:41 PM |
| 5 | AWALT, but some women are more like that than othersWhen you have a hard time with a specific woman ( and this is a very normal thing to happen. I don't care how hard core you are, at some point, somewhere, some woman is going to be able to hit certain buttons of yours and it's just going to be harder ( I did not say impossible) to hold frame all the time around her) , the best course is the give it time. Time and exposure will always reveal the inner hamster. And once they reveal themselves, then you see there isn't much variation at all with th… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/17 06:12 AM |
| 1 | "Where are all the good men?"If a woman does not A) Find you physically attractive to the point of actual lust AND B) Believe you are the best man she's ever met and she will ever find, no doubt AND C) "Respect" you Then it's over. It's over before it's even begun. People talk about Love and Communication, I'm not saying those things are not important, I am saying however that without Lust and Respect, pretty much any modern relationship is IMHO dead in the water. When a woman says "Where are all the good men" What she like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 05:40 AM |
| 2 | 'A way for men to come together': Men Going Their Own Way just want to be left aloneTo be fair, I do think it is a hodgepodge of shaming language instead of trying to take a balanced view from both sides of it. From a pragmatic standpoint, I really do wish MGTOW would make a distinction for certain age tiers. Personally I don't think 18-22 year olds should be making a life long sweeping decision like this. Sorry, I just don't. I believe in AWALT, Briffault's Law, Branch Swinging, There are no unicorns, etc, etc. I believe in all of that. But I don't think a permanent decision s… | /r/MGTOW | 05/10/17 02:40 AM |
| 3 | Lay it on me straight--can I have nerdy tendencies and still be feminine, or should I forsake them completely?Nearly all men use a "Pass/Fail" scale for two things A) Sex B) Commitment The higher the SMV of the guy, the more stringent to Pass/Fail for commitment becomes. Pass/Fail for sex not so much. Guys lower on the SMV spectrum have to trade commitment for sex, almost always. If a woman just wants sex, then this isn't such a huge problem. But most to nearly all women don't just want sex right? They want commitment from a desirable guy. I'm going to say "You" but the intent is not to hyper focus spec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/17 11:12 AM |
| 3 | My husband cheated and I'm not sure how to handle it.My deepest sympathies for your situation and your pain. I'm genuinely sorry and wish what happened upon you to no one. My thoughts further will not be politically correct. I have been on this sub a while now and like all other posts here, this is intended to consider the best possible outcome, first for your child, then for you. Please take what is said with a grain of salt and with hopefully a consideration that my intent here is pure for you and your child. Situation A - You stay. It could be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 01:45 AM |
| 1 | "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." -Marilyn MonroeI see it more of a "status" push/pull than a behavioral push/pull. If a woman is 50 pounds overweight, and a guy she desires mocks her and demeans her for her weight, but if she loses that 50 pounds and suddenly he starts hitting her up for her number and wanting to take her out on the town, my best guess is this is where this quote will tend to apply effectively. The mistake is thinking the guy is "nice" in the 2nd scenario. He was never "nice" or "kind" He's a douchebag, but in the first situa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/17 10:42 PM |
| 1 | "Why so many women cheat on their husbands"Here's my take on it. Live how you want to live, but just don't "say the words" if you don't mean it. That's for both men and women alike. If you stand up in front of everyone you know, your family, your closest friends, your co workers, etc, etc and you say the words - i.e. swear fidelity, then that has to, at some level, mean something. Your word as a person has to mean something if the end goal is the best version of you possible. IMHO, a person who gives their word and breaks it is a toxic p… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/09/17 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Wall Wednesday - Rose McgowanSort of untold issue in Hollywood, that of the "homewrecker" If you are a woman and you get a reputation as a homewrecker, you'll find it's tough to keep getting consistent work. First, there are infinitely fewer parts for women than for men. This is a statistical reality in Hollywood. Second, a small number of women disproportionately take the lions share of roles that are available ( Julianne Moore, Jennifer Lawrence, Amy Adams, Alicia Vickander, Zoe Saldana, Sandra Bullock, Meryl Streep, etc)… | /r/MGTOW | 21/09/17 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Divorce, a set path?My observation and experience from the legal system in America in terms of family law The courts do not punish men specifically, they punish the the spouse who disproportionately outearns the other. Occasionally a woman will get hit in family court and have to pay child support, but it is rare, since most women will only try to date up on the socio economic ladder. Thus more men take the big hit financially in a divorce. There are relationships where, over time, the woman can outearn the man, in… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/17 09:17 AM |
| 7 | People started rumors that I'm gay because I'm not datingMy thoughts If people ask you if you are "dating" or in a "relationship", just say - I'm not seeing anyone seriously right now It's very vague. It's sort of open ended. It's not technically lying. If people ask you what you did on the weekend, just say - I caught up with an old friend from out of town It's also vague. It sort of implies a woman but also does not. If people want to date you, I would say you are training for a specific sport. Rowing, MMA, boxing, whatever. And all your free time i… | /r/MGTOW | 17/09/17 02:31 AM |
| 10 | Consistency into and throughout LTR.In general, I don't think it's possible. The best chance you have are - A) In her mind and perception, you are the BEST she will ever have and will ever get in her entire life B) She lusts after you. In absolute terms. Attraction is not negotiated. C) She "respects" you ( in so much as is possible with hypergamy, Briffaults Law, etc) D) You don't live with her nor share finances with her E) She's a low N count and has some kind of functional self esteem and raised by both parents in a somewhat s… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/09/17 07:59 PM |
| 7 | Short guys aren't allowed to complain about anything..IF you choose to deal with women, it's good to spend some time with a Top 1 percent guy or a Top 5 percent guy. I'm talking the guy that all women want. Even married ones, even engaged ones, even ones with boyfriends. He's such a "catch" that EVERY WOMAN around him is a single woman. The point being there is a MASSIVE DIFFERENCE in how a woman will LOOK and TALK and ACT with a guy she WANTS. And how she will do those things ( much lesser) to a guy she will simply "settle for" right now. I'm not … | /r/MGTOW | 12/09/17 06:56 AM |
| 6 | Girl I am seeing gets visibly upset when I take out a condom..Tips on condoms (YMMV) When you are done, and in the bathroom alone, turn on the hot water faucet, fill the condom halfway with hot water. Pinch off the top with your fingers, shake a little, pour out the water and jizz solution into the toilet. Flush. (Don't flush the condom) Usually there is a dispenser for hand sanitizer ( if it's your place, have it there) Squirt some into the condom. Alcohol based. Use condoms with spermicide as well. If you are visiting her place, bring a resealable sandwi… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/09/17 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on bringing other people into your sex life?My thoughts on this, from my observation and experience.... A) If you are married ( "you" as in a general term, not specifically you OP) and you bring up essentially opening up the relationship, and the other partner is against it, "you" have just ended the relationship. Doesn't matter if you have kids, shared finances, work together, grew up together, none of that matters, IMHO, the relationship dies right in that conversation. One person wants to have sex with someone else ( probably has someo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/17 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Disclose high number?I am going to tread on this one a bit lightly ( well relatively) as I'm weighing out the cost/benefit of discussing a few things that might be helpful to the women here, at least from a male perspective. The kind of guys that I'm guessing most to nearly all women want her, i.e. "Captain" material, are as such because they are leaders and make generally good decisions and generally good risk versus reward choices. Most are also likely socially attuned to women because let's just be honest, most w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/17 04:52 AM |
| 3 | Disclose high number?"High" Versus "Low" can be a bit nebulous. If a woman has only slept with 2 men in her entire life, and both were married to other women, these were full blown affairs, and she was a homewrecker, what does that say? In general, as a rule, the more "high value" the guy's SMV/RMV will be, the more he can demand and ask for a greater degree of "standard" that is uncommon and less the social norm. The guys more likely to NOT care are likely in the 85 percent of guys that most women ( and likely most… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/17 04:24 AM |
| 1 | I got cheated on. Don't be like me.When a woman says, it's OK to do this ( to her detriment in some way) or she would not be angry if you did that ( again, to her detriment or perception of it in some way) you have to translate it. Here's a good example, the roof is leaking. She says, No, no, I don't want you climbing up there to fix it, it's dangerous! Translation - Fix it, right now, you motherfucker. It's your fault you didn't predict the weather in the first place and fix it before. IF you get up there and fall, I don't want … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/09/17 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that beta males are contempt with their state of being?I can kind of understand it. Is he happy being the way he is and is it who he wants to be? While it seems counterintuitive because the ideal seems to be smashing as many thots as possible, I'm a big believer that every man needs a "code" of how he wants to conduct his life. And what he values and how far he will go or not go to get it. If he understands the "game", is OK with the cost of being who he is, and is happy being who he is, even with the consequences, then I say good for him. I suppose… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/09/17 09:37 PM |
| 6 | Why does society look down on men who play video games?There's nothing in it for them. For example, if you were some kind of tournament video game player, the top ranked one in the world, and you made 500K a year from prize money and got to travel and play and destroy the competition and you were in some video game magazines and had a popular YouTube channel and social media outlet for it, then it's cool and interesting and you are passionate and amazing. What women think about what you, as a guy, do comes down to this 1) Does it offer her any benef… | /r/MGTOW | 05/09/17 12:39 AM |
| 1 | The Wall Doesn't care - Angelina Jolie: 'I don't enjoy being single'Base lesson, if you have high SMV/RMV or high status, never complain in public about anything. Women do it for attention, but for men, it would just put a target on your back. Someone should do a pinned post here about Absurd things women have complained about to men in this subreddit. I mean real life stuff where you can only shake your head at the solipsism, lack of gratitude, and just general insanity. | /r/MGTOW | 05/09/17 12:22 AM |
| 1 | I think the purpose of life is to giveMy condolences as well. I believe giving should come from place, as you said, of no expectation of any kind of return. I do think though, how people receive your "gifts" , whatever they are, should be observed and can be very telling about a person's character. I know someone involved in their family business who simply doesn't say Thank You. It appears to be like pulling teeth for them. Don't know if it's linked to some other kind of past issue or conflict, but I've observed it rubs many people… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/09/17 12:05 AM |
| 3 | MGTOW complaining about women - Why is that being used as a counter argument to MGTOW?The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Bitterness is drinking the poison yourself and hoping the other person dies. The best revenge is a life well lived despite those who would wish to drag you down to their level. If you say ANYTHING that a woman does not like, and you are not, in her eyes, a "high value man" then she will likely either dismiss you outright, try to shame you, personally attack you verbally or seek to harm you through your social circle/work, etc. It could be abou… | /r/MGTOW | 04/09/17 11:49 PM |
| 11 | ‘Cheap sex’ is making men give up on marriageIMHO, the "zero sum game" is what is making most men give up on marriage. To each their own ( right?..... I guess...) I subscribe to what MattyAnon has to say about it, which I distill down to A) What are the odds that you will be that fucking lucky B) The downsides are so massive that the incremental odds of you being that fucking lucky create such a diminishing return that it's virtually pointless anyway C) Anyone who wants to tell you otherwise either refuses to acknowledge they were lucky, t… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/09/17 10:58 PM |
| 1 | 1 year later being "best friends" friend of my LTR confesses his "love" for her. I cant stop laughing thinking of the level of BP in modern man.She messaged me saying that she's surprised about this and she never expected him to say this while all the time she kept best friend term always alive. No offense, I call bullshit. Not to you, but to her. Girls ALWAYS know when a guy like them and is interested. ALWAYS. The base rationalization is "since he didn't say anything, I'm not obligated to feel responsible for his feelings or what he does" Basically being cool with having some dude give her free shit, do things for her, give her attent… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/09/17 02:47 AM |
| 3 | CodependencyWhen people give you advice, look at their life. Look at their actions. Do they behave with integrity? Are they good to their word? Do they treat everyone with courtesy? Do they lie about "little things"? What do they say about their past? To me, their is direct advice and indirect advice. Direct is when you admire the person, you admire the way they live their life, you see them as a good solid person and you don't have doubts about their baseline character. If they are a solid stand up person,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/17 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Female narcissism/hypocracyBuild your own power rack (if you have the space and situation for it) You can build one out of wood for not so much. Add in a couple of kettlebells, maybe a medicine ball, a Battlerope, a heavybag and a Concept 2 rower and you'd be sitting pretty. One thing I do like about the gym and the free weight area is you meet many like minded guys. Guys trying to self improve. And you can trade tips/strategies, etc and even possibly make new friends. But if you subtract commute time, time setting up and… | /r/MGTOW | 31/08/17 05:53 AM |
| 1 | My fiance has a dress code he wants me to follow.A good "Captain" understands how to delegate. If the crew is about to mutiny, he takes charge. If the ship is about to sink, he takes charge. If there is a flying dragon named Dracarys with a tiny blonde chick on it who is a horrible actress, about to shoot flames at the USS Dress Code, he takes charge. If there's an argument about the sleeping arrangement for the crew, why would he even bother with that? A GOOD CAPTAIN lets a First Mate run things as they see fit as long as it fits the vision o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/17 01:21 AM |
| 1 | RPW-do I truly want an Alpha and/or why do I keep choosing abusive ones??Stephen Chbosky once said, "We accept the love we think we deserve." Best advice I think one could get in this kind of situation is if your "picker is broken" then stop picking. Translation - Don't date anyone. Be single. I mean truly single. No coffee dates. No online chats. No emails. No flirting. Just completely go dark in your dating life. Take the time to heal and work on yourself. Things that can help Exercise Group exercise and activity ( dancing, hiking, rock climbing, boating, etc) Self… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/17 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Should i tell him the real reason?DEER Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize People in your life are either obligations, debts or choices. Obligations are things like blood family and work. While work is technically optional ( you can find another job/career) it's never ever that simple. Obligations require you to sometimes DEER because that's just part of life. Debts are people you owe in some fashion. Someone who did you favor. Helped you get a job. Cut you a break or opportunity. Gave you comfort or a place to stay or listened… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 07:21 PM |
| 1 | What RPW "idea" DON'T you subscribe too?Moreover, I'm sure the majority of guys who claim the girl's low N-count is important, would pick a decent woman who knows how to properly please them in ways they've never imagined over the inexperienced (and up to a point, uninterested) one who thinks her low N-count is some bargaining chip. My observation and experience and from my travels around the world, seeing other cultures, talking and working and fighting along side other men has indicated to me a couple of universal trends in regards … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 06:19 PM |
| 1 | I'm dating two MGTOW.Here's a thought. "Abuse" is a very complicated issue in dating. One of the biggest problems is that people aren't asked to be born. They have no choice. No one gets to pick their parents. Some people don't win the family/parents lottery in life. I know many people who have been horribly abused as kids. No fault of their own. Lots of sympathy and empathy in that regard. When one gets to be an "adult", things like romantic relationships and friendships are purely by choice. When you engage in abu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 05:32 AM |
| 3 | Is having oneitis as a girl unhealthy? I don't like the idea of having my heart in some guy's hands.My interpretation of "oneitis" here and at TRP is the idea of "Options" Versus "Priority" There's a saying - Never make anyone else a priority who makes you an option Keeping with that, it's never a good idea to make someone else you are romantically involved with such a priority in your life, that you've reduced your own needs, wants, self esteem and a healthy sense of boundaries and self love as something optional. A lot of people, sadly, use romantic relationships as a proxy for having functi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/17 09:38 PM |
| 6 | "We're equal."Most people don't listen. They wait to talk. They love to talk about themselves. Everything is all about them, all the time. You are just a bit player, a cameo in the big grand spectacle that is the Movie Of Their Life. Something I've learned is it's a zero sum game to talk about your true opinions to most other people, because they don't value your opinion. They wait to talk, and if you say something they don't want to hear, you are wrong. You are wrong because you don't see the world exactly l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/17 05:15 AM |
| 3 | The Average Life Of A Western FemaleMost people in America are actually pretty miserable. The top 10 percent of men and women have tons of opportunities and options, the bottom 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women have it not so great though. Don't get me wrong, the worst off "Americans" still live better than 99 percent of the rest of the world. If you aren't a top 10 percent guy, you don't exist to women. Unless you are useful or the consequences are too high ( she works with you, you are her best friends brother, etc) you … | /r/MGTOW | 28/08/17 11:00 PM |
| 4 | I am starting to feel very out of place with myself, and where I stand in society. And with men. [26f]Best unsolicited advice I can give you Never compare yourself to other people. It's a very painful thing to do and it's often the hurt and damaged part of ourselves that judge ourselves and batter ourselves so harshly without remorse. If you MUST compare, only compare the version of you right now, to past versions of you, so you can see how far you've come. So you can be proud of things you did achieve. And so you can see being the "best version of you" is a long road and a series of progression… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/17 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Experienced my first instance of being "virgin shamed" a couple days ago. A few thoughts, and what this meant to me.My thoughts, When asked if you are dating or in a relationship, the easiest thing to say is "I'm not seeing anyone seriously right now" And then change the subject. It's vague enough to mean anything but not an outright denial to encourage more questions. If someone says, "Are you a virgin?/Have you had sex before?" Then say, "Why are you looking to have sex with me? I'm not your type. Your type is probably homeless men with poor dental hygiene..." This is where TRP is dead on. "Agree And Amplif… | /r/MGTOW | 28/08/17 03:17 AM |
| 2 | How can we, an unconventional couple, incorporate RPW into our lives?Things that I've seen help some couples starting out A) Go to relationship counseling. Many people go only when things are bad, but you can go while things are good. Maybe it will uncover patterns early on that can be mitigated that help the relationship B) Go talk to a financial planner together and have long conversations about finances. Number 1 cited marital problem pretty much ever. Living and loving someone can be hard enough without issues over money ( and you can have plenty of money and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/17 03:05 AM |
| 3 | White Knight Wants to Kill off Sex Robots via 10k% TaxShit, I didn't see the "k" there Well, you guys are right, that's just fucked. | /r/MGTOW | 28/08/17 02:58 AM |
| 8 | I lived with an SJW for a week. Here are a few stories from that shitty experienceI've heard a quote before that helped me "Friends are like ties. A different one for a different occasion" Some friends you can talk politics with or just girls. Or some family issues. Or career issues. Some you can't touch certain subjects with ever. What I am saying is it comes down to this ( well for me) - If shit got real bad, would this person stand by me? Would they fight and die next to me if everything went all to hell. Would they take me in if I was homeless and had no one and was broke… | /r/MGTOW | 28/08/17 02:25 AM |
| 1 | 40 millions of Americans are in sexless marriages. That's about a third.http://www.imdb.com/character/ch0020619/quotes "The Wire: The Pager (#1.5)" (2002) Avon Barksdale: He scare you, don't he? D'Angelo Barksdale: You know, I'm just sayin'... Avon Barksdale: He scares me. Yeah. See, if he dead, you know, I could carry it better. Commin' up the way we did, you know, you kind of expect that. Waitin' on it. See, the thing is, you only got to fuck up once. Be a little slow, be a little late, just once. And how you ain't gonna never be slow? Never be late? You can't pla… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/08/17 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Guys of MGTOW, what is it really like to have a girlfriend ?It's a lot of work and effort Like anything with work and effort, sometimes all the toil is worth it. And sometimes, maybe a majority of the time, it's not. Best advice I can give to a young guy is the first two months of any committed relationship will be the best two months it will ever be. The first two years ( maybe) of a long term committed relationship will be the best years of any long term committed relationship. If you really want one, consider the 2 Month/2 Year scenarios. I recognize … | /r/MGTOW | 27/08/17 06:50 PM |
| 4 | Advice: is it important to have an anniversary date?Is it important to you? If it's important to you, and you want to celebrate it, then celebrate it. Is it important to him? I don't know how to answer that part. I think the thing to be sort of careful about is setting a precedent that becomes an obligation. When an act becomes duty or the risk of punishment or anger or disappointment manifested in action, it's an obligation. This could happen on both sides of a relationship. My advice for something like this is if you want to celebrate it, celeb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 02:57 PM |
| 1 | My hair is falling out and my boyfriend is not supportiveYou are already analyzing "What If" in terms of if he will leave you. Generally speaking, on this community, when I get a little push back, and it's not too often, I let it all go, because I'm not looking to broker arguments with people. Also I realize you can't change anyone's mind. That being said, I'm weighing out the value of avoiding a disagreement with a stranger on the Internet versus the value of speaking plainly to you because I genuinely think it will help you here. A good strategy whe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 02:29 PM |
| 17 | On Cheating: "THERE IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN YOU."There are a subset of people in life, not many, who irrelevant to being "game aware" are simply people aware. They can read people, they can gauge motive and behavior and they can predict often what is likely to happen next. I've met a few people like this in my life. And they are all pretty miserable. Once you really learn to "get" how people behave, it's just really disappointing at times. The problem doesn't root at that 99 percent of women will cheat ( that is true), the problem roots that 9… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/08/17 03:48 AM |
| 2 | why feminism isn't helping who it's supposed to (or anyone else)I think the more complicated issue is modern Western feminism is killing off all the "Captains" out there. Without positive male role models and constant social/media bombardment, how do most young boys grow up and develop as functional contributing members of society? If I was a woman, I'd be pissed off too. As a guy, I'd also be pissed off. All this face plant time into a smartphone/IPhone, the biggest complaint I get from most single women around me is no one, not men, not women, can hold a b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 03:23 AM |
| 1 | My hair is falling out and my boyfriend is not supportivebecause they weren't really my fault. Well one way to look at it is this way. Imagine if you have a daughter, or a niece, or a nephew or you have friends with young children you adore. Basically think of a child in your life that you care about and want the best for in life. Now imagine someone in a ski mask held a pistol to their head and said. OK, if you have this panic attack right now and talk about your hair or whatever other issue, I'll shoot this kid in the head. And you understand the pe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/17 09:27 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst dating advice men are told?"Just be yourself" "The right girl will come along, you are AMAZING!" "Communication is the most important thing..." I don't think it's bad advice in general, it's just often laid out there without any form of context involved. Mostly I see them a throwaway lines to avoid having to have any real unpleasant conversations on the subject. My observation and experience is most women, in general, do not want to look bad in public or feel bad ever. So a woman telling a guy, "OK dude, you need to drop … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/17 10:15 AM |
| 1 | My hair is falling out and my boyfriend is not supportiveIn general, like everyone else here, I truly do wish you good health and recovery in this situation. Obviously this place is a community and given a very difficult time, you need support. I think part of the open complication here though is mult-faceted. You've said you have "paranoia and panic attacks" , you've also said this guy appears or just based on your replies, the primary caregiver and/or breadwinner. I'm trying hard not to assign any full judgement if only because it's sometimes hard t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/17 09:51 AM |
| 4 | "Ignorance is bliss"There's a show on FXX called "You're The Worst" I think it does contain a good number of RP concepts and truths built into it. And some not so RP elements as well. ( It is a TV show after all....) The lead female character has massive depression in S2, and she becomes infatuated with a couple next door. Who seem like they have a perfect life and watching them makes her feel better, as if there is "hope" since there are "happy people" out there. But when she sneaks in a spies on them having a con… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/08/17 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Lower 20% of women describe what it's like being 80% of guys.For several years, I was good "friends" with a woman who was probably in the bottom 10 percent of the SMV chart. She was by no means hideous or anything, but she had a weight problem and she had body image/self esteem issues to the core. She wanted a relationship with me but I only wanted basic friendship. She said she was OK with that, but she was not, she wanted to wait me out and change my mind. That being said, she was very very very attuned to human behavior, most of how women behaved ( tho… | /r/MGTOW | 21/08/17 04:01 AM |
| 1 | What are my chances?If you don't love you for you, absolutely and completely, every relationship in your life is doomed to fail at some level. This isn't just about a boyfriend or husband, it's siblings, it's parents, it's friends, it's coworkers, it's even yourself. Regret is brutal. It has no mercy. Here's what I see as the painful truth. The road to being the best version of you requires you to truly love yourself and have good self esteem and build a life that reflects this for you, to value you, to honor yours… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/17 09:23 AM |
| 3 | "What other people think of you is none of your business" and similar quotes: how true are they?Obligations Vs Non Obligations Family and people you work with and for, these are "limited obligations", meaning you can always choose to cut off your family ( as an adult) and change your job/career, but it's never that simple. There's a ton of complexities involved. It's easy to say, don't care what people think in these situations, but it's not easy to do. If your coworkers and boss all hate you, your life is going to suck at work. It impacts you if they think negative about you. If your fami… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/17 08:58 AM |
| 1 | I've been told I what I come across as and I don't like itIn hunter/gatherer times, the women who did not overthink and did not analyze all the possible angles died. Best advice when you get open criticism from anyone ( not at work obviously) A) Look at their life. Do you admire their life and do they conduct themselves with character in a way you want to emulate. If the answer is No ( and it's usually No for most people) , then who cares what they think. B) If someone criticizes you and you don't like it, the best response is to just laugh in their fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/17 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleMost people need to vet harder in relationships. Most people rush into it, and it make sense on a certain level, life is so short. It's hard to meet people. Most people are slogged down with work and trying to survive. The base problem becomes even if you vet hard, people do change over time. Or they fully realize the parts of them that were hidden well and the other person ignored or didn't spend the time to discover. In any modern relationship, man or woman, you have to be prepared for the oth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/17 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Feeling insecure as a result of husband's emotional affairYou have a child. Imagine if that child grew up to be 24-25 years old and around the age where lots of folks marry. Would how your husband treats you, would you want or be OK with someone treating your child this way? If the answer is No, then why should you? If you live and love someone who treats you as an option while you treat them like a priority, that's exactly what you are teaching your child when that kid grows up. It's not what you say around kids, it's what you do, it's what they see. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/17 03:25 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe that women hate each other?When I find an issue that I don't quite fully have a vibe on in terms of male and female or male versus female dynamics, I always look to A) Biological Imperative B) Survival Adaptation We are animals. We are hardwired to survive, then reproduce. And to ensure the best possible success of the human race moving forward. Women who did not compete and did not compete ruthlessly in hunter/gatherer times died. There were finite resources. Men died often, and it was unclear if the guy you were with wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/17 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Becoming More Social: Try Talking To Everyone"Talk only when necessary" is good advice when you have developed the skill set to talk to others without fear and without regret and have good "soft skills" in terms of interacting with people and engaging them. I.E. you have the skill and are now being judicious when using it. However when you are STARTING, this is not the time to hang back and do the "less is more" mantra. IMHO, the key takeaway is operate in a low risk situation. The airport is a good place. You'll see and talk to some peopl… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/08/17 02:46 AM |
| 8 | Shame manipulationFor the past few years at the gym, I've seen the same guy all the time. In those couple of years, he's lost probably 85 - 90 pounds easy. Not counting whatever muscle he's put on while lifting. Very hard worker, clearly trying, but started very big so the results obviously aren't going to turn the guy into a Greek God overnight. I see it all the time, from people who work there or other "regulars" Why is he here so often? Why does he spend so much time here? I would think more people would be pr… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 01:19 AM |
| 5 | I used to want to be rich. Not anymore. Define wealth for yourself and go for it.I'm happy for you OP if you are happy. Life is short, just be as happy as you can for you. Word of thought though, as many say here, it's often better to just not talk about it. I.E. your lack of interest in women in general. This is what I find helped the most "I would, if I met a woman as great as you, but as you know, that kind of quality is just so hard to find, so in a way, you are part of this all, you've set the bar so high on what a woman could be and should be, I couldn't imagine settli… | /r/MGTOW | 13/08/17 09:10 PM |
| 8 | There is literally nothing worse than being a late in life male virgin...Had a neighbor, very quiet. Over time, got to know him, little by little. He loved baseball. I love baseball. So often we'd talk about MLB and that was a good core subject for us. Invited him over for a beer one time. When he was a pre-teen, he fought the Russians in Afghanistan. His position was over run six times. After the 2nd time, his father, his uncle and his two younger brothers were all killed. After the 4th time, everyone still left in his unit had run out of ammo. They were down to sho… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/17 07:43 AM |
| 1 | "Male feminist" asks reddit how to approach a girl who only likes alpha males. Everyone tells him to just be yourself and be a nice guy.Be who you want to be. The problem with "nice guy" is often and almost always, it implies a "covert contract" The person is doing something expecting some kind of return. Being a "nice guy" is a trap. It's validation seeking and a lousy way to live life. It's OK to be a "kind person" but you need very strong boundaries. You also need to calibrate it very well with different personality types. Most people cannot find a strong balance, those who do, to my perception, have a ton of social proof and… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/17 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Why do many women date losers, get pregnant, then become upset after realizing he's a loser?Biological imperative. Women instinctively want to reproduce with "good genes" The "Worst Thing" that can happen to a woman is if she procreates with someone who she falsely believed was a carrier of "good genes" then she realizes he is not as such. Often she will completely blame the guy instead of owning her own poor choice. People, not just women, rush into sex and commitment and marriage and all that. And often it ends up very badly. Women don't want to look bad in public or feel bad about t… | /r/MGTOW | 11/08/17 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Dancing and TRPThoughts on this - A) Whatever the "type" of dance, if you don't actually like the music, you won't like dancing to it. To improve your dance skill, find the core music to the "type" of dance and listen to it in your off time. I.E. when you go for a walk, when you are cleaning, when you are doing something else around the house, have the music playing in the background. Doing this has helped me immensely learning to pick up the beat, rhythm, understand the 8 count, timing, etc. B) Dancing WILL H… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/17 11:42 PM |
| 1 | [NO SURPRISES HERE] Chris Pratt and Anna Faris' 'Insane' Split Shocked Friends, Source Says: They Were 'So In Love'I know of way too many married men who are living way beyond their means and dying every day real fast from the stress of "maintaining" the lifestyle of their "attractive wives" They know if the private schools turn into public schools, that nice house turns into a one bedroom apartment, if those nice vacations turn into camping trips two hours away, then it's all over. I think this aspect is one of the hardest "red pills" to swallow. That trying to find someone to live you for who you are, not … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/17 08:37 PM |
| 16 | USC Student Arman Premjee May Still Be Expelled Despite Being Cleared Of Raping "Unnamed 19 Year Old Woman"There are guys here who bang married women. They talk about it. They decide it's what they want to do. Hey, it's not my life. I recognize that the mantra is TRP and the sexual strategy within is "amoral". I get that, I wouldn't do it, but other guys find it works for them. Here's the pragmatic part I struggle with. A married woman might have a house, a "reputation" as a "decent person" ( gag), a church, a social circle though the parents of other kids in regards to her kids, her work, etc. She c… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/08/17 12:58 AM |
| 1 | All women are whore and will leave you.Here's the problem I see Group A - Women who physically leave you AND emotionally and mentally want to leave you and do Group B - Women who don't physically leave you ( the cost versus benefit situation means she will stay) but mentally and emotionally want to leave you and resents you for her choice The issue at hand is no guy can last forever. If you live with a woman, and there's almost no practical long long term scenario to not live with them, you will eventually have a bad day, show weakne… | /r/MGTOW | 06/08/17 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Becoming an Incredible LiarMy take is there is a ton to talk about out there without having to talk about yourself. People love to talk about their favorite subject - Themselves Most people don't give a shit about you or what you have to say, unless it's of some value to them. The greatest application of Push/Pull I've seen with women are with socially dynamic people, who have charisma, and yet never ever talk about themselves. They drop a line here or there that formulates basically "Shock And Awe" "That reminds me of wh… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/08/17 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Crying is the best antidepressantWhile it's cliche to say now, basically whenever most guys watch the movie Rudy, at the end, it just does them in. The movie, on so many levels, discusses the struggle of being a man and trying to define your own destiny, and that any journey to being a better you is never alone. Yes, you are going "your own way" but you can't do it all alone ( this doesn't mean you need a woman in your life, but you do need good people in your life) Sometimes if you are in a bad place in your life. Find a movie… | /r/MGTOW | 04/08/17 03:56 AM |
| 1 | "You should propose to him"but 70% of men said they would have been psyched for their girlfriend to propose. My guess is, and this is just my conjecture, that when men were asked his question, they actualized it as display of effort Would you like your GF to propose to you = Would you like your GF to make a display/effort towards showing her affection/devotion to you and your relationship. Something to note, most men out there are not Captains. Sucks, but that's just how it goes. Also most women out there are not true RPW… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/17 03:41 AM |
| 3 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?You know what they tell first time hunters? You don't go chasing the prey, you sit patiently in the same spot, you deal with the boredom and tedium and eventually your prey will walk right in front of you. Nothing can replace time and exposure. The more you are exposed to someone and in different situations, the more you will be able to gauge them as a person. Chris Rock said it best, when you meet a new person ( i.e. romantic interest) you are not meeting the real person, you are meeting "their… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/17 09:38 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend prefers a different type of beauty but he loves me for meWhy do you think that he told her she doesn't have his ideal physique? What he did do, to my best understanding, is talk about the physical composition of his exes to her. OK, going to say something sort of unpleasant here and not so politically correct. This is from my own experience, and some a bit from observation and talking to others. When a guy gets a N count to about 25-30, I'd say 99.99999999 percent of guys will tend to come to the same conclusion - All women are basically the same. I d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 10:35 PM |
| 6 | Rant about women's fitness in a feminist worldIn general, on the path of being the best version of you, usually, IMHO, that requires one to A) Avoid people who will drag you down in any sense ( physically, emotionally, etc) B) Avoid arguing with 99.9999999999 percent of people on the planet. You won't change their mind, they will not change yours. The only real power you have in this life, most of the time, is to walk away. No one can have power of your emotions if you aren't there in front of them. Who cares what they have to say? If your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 09:31 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend prefers a different type of beauty but he loves me for meBest life advice someone can give to another - Never listen to what people say, but watch what they do. Their actions tell you the "truth" of the matter. How does he treat you? That's what matters. Does he treat you well, with respect, with regard, with love, with courtesy. Those are his actions. Then that's what matters. If he would prefer a different type of girl, he'd be chasing that girl now. Is he chasing that mythical girl right now? Well if the answer is No and he's with you, then that's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 09:11 AM |
| 2 | Looking for ways to increase my submissive qualityI had an ex GF who played college basketball. Sports requires competition and meritocracy. Well in an ideal sense. Of course politics and nepotism matter as well sadly, but in most cases, if you produce, you play. If you don't, you sit. What you feel doesn't matter. Sometimes you have to subvert your individual wants and goals for the good of the entire unit/entire team. A sport or activity that focus on action/doing and team building, where competition is implied, and is a meritocracy, is a goo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 08:40 AM |
| 1 | Girl In My Friend Group Keeps Talking About Threesome w/ Her Fiance and I Don't Think Its A Smart IdeaPlay Stupid Games. Win Stupid Prizes. Life is hard enough as it is without inflicting drama just for the sake of inflicting drama. I don't want to tell you who to be friends with, I will say this though, people who exercise, to your view, poor judgement with each other, will likely inflict their poor judgement eventually on you. Something I've learned is if it doesn't impact me personally, I live and let live. Maybe it will work out for them ( likely not, likely they will get the "stupid prize")… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/17 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Are men more likely to be committed partners if they've played the field before?People, not just men and not just women, will behave in line with their character. You can, technically, be a man of high character and bed a ton of women. Technically, that's possible. I don't know how likely that is though. You can also be a man of high character with a low N count People with good character who choose to be committed are the best chance anyone has to survive a long term relationship like a marriage. Most people however rush into relationships and rush into commitment. And I g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/17 10:21 AM |
| 25 | How to treat men at work?At work, in the Western world, man or woman, treat everyone A) Like they are a snitch. Anything you say or do can be repeated to someone else for any reason whatsoever B) Like they are a walking lawsuit. If there's some version of events that can get you sued, odds are, someone will find it. I've followed this advice, given to me by an much older woman from HR in a place I worked years ago and it's always served me well. Just keep all discussions about work. If you are in a leadership position, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/17 10:09 AM |
| 1 | No wonder even fat chicks want a chad... I'll just leave this one here....I know a married woman. Through another person. She is shopping for her next guy, I don't think it's much of a secret if you look closely enough. She is starting her own business with another woman, is working out constantly and keeps talking about being "baby crazy" ( She agreed to not have kids when she married her now husband in their early 20s, but she wants them now) I don't think he knows hes basically going to get ambushed at some point with this. She's in her mid 30s now. She wants kids,… | /r/MGTOW | 11/07/17 10:21 PM |
| – | How do you keep the spark after children?One of the prevailing theories out there, and it's met with a ton of resistance, is that any committed monogamous relationship with children has a shelf life of about 15 years. 10-12-15 years. Basically enough time to get the child to a mostly formative state to fend for themselves ( of course this is relative, but in previous times in human history, you had to step up and have adult traits and responsibilities at 11-14, etc) My observation and experience is that most marriages don't last past 1… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/17 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Male friends exist... I think. FRMy take, If you want to have sex with someone, they are not your friend. If they want to have sex with you, they are not your friend. If you both had sex in the past with each other, they are not your friend You can be many things to each other, IMHO, in the above situations, but just not friends. I do, in a way, feel badly for very attractive females. Many women just hate them ( competitive/catty/etc) and many men just fall in love with them. Can men and women be friends? I think rarely and by … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/17 04:10 AM |
| – | People don't really parent their children.Sadly I think a lot of guys here have many of the same issues they just don't talk about. Weak men ( or men who used to be weak) were likely neglected and/or abused as kids. As men now, it's just something you don't really talk about it. It's saying that something is wrong with your genetic makeup ( i.e. that your parents abandoned you or hurt you, or that you carry that brutal side within you) Worked with a literal Top 1 percent guy, he did what guys in his position do sometimes, date a girl wa… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/17 03:56 AM |
| – | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Personally, I think most PEOPLE, not just men, not just women, in the modern age, esp in the Western culture, are simply without any kind of redeeming qualities whatsoever ( Polite way to say I think most people are just a bunch of douchebags) There is, a part of me, that does feel badly for many younger men and women, because many are doing the best they can with how they were raised and educated and socialized. It's not just a lack of family stability or father figures, it's also the pervasive… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 04:34 AM |
| 3 | A word from a place of pain: What I've learned from losing my last female friend.If you've had sex with someone in the past, they can never be your "friend" moving forward If you WANT to have sex with someone at any time, but can't, they can never be your "friend" ever We've all been there. All guys, of all SMV and RMV, have experienced this at some point, so this is not me criticizing you. I understand. We all understand. A woman will hang around you, if you haven't had sex with her yet, if you are useful to her ( useful career like cop or lawyer or mechanic) or you can get… | /r/MGTOW | 30/06/17 03:52 AM |
| – | [Mod] Make the community worth a fuck by not acting like a cunt.Sometimes threads that don't seem useful to first glance get some interesting replies. Sometimes I skip or skim the actual original topic and go the replies, some of the replies have really interesting content. As for endorsed guys, I've read stuff from endorsed guys that has really helped me, they word things and explain things in a easy to digest way that helps to formulate a concept in my head and how to apply it. I've also read stuff from endorsed guys where I've come to terms I'd rather jus… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/06/17 04:11 AM |
| 7 | What shocked you most about women?What always shocks me, and will always shock me, is when I meet or talk to a woman who is a mother, and it is apparent, at least to me, that she doesn't love her children. At all. She might favor one over the other based on circumstances or the value they provide to her, but rarely do I ever see love. What it has done for me is helps me come to terms with this - I don't take it personally that women cannot give me unconditional love. How could they? Most to nearly all don't, to my viewpoint, eve… | /r/MGTOW | 25/06/17 04:31 AM |
| – | Loyal women vs hypergamous women"Three Year Rule" for severe combat injuries. Guy goes to fight. Does fight. Gets injured and maimed. Comes home. She won't leave right then. Everyone will turn on her. Her family,his family, church, her job, her social circle, her "friends", her neighbors, everyone. Everyone. Even if they don't want to, they will have to turn on her. Guy can't walk, can't "function", can't get around, becomes a "burden" about three years in, when the coast is clear, when enough ammo is stored to say he's change… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 03:23 AM |
| – | Why people are disgusted by low SMV people being attracted to themWhy are girls disgusted by guys of lower attraction hitting on them? My take on this - With women, it's all about them. All the time. Everything is about them. Everything to them is about getting validation and attention. This is why when women hear negative things about women in general, they INSTANTLY rush to the defense of all women, not because they care about all other women, it's because she doesn't hear " Most women are like X", she hears "You are like X, aren't you?" When a low SMV guy h… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/06/17 06:12 AM |
| – | Getting over a promising prospect that didn't work out?My observation and experience. Never invest more emotion into someone than they invest in you. People, men and women, who suffer after a breakup, do you think the person that is the object of affection is thinking about you right now? Or are they basically in bed with someone else. When I struggle with being too attached to someone who should be in my past, I imagine them kissing someone else and not thinking about me at all. I mean zero. I'm cool if I am suffering with someone who is suffering … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/17 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Have you EVER met a SINGLE man who advised you to get married?Just about every married guy I know says the same thing, in private, if you get them to just be totally honest. 1) If they have kids, they say they love their kids, would not trade anything in the world for their kids, but the marriage part, they would never do it again. 2) If they don't have kids, they say they love "her" but if they had a chance to go back in time, they would never ever do it again. I'm the last holdout. Every other guy I know from college or work or what not, all are married,… | /r/MGTOW | 10/06/17 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Where did all the good men go?Pareto Principle and Apex Fallacy When most women are talking about "men", they are talking about the top 20 percent of men. The other 80 percent are simply non existent to them. ( Pareto) When a woman says, "I just really want a nice guy who will listen to me and treat me well" What she really means is out of the 10 percent of guys she'd find attractive and sleep with ( Apex), she wants one who will treat her with "soft Alpha" qualities. The problem is most men see women discussing men as inclu… | /r/MGTOW | 10/06/17 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Woman has it all, but she still feels like she needs to "find her self."The thing I struggle with is that men are biologically hardwired to provide and protect. This is how our species has survived through some pretty harsh times in human history. This husband would likely give up his life and fight and die for this woman and their children. If it came to it, he'd do it. Most married guys I know would. Hell, most guys I know period would risk their lives to save a child they didn't know in immediate danger. And that's the part that gets me, I'd fight and die... for … | /r/MGTOW | 10/06/17 06:33 AM |
| – | Understanding infidelityAs an outside observer, it's important to know that your empathy is very helpful and your blame is very unhelpful. No matter how black and white it seems, empathy - even towards the one you think is dead wrong - is very helpful. Blame is very unhelpful. Unless you're the judge, jury or law enforcement, it usually doesn't matter who's to blame. What does matter is - how can I improve? What can I learn from this? Empathy is to identify with the feelings of another. (This is not the same as sympath… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/17 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Doubts about the red pill and the manosphereMen were born to fight. That's pretty much all there is to it. My older brother is a Top 5 Percent Guy. I mean watching women swarm him basically his whole life was surreal. He was also a pure "natural" Just watching him, I learned a lot about what women are and how they behave. I am not however a Top 5 percent guy like my brother ( we can't all win the genetic lottery can we?) One thing I did get more than my brother was my generally aggressive and violent disposition. There are some things I c… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/17 02:18 AM |
| – | Relationship Timeline for Women - from potential date to wife materialMy observation and experience is most guys will marry and settle down when it's "time" Guy is in law school or med school, he's going to wait a few years after he graduates, and he'll get married. Guy will graduate college after four years, a couple of years after, he will get married. A lot of guys will marry if they feel the girl has been loyal ( i.e. she was with me when I had nothing, she stuck by me, I want to reward that) Fundamentally, I truly believe men and women see loyalty in much dif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/17 08:29 AM |
| 7 | Men care more about looks, but women's standards for looks are higher.I don't think every man out there has interest in dancing or enjoys dancing or wants to dance, but I do sort of wish every guy here tried dancing somewhat to the degree that it can highlight how social proof can dramatically shift depending on your status and place in your environments. IMHO, dancing, esp if you are the only guy surrounded by women, is one of the ultimate forms of "peacocking" I have seen women viscerally change their demeanor and willingness around men just from dancing. And th… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/17 08:01 AM |
| – | Charm is probably the most powerful tool when it comes to women, and social interactions in general, more so than money and looks.Common traits I've observed from people I've encountered in life who were "charming" ( not many of them out there) They did not enjoy talking to the specific people they interacted with, but they enjoyed the process of talking to people. It's a huge difference. It could be Person X or Person Y, it didn't matter who or when, but they enjoyed the back and forth banter of conversation. They were active listeners. Most people do not listen, at all. Most people are self absorbed and douchebags. Actua… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 04:40 AM |
| 3 | I feel like such an idiot for waiting too long to have kidsThe best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best time is today - Chinese proverb What it means is you have to let go of your past to move forward with your future. You can't fix what was done, you can make today the best it can be and hope for the best. I recognize this is easier for me to say because I don't have a raging biological clock nor social pressure to have kids around me. Good self esteem comes from accepting yourself, the good parts, the bad parts, the ugly parts. Chil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/17 09:16 AM |
| – | Self worth issuesI once had to give a speech in front of a large crowd. At the time, very young and very nervous. Got a good piece of advice from an older fellow there. 100 years from now, he said, you will be dead. No one will remember you. Everyone you know will be dead. Everyone you cared about will be dead. No one will remember your pain, your shame, your flubs, your mistakes, your regrets. The slate for everyone wipes clean. When I was overseas, if you gave some villagers a stainless steel cooking pot, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/17 09:08 AM |
| 3 | How to better demonstrate value?It's only a failure if you did not learn from the experience. Try to look at it that way. As for "value" - Be the change you want to see in the world. Gandhi said that. Whatever you desire in a partner or another person, strive to be that yourself. If you want someone to truly listen to you, then try to truly listen to others. If you want to meet someone who is kind and generous, be kind and generous yourself. If you want someone who is fit, be fit yourself. (I'm saying these things as generalit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 09:46 AM |
| 10 | Acquaintance who overestimates SMV?My take, Men ask out women, and learn very very quickly what "range" of girl they can probably get. They form a specific utility for how much time and energy they will put into a certain range. It's a cost benefit analysis factoring in their time and tolerance for open rejection. Most women just wait for guys to ask them out. They might put themselves in the way of a guy or be near them to see if the guy will approach them, but many will hold the belief that the right guy ( i.e. the high SMV/RMV… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 09:31 AM |
| 5 | Having a "high SMV" isn't enough if you are an ethnic guy, what actually changed things for me, and what we should be talking about.For non Caucasian men, a HUGE factor is how many "western" features you have. You can be anything, but if you are tall, have broad shoulders, a sharp nose, a rigid jawline, i.e. if you have what are seen as traditionally Caucasian features, you will simply do better than not. And this applies to many cultures. The darker you are, the worse you can be treated. The less "western" you look and act, the worse you will be treated. Many Asian men I see are simply ignored. Just plain ignored. Is that b… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/17 03:07 AM |
| 3 | I am so tired.I worked with a truly top 1 percent guy for a long time. My older brother is a top 5 percent guy. Just by exposure, seeing what most women, married women and women supposedly in committed relationships do around them, or try to do around them, it's pretty sad. As Chris Rock said, most women are constantly evaluating their next best option ( i.e. they know who they are going to sleep with next) The "most" probably comes from factoring in the subset of women who don't have those options, but would… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/17 12:27 AM |
| 3 | How do women find serious relationships in female-dominated college when guys just want to fuck and dump?There's a saying in prison, stare at the same wall long enough, you'll start to see the cracks you've never seen before. ( Basic meaning is time reveals all. Lots of people rush into relationships and sex. Give it time and you'll start to see a person's character develop. Give it time and you'll find the things you thought you liked to start, you did not. Or the opposite. ( though that's much more rare) More practical advice is to socialize where you aren't isolated with the person much. This re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 08:18 AM |
| – | Could you get past infidelity?A person who cheats risks giving you HIV. Being blunt, eventually if you are in a LTR or marriage, you are going to drop the condoms. And it's not like condoms are full proof to start. IMHO, if you stay with a person who cheats, you are saying, "I'm OK with you risking my life because you wouldn't just have the decency to break up with me before you slept with someone else" The person who cheats, what they are really saying is "I'd rather you die than show you basic human respect" No respect = r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 08:10 AM |
| – | Morning in BetavilleI recognize a lot of how women react to men is based on instinct, human behavior ingrained to survive and reproduce, to ensure the species and humanity moves forward. We might have technology now, but it still comes down to women wanting a guy who can provide and protect for her young and provide the genetic stock to ensure their best chance at survival. But it's killing the modern relationship and it's killing the men in your lives. Men internalize everything. Show weakness of any kind and you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 07:53 AM |
| 2 | How important is it to be your SO's type?There is an interesting scene in the movie U571, about US Navy sailors who are stuck in a hunted German U boat during WW2. Matthew McConaghey is the rookie captain forced into leadership and he said, at one point, I don't know what we are going to do. His COB (Chief Of The Boat), Harvey Keitel pulls him aside in private and says, never ever say that to any of your men. You are in command, you need to present calm, leadership, direction, never wavering in yourself or your decisions. When in doubt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 01:08 AM |
| – | Do you actually enjoy dating?If you don't want to deal with the frustration/irritation/conflict of going out on a date, then don't go out on dates. If you don't like how a date is going, get up and leave. If you are going on dates you don't want to be on, you are wasting everyone elses time. It doesn't matter the reason why, you seem to want to look at the reason why as a driver for just shucking any kind of responsibility in the matter. You ask for advice, a guise to dig for attention and validation, and then tell everyone… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/17 11:44 AM |
| – | Is it really THAT bad that I want a man to take care of me?Also, I don't know where you got the idea in op's post that being a SAHM means she only wants to be objectified? I'm making a base point to show a cross comparison. Most women, nearly all I surmise, are not as harshly judged and vetted for financial earning power/resources/assets as men are in the RMV arena. Most women however are harshly and directly judged for SMV and RMV based on her youth or lack of it, her ability to bear children, or if she has them already, her physical beauty and her fit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/17 01:02 AM |
| – | Is it really THAT bad that I want a man to take care of me?Some things Never make a big decision about your life under duress or in a time of personal crisis Nothing wrong with wanting what you want, but employ the worst case scenario, say you meet the "best guy ever" you have kids, a good life, and then he dies, how will your kids eat then? If you want a family, you need to be able to provide a fall back in this kind of tragic event. If you don't want kids, I don't know if most guy will buy into this kind of deal. You may have to come to terms that you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 10:23 AM |
| – | Do you actually enjoy dating?You sound like you are going on 2nd and 3rd dates you don't want to be on, then you say you are letting people down and cycling them out, which is it? In these scenarios, you have ALL THE POWER. With power comes actual responsibility. If you are on dates that make you uncomfortable and/or irritate, that's entirely on you. This issue is a base problem a lot of guys have with dating, the idea that the woman in front of them demands to be entertained, to get entirely what she wants, to have the guy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 10:07 AM |
| – | Do you actually enjoy dating?I can only speak for me, but 99 percent of the time, I find the dating process to be completely and totally exhausting. As the guy, I must pursue. I have to think of something to say, something witty, something interesting, something to stand out, not saying I have to go out of my way to not be me, but I have to focus on assigning the best version of me to be presentable to make a good first impression and break through the "wall" i.e. the general distance between strangers and esp if the woman … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 11:45 AM |
| 2 | Why do people devalue single people?My sister taught me at the tender age of 9 ( She was a lot older and working the corporate world by then) that there is a real art to saying something, but really saying nothing in the workplace. She said you don't want to be "That Guy" , i.e. the outcast, the weird one, the one people won't help to move forward, the one no one ever does a favor for that's work related, the one that they target because every group needs a scapegoat. She said don't talk about your personal life, just talk about t… | /r/MGTOW | 08/05/17 12:47 AM |
| – | Why its not worth being friends with women (As many of you already know)If you don't know what a woman is doing or can't explain it or she seems like an anomaly, something completely different than you've experienced or understood so far, the best bet is to just give it time. Give any woman enough time in front of you, and the outer shell will crack. She might seem different, she might even seem perfect, she might seem like the one that breaks all the previous conceptions you had before, but eventually they all buckle under the weight of holding up the facade. Women… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/05/17 10:30 PM |
| 6 | First time poster. Wife issueActual quote from a lawyer I went to college with ( he was drunk at the time) "Do you know the kind of parent that never gets custody? One that gets caught with a bag of cocaine in her purse. Do you know who can't collect child support? One that gets caught with a bag of cocaine in her purse. Do you know the kind of parent who is going to be too busy trying to survive day to day that you don't have to deal with them? One that gets caught with a bag of cocaine in her purse." Just saying.... | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/17 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed: how to handle pick up lines and flirts gracefully?Wear a fake wedding band on your left ring finger. When outside, wear sunglasses and a hat. When indoors like grocery shopping, wear a hat. People are less likely to approach you if they can't make eye contact with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 06:19 AM |
| 3 | Betas get too much slack and a lot of the information about them is incorrectThere is only one true fix, IMHO. If we had a society where both men AND women were forced to pursue the other sex. If women had to ask out men and this was socially acceptable and encouraged and the general norm, then things would level out. Men learn the hard way, what "tier" of woman they are probably going to get. Women, I think many have unrealistic expectations because they only thin about Yes and No. Every guy who approaches them is 99.999999 percent sure to be interested ( why would he b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 06:14 AM |
| 8 | Six Ways to Make People Like YouMake it into a game in your own head. How much information can you extract from Person X while revealing nothing about yourself. Information is power. The more information you get from others, the more they open themselves up to you and your potential attack on them ( not saying you should do it) Something I found that helped me is to find my own amusement with people/in people, without their complicity. I.E. pumping them for information is a true SKILL SET and there is some value IMHO is being … | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 09:33 AM |
| – | Why do I only attract boring beta males and not alpha males? What am I doing wrong?One of the benefits ( or drawbacks, depending on how one looks at it) of being a guy is this - If you ask out women in a certain range of attractiveness, and they all say No to you, then you have three choices - Raise your value, go to a different tier of attractiveness or opt out of the game entirely At some point, each guy comes to terms, esp as he gets older, of the "range" of attractiveness or desirable traits he can reasonably get. Women operate in a different world. They wait for approache… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 12:17 PM |
| – | Why Would You Want Her To Like You?!Be who you want to be and embrace it. If you didn't want to sleep with them, then don't. Who cares if others think you should of or social pressure says you wasted some kind of opportunity. If you want to do it, but you get in your own way, that's one thing. But if you just don't give a shit, and don't sleep with them, then that's OK in my book, because it's true to yourself and how you want to live. I've found true contentment at times with regards to women when I just don't give a shit about w… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/17 03:04 AM |
| – | How to be more receptive to sexI'm sorry if you are in a difficult situation. IMHO, I think it's important to try to extend empathy with anyone going through a struggle and trying to find a solution. That being said, there are a couple of tough things here. Attraction is not negotiable. Either you want him, or you do not. If you do not, the relationship in substance is over. (Whether it's over in terms of logistics is up to you, plenty of people stay married to people they wish they were not married to in life.) Either you ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/17 10:37 PM |
| 3 | The Life Story of Carol.Some thoughts ( not to take away from the OPs message, which I think has some pretty interesting things to say) 1) Be who you want to be. If your base nature is to be polite, respectful and thoughtful in general, then be that. Just have good boundaries and know how to shed toxic people out of your life. The best thing I ever did for myself was come to terms that all I could do is work to carry the traits I find attractive and desirable in other people. I want to be around people who are thoughtf… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/04/17 05:56 AM |
| 6 | Being attractive will make your life way easierKey to note - No one is treating you "better", there are simply more incentives in place to double check their restraint around you. One of my college buddies ended up as a physical therapist. He has a million stories of "heroes to zeros" where guys ended up in car wrecks or just had a bad hand dealt with health and then you see people flock away from the former Chad. The people who treat you "good" are ones who treated you good from the start. All the time. High status, low status, any status. … | /r/TheRedPill | 23/04/17 05:27 AM |
| 3 | "Looks are everything" is the same as "looks don't matter"Looks are not EVERYTHING. The problem is that CONTEXT, the driver when looks are not everything, takes TIME AND EXPOSURE. Arnold Schwartzenegger slept with a pretty hideous looking housemaid and had a child with her. She was there. She was clearly helping to raise and nurture his children around him. Probably he had time to get to know her personality and her better non physical attributes. Arnie could have had or did have pretty much any woman he wants. He didn't have to pick her to empty his b… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/04/17 11:41 AM |
| 2 | Do guys treat everyone this way or is it my looks?I suspect what is happening here ( my best guess) is unintentional desire for "confirmation bias" i.e. seeking a specific kind of response, or seeking both ends of a dual response, that form a push pull ( i.e. some validating the part of you that doesn't like yourself, i.e. to tell you that you are not attractive and some validating the part of you that wants others to be wrong, i.e. that you are attractive.) Best unsolicited advice I can give you is to find a passion. Music, playing a guitar, r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/17 09:50 PM |
| – | Men "settle"A lot of people are just plain mean. Unfortunately a large subset of that group are women, partially because most understand that there is a clear double standard in terms of how society tolerates men versus women. Chris Rock said it best, most men understand there are certain lines you don't cross and things you don't say, unless you want to fight. At some point, guys will start punching each other. However women can often be as vicious as they like, and men just have to sit there and take it. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 12:14 PM |
| – | Girls Love Sex (A Reminder)if you prefer to pay for what you can get for free, sure, do that It's never "Free" Not trying to broker into your argument with the other guy here, but it's never ever free. Some people spend more time than money, because they have more time than money. Some people spend more money than time, because they have more money than time. Both methods are OK if it works for you. But it's never free. Women make sure, one way or another, that you pay for every last bit of it. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/17 12:45 AM |
| – | Girls Love Sex (A Reminder)Girls love attention, validation and free stuff. If sex is a conduit to all of those things, then they'll "love" sex for as long as it forms some utility for them. The warm wet hole is simply a means to an end. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/17 12:41 AM |
| 9 | The Soulmate Myth = Scarcity MentalityThe three best gifts you can give anyone in this life is to 1) Give them your time. Your time is limited and precious 2) Truly listen to them while being authentic ( most people do not listen at all, they wait to talk or are absorbed in their own bullshit, it's sad and interesting that you could have a four hour conversation with most people on Earth and not once have them ask about you or how you are doing...) 3) Accept them unconditionally ( Easier to do if you have no obligation to them) I do… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/17 12:33 AM |
| – | Women's conquest for marriage: Tony's storyhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78-4RobJQ0Y Sonny: What’s the matter? C: This guy “Louie Dumps” owes me 20 dollars. It’s been two weeks now, and every time he sees me he keeps dodging me. He’s becoming a real pain in the ass. I mean, should I crack him one or what? Sonny: What’s the matter with you? What have I been telling you? Sometimes hurting somebody ain’t the answer. Is he a good friend of yours? C: No, I don’t even like him. Sonny: Well there’s your answer right there. Look at it this way… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/17 12:15 AM |
| 3 | Stop blaming your ethnicity, it's not the problem.Best advice to anyone struggling to get with girls in his area, regardless of your race - Travel See the world. See different cultures. Learn different things. But travel. In the right context, you could do better with women. Maybe not amazing, but better. In primitive times, when hunter/gatherers could no longer find good resources in an area, THEY MOVED ON. Best the best version of you and try to a "context" in where you show your strength and do your best to minimize the things that are hurti… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/17 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Stop blaming your ethnicity, it's not the problem.(Not directed at the OP here) Weary of the idea here that some folks here want to tell others here to shut the fuck up. TRP is a toolkit, and it's a resource. There are very few "safe" places for guys to discuss things that are simply not pro feminism or thing that aren't politically correct. People go through their anger phase. If they have to do it here, they have to do it here. If someone doesn't want to read it, they could always choose to read something else. I knew a guy who rode motorcycl… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/17 11:56 PM |
| 12 | "Young Americans Are Killing Marriage: Millennials are lagging behind on the traditional markers of adulthood"I don't see what's hard to figure out. Chicks want dudes with status. The road to status for most guys is with their careers. To get into most careers, you have to pay your dues. While paying your dues, you have to learn from the "old guys" there, and when you see an "old guy" who has put in decades and living on someone's couch because he got divorced firebombed financially, you realize something is wrong. People are socialized where they spend the most time - Work You see the people at work mo… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/04/17 11:21 AM |
| 1 | Once you experience true independence, you can't go back. Independence from money, women, what others think from you...Want to understand the need for "independence"? Watch someone you care about die slow. I mean real slow. Watch how people flock away from them. Watch how people angle for money if there is an inheritance to be had. Watch how people ignore them once nothing can be extracted from them anymore. Independence is only having interactions where other people need you, but you don't need them. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/17 10:18 AM |
| – | Beta lets Chad fuck his wife. She leaves him for Chad. Classic example.Things he clearly doesn't understand A) She always wanted to do it, she didn't need to be "convinced" , she only did not want to feel guilty about it, nor lose him if it didn't work out B) He did not just "find a guy who was her type", she probably lead him to the specific guy, who she had her eye on for a while C) She didn't have wild sex with him, she had sex with him THINKING about the specific guy she wanted to bang that badly D) She didn't have to "go back for work for a day", she went back… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/17 10:04 AM |
| 4 | Is it foolish for a woman to cycle alone across the Middle East?"There's going to be first class seating on these lifeboats, I hope" Frances Fisher, James Cameron's Titanic | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/17 09:40 AM |
| – | Seeking advice on desiring monogamyDon't get into commitment if you want all available sexual options. But also accept that by doing this, you will likely never find a quality man you desire to commit to you ever. Don't get me wrong, you'll probably find "a guy" to commit to you, but the few truly quality guys out there will filter you out. If you hold up a sign that says "Free Milk", well then no one will buy the cow, will they.... You won't get both, you won't get to have sexual freedom and then get a high quality faithful comm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 08:03 AM |
| 2 | RPW approach to drug abuse"We accept the love that we think we deserve" | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:58 AM |
| – | Is there hope for a girl like me?There is a show on the History channel, which just ended it's third season, called "Alone" They send 10 people into the wilderness, to survive with just a few items. You get a radio beacon and when you can't handle it anymore, you hit the button and you "tap out" of the game. Other than an occasional medical check up, you are truly "alone" with just your camera and do your own filming while trying to survive. The winner of the first season said, if you are going to spend any length of time "alon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:51 AM |
| 1 | Can we address the amount of pent up frustration recently?I see anger regarding female behavior as watching your hope die. It can be both terrifying and also liberating. When you unplug, you have to leave everything behind. You have to leave the old you, the worst parts of you behind. Hope has to die with it. Then you accept the "game" for what it is, not for what you want it to be, and then you are truly free, because no matter what you do from that point on, at least it's the truth. It might be shit in a pail, but it's not shit someone is trying to c… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/17 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Finding good attributes in womenBest way I've found to see women in "context" is to have specific fun activities in your life. For example, rock climbing or dancing or hiking, something where you can participate as a group, the focus is not on each other, but a specific goal or destination and shared attrition/work bonds the group together. It often deescalates the "sex" angle a bit and just allows you to see people in all kinds of circumstances. People you might not meet or talk to otherwise. Context is a huge thing when inte… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/17 07:20 AM |
| 2 | As soon as he sells his companies, his wife leaves and takes half the money.Dude I used to work with told me about his cousin. His cousin is up in Canada. Cousin grew up with a girl, knew her all his life. Dude grew up, went to school, got a good job, bought a nice house, even with a guest house attached. Girl made poor choices, got knocked up twice by a guy who abandoned her, was working dead end jobs and scraping by, at some point, she went to him and told him she was in a bad spot. He took her in and her two kids. Let them stay in the guest house. Told her, well, we … | /r/TheRedPill | 31/03/17 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Please help. I'm not attracted to my husband anymore.I don't believe a relationship can survive without respect and attraction. I've never seen a relationship recover once things start sliding badly for the couple. My personal take is once a woman has seen you as "weak", she will never ever see you in any way ever again. People wonder why men will drag through hell and high water while gut shot and grimacing and white knuckling everything in their lives, this is why. If you cry in public, people will turn on you If you show weakness, people will t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Bruce Bryan & the "Sunken Cost" Fallacyhttp://blog.waysofseeing.org/2009/02/michael-manns-heat-1995.html Neil: Do you remember what Jimmy used to say? "You wanna be making moves on the street? Have no attachments. Allow nothing to be in your life that you cannot walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you spot the heat around the corner." Remember that? Chris: For me the sun rises and sets with her, man. Vincent: My life's a disaster zone. I got a stepdaughter so fucked up because her real father is this large-type asshole. I got a wife. W… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Guys like clingy behavior...?It's OK to shift your behavior to make another person happy, as long as it's not a line where it makes you unhappy. For example, I know a woman, older, who is actually very kind, nurturing and very empathetic. She is really a fantastic person. I have no romantic designs for her, but I recognize she is generally a very sensitive person. I make it a point to show more restraint, to not bring up topics that are harsh or brutal because I realize that empathy meter, it causes her distress and dismay.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 01:24 AM |
| 42 | Will some men never get involved past a few dates if there's no sex?Two roads, they both lead to the same place for a guy. Road #1 - He's just looking for sex and doesn't see you as anything other than an opportunity for sexual release ( sorry, don't want to be too crude here, but being super direct is the only way I think I can translate this key point, this is not a judgement of you, your character or your worth as a person...) Road #2 - He's looking for sex with the possibility for more, but there's a base understanding as men get older and more experienced t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 01:16 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible to be in happy in a relationship after swallowing the pill?I knew a guy who owned a truck in college. Dude was asked to "move" everyone. I mean everyone. When you own a truck, you are infinitely useful in a college situation, esp when people are moving all the time, esp right after college. That's what I see marriage as being like. Moving someone all the time, and you can't say No, unless you want to lose half your money. If you think the juice is not worth the squeeze, get a divorce. I'm not sure it gets more simple than that. It could THIS woman is no… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/03/17 06:57 AM |
| 2 | Confidence vs asshole.Best unsolicited advice I could give to anyone is the "Eight Year Old Test" Imagine the 8 year old version of you. If you are considering whether an action of yours is a good idea or not or moral or not, ask yourself if you could explain it to the 8 year old version of yourself. If you could not, then don't do it. I had an exGF who was a single mother of two. She asked me, once, what should a woman look for in a guy. I said, see how he acts, is it good enough for your daughter. Would you be OK w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/17 08:55 AM |
| – | I just cannot bring myself to enjoy/appreciate womenGoing to say a few things that are just not politically correct. Over time, I've met people, both male and female, who were molested as kids by a relative. Sometimes a parent, or an uncle, or someone close to the family where they were indirectly a "part of the family" I have never ever in my life ever met anyone I knew who was molested and came out the other side in one piece. There is something simply "broken" about them in a way I'll never ( thankfully) understand. My take on guys who can't g… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/03/17 04:21 AM |
| 2 | Splitting financesDo what works for the two of you ("You" operationally being anyone in a committed formal relationship) If two people have divergent financial "values", I've never seen the relationship work long term ( though one party of the two might "surrender" to make it less conflict oriented) If Person A is a spender and Person B is a saver, eventually it comes to a head.... My observation over time is I've never seem a committed long term relationship where the woman disproportionately outearned the guy a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 06:34 AM |
| – | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?There was an episode of Sex And The City where Miranda ( the red headed lawyer) finally snaps and has enough. She says, is all that we do, talk about men, talk about how we get men, how we have problems with men? ( I think SATC says a lot of things about women directly, in subtext and outside the bounds of the writers intent, I think one has to be able to filter it though. Too bad most men won't watch it, because I think it operates as an interesting learning tool) Most men want sex. Most women … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Be yourself. You will, under duress and time, default to your own true nature. This is true of any person out there. Whatever your financial values, whatever works for you, embrace them as long as it fits your lifestyle and needs. I know a woman who collects shoes and handbags. She has like 300 pairs of shoes. Expensive ones. But she works hard, works long, and can afford it while focusing on her life, her needs and not go into debt. Some people are spenders, some people are savers, you won't su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Do women automatically rule out men who have never dated?If you have never dated at 21, well that's not the worst thing in the world. It's probably not that uncommon in some ways If you have never dated at 40, then you'll probably run into some problems. Some things that derive with how to best deal with women come from experience. There is no other greater teacher in some ways. If you are 40 and meet a woman who is 40 and has had 3-4 long term relationships, there are growing pains that will associate with the inexperienced person that the experience… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/03/17 05:45 AM |
| 7 | TRP in the salsa dancing scene. Things I've noticed as a pro...I dance. Oddly enough, when people I know from my past find out ( I don't talk about it much though), they can't quite imagine it. Things I've observed A) Only do it if you enjoy it. You won't know until you give it a fair chance. Someone I knew briefly, I encouraged him to give it a shot, he gave it 5-6 chances and it just didn't click and that's OK too. It's got a ton of benefits, but so does being a doctor. Don't spend 10 years in school if you hate being a doctor or would hate it. Don't spen… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/03/17 05:40 AM |
| – | Where the quality bitches at?A girl I grew up with said to me once, randomly, about other people and other situations "If you want to be happy, never marry a pretty girl" Don't get me wrong, I subscribe to Matty Anon's mantra, which is basically to never marry at all under any circumstance. I think though, to be honest, if you marry a girl who is not attractive enough to garner interest from other men, that might be less trouble in the long run if you decide you absolutely want to marry and have kids. Average height to weig… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/03/17 05:18 AM |
| 7 | Lead and Inspire HerAmongst my own groups of friends and classmates both guys and girls, I'm constantly asking people about their goals and how their going to accomplish them. Everytime someone says "but" or "I'm so busy" or "too lazy" I call them on their bullshit right away. No offense, I don't see much inspiration in those trying to seek outright confrontation. It's their life, even if you don't agree with it. If their values are so radically different from yours and you can't negotiate how to interact with them… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/03/17 12:22 PM |
| 8 | Buying presents for a bitch is like buying chocolate cake for a fat kidPersonally I don't see a problem with gift giving, but there are some more complex circumstances I suppose A) Give only what you want to give and don't expect anything in return ( i.e. no covert contracts) B) If you want to give thoughtful type gifts, small gestures, do it for everyone, not just for women C) Be outcome independent, do it as an extension of who you want to be, and IDGAF and let it be an byproduct of your own true nature I know a guy who brings in food for Mothers Day to his offic… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/03/17 12:15 PM |
| 1 | My man is probably considered "low value" but I think he's got a lot of potential.I suppose the enduring question here is if you think he is of "low value" This is not a question meant as a form of judgement, I don't know you obviously , but it's a sincere question because I think it asks the possible root of your conflict. I knew a woman from college who was in the corporate world. She was very successful. She got engaged to a guy who worked basically in a furniture store. He didn't own it, he didn't manage it, he was just a regular Joe working there. I know it was hard for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/17 02:58 AM |
| 2 | Does it matter what He looks like?My best unsolicited advice A) Surround yourself with people of good character, regardless of status, though you will bond more easily with people of close to similar status as you. Shed poor character people out of your life B) Out of those people of good character around you, see if you actually find anyone you are compatible with, share values with AND find them physically attractive C) If B doesn't work out, be OK with being alone and living the best life you can, for you, alone. Does it matt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/17 01:04 AM |
| 24 | Lowering your standardsI don't think it's unusual to want to raise "standards", esp after a bad dating experience/marriage/co-parenting experience. But "unusual" and "practical" are rarely the same thing. Consider this, if a man tells a single mom that her status and ability to draw in a mate she wants has decline, he will be ignored at best, or demeaned or personally attacked in some way. If a woman tells a single mom this, well women don't do this to each other. They hate each other in silent seething passive aggres… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/03/17 12:36 AM |
| – | Stop trying to prove to women that you're a "good guy"Be who you want to be, up to and including being whatever others would call a "good guy" Do what works for you. TRP is a toolkit, it's not a script. IF someone here wants commitment then they want commitment, more power to them. It's probably harder to negotiate given the tool kit in place, but if it's what they want, need and desire and they understand the risk vs reward, then have at it. If someone wants to be reliable and trustworthy, then so be it. If not, so be it. I'm weary of this same ma… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/03/17 06:03 AM |
| – | Does reading TRP give any of you others serious anxiety?Here is my take, One of the basics of the TRP core values is to improve fitness and diet. Also to reevaluate your current relationship, friendships, interactions, your family, your choices, etc. Getting a testosterone kick, plus having the wool pulled away from your eyes can be jarring as a guy. My observation is the "anger phase" never goes away, it simply becomes something one has to manage with an ebb and flow of time and progress. Sometimes, I do, in private, get angry. Mostly it's anger at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 06:50 AM |
| 3 | in her 30s, she wants charismatic guys(AKA alphas) not nice guys.I dated a woman in the past who had a sister who was an attorney ( I don't think it confers the same status career wise as it used to personally, but that's my take on it) and the sister worked for a friend of their fathers, who owned the company, and she was making 200K a year or so. She was also probably 50 pounds overweight. She said she would only date a guy who was 6'3 or above and made more than her annually. I know another woman, yet again, another with a law degree, who got her law degre… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/03/17 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Concern about SO's gym time...is it legitimate?My take? Unfortunately an ugly reality of discussing "values" in fitness and strategies and methodologies and such, most discussions devolve into pitched battles about who is right on the Internet. Esp when fitness can be almost "religious" to many, then it's like talking religion to people, or politics. Best answer I can give? 1) Never accept being treated like an option by someone whom you treat as a priority. This kind of situation NEVER gets better over time, it only gets worse. Spouse start… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 10:56 PM |
| – | Reoccurring problemIn Robert Glover's book, No More Mr Nice Guy ( though in this case, it would be No More Mrs Nice Girl I suppose) , he discusses "covert contracts" and how they are toxic to people. A covert contract would be, I ask you out, I take you out for dinner, I pay for dinner, then I expect sex afterwards. I feel I am entitled to sex because I paid for you dinner. None of this is verbalized. ( I don't actually feel this way, this is an example) The flip side, a girl meets a guy, she likes him, she was a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 12:32 PM |
| – | Is it better to have friends who you disagree fundamentally with or have no friends at all?Two prong test Does this person treat others in a way they would not like to be treated themselves and this happens consistently? IF you had a child, just imagine this as a hypothetical, and this person was not an adult, but a child of the same character and disposition and personality, would you want your precious child to associate with this kind of person? IMHO, this will wipe out probably 90 percent of people you meet, maybe 95 percent. A more edgy third prong to this test is the "Proof Of L… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Meal MondaysBean Stew Take a couple of pounds of black beans and pinto beans, dry and soak them. Add in corn, green beans, peas, celery, carrots, onions, garlic. Add in ginger, cayenne pepper, pepper, salt, thyme, rosemary and maybe a pound of some kind of meat ( chicken, pork, ham , etc) Add some broth and stew. Add in half a pack of taco or burrito seasoning at the end. Not expensive, good protein, good carbs, lots of fiber, can eat it all week by reheating and healthy and filling. If one wants to lose we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/17 08:08 PM |
| 2 | How to keep n-count low when you are ridiculously horny (serious)IMHO, I not believe FWBs is a good answer to this situation. I do not believe one can detach emotion from sex. I don't care how much one thinks they can make the separation, I think when you have sex with someone, you are taking a piece of them with you and you are leaving a piece of yourself with them. When I see most FWB situations, I see 99.99999999 percent of the time, a situation where one person is truly not invested and the other privately hopes there is a future for something more. It's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/17 08:00 PM |
| – | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI will add, in my view, if you've previous had sex with someone, you cannot be "friends" , you are former loves or former partners, but you are never "friends" Also if the other person wants to have sex with you, then you are not "friends" If a girl called me up and said, "Dude, I want to have no strings attached sex with you right now" and I go over, then she is not my friend and was never my friend. If she called me, said that, and I said, you know what. I'm not into that, I don't see you like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/17 07:48 PM |
| – | Opposite Sex FriendshipsIf you work together and have for a long time or you grew up together from childhood, I can see it being somewhat possible. In terms of work, if it's law enforcement/military/emergency services/medicine/organized religion/sports, these are very unique types of situations and bonds. Shared attrition is a bonding experience, it's a different dynamic, not better or worse, just different. There is a concept called "Work Wife" or "Work Husband" , I think Shonda Rhimes covered this in an episode of Gr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/17 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Keeping up a pleasant dispositionIMHO, the best way to regulate mood is simply to embrace gratitude in life. I've been in places in the world where children are sold into sexual slavery. Where children are armed and sent to fight. Where children don't have clean drinking water. Where there is no chance for education or a future. Want my advice? Write a long letter detailing about all the things that bother you in your life. Things you wish were different. Things you hate. Things you wish you could change if you had "just one mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/17 06:40 AM |
| 4 | A pitfall of the N countI would surmise the best "proxy" example would be less about N Count ( thought that's another huge issue to tackle) and more about single motherhood. Lots of single mothers are in a state of constant rage. All of them? No. Lots of them.... I don't know, it's hard to say sometimes. Many refuse to acknowledge the lowering of their SMV and RMV at the same time ( Dating them is more expensive, more complicated, and more pitfalls are created in trying to find a stable LTR or marriage or re-marriage) … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/17 06:25 AM |
| – | Is it too late?Some sage advice I've been given over the years is there is the version of what you used to be, and those people will always see you as "that person" and will never fully trust the new person they see in front of them. Most people detest change, they don't know they openly detest it, but it challenges them to face their own change, change that says ugly things about their choices and their path in life. Think about it, in order for you to "change", odds are you had to face some truly ugly things… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/17 05:47 AM |
| 2 | Is it selfish to not want to be in a relationship for the rest of my life?"Selfish" is when you choose an obligation and don't fulfill it. If you have kids ( no one is sticking a gun to your head to do it) and you don't raise them right or feed them or see that they develop into decent human beings, then, to me, that's selfish. You are under no obligation to date, have sex, marry, have kids, etc etc. But if you do, once you do, your list of obligations go up. You get married, you can't just decide to stop having sex with your spouse. Happens all the time in real life,… | /r/MGTOW | 05/02/17 05:00 AM |
| 4 | The value of ghosting doesn't come from the other person reaching back out to youEasiest thing I've found is to never talk about yourself in general. Nothing about your personal life, work, money, view on politics, view on religion, controversial issues, family, past mistakes, etc. There are plenty of other things to talk about. A current movie. A local sports team ( which can pretty much operate to avoid any real conversation with most other males) Maybe a local event happening in the city. Focus the conversation on them. People love to talk about their favorite subject - T… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/02/17 09:34 PM |
| – | The value of ghosting doesn't come from the other person reaching back out to youA good piece of advice I read here a few months ago. A guys grandfather gave him this advice. Give a girl you like your phone number, if she calls, if she initiates, she's interested. If not, odds are she does not. And if she's interested but won't call, then you probably don't want her anyway. I never talk about my work, how much money I make, where I live, my career, etc in general. I got to know slightly a girl I was attracted to and over a period of years ( she seemed curious that I never di… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/02/17 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Marriage, and the Logic for NoBiggest deterrent? To me, look at how most married women around you act. Most married women I meet are always looking. They might not be looking at me as the next branch swing, but they are always looking. Many will not even try to conceal that they act in a single manner when they are married. (Good test, are they acting towards you in a way that would drive them insane and into a fury if they saw their husband act that way with a single woman?) Married women I meet who aren't getting what they… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/02/17 05:14 AM |
| 3 | Beware Male Shit TestsBig takeaway - A lot of people are just fucking assholes. But don't let it jade you, just let it remind you to cherish the good people in your life more. The contrast should be enough to remember why those people are in your life in the first place. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/02/17 03:25 AM |
| – | INTJ personality and datingI would not say that "you ruined everything" Be who you are. If someone doesn't want to accept you for you, then they can go f**k themselves. This is not to mean you shouldn't seek to self improve constantly. It doesn't mean you don't have flaws or even ones that could be consistently problematic ones. But no one will accept you if you don't accept yourself first. Part of accepting yourself is understanding you can only be the person that you are, and if others can't deal with it or vibe with it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/17 12:18 PM |
| – | Low SMV and YouThe problem is that for 99% of the women you see out in the world, you know nothing about them beyond their looks. Looks matter more than anything, because unless that woman's looks are enough to get you motivated to try to get to know her better, none of her other traits even matter. People with low SMV need "context" Meaning, over time, a person can see your other traits. People who work together for example. Or people who are in the same social circle. You can see the person in activities and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/17 12:09 PM |
| 2 | On why it is important to always be respectful of your SOPragmatic reason - Most people tend to date within their "social circle" Many people socialize in group dynamics, it's why one of the core tenets of TRP is breaching into "social circles" so it performs as social proof to meet more women. I dance for exercise and because I've found I enjoy it. One thing that I did not expect to happen is it operates as social proof. I found that women who did not know me but observed me dance would disarm around me, and also being recognized and accepted by the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/17 11:51 AM |
| 7 | Being sensitive: a road to failure and miserable life.Be who you want to be. Fuck the entire world if they don't like it. There is however a cost often to certain parts of "you", for each guy. That being said, being authentic, just the best version of you in that authentic form, IMHO is the only sustainable model of actual behavior. Being true to yourself should mean more than just getting a GF or wife or some poon. There seems to some kind of wild disconnect on this subreddit, where some believe that there are only choices. To be an over the top a… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/01/17 10:03 PM |
| – | Valentine's Day DiscussionSorry I have not replied sooner to you. I do try to get back to people when they take the time to comment, it's much appreciated. I did not shame her. I just declined. I've learned over time, if you are going to judge someone, do it silently. Well, whenever possible. Whenever you judge openly, people try to hide more, and they make it harder to reveal things that make them candidates to be nexted in your life. I think it's impossible to not judge at times, but I find its better to not show any o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/17 05:12 AM |
| – | Your SMV directly correlations with how much a girl will do for you.I used to know some people who worked in the music industry (vicious brutal industry from all accounts, if you think TRP is savage, it's got nothing on what happens behind the big curtain for this trade) Story #1 Story I've been told by different people about the same super famous band. Lead singer, name recognition enough to be a household name, A list musician. Was getting a blowjob from a band groupie. Apparently a girl that most guys would drool over. He was unhappy with it. Said to her, we … | /r/TheRedPill | 27/01/17 07:43 AM |
| 1 | You guys are fooling yourselves.Here's the thing that makes me leery in general. And I think this is something, I'd wager, lots of guys here have observed when their SMV has risen through hard work and some changes. When I put in the work to raise my SMV, I noticed and it wasn't hard to notice ,that married women around me, from work, from the gym, from associations with others, etc, would act in a way that would upset their husbands if they saw how their wives acted around other men. This is not a humble-brag, but there are t… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/17 09:58 AM |
| – | Valentine's Day DiscussionA married woman from work approached me, told me her husband would be out of town for work, and invited me over for dinner on Valentines Day. I don't go out of my way to interact with her, it's just as I've started dressing better, getting in better shape, holding better confidence, etc, more women are treating me differently. I would not say better, I would say differently. I, of course, declined her. It actually breaks me heart all the time. It's not just with me, I see so many married people … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/17 08:19 AM |
| 6 | Where can I get a better appraisal of my SMV?Regardless of age, there is what we want and what we can get. A high SMV person, relative to their age, will get what they want in the dating/marriage world. If you want 10 guys, and 8 of them are willing to commit to you, you have high SMV. A low SMV person, relative to their age, will almost never get what they want in the dating/marriage world. If you want 100 guys, and 95 of them aren't willing to commit to you, then you likely have low SMV. What you want vs what you can get to me is a bette… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/17 08:13 AM |
| 6 | How to Encourage a Man to Work-Out?People can't make other people change. At my gym ( I do work out regularly, but no, I don't think that makes me better or worse than anyone else, of course) I know a woman who is married. She flirts with me constantly. It's to the point where other people tell me in private that she likes me and I should ask her out on a date. ( They don't know she's married) She only mentions her husband to me very rarely, and briefly. First to point out he makes a lot of money now with a job promotion. Second,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/17 08:03 AM |
| – | I let an Instagram post upset meThere are two books I'd recommend to you that helped me immensely over time. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover The first has a little bit of a religious spin to it in the beginning and end, but the core four concepts are very helpful. Both books discuss how to set limits with people, but also how to take ownership about how an individual feels and their responsibility versus other peoples influence or responsibilities for our feelings. While it's super b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 11:08 AM |
| – | Makeup & clothing in regard to SMVWell, I'll bite here. As I'm here also to learn and clearly there are nuances of a woman's basic care regarding cost factor that I might be missing, maybe some of the ladies here can share or roughly share what a typical cost budget for them appears to be to keep them in their more desired state of SMV. Since I don't walk down the makeup aisle, I just don't know. Maybe more men in general can empathize with women in this subject and women here, if more detail was covered so we had a better idea.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 01:32 AM |
| 2 | GamerGate: A personal reflection on what brought me to TRPMore relevant is how experienced the man is at spotting cheating sluts and the tells they all have. Be interesting if you started a new post discussing the tells that you see or are common and how you decipher them. Would think it would help a ton of guys here. Also I'd be interested in reading it myself as it would help form future strategy/tactics, etc. Thanks in advance. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/01/17 01:09 PM |
| – | Realizing your boyfriend is not a "captain"Everyone should own, once in their life, a very unreliable car. An unreliable car usually has a lot of problems. You can sink a ton of money into it, but you are just delaying the inevitable, it's a bad investment. And it is a constant worry, drives you nuts and when you need it the most, odds are it's not going to be there for you. You can sink money and time into a broken down old car with no chance to be whole. Or you can invest in a car were the baseline to start is what the bad care would b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/17 09:47 AM |
| – | Makeup & clothing in regard to SMVYour ability to not have the guy carry certain heavier burdens in the relationship will factor into how attractive he finds you, relative to your level of physical attraction. If you look like a young Anna Kournakova and you work at a McDonalds ( not saying there is anything wrong with an honest job), most guys won't care. However the less attractive the woman is in general, the more the situation of having things like debt or no money or tough career prospects become a problem. I also think the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/17 09:37 AM |
| – | Flirting with Men who have a Girlfriend?Flirting can be harmless or it can be cruel, a lot of it depends on context. I know people in certain industries like interior design or marketing or sales, and "flirting" is part of the game itself in terms of career. A bit of a caveat is everyone involved is part of this "game", so to some degree, the flirting is standard and understood to be part of the process and the intention is not "real" I grew up with a guy who had zero experience with women. Never went on a date, never kissed a girl, n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/17 09:16 AM |
| 3 | Do you think hypergamy can ever be a positive thing?^ My observations, from time and experience ( this is in regards to what other people do but not from my own life) There is a small subset of guys who will give commitment talk ( i.e. speak about a future together, talk about marriage, talk about future kids, talk about sharing finances and housing together, talk about introducing to friends and family) simply as a strategy to get the woman to "branch swing" out from her existing relationship to him. He's just looking for sex, his viewpoint is "… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/17 09:50 AM |
| 7 | How can I be less opinionated?There was a scene in The Big Bang Theory, where Sheldon ( the brilliant but socially inept research scientist with Aspergers) had his mother tell him that no one care if you are right if it's not something they want to hear. Here is what has helped me over time in terms of communicating with other people 1) Everyone LOVES to talk about their most favorite subject in the entire world - Them. Focus the conversation on them, if you need to conversate with them and simply reply to encourage their fu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 03:17 PM |
| – | Don't attractive women reach "The wall" at older ages?You can slow down aging a lot if you wear factor 50 on your face and neck every time you go outside or are exposed to sunlight. Most Americans are chronically dehydrated. And most have poor diets. Most Americans are also Vitamin D deficient. IMHO, the balance is be practical about exposure to the sun in general but take Vitamin D supplements ( for most people) and hydrate better. Of course as you mention, don't smoke or drink ( or do drugs) I find that white women tend to age very badly ( esp Ea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 05:54 AM |
| – | Don't attractive women reach "The wall" at older ages?One factor is as you get older, more and more people in your age range are taken off the market. Another factor, as you get older, is that men tend to not live as long. At the far end of the spectrum, there are more women than men, but often I see most women's desire for a certain "standard" does not change. Not much you can do there. Yet another factor is many women want children. If you want a guy you are both lustfully attracted to AND is a good provider/good person, that can be emotionally t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 05:37 AM |
| – | Do you think hypergamy can ever be a positive thing?What is it that the "woman" wants? Most women want commitment. Iron clad lock down commitment. If a woman just wants sex, and she's in good shape and takes care of herself, then she can run off and trade up from guy to guy as much as she pleases. Or trade up in her mind, if that's the case. But again, most women want commitment. One of the big problems is most women also tend to see what they want to see in men. A guy could have no interest in committing to her, but many times the woman will see… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 05:19 AM |
| – | "She's Probably Out Getting Fucked"When I was growing up, a friend of the family, he was older than me, was like a big brother to me. As his "little brother", he genuinely wanted the best for me, tried to guide me, tried to impart the lessons he learned from his mistakes, tried to explain how the world worked to me. As much as anyone in this life, I loved him. To me, he was family. He met the girl of his dreams at his work. She eventually got a better job but they moved in together. Lived together for four year. I thought they we… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/17 04:11 AM |
| 1 | The Gym Is The Perfect Metaphor For LifePeople who judged others for the simply crime of not being just like them. I find people who wage the biggest chip on their shoulder with the giant "Hey, fuck you for not being just like me" are really doing so in a mirror. Are some people at the gym just burning time? Maybe. Probably. There are also folks doing the best they can. Some have injuries or limitations they don't talk about. Many simply don't know how to ask the right question or get help or there isn't a good method for them to unde… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/17 03:21 AM |
| 3 | Not new to RP but struggling with feeling truly feminine on the inside.Best advice I could give - Travel While Western influence is pretty pervasive, seeing and experiencing other cultures is very eye opening for most and often many find a culture that leans a bit more towards their preferences or base behavior. In a few other cultures, the basic social setup is much more family oriented than in the US, and being around it might create a more positive impact for you than trying to change small things for you in the same fishbowl. There's a saying in fitness, if you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/17 10:11 PM |
| – | Always make sure you give her tingles, be alpha, and fuck her silly, or you'll end up like these guys.^ Be who you want to be. Regardless of outcome. A genuine "angel" of a person does so because they want to do it, it's their code of how they want to live their life. Sometimes it pans out, sometimes and most times, sadly, it does not. If you do something, realize you aren't getting what you want, and then stop doing what you thought was "good", it was likely a "covert contract" You weren't doing it for the sake of being true to you, you were doing it because you believed it would get you a retu… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/01/17 08:45 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend says he's getting scared of our relationship becoming so serious?First thing my drill instructor said to all of us - If you need to ask if you need a haircut, then don't ask, just get a haircut. That's all the answer you need. Often, cutting bait on someone is hard to do, we don't want to do it, esp if we've invested in the person. And often we place ourselves in a position to talk ourselves out of the things we know that we need to do, but what we don't want to do. If you have to ask if you should be with someone, to me, that's an indicator that they aren't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/17 06:07 AM |
| – | No one wants to hear your excuses"Tough love" only seems to practically work in actual context. I get weary of the entire "Hey fuck you, deal with it, that's right, go fuck yourself, deal with it you piece of shit loser" Bill Parcells was one of the greatest coaches in NFL and sports history. He was a master manipulator. In interview after interview, not just from him, but even from his former players and fellow coaches, Parcells would ignore some players, bully others, and even coddle some others. He knew how to push buttons b… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/01/17 04:29 AM |
| – | How do you deal with the emotional stress that comes with watching your SO go through something extremely difficult?IMHO, part of an issue like this deals with healthy versus unhealthy emotional boundaries. A good example is "understanding" versus "accepting" I.E. if I have a former childhood friend who is a toxic person now, I can "understand" he had it tough, has challenges, didn't get cut a lot of breaks, suffered, etc, but it doesn't mean I have to "accept" the negative and toxic behavior that is a fallout from it. If you have a child that is suffering, immense pain is part of your instinctive and biologi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/17 02:40 AM |
| 8 | New Relationship - How do I make it last?The only way to ensure the best opportunity for any lasting romantic relationship is to A) Be a person of high character and B) Only associate with people of high character I'm not saying you or anyone else here does or does not, or that this specific situation is one way or another. I mean I just don't know you and him obviously. People will behave in line with their character. Often I see very few people, men or women, assign enough value to high character, many are focused on other thing ( ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/17 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Is it worth dressing feminine when you're still fat?Learning to accept yourself means accepting yourself every single day, given the time and place. Real self acceptance is outcome independent. If you "accept" yourself only on certain conditions, then if those conditions change, your self esteem crumbles like dust. It's not a hard way, it's no way to live. Good self esteem means positive actions are natural by products of valuing yourself. But for many, they have to fake it until they make it. Short term motivation is great, but it's not sustaina… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/17 08:19 AM |
| 7 | How to handle disrespectful people?If you are around someone you find distasteful, then A) Ignore them and walk away or B) Laugh in their face and walk away or C) Punch them in the face I recognize C is a pretty rare type of circumstance though. Recently, at work, a male coworker of mine, he encountered some special needs folks during his lunch break. I guess one of the special needs guy did something out of the norm ( not like the guy understands social context right?) Coworker proceeded to laugh in the kid's face. Who does that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/17 08:09 AM |
| 7 | Being an asshole douche bag worked for me.I decided I didn't want a girl I had to verbally abuse just to get her to respect me. No offense, you didn't "have" to do anything. Key to note is you can't win or earn or leverage respect out of someone who has no capacity to show or have respect. You can laugh in her face. You can ignore her and walk away. Or you can stoop to her level. Still do not understand this full on belief here by many that there are only two possible paths - Being a complete doormat and being a total ball busting harda… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/01/17 07:25 AM |
| 1 | I'm feeling depressed about liberalismBest answer I have is to travel, if you can. What did primitive cultures do when resources were scarce in an area? They moved. They just picked up and moved. The world is a big place. I realize western influence is pervasive and modern feminism/liberalism is like a black cloud destroying everything in it's wake, but I'm just a big believer that if you aren't catching fish where you are, you have to keep moving to different fishing holes. I'm OK with opportunity, I recognize results are not promi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/17 12:38 AM |
| – | To those in a LTR, do you feel this article poetically describes choosing a beta husband over an alpha romance, or the feeling of settling? Or are settling and choosing a beta husband the same thing?My observation, how a woman reacts before, during and after sex with a man usually will give some indicator is she's "settling" ( At least in her own mind. It could be she could "do better" or it could be she has about what she can practically "get". In this case, it doesn't really matter. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and have leverage in any marriage/divorce in most cases, so if she feels the man she is with is beneath her, then the relationship is pretty much doomed) If the woman never ini… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/17 12:23 AM |
| – | How should I approach makeup?I see "makeup" in the same way I see "fitness" There is, IMHO, an emotionally healthy approach to fitness and an emotionally unhealthy approach to fitness. I used to work with a very heavy woman who was very insecure about her body image and her looks and wanted to be very fit simply to attract men/impress people because she needed external validation. It was soul crushing for her to "dress up" and get not one single compliment during the day. She wanted to IMHO get fit for the wrong reasons. It… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/17 11:41 PM |
| – | Be an active participator and ask questions^ Probably be useful to many, including myself, if you ( and the other former and current teachers/instructors here) discussed how students can ask better questions or the methodology to ask/discuss better questions/topics that improve the situation for the student and, indirectly, the rest of the class. Just a thought. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/01/17 09:36 PM |
| – | The Most Powerful Tool in Your Arsenal: The Ability to Walk Away"Let there be nothing in your life, have no attachments, that you cannot leave in 30 seconds flat, if you spot the heat around the corner" Leaving people sucks, esp if you've invested in them in some way, but you have to form your own "code" of how you want to live your life and what you are willing to tolerate, and you have to be true to it, even if it costs you. It's easy to be true to your values when thing are easy, it's when it costs you that you find out what you are made of in life. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/01/17 05:40 AM |
| – | How to gauge your SMVOf the men you find attractive and want to date, how many would offer you an immediate commitment, and be willing to share in your life goals, esp including having children. I want to be diplomatic about this, most guys will have sex with just about any woman who is willing and many will spend the night with anyone with a pulse. To me, a guy approaching you doesn't mean too much, asking you out doesn't mean too much, trying to have sex with you doesn't mean too much, but my guess is most women w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/17 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Not Having Women in Your Life May Make You Unhappy, but a Woman Will Never Bring You True Happiness.Most women are just a lot of work to deal with, and that usually tempers me from loneliness. Don't get me wrong, I get bouts of loneliness at times, humans aren't meant to be in isolation, I've tried it before and it's mentally and emotionally taxing on a person. If you get a GF, like a real commitment, then you have to, by extension deal with her family and friends. I don't care how TRP you are, you can't add someone into your life, without by extension, adding the closest people to them into y… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/17 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Recently I too tried to redpill a friend of mine, he refused to even consider any advice that wasn't in line with his views. Some insight into the blue pill mind and some advice on how to avoid wasting your time arguing with a wall.Rule 1 - You cannot change people Rule 2 - You cannot change people Rule 3 - Your friends are your friends for a reason, that reason is not to shove your values down their throat People if they are ready and willing to change, will do so when they are capable and desire to do so, until then, they can only be who they are given the time and place. A person does not have to be TRP to be your friend or to be a good person or to be someone who you value. Live your life as an EXAMPLE, and you'll find… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/17 10:53 AM |
| – | Why you should watch hardcore porn regularlyGreg Lansky directs and produces a series called "Blacked", which is high production quality storyline porn involving basically white women and black men. It's interesting for a couple of reasons. First, in general, there is a basic industry taboo for many white female porn stars to avoid black male talent. However, Blacked pays so much more and it's now so high profile, that even porn stars formerly in retirement, come out of retirement for the series. Where some women are still holdouts to the… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/01/17 10:09 PM |
| 2 | How to stay happily married? - College class discussionNever criticize in public, only praise. Keep your problems and issues behind closed doors. I cannot emphasize enough how critical an issue I think this really becomes for most people. In general, when I encounter a "gossip", I associate them as low class people. I recognize that's my view and no one has to share it or agree with it. But, at minimum, I don't see a relationship surviving without RESPECT and TRUST and both of those things go out the window with a gossip. One of the common complaint… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/17 07:42 PM |
| 1 | What sets The Red Pill apart from any ordinary relationship adviceBefore there was TRP, there was Tom Leykis 101 and NoMarriage.com I recognize that TRP is far more sophisticated and more strategy oriented, but there were things in the past, not many, but a few, that discussed how men should actively protect themselves. The TWO major advantages of a guy having super low SMV ( and they are probably bitter type consolations to having low SMV in general, who are we kidding right) seem to be A) If 99 percent of women want nothing to do with you, odds are, you are … | /r/TheRedPill | 07/01/17 09:46 AM |
| – | Fathers take to Whisper after finding out their child isn't theirsSomeone can correct me if I am wrong, but in some states, the time limit to challenge marital paternity is TWO YEARS. If you go past the child's 2nd birthday without challenging, then you are stuck. Before that, in some states, you can legally disengage, but to my understanding it has to go hand and hand in full legal separation from the woman and child completely. Don't expect to see the kid ever again ( which may be difficult for someone who has bonded right after birth but discovered and veri… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/17 12:11 AM |
| 0 | I Don't Think You Need to (or should) Hide Your Emotions and WeaknessesStop letting your insecurities get in the way of potentially having great and loving relationships with women. Most of the time, I say "To Each Their Own" In this case, I have to say, however - What the fuck? You are TELLING people how 1) They do feel and 2) How they should feel If they don't agree with you, it's because something is flawed with them. It's arrogant and full of judgement. If what you do, and that probably means sharing whatever you want with women, works for you, then great. Good… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/01/17 11:54 AM |
| 5 | FR: The Crossfit girlMy observation and experience is that Crossfit girls, at least the cute ones, are either in relationships and their spouse or BFs are also in CF with them OR they will tend to only date within their own ranks. It's a very insular culture. Some would call it "cultish" , I think that might be a tad extreme. Like anything else, there are good CF boxes and there are bad CF boxes. The bad ones will smear the reputation of the good ones, however without really a way to hold standards and enforce them,… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 11:12 AM |
| – | Hypothesis on beta orbitersMy take on the OP's post is ( and I think I have a bit of the jist here) is to NOT take any kind of gift nor engage in any kind of flirting at all, if you just don't have interest in the guy period. I have complete and total respect for women I've met in life who are taken ( married or have boyfriends, etc) and don't act "single" Then I've met TONS of women who are in relationships but you'd have zero clue if you actually saw them behave around most men, esp men they find attractive. Also what I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/17 08:40 AM |
| – | Instantly increase your valueWhat I find works for me - Be grateful I.E. be thankful for the blessings you have in this life. If you live in America or in the Western world and reading this on a computer with an Internet connection and in a warm house and will go to bed at night with food in your belly, that's tons more than most of the rest of the world. I've been to places in the world where children are conscripted as soldiers, where girls not old enough to have their periods yet are sold into sexual slavery, where there… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Low smv : reality checkSomeone has to be on the other end of the bell curve. That's just reality. Most guys are in the middle, and if they work hard, they can move to the top 20-30 percent and do OK because most of the rest of men in America are pretty middling and don't give a shit. Some guys are natural Chads and don't have to put in much effort at all. Some guys are really on the opposite end of Chads and that's just some tough shit to deal with in life. Is the juice worth the squeeze? For some, maybe not. For some… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/12/16 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Who did you do it for?Best method I find is if I don't like a question, I ignore it and change the subject. Question I really don't like is when women ask what I do. Since most questions women ask, esp in the beginning, is a financial heat check, I'm always ready to just say something vague and move on. Or say nothing at all. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/16 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Passengers: An AnalysisSeveral takeaways from the film ( Spoilers ahead) Be interesting if the same public reaction by feminists would be the same if Aurora ( Jennifer Lawrence) was woken up first and then she chose to wake up Chris Pratt versus being in isolation. My guess is if Pratt does it, he's a jerk and a rapist. If she does it, she's just so lonely and has needs and it's understandable. Be interesting if the movie ended with Pratt dying and Lawrence now in the EXACT same position as he was, which is to be in i… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/16 01:07 PM |
| 4 | Vulernability with WomenMy observation and experience - Vulnerability VS Weakness If you are dealing with 90-95 percent of women, there is ZERO DIFFERENCE in their eyes regarding Vulnerability or Weakness. In their mind, if you can DO NOTHING FOR THEM, then everything that they don't like or don't want is weakness. These are "basic bitches" Your typical white liberal Western American entitled princess. I'd say 5-8 percent of women were probably raised with strong father figures, had some kind of discipline growing up, … | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/16 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Advice on limbo relationship, injuries and him hitting rock bottomThe only thing I don't like is.... A) People don't change ( OK, they do change, but rarely and often it's only in their own time, usually not in ours or for others in their life who could benefit from it immediately. B) Life is short. If you are unhappy, leave. Not all the horses, and not all the King's men, could put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I'm not trying to be cruel to you here, nor demand you do as I say. I am, however, trying to point out that if there are things about anyone and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/16 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Advice on limbo relationship, injuries and him hitting rock bottomI feel he's being a total man baby about the injury. It's completely upset and hindered his way of life, yes, BUT, with surgery and physiotherapy (6months+), it can be nearly 100% fixed......I do still care for him. ..... Do I cut my losses and move on? ..... I would feel incredibly guilty leaving at a time like this. Ask yourself if you are treating him in a manner that you would like to be treated if the situation was reversed? ( While I don't agree with him showing you his fears and frustrati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/16 01:24 PM |
| 5 | MisconceptionsA consideration of TRP is that many of the people who have evolved past their former selves are off the site or rarely there ( they are out living life and trying to do good things for themselves) A lot of people there posting a lot are new or in a rut there, and often in an "Anger Phase" where their former conditioning and past experiences means rage and frustration. It's projected outwards but often that rage is a proxy for their own disappointment in themselves. No one wants to be a sucker. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/16 01:10 PM |
| 3 | Perfect Example of a Shit TestWhy didn't I just fix it? I don't have an answer. I think this is a super interesting question because, at it's heart, most men, including me, would like to know how much of it is instinctive in terms of a reaction, versus a choice in the matter but a lack of discretion in the time and place. Want to be careful and say the following observations, from my own experiences and from discussions with other men who I've worked with, gone to school with, known, etc, are not directed towards you OP nor … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/16 12:55 PM |
| 2 | In defense of video gameshttp://www.imdb.com/title/tt1518809/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUwD7u7wwcY An exGF of mine led me towards a documentary about a game called Second Life. Someone made a documentary and it's really an eye opening watch. In once case, a wife kicks her own husband out of her bedroom and ignores him and her two kids to have an online affair with a stranger on Second Life. When she finally meets him, clearly the "stranger" rejects her for her low SMV and weight and age and situation and she then… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/12/16 09:58 AM |
| 8 | How Your Man Feels When You Nag: A RealizationMy observation Men, as growing boys, are taught that not all their feelings are valid. Actually, and sadly, many learn, in a negative way, that showing any kind of emotion will result in one of two thing ( or both) A) The other person, usually a woman, distances herself from you and/or B) The other person, usually a woman attacks you ( sometimes directly but often passive aggressively) Women, as growing girls, are taught close to everything they feel is valid. No one tells them to stop crying, o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/16 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Even Alphas get cheated on. AWALTWhen a woman cheats on her man she has checked out of the relationship and it's usually due to death of fundamental attraction and lack of dread from the end of the man. When a PERSON cheats, it's because it is in their CHARACTER to do so. People will behave in line with their CHARACTER. Now not everyone with a shitty character can act on said shitty character. This is due to CIRCUMSTANCE. I.E. you can be a shitheel of a person character wise, have the desire and capacity to cheat, but if you ar… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/12/16 01:01 PM |
| 1 | She loses respect for you when you treat her like she's perfect.My observation and experience is that most people are worthless shitty human beings. Men and women. Of course, women have more social power, esp the attractive ones, to exercise the most shitty and worthless behavior. Some people simply have no concept of basic respect period. In these cases, it's not Situation A garners respect and Situation B does not garner respect, it's Situation A means there is incentive in place to hold the "mask" on a little longer and Situation B means you are no longer… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/16 11:18 AM |
| 4 | You've been valued for displaying beta traits your whole life. Rewrite that script.IMHO, I think it's important to make a distinction between "kind" and "nice" "Nice" lends the idea that people are doing something because they want something back from the other person ( i.e. a covert contract) "Kind" lends the idea that people are doing something because it's just the way that they are, they don't want anything from other people on the basis of their "acts" or "gestures" The art of being "kind" is really that, it's an art. It takes a much tougher balance to achieve to hold you… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/16 04:50 AM |
| 10 | University Kangaroo Court Suspends 10 Innocent Football Players, Entire Team BoycottsCore lesson here, IMHO is A) If a girl is drunk, just walk away (i.e. walk away in a way that makes sense, don't leave her passed out in front of a bus station, etc) To me, it's basic abundance theory, plenty of girls out there and plenty who won't have to bring alcohol into the mix and use it as a pretext to destroy your life. Plenty of ways to have fun and socialize without drinking. I realize that's tougher in college, but a scandal like this can ruin your life, why take a chance? B) While it… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/16 04:30 AM |
| 3 | Realizing that nobody gives a shit about you should be the most liberating thing you think.I believe in the "bank" theory. Most relationships are like banks, sometimes you put in deposits, sometimes you have to take out a withdrawal. Now with women, it's Briffault's Law, doesn't matter how much you put into it, they don't care, when you stop being useful, you can go fuck yourself. On the other hand, if you've put in good deposits for a long time, and generally never ask anyone for anything, you will likely get more rope with people of good character. Will they stay forever if things g… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/12/16 10:17 PM |
| 7 | Helping my slutty exGF cheat on her fianceShe ( the exGF) denigrated you by cheating on you. You denigrated yourself by continuing to interact with her. Tons of other women you could sleep with if you just wanted sex. She tried to take your "frame" from you by cheating on you, seeing if you'd stay like a sucker. You held frame by walking away. Then you gave your frame away for some pussy. Lots of way to define frame, my way? Frame = Dignity. NEVER give your dignity away to anyone. Pride? Sure, everyone has to swallow their pride in life… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/12/16 10:02 PM |
| 6 | Well, I'm a whiny little bitch over falling for a girl I knew wasn't available. Please tell me that I'm being a whiny little bitch.Something that helps is something that only time can give you - Contrast. Was hung up on a girl from college while in college. I mean I was bonkers over this girl. She was taken but she kept me in orbit like a Blue Pilled numbskull that I was at the time. Post college, she was married, overweight, then divorced ( after cheating) and pretty much when you took away the "cute", all that was left was pretty much the same person that she was in college, a really flaky high maintenance overly emotiona… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/12/16 07:43 AM |
| 3 | To All The Guys Recently DESTROYED By A WomanYour point is interesting but I'm still unclear on what exactly settling means. Could you elaborate? It's sort of hard to explain without seeing the "contrast" For example, I used to work with three people. Two were guys, one was a girl. Guy A dated Girl C, they were boyfriend and girlfriend for a couple of years. Guy A treated her like a plate basically, she was all over him, desperately wanted him to marry her. He did not, and broke up with her and devastated her, she stayed around though, to … | /r/TheRedPill | 12/12/16 07:05 AM |
| 7 | Professor and PhD in women's studies: "I think about you constantly when my boyfriend is fucking me."can you ever REALLY know someone? I think if you spend enough time with someone and see them in a variation of circumstances, that yes, the "red flags" are always there, though it's not always easy for men to see it in women ( they communicate differently) and it's hard to be objective when your feelings are in the way. What helps is more exposure to people, esp women, in general. The more you have exposure, the more you are aware of their tactics, games, bullshit, etc. This is maybe the ONE adv… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/12/16 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Do you value your time?IMHO, best and first way to "value your time" is to shed super shitty people out of your life. There is no way to describe how much better your life can be IMMEDIATELY just be shedding people are worthless pieces of shit. And, in life, there are a right massive ton of them. On the flip side, still believe as you meet new people, give everyone a genuine chance to show you who are they are and what they want with you, there are some truly amazing and great people out there, just not many of them. … | /r/TheRedPill | 11/12/16 12:10 AM |
| 3 | What does the friend zone mean to a woman?I have female acquaintances, but have never seen the appeal of having a female friend. It's very rare, but I have met women who can A) Understand women very well and be objective about how most women act ( but the catch is this particular woman will never be objective about how SHE SPECIFICALLY ACTS, you have to accept that distinction) B) Understands mostly how men communicate best C) Will take the time and effort ( she probably likes you or wants a relationship with you and sees this as the be… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/12/16 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Same Scenario. Roles Reversed.There's a saying, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with in life. I went to college with a girl I was absolutely bonkers over back then. I mean there were massive red flags all over and I was just head over heels. Later I ran into her post college, she was married. Out of her five closest female friends, four had cheated on and left their husbands. When she was talking about her current husband, clearly she had been Alpha Widowed by the guy before him. And her exact … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/16 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Short guys please share your experiencesThings from my observation and experience. Your margin of error tends to get much smaller than anyone with similar attributes but who is taller. Your success rate will go up if you are in a location where men in general are shorter Your success rate will go up if you operate in 'contrast', i.e. if you dance, or a male nurse or any environment where men are simply rarer to participate or work. Some of the guys who sleep with lots of beautiful women are photographers, i.e the ones who do modeling … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/16 12:23 PM |
| 1 | 7 Ways To Really Treat WomenBe Confident, Not Arrogant My observation and experience is how to best to apply and project confidence is a balance. I think for guys starting out, its better to error on the side of a little too much arrogance than seeming meek. As a person, esp a guy develops, the more his physical presence becomes openly formidable, it's much easier to be humble and still have others perceive you as competent. I do believe the best overall balance of confidence/kindness/IDGAF/tidbits of mystery and empathy i… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/16 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Counterfeit Red PillsThere was a poster here a few weeks back who shared a PDF or document containing quotes and interesting tidbits he copied and pasted over time. I thought it was super helpful and there was a lot of interesting material inside. I've been doing the same thing for a while, copying interesting things I read here, maybe its a tip on fitness, maybe it's a pointer on body language or frame, maybe it's worded in a way or an example that really speaks to me. Thing I find is some of the best replies come … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/16 10:37 PM |
| 23 | Rhetorical question: How many truly attractive, sexually appealing women do you know who can maintain a multi-year relationship?My observation, and this is just from my own exposure to people, is that in the very few instances where I see an attractive fit woman who is in a "stable" relationship ( usually marriage) for more than the 5 years discussed, here are the things I see The guy makes disproportionately more money than her. She might work, but it's a part time "fun job" where she can pick and choose to do it or not. There is enough money to raise the kids, go on vacation, live in a good neighborhood, set away for t… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/16 12:12 PM |
| 5 | To All The Guys Recently DESTROYED By A WomanI wish there was a way for overweight/scrawny men to get a taste for themselves of the social benefits of being attractive Used to work with a guy who I got to know pretty decently, he would "catfish" women on dating/social media sites for his own amusement. He set up a dump mail box/PO box, got a 2nd burner phone not in his name, developed a pretty decent cover story ( wealthy, educated, traveled a lot), got a range of pics and even some non audio video of a "Chad" then engaged a ton of women a… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/16 11:48 AM |
| 11 | To All The Guys Recently DESTROYED By A WomanBest thing I ever did for myself, in terms of my "frame" with women in general, esp the ones I found attractive, is to put all "strangers" into one big category - i.e. "Just people" She's just a person. Like me, like everyone else. She craps, she cries, she bleeds ( 12 time a year even....) , she gets lonely, she gets happy, she gets hungry, she needs sleep, just like everyone else out there. I don't know if the base problem is putting a woman on a pedestal, I do think it helps to just not disas… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/16 11:36 AM |
| 27 | Are women mean to you? Its because you have low SMVIf a woman is cruel to a low SMV guy and appears "nice" to a high SMV guy, she is not mean in one instance and nice in another. She is ALWAYS MEAN but wears a mask in public to specific people who she sees that has value to make her feel a certain way about herself. If high SMV guy marries her and then gets hit by a car and is crippled, that same mean cruel bitch to the low SMV guy will eventually drop the mask on formerly high SMV guy and when she won't be socially punished for jettisoning him,… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/16 01:45 PM |
| 1 | How do some of us manage not to give up?You can give up on anything and everything in life you want, just never give up on you. The problem is when someone gives up on themselves completely, and everything else in the world is thrown out with it. If the world falls apart tomorrow, and you believe and never give up on you, then the world falls apart, but you, you don't fall apart. There are two kinds of death. There's the death we all face, when you stop breathing and life is over. Then there's the kind of death where you walking aroun… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/16 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Female Supremacist Amy Schumer in talks to play Barbie in new movieAmy Schumer is all just an "act" Ellen Degeneres was interviewed a long while ago about women and comedy ( I think this was back when she was cast in EdTV the film) and she said there was a lot of pressure for her to be the "mean" female comic at the time and most of the roles she was offered were designed for her to be the "mean" female supporting character. She said being hostile and mean was the EASIEST way to do comedy at her level for being a woman and it's not the kind of comedy she wanted… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/16 01:05 PM |
| 1 | The 300lb invisible man.I neglected lifting. It would have been useless between 220lb to 300lb. Congratulations powerpufters, that's awesome and I'm happy for you. My observations, from being pretty heavy myself, it helps to keep your back and knees in mind when working out. I often had to make considerations for the benefit vs the risk ( i.e. jumping jacks vs doing laps in the pool) There's always a workout IMHO, i.e. using the elliptical instead of taking the pounding on your knees on a treadmill. Would not blame som… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/16 02:26 AM |
| 3 | Never forget that she is a childNeoteny is the adult retention of child like traits. The studies on this are not clear but there is some evidence which suggests that having a more childlike face as an adult elicits better responses and more resources from other adults. I would say it's true in general. Male or female, if you have child like qualities, esp in appearance ( usually people who look far younger in their age), you will likely trigger paternal/maternal qualities in adults, esp those older than you. Women do have a na… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/16 07:08 AM |
| 2 | What does sex mean to men?There's a baseball saying I like a lot "Being with a woman all night never hurt no ball player, it's trying to find a woman all night that does him in." I like sex, I enjoy sex. The actual work around getting sex is just mentally exhausting for me. I recognize this is and can be different for everyone out there. I have learned to devalue sex because I don't like the trade offs. I like my freedom, I cherish it, and surrendering any of it just to get sex to me is a negative exchange. I don't have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/16 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Your self worth.Is there other ways to derive self worth as a women? In general, there is "who you are" And there is "what you are" What you are - Your career or job, what you look like, your age, the kind of house you have, the kind of car you drive. Things that can be taken from you Who you are - Your character, what you do when things go bad, how you react to not getting what you want or getting everything you want, how you react to having power in some arena in life, your sense of humor, etc, etc. Internal … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/16 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Fundamental Problems with the IDGAF MentalityI see IDGAF as an issue of separating "control" There are thing I can control. There are things I cannot control. I can control whether I approach a girl I find attractive. I can control how I choose to approach her and the words I use. What I can't control is how she will respond. I can control how disappointed I might become if she says No. To me, IDGAF is letting go of the things I cannot control, including other people and how they feel, say and do. The "separation" allows me to stay active … | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/16 01:14 PM |
| 4 | Fasting Will Increase Your Discipline And ProductivityMy observation and experience You'll hydrate more. To my best understanding, most people ( like 80 percent of Americans) are chronically dehydrated. There's a large window during the day where you can only really drink something, so green tea in the morning helps ( a little lime juice is good for you too in the tea) and water otherwise. You'll drink more water naturally with IF, which is good for you You'll tend to avoid late night "grazing" which is snacking while on the computer or reading or … | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/16 10:52 AM |
| 3 | When you're too smart to find a guy that's smart enough for youMy observation is most women will want a guy who they find physically attractive, who will commit to them exclusively, be good in bed, be in good health, have a good career and be good conversation/fun to be around. Usually, from what I see, the problem is not that the person is not "smart" but just that the woman just doesn't find them attractive, and every action is seen as a negative instead of a positive. Basically if Brad Pitt cries in public, he's "sensitive" and that make him even HOTTER … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/16 11:38 AM |
| 5 | Give girls with a below average face a chanceStrangely, when I tried lowering my standards I actually got rejected more than when I was only going after women I considered very attractive. Maybe by lowering your standards, you were actually just approaching more girls period, thus the rate of rejection was higher, only because your contact rate was higher? Used to know a very low SMV girl pretty well, her issue seemed to be, that if she could get a high SMV guy to date her and be her boyfriend in public, it would be a way to say "Fuck You"… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/16 10:57 AM |
| 1 | "Not-super-fit" woman in TwoXChromosomes (read: 50 lbs overweight) declares that she's only attracted to tall muscular guysOne thing people don't tend to discuss is you can hide quite a bit of weight with clothes and women are more attuned to these strategies than men. Dude might actually have a killer personality. That being said, being heavy reduces your ability in bed, and if he won her over in bed, her tune might be different ( her character would still be lousy though) | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/16 10:11 AM |
| 9 | The Cock Carousel™ and Bitch Face™If you see the Bitch Face... I've noticed BF is a constant with women I've known who have been divorced and onto their 2nd husband/marriage. They've clearly settled in most of these cases and it grinds down at them. Usually that 2nd marriage is one where they were single mothers exiting the first marriage and the 2nd marriage is all about money/assets/resources. Interesting dynamic with most single mothers I've run into, they always seem to be angry about "settling" for the 2nd husband, but they… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/12/16 05:59 AM |
| 1 | The pussy responses to the "Warlord" post show that you don't believe in yourselves and that is the problemWent to high school with a guy who had both parents as successful attorneys. Both his uncles and grandfather were also successful attorneys. He wanted to be a lawyer like his Dad. Always wanted to be one. He did poorly on the LSAT. He did poorly in college. But he tried as hard as he could. He ended up having to take a "prove it" course, that he had to leverage his way into, just to inch his way into a Tier 4 law school. I'm not friends with him any longer ( he's a lawyer after all, LOL) but las… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/12/16 05:26 AM |
| 2 | My thoughts on lifting as the go to answerIs the gym pointless? One thing most never discuss, and never discuss here. The "gym" is a place that's not work and not home. For your own mental sanity and for a place to be treated as a 'safe space' where you can decompress and let your guard down a little, the gym is very effective. A lot of older single married people go every day. It's emotionally healthy to be around other people. Humans were not meant to be cooped up in isolation. You can be around other people, on your terms. No one eve… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/12/16 04:48 AM |
| 27 | Piece of advice to anyone struggling to get over a bitch.Knew a girl who was engaged for about two years. Spoke openly she just wasn't all that motivated to actually get married. Broke up with him for a year, she basically got plowed, couldn't find a higher status guy to marry her, got back with original guy , WHO TOOK HER BACK ( shaking my head now) and then he married her and they have several kids now. My viewpoint? If something happens, and you spend a month or so apart, because something bad happens in your life ( someone dies, etc) and then you … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/12/16 09:20 PM |
| 2 | N count questionA. Is my N count 2 or zero? And B. How should I proceed from here? My suggestion would be if the conversation comes up, just be as upfront as possible and let the other person decide for themselves whether it's "Two Or Zero" Maybe the best way to frame it is to say those two experiences made you realize you wanted to save intercourse for marriage and that you are happy Person X ( the person in front of you, whom I'm guessing you will marry) will be the one to share this "gift" with in life. Be u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/16 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Seemingly alpha BF (23) turning beta as relationship progresses?The best information you can tell him imho is that he needs to act like someone you want to put effort in for. No offense, but why does anyone "need to act" like anything other than what they are? If who he is is not good enough for you or makes you uncomfortable, then leave. How hard is it to leave? But that's not what's going on here. What's going on here is I like X and Y and Z about this guy, but I WANT HIM TO CHANGE FOR ME. Sounds like he accepts the OP for who she is, does not sound like t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/16 11:47 AM |
| 5 | Why being honest, thus being yourself is the best policy.Honesty is the biggest turn on for women. It shows that you are comfortable with yourself and you don't try to hide your flaws. Not only that, but being dishonest with others will slowly make you believe that you are not enough. It's an interesting topic for sure, because it covers an issue that I've observed is not covered very often here, the concept of "shame" Chronic lying to feel better about yourself opens up a distinction between healthy shame and unhealthy shame. If you break your word a… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/12/16 10:27 AM |
| 1 | Men must protest for their right to have financial abortionWhy is abortion legal in this country? ( Not trying to be political here) As GayLubeOil points out, who is going to pay for these unwanted kids? Also to manage, enforce and administer regulation of this is creating an entirely new bureaucracy. This would create a massive cost against taxpayers. ( There's an HBO show, The Leftovers, that covers this, subtlety, pretty well. There are suddenly a mass of missing people, the reaction by the government is to create a large government agency designed t… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/11/16 11:53 AM |
| 1 | When is the best time to look for a husband?My observation and experience is that 3 full years in the workforce is a good litmus. That can happen post high school or happen post college. But I think being out there, outside of school, there are transition points and I think it's much easier to negotiate those alone than in a relationship. Also I think the "work" factor changes how you see the world, your place in it and reinforces or forces you to reevaluate what you need and want. A lot of women think they want kids but don't. Now some w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Seemingly alpha BF (23) turning beta as relationship progresses?I don't think I'm asking him to change Put yourself in his shoes for a minute Say you baked him his favorite treats. Made sure every Friday you picked up groceries and got his favorite stuff. Bought him a sports jersey he's always wanted and went out of your way to get a real autograph for it. Packed his lunch everyday and put in a nice note for him. Then have him say it makes him uncomfortable. How would you feel? I'm guessing you would not feel so great about it all. I don't want to be dismiss… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 05:50 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with pseudo successful women and the attitude they bring?Nothing wrong with any person asking for a potential partner to bring to the table what they themselves bring. If a woman takes care of herself, is fit, got an education, has a career and puts in the work to better herself, not sure it's a horrible thing to ask of any potential guy to bring the same thing to the table. Of course it rarely works that way, usually a woman asks a guy to bring more to the table than she might bring because if she's even half way decent looking, she has a ton of suit… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/11/16 05:15 AM |
| 1 | I don't know anything anymore."You're not attractive enough to treat women the way you do." When in text or email, the best way might be to just cut off contact and ignore them. When done in your face, if you aren't sure how to react, just laugh in their face. It's the "default setting" that IMHO tends to work the best to walk away from someone being a real douche to you. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/11/16 05:08 AM |
| 9 | It's not you, It's her. Understanding Sexual Availability.It's not you it's her. My brother was probably a top 5 percent guy. I've worked with or gone to school with some guys considered All Stars in the SMP, probably top 10 percent guys. If a girl likes you enough, she could be on the rag, you could all be at a funeral, it could be her turn to speak on behalf of her dead best friend, and she would leave the place to go try get the attention of a top 5 percent guy. If she likes you, she won't flake. If you are just some dude on her list, and that list … | /r/TheRedPill | 30/11/16 04:36 AM |
| 3 | Fell for my housemate/friend, feel crushed, how can I get over it and not ruin our friendship?Get a new room mate. Dudes a jerk. Led you on, kissed you, acted like it was a relationship in some ways, then moved on without talking to you. He treated you like a parking spot. You were just the one closest to the store entrance ( I realize saying that could come off as very harsh and I'm trying not to be, only to illustrate that this person acted in a way that was only going to lead you on and hurt you) I'm sorry for your pain, but you have real feelings and living with him just keeps pullin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Girls don't find smart guys sexually attractiveDo not know about "smart" but do understand the factor of being "well rounded" My observation and experience is that most of the men who do very well with women are men who do very well with most people in general. They can get a long with anyone, well most anyone, and can talk to anyone, and usually can talk on a variety of subjects. This usually means having exposure to a lot of different things, including movies, current events, pop culture, best sellers, science, history, music, arts, etc, e… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/11/16 03:12 AM |
| 7 | Seemingly alpha BF (23) turning beta as relationship progresses?Am I in the wrong for not being appreciative? Used to work with a girl who was emotionally abused as a child. She was drawn to men who treated her very badly. This was "normal" Someone who treated her well would always throw her off, she would go out of her way to sabotage those relationships. The worse you treated her, the more she latched on and tried to win the approval of who was hurting her. She learned these lessons from her brutal father ( and some from her mother) and that was her "condi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 02:18 AM |
| 1 | How long will a man looking for a serious LTR wait to have sex?It shouldn't matter how long a guy wants to wait. If you are not comfortable, then don't do it. To me, that's the end of the story. When you are comfortable, then do it. The caveat being, just be upfront about it. Be super upfront about it. I know someone will say, this will turn off every guy. It will turn off a lot of guys, no way around that, but would you rather have sex when you were not comfortable for the expectations of others? I see sex as a "gift" given by BOTH SIDES to each other. Whe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 01:49 AM |
| 3 | I still can't believe the level of BP brainwashing in filmsI remember Erin Brockovich. Aaron Eckhart played her biker neighbor who was clearly in love with her and ended up taking care of her kids for her ( the kids were from different dads) He left after he showed her the engagement ring he bought her and told her he was going to propose the first time she said something nice to him. Just one thing. And that it had been like 6 months since he bought the ring. The look on his face was brutal. Like his heart had been stomped on. Then she tried to guilt h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 01:32 AM |
| 1 | 5 reasons why you need to forgive yourself and get over missing out on your teen and even college years."Real forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past" - Lily Tomlin To me, doesn't matter what the subject matter is about, to move forward, you have to leave things behind you. You have to stop looking over your shoulder over things you simply cannot change. Not everyone's path is the same. I cannot "move forward" with focus and seeking goals and a real direction if I keep looking over my shoulder. The only thing from the past that should matter are the lessons in life you were able to der… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/11/16 01:15 AM |
| -2 | Why cosmetic surgery remains controversial in the red pillIs this the hill you want to die on? My consideration is whatever the actual risk of death on the table, is it worth considering what may be your obligations in life? For example, if a guy has 2 kids in elementary school and a wife who is a homemaker, and he wants to get cosmetic surgery and then dies on the table, no matter how low the odds are, is that the legacy you want to leave your kids? I.E. Dad wanted to look better, so now I grow up an orphan. Feel the same way about a lot of things. Wa… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/11/16 01:02 AM |
| 7 | If you wanna see the woman you'll be married to in 10-20 years, look at her mother.Well, to be honest, it kind of works both ways. Plenty of guys, and plenty of guys here, have come from broken homes. If there is one hard core definitive reason in my mind why many guys should NOT get married and should NOT have kids is that many were not raised and were "broken" and the emotional fallout from the abuse and neglect and suffering would equal a pretty bad husband and/or parent. Can men overcome their upbringing? Yes. But is changing easy when most people spend close to 2 decades … | /r/TheRedPill | 29/11/16 11:07 AM |
| 5 | 7 advantages of Euro/Rus women over Am women?My observation and experience is that it's not so much about specifically American women versus Eastern European/Russian women as much as Western Women VS Non Western Women Basically if you are an American and you travel to places like Britain or Australia or any place with "western influence" then you'll like have a ton of women who are basically a gigantic pain the ass. One consideration is "white women" anywhere, just don't age very well. I think for those who want to get married ( yes yes, I… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/11/16 10:49 AM |
| 3 | Why you shouldn't be upset about not getting laid in your teens.Don't be upset about things you can't change. If you don't learn from the things that happened to you that hurt you, then you've suffered for nothing. If it's gonna cost you, make it worth it. Take the lesson or lessons, whatever they might be, and try to move forward. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/11/16 06:44 AM |
| 10 | Girlfriend cheats on her boyfriend because "she wants to experience". Tells beta boyfriend about the chating, and he takes her back.To me, the lesson is not AWALT The lesson is IMHO, to avoid people of low character period. My guess is, Justin, whomever this dude is, has been around this girl long enough, to see her in multiple situations and social settings and it's likely clear signs of poor character have shone through. No one just becomes a cheater. Usually "red flags" about a person and their judgement and their sense of honor show up to start. The 2nd lesson is beware of people who treat others in a way they would not … | /r/TheRedPill | 28/11/16 06:36 AM |
| 10 | The Reality Cracker's guide to bulliesWhat to do when you are a victim of bullying ? When I was in middle school, a guy who was twice my size, tried to bully me in woodshop class. Pushed me with his hands. I said, don't do that again. He did. So I grabbed a 2x4 and hit him in the head. Teacher was not in the room. When the guy hit the ground. I started kicking him in the head by stomping on him. I looked around the room , 2x4 still in my hand. Asked, anyone else. Looked down. Spit on the guy. Told him when the teacher came back, he … | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/16 03:35 PM |
| 13 | She's already been railed by someone less attractive and less cool than youthis sub really doesn't pay attention to this part of success nearly enough If a woman finds you attractive, then all your jokes are funny. All your stories are interesting. What you have to say becomes important. You can be attractive from a physical standpoint - Person doesn't need to actually know you to have this happen sometimes You can be attractive from a personality standpoint - Often this needs a large degree of context. For example, a college professor, he can spend a vast amount of ti… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/16 02:19 PM |
| 7 | Work to live, don't live to workDepends, IMHO, on your obligations. I know plenty of guys from school or work or other means of interaction, who are parents. Well their wives might be lousy wives, but the kids need food and a roof. Should there be a work/life balance? Sure. Is it easy to do though for most? I don't know. I know some people with special needs kids or siblings. Guy I know, it wasn't his choice that his brother is special needs and will need care for life. He's the only one in a position to fill that role, so he … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/16 02:26 AM |
| 1 | After being with my GF for 6 months, I realized that AWALT is really true. And it's not a bad thingBut isn't the Attraction Is Not Negotiable situation mostly a Yes or No situation? I don't understand this question. ( Happy Thanksgiving BTW and thanks for the machine example, much appreciated) Where I am getting stuck is this. We are told that Attraction Is Not Negotiable ( or as David DeAngelo has said in the past "Attraction Is Not A Choice") as basic TRP core theory. A woman, in the few seconds of encountering you, will decide if you are a pass or fail on her potential to have sex meter. W… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/16 02:10 AM |
| 4 | Woman on AskMen isn't attracted to her loving/doting beta provider husband, and is planning to kick his ass to the curb. Happy Thanksgiving.She wanted to be intimate with me but "in a different body" ... but at least she admitted my face looked "okay." This is simply cruel. No reason ever to dig down that low to resort to pure cruelty. If you want out, get the fuck out and leave. My guess why she said it? She can now openly resent him for her OWN BUYER'S REMORSE. She did not love him, she never loved him, she only was attached to what he represented to her and how she felt about herself given the specific time and place. Even if he … | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/16 10:03 PM |
| 2 | After swallowing TRP, I began to loathe my motherHave seen it over and over again, seeing various families over time in my life. A lot of mothers will rate their children based on "value" I.E. how does this child make her feel about herself. A good looking child or one with a standout skill set, she will treat better, because it is a positive reflection on her. A child with no or low value though, will be a human punching bag. That child is a reminder of why she hates herself. Also I've observed if the child looks like a relative she either li… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/16 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Develop Social Proof and see your SMV riseCurious - What type of dance do you recommend for a guy who is slightly uncoordinated and has no dance background? Most guys here are at the gym anyway. Most gyms offer free group exercise classes. Many of them are dance oriented. My recommendation is to start with "movement" over "dance" They are dance classes, but in the beginning, everyone starts with some basic "movement" If you never danced before or don't have much experience, there's a decent chance you have no idea ( no offense) how good… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/16 04:23 AM |
| 8 | FR: Women Actually Loathe "White Knights"What's fucked up is when the woman despises her husband in favor of the masculine man. Met a married woman not that long ago. She was at the same college at the same time as a guy I work with. She got a graduate degree, never worked, parents paid for her entire school, she got married out of grad school, her 'husband' worked and supported her while she / they had a child. When I met her, the child was old enough now to go to school, so her options and her "husbands" lack of earning power, meant … | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/16 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Enough with the fear of fatdo we need fat shaming? Because there is a growing movement that is shaming men for not liking fat girls. There is a certain shame in not wanting to date fat women. If a woman wants you and you don't want her, you are picky and an asshole and you have Mommy issues. If you want a woman and she doesn't want you, she's "selective" One thing to notice when women talk is when there is an obvious push/pull dynamic. I.E. "Why are so many men afraid of a strong independent single mother?" It's not simpl… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/16 02:36 AM |
| 1 | After being with my GF for 6 months, I realized that AWALT is really true. And it's not a bad thingIf you start applying dread as everyone suggests, it'll make her afraid of losing your commitment and she'll up the "B" sex. But you're also better off staying/becoming attractive to get some of that sweet "A" sex that doesn't even require you to provide anything to her. Question for you (the way you broke down A and B helped a lot, thanks, that sort of builds a workable framework for me to use), if you are a B, can you ever shift to an A? ( i.e. the concept that attraction is not negotiable) Gu… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/16 02:14 AM |
| 5 | Be very careful about precedentsThat's the reason why as you move beyond simply logically understanding TRP and into internalization, you end up losing a lot of friends in your life. Sadly, and not sadly in a bizarre way, this is really true I find. If you got off to the "wrong foot" with people, often the only option after you've applied some TRP or other strategy is to start shedding people out of your life. Although, if it's any consolation to anyone, most people can be easily shed once you develop healthy emotional boundar… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/11/16 12:35 PM |
| 7 | Don't f*cking commit ever to a girl in your college yearsGuys please, girls in colleges don't want relationships. They want to fuck. Don't commit. Women can't have it both ways ( i.e. have a "career" and also be a functional mother and wife at the same time, most women want it all, but most cannot deal with the reality of trade offs, then punish the guy they are with because they can't have it all) I don't think most men can either. If you want a girl to give you her prime years, have a low N count, not be so emotionally broken by having 75 dudes in h… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/11/16 12:08 PM |
| 5 | Develop Social Proof and see your SMV riseI have been dancing the past two years. Many guys will not know if they enjoy it or not because there is very very very little typical social exposure to it. ( You go to a few formal school dances like the prom and you go to a few weddings in your life, and for most guys, if they even dance at all in those situations, that's it) The trick is, and the OP covers it, you have to actually enjoy it. Whether or not you enjoy it translates to A) how you send off signals and body language when you do it… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/11/16 11:47 AM |
| 59 | "I don't see you as a man," A girl drops the bitter pill on a beta orbiter.To me, the lesson is not AWALT, the lesson is IMHO, when you have the power to hurt someone, don't do it. It's perfectly capable in this life to do the things you like and avoid most of the things you don't like, including people you don't like, without resorting to abject cruelty. Many women are given a ton of power very fast if they are good looking enough and usually have no accountability on how they wield said power. The truly bizarre thing is the women with very low SMV, you would think th… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/11/16 10:54 AM |
| 9 | Red Pill predictions for the future of the Sexual Market PlaceIm interested to hear your thoughts. The divorce and marriage industries are billion dollar enterprises. People ask me why gays are being now allowed to marry ( not trying to make this political at all here) My take has always been that since the marriage rate is dropping in general, opening up marriage to a wider scope is essentially supporting the marriage industry. Wedding cakes, rented tuxes, catered food, renting out a church or reception, the dress, photos, honeymoon, etc, etc, this is all… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/16 08:54 PM |
| 1 | RP men, what's your perspective on fulfilment?Does this self love and acceptance cause you to be lazy since you are content with where you are? What helps me is to break down my week and day into blocks of time and schedule things like goals and things I need/want to do. I block out part of my day to enjoy the present. Going for a walk and enjoying the sunshine is enjoying the present. Reading a good book is enjoying the present. Spending two hours researching for something for my long term goals are for future oriented things. What I am sa… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/16 08:00 PM |
| 2 | RP men, what's your perspective on fulfilment?RP men, what's your perspective on fulfillment? Can only speak for me. It took a long long long long long time, but I learned how to appreciate myself, my good qualities and most importantly, love myself unconditionally. This was done with the full understanding that, in my life, no one has ever, to my definition, loved me. Not even, and especially, my own family and parents. I was raised ( or non raised to be more specific) by bad parents. Hence I never wanted to become a parent. I don't have t… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/16 04:51 AM |
| 4 | Why You Don't Need to "Wake Up the Masses" (or your friends, family etc.)My older brother was hard core Red Pill long before there was Internet and long before there was this subreddit. He taught me, as a kid, just barely enough to protect myself. Kind of. Mostly it was a strategy on his part to reduce the amount of future stress he might have with me ( father was gone, mother would rip him apart for any of my mistakes) I understand now he was put into a truly messed up position, i.e. he had no business acting as "my father" but there was no other positive male role … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/16 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Is it just me or are women extremely vague and plane?Thoughts? One fitness instructor who has really helped me a lot in terms of better conditioning/health is a woman. She does not judge. She shows real empathy. She has a nurturing personality. She remains constantly positive. As long as I do my best and work hard, she is proud of me and wants the best for me. In some ways, she is a very maternal figure, more of one than I had growing up. Yes, yes, I recognize AWALT. I also recognize there are no unicorns. I also accept in a different context (i.e… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/16 02:52 AM |
| 3 | It's ok to lose sometimesI see a lot of people go into STEM school/careers, pulling their hair out with frustration. They don't like their jobs, they don't like their classes. They're constantly stressed and most importantly, they're unhappy. While STEM fields are definitely a great career to be in, it's not for everyone. If you find yourself constantly frustrated, stressed, and living in anxiety with your studies, you're probably not that passionate about the subject.. Or maybe just don't have the talent for it. Thank … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/16 02:22 AM |
| 3 | It's ok to lose sometimesI was pondering why I got rejected by the first chick Took me a while to understand flirting means nothing to some degree. She could flirt because she likes you. Or she could flirt because she needs validation because the 9/10 HG she wants and can't have did something to upset her (like not call her at all) and she needs something to feel good about herself with for that day. Problem with a woman who runs hot or cold, is that she only runs hot when the circumstances dictate it. A girl who is int… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/16 02:19 AM |
| 2 | My experience from the workplace. A bossy, female superior and a 59-year-old, submissive manlet who always stays positive.I have no idea how this guy can stay so positive. One of the common themes I see and I don't think is emotionally healthy is a very bipolar view of the idea of outward positivity and kindness and just be a complete hard on badass. Like anything else, there is a middle ground but I understand where most guys are coming from with this - I.E. why take a chance, better to take the side of caution and be seen as too stoic rather than too weak. The answer for me comes to the same place. Be who you are… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/16 08:54 AM |
| 8 | The difference between talking to a lot of girls, and actually cramming your genitals in them.don't waste a lot of time on each girl. if you're going to get rejected, try to make it happen fast so you can quit wasting time and move on to the next one. God yes to this. After taking TRP, I remember my first rejection. Just the look on her face. I remember trying my best to hold frame, then when I got a moment to myself, when no one else was around, I had to sit down and put my face in my hands. And what I was feeling then was all of the combined baggage and emotion that made it hard for me… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/16 08:31 AM |
| 8 | 80/20 and heightI'm 5"9. Heights never been an issue. Am going to say though, the real problem will operate for men who are on the far end of the bell curve. If you are 5'9, and for all guys who are around 5'8 or 5'9, technically you are in the middle. This subreddit will not likely hear too much from guys on the far end of the spectrum ( where specific strategy discussion I think would get super interesting) Part of the reason? Not many guys fit that height spectrum and likely are here. Many have simply given … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/16 08:00 AM |
| 1 | Opinions on rape/misogynywhat are your RPW thoughts on rape? I am not talking about a "real" rape (violent attacker). I'm talking about situations where feminists claim rape because they were drunk and consent was hazy because of alcohol or other circumstances. Do you ever blame the men? Or do you think the woman put herself in a situation to be easily accessible and manipulated and she should be more cautious in her choice of activities? In situations involving alcohol, I will just tend to lay final responsibility on t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/16 03:09 AM |
| 27 | Practice shutting the hell up.Women can have whole conversations - with themselves - and think you're actively participating or even better, worry about the fact you're not talking. I agree and I also disagree. Most guys, IMHO, will trend on the side of not having very strong interpersonal communication skills/soft skills. In these cases, which I think is the majority, esp younger guys, I see more value in talking to everyone, building up your social skill, being able to lead a conversation, set a conversational pace, how to… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/11/16 09:02 PM |
| 26 | IF she likes you, She'll go out of her way to please YOU32 years old and I honestly can't think of a single nice thing a woman has ever done for me In this regard, there is a stark difference. I was friends with a girl in the past ( rare situation to be "friends" at that time, but it worked out that way) and she was not, by social convention, very attractive. However she got more nice things done for her, in a relative sense, than most average guys did on a typical basis. Even women with low SMV will still get generally preferential treatment by most… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/11/16 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Lifting is the first step to reclaiming your masculine self.The most important thing is just getting in the gym. Best advice I can give for someone totally new to the gym is to take group exercise classes. Try them all, but see the ones that are a good fit for you ( different instructors vary by quality) Usually they are free with gym membership. Benefits You are building a routine. Going means you have to be there at a certain time, each day or each week, etc. This helps you with discipline To start, you are not responsible for the set of exercises, you… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/11/16 11:23 AM |
| 5 | Columbia University Suspends Wrestling Season Over Lewd TextsHow the hell did they find this stuff? I threw a bachelors party once, for a very good friend. Invited were a core group of his school mates from college within his major. At a BBQ later that his GF/fiancee had later, one of the GFs of one the guys invited started talking to me about said bachelor party. She knew details, not gory ones, since there was nothing gory about it, but she clearly had been told. I spoke to her BF at the time, later, and asked him about it. I asked him, Dude, did you ju… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/11/16 10:22 AM |
| 84 | Another Lie We Tell Men: "You Get Out What You Put In."Learning the truth about how women think about sex is more depressing than ever. The entire fantasy of porn is the woman wants to be with you and please you and obtain pleasure from you. The reality is women want you to support them with ever so minimal effort on their part. I'm depressed just thinking about it. Her name was Alina West. She was a pornstar and did a scene for Amateur Allure a few years back. I remember it because it was so jarring. In the middle of the scene, the male talent, via… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/16 06:12 AM |
| 1 | how do you get on with life as a single man, seeing so many seemingly "happy" couples around youComparing yourself to others is usually an indicator of poor self esteem. If you want the best chance to find someone to share your life with who will be good to you, you have to work on being good to yourself. Therapy, journaling, hitting the self help section at the bookstore or Ebooks, that could be a good start for you. Like draws like. The better you are to yourself, the better person you become, you will naturally draw in good people and be more selective to keep out most of the bad ones. … | /r/MGTOW | 14/11/16 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Chivalry + Politeness = Putting your Head in a Bear TrapI will never hold a door open or do any favor for a woman again. Do you always open doors for others? Then IMHO don't let one person and one experience sour how you choose to interact with the world. Do that and she "wins" That's what she wants, a "reaction" For you to use it as a means to write off all women gives her the victory. Even if it's just a matter of principle, I don't judge all women in absolutes. Even though I know 99 percent of them will make me shake my head and disappoint me. Eve… | /r/MGTOW | 14/11/16 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Chivalry + Politeness = Putting your Head in a Bear TrapWomen will openly praise and marry the white knighting, chivalrous man, but get bored of his nauseating pussy-worshipping ass quite quickly I do think part of this aligns with Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy book, where there's a marked difference between behavior designed only for certain people, to get something in return, and something you simply choose to do for everyone. If you open doors for everyone, if you lift heavy objects for anyone who clearly shows they are incapable ( i.e. olde… | /r/MGTOW | 14/11/16 03:45 AM |
| 4 | Post wall women will bear you retarded children.do mothers secretly hate their mentally disabled/retarded kids deep down because they are genetically shit and biologically stupid af. A lot of people have children young and privately resent their children. ( And not to see it as a huge stretch, consider often a person commits their life to someone in marriage, then resents them and resents the choice, however unlike divorcing a spouse, you can't easily shed a child) Part of the problem is that if you say having kids is a regret or it's not all… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/11/16 07:23 PM |
| 3 | You Owe Women You Just Met Absolutely Nothing Except a Proper FuckingThe reason we do this is because we generally equate being nice (and supplicating) with having people like us, and the tendency for betas is to extend this logic to women too. People might like you, but they will never respect (or be attracted to) you. If you want respect you have to not give a fuck what people think about you. Being nice for no reason shows neediness. You are showing the other person that you want them to like you, and in their minds that automatically place them above you ("wh… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/11/16 11:58 AM |
| 19 | Others will do anything it takes to keep you in your social place as you begin your journeyThey will try to dissuade you from going to the gym and improving yourself. If you need motivation for this, just remember these words. People in general don't care at all about you; they are like sheep and just gravitate to the alpha male I've had people at the gym ask me why I'm there so much. Well I'm trying to improve myself. Not sure there is anything to say, I just shrug my shoulders and say nothing to them. There are however some really supportive people at my gym. I believe in the theory… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/16 11:31 PM |
| 2 | The more I study and internalize TRP, the more depressed I'm getting. Advice?It's getting to the point where part of me doesn't want to interact with the vast majority of people out there because all they ever seem to do is during the week, work and sleep, and during the weekend, drink at night and sleep during the day. I think it's called the "Quarter Life Crisis", although you aren't 25 yet ( but odds are, a 1/3rd of your life is probably over now) When you are young and in school, things keep changing, if things aren't going great, you have road to look forward to for… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/16 09:28 PM |
| 5 | Low smv: how to handle and keep faith ?So what? You work hard all your life and girls only like you for your money and status while they get the tingles for a chad with good genes and facial features who never worked as hard as you do. From my experience, I don't want a woman who is not into me and from the so girls I have gone out with and fucked, none was really excited. And that was hard work, most girls roll their eyes as they see me. After a lot of good fucking, they 'fall in love' but they as quickly dump you for better at the … | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/16 09:17 PM |
| 1 | I am afraid of losing of what i never hadAll because of again i care about what people think of me. A lot of our "conditioning" comes from our youth, and much of that comes from how our parents acted around us and towards us. Best advice I ever got was, for the people in your life you can't avoid ( i.e. parents, family, etc) , who are always judging you or perpetually disappointed in you or talk down to you, something to remember is that their anger and frustration and indifference toward you is their own issue, it has nothing to do wi… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/16 07:55 AM |
| 4 | Guy records his first approach, white knights to the rescue.In short, guy tries an approach on a cashier, fails once, twice, and then finally gets the number. It's painful to watch - the hesitation, the vague compliment, the forward of "I never do this", and then the blunt request. There's no foreplay, there's no lube, it's just waiting for the courage and sticking it in. I went to a BBQ with some people I went to college with ( this was post graduation for all of us) A girl I knew casually as an acquaintance ( she was friends of the wife of my friend) w… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/16 07:10 AM |
| 5 | Beta’s Seek Acceptance Through Their ValuesThe problem with that is that no one actually cares if you’re nice. Unless of course, that person happens to be "you" I struggle to understand why so many on this subreddit will polarize all men into two camps - Ruthless douchebags and supplicating doormats. There has to be a balance and one has to be true to his own nature. Being a "nice guy" in the general terms that men and particularly men here define it, it's not a good thing. Often, as stated before, it implies covert contracts and giving … | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/16 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Am I the only one who reads TRP subreddit & then seconds later *roll eyes* then say f*ckit too much work. Comes straight back to MGTOWIt depends for whom you're doing the work. If you're improving yourself to get laid, it's probably not worth the effort. If you want to be a healthier, better educated and more solvent man for the sake of your own happiness and by extension become more attractive to women, that's a different story. I think MGTOW is more effective for the long term when it's a choice. I.E. you can and could be in the dating marketplace and not totally be boxed out of it, instead of taking the path of least resist… | /r/MGTOW | 12/11/16 03:52 AM |
| 3 | The College Campus is Similar to MK-Ultra (I'll Prove It)STEM is your way to avoid it. Still a big believer in that every young person, if they are lucky, and put in the work, really need a well rounded education. Not just school, but life experience as well, and if they are lucky, someone older to mentor them and guide them without ego or prejudice. I also think what often goes undisclosed is a lot of people put in the work and try to go into technical fields and some simply do not have the ability to pass some of these courses. ( Lots of people wash… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/11/16 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Does it bother most women when a guy they rejected or treated badly increases in SMV drastically?I grew up with a girl and we became "Friends", but in context, we knew each other basically through childhood, so I think this is one of the cases where it can happen. Later, when I was in high school, she drove to my house, and I went outside to greet her, she was with three of her female friends, and she and they were the "popular girls", but I went to a different high school. Her "best friend" before I left made a remark about making sure I didn't call too many "sex hotlines" and snubbed her … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/16 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Why Men Disrespect You.all im saying is after they fought "david" respected him more as an equal No offense, and to each their own, but you should not have to "fight" someone to treat you with basic civility. Basic Humanity 101 - Treat everyone with a baseline "respect" until they show to you that they don't deserve it, then usually the best course is to walk away from them and simply be around people who value you the way you value yourself. Basic Human Interaction 101 - No one sit down over one beer will make up for… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/11/16 10:59 AM |
| 6 | What is up with liberal women and ethnic constantly whining about white privilege when they only date white men and continue the trend?They always bitch and whine that white men are privileged and then they just date white guys. I don't disagree with you in principle that there is a base contradiction in almost everything women say versus what they do. I would almost say it functions as a "rule" at this point for most men ( i.e. whatever a woman says, you might as well ignore her, because her actions will be close to the exact opposite) My older brother says A) Women say what make them look good but do what makes them feel good… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/11/16 02:21 PM |
| 8 | Why Men Disrespect You.great story, funny how after guys fight they end up being better friends! thats called mutual respect :) regardless of who won How is it mutual respect if the person, according to the OP, put him down and showed him no basic respect to start? Also who let him chronically buy everything all the time? What happened was not control, it was rage. Rage is not keeping composure, rage is allowing yourself to exist in someone elses frame. A guy who reacts to his wife's nagging by flying into an uncontro… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/11/16 01:42 PM |
| – | Small request for some advice for proceeding with a lukewarm girlThat would have been better advice before the weekend, it doesn't really fit the context now. I already told her I liked her, and said that I would get in touch with her. I have her number already (from a group chat). So what. I don't mean so what in a cruel way or to mock you, but so what Approach her again, say you realize you already told her you like her, but you wanted to to just be more direct this time ( which is true right?) Then go direct as I suggested. Put her in a position to choose.… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Any Asians here have success with white girls?One major factor is how "western" you look for an Asian. Asians who are taller, with broad shoulders, a swimmers build, and sharp features and rounder eyes will have an advantage. Asians who are basically all the way Americanized will have an advantage. That being said, there is a lot of latent unspoken racism by whites in general against Asians. Blacks complain more and sue more and are in more popular culture, so lots of liberal whites might dislike many blacks, but many white women might stil… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 12:13 PM |
| – | Small request for some advice for proceeding with a lukewarm girlDo you think that given her expressed uncertainty, putting the ball solely in her court is a little too passive? Think of it like the end of a football game. Your offense has the ball, 8 seconds left on the clock, time for one more play, a Hail Mary. Odds are, you won't score and get into the endzone, but given you have NOTHING TO LOSE, then why not? Not sure how it's passive. Walk up to her, say you like her, you see her in a romantic way, you just want to be as honest as possible, give her you… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 11:56 AM |
| 7 | [FR]Date annoyed me so I covertly got another chick in the middle of the dateWent on a date last night with a chick I approached a couple weeks ago. I was disappointed she was uglier than when I met her but decided whatever. We get to the bar and I order our drinks and I put my hand on her thigh and she tells me not to put my hand there. I thought WTF? I casually put my hand on your thigh while we're sitting down on a date and you freak out? And I'm more attractive than you? Stupid fucking cunt. I checked out mentally the rest of the date and think to myself how I could … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Fat and stupid are close kin.I agree with the post, not being a dick at the gym A guy I talk to on occasion at the gym, one day, in my corner of the locker room, walked over, shook my hand, said he was proud of me, he saw I was working hard, and he said he wished everyone there worked as hard as I did, and that he wanted to encourage me to keep pushing and do the right thing for my health. It really was something I needed at the time, positive reinforcement, it's hard when your journey is often alone, when you are lost in y… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 10:49 AM |
| 22 | "Marry Him!" Feminist article dripping with TRP truthsThey, like me, would rather feel alone in a marriage than actually be alone, because they, like me, realize that marriage ultimately isn’t about cosmic connection—it’s about how having a teammate, even if he’s not the love of your life, is better than not having one at all. Basic Humanity 101 - Always beware of someone who treats you in a manner under which they would NOT want to be treated themselves. How would a woman like it, if she walked past a room, heard her husband on the phone with his … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 10:05 AM |
| 101 | "Marry Him!" Feminist article dripping with TRP truthsAs I looked at him from across the table, I thought, Yeah, I’ll see him again. Maybe I can settle for that. But my very next thought was, Maybe I can settle for better. If the article was written by a man, and he said this about a woman or women, how much in arms would most women be by it? I mean this is just brutal. It's like the guy across the table is not even a human being. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 06:46 AM |
| 1 | Fat and stupid are close kin.It's kinda hard to believe you still have 40lbs to lose and in six weeks you're suddenly getting extra female attention. I observe that weight loss in the face is the first thing people really notice. Don't be me wrong, they will notice waist weight, but if they see you all the time, it's progressive. It's more jarring when someone has not seen you in 3 months, then see a cut weight version of yourself. Losing fat in the face might be more subjective to the person, hence I think the reactions mi… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 03:43 AM |
| 20 | "What's wrong with the Seattle dating scene" - one woman's journey from rugged Alaska to the sensitive feminist utopia of Seattlein my dating career here Notice she used the word "dating career" What do you do in a career? You try to progress from TRADING UP from one place to another. You don't want to move down the salary and power scale, you want to MOVE UP. Maybe that was the most unintentionally honest part of that article. I kind of cringe to hear the words "dating career" as if there's prescribed route of behavior that leads you to the promised land. Makes me shiver actually. Does she even notice the guys who probab… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 03:10 AM |
| 3 | A story of marriage-induced Alpha-to-Beta regression and how to avoid it.I fell into the trap of becoming a "married man." Society (my family and wife included) led me to believe that my life was now all about supporting my wife and kids. That I didn't matter any more and anything to the contrary was selfish and immoral. One basic complication I see from my friends and coworkers, etc, who are married is that raising kids is more than a 2 person job. What's the saying? It takes a village to raise a child. Personally I think a man has better chance ( better not perfect… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 02:52 AM |
| 6 | Things That Change Once You Take The PillSomething that helped me in the beginning was to make a list of everyone I generally interact with during the week. I blocked it out by day, i.e. everyone has a routine. I'd write down the names, then consider each one. How did this person treat me in the past? Does this person show any kind of empathy in general? Did they ever show empathy with me when appropriate? Has this person ever been rude to me? And I talk to everyone, I mean everyone. So it's a long list. Most other people, I think thei… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/11/16 01:58 AM |
| – | Small request for some advice for proceeding with a lukewarm girlShe is not, no offense, attracted to you ( To be fair, it's just a few paragraphs, we are only hearing one side, one perspective, and there is a lot of nuance that is missed like body language, tone inflection, looks ,etc) My best advice in a situation like this is to tell her you are interested, if shes interested, to give you a call, then ignore her. She calls you or she does not. Odds are, my guess, she will not. Girl can flirt with you because she likes you. Or because she's lonely. Or becau… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 01:29 AM |
| 2 | 45 year old man is 'uncomfortable' at all the women who once rejected him in high school now wanting a relationship with him.Got a six pack, lifted every day. Pussy has not been easier though. I guess you can't compensate bad facial features, height, weird genetic racial mixup or as some girls say, years of negative experiences. In the end dating becomes a chore. I mean it sucks a lot of energy with little return on investment if you are not in the 20% life is great i am so chaddy type of gentlemen. Have you ever seen a heavy girl and thought, there's probably a good looking woman trapped in there? There was a movie, … | /r/TheRedPill | 07/11/16 01:21 AM |
| 8 | My Red Pill MomentHow courteous were women compared to men on a daily basis when it came to just simply holding doors? The results were pathetic, overwhelmingly women just didn't do it. My observations Women do notice good manners and men who behave in a formal/gentlemanly fashion. But they tend to notice everything around them ( I don't think it makes them any smarter, I think they simply process only the aspects that impact them/benefit them, but they are always watching) I believe women will only assign value … | /r/TheRedPill | 06/11/16 06:09 PM |
| 32 | Why you shouldn't date single moms thread#82974Knew a guy, a top shelf All Star type, who registered on a dating site just to see how it all worked, he had never signed up to one before. The response was staggering. He ended up talking to a single mother WITH a boyfriend on said dating site. She said she was there just to use the message boards and she had developed "friends" with women on the site through the MB and wanted to stay in touch. Her profile showed her, and then her and her kid, then a picture of her, her kid and her boyfriend, a… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/11/16 05:39 PM |
| 6 | The impact "racial diversity" has on the SMV and attitudes of white women.For example, if I meet a hot blonde from some really white part of the midwest, she is generally down to earth. Most of the times, she is easy to get along with and doesn't have that massive sense of entitlement. Move said "farm girl" to the big city, give it some time and then see what happens. I'm not saying it's a guarantee she will flip over onto herself and act like a "city girl", I will say Character is not negotiable. Not any more than attraction is not negotiable. Good character shines t… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/16 11:12 PM |
| 11 | Dating: 10 Things Men Don’t Do AnymoreThe main reason that all of these things don’t happen anymore is because women, at large, stopped requiring them. My take is men will adapt to what works for them. If asking women out on formal dates and bringing flowers worked for them, they'd do it. When I was doing work in Eastern Europe, far more common to meet women, ask them on a formal date, bring flowers, meet the parents, show good manners, etc, etc. I enjoy formal courtship, I honestly do. But I have to ask myself if it's going to func… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/16 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Setting Boundaries With Guys You LikeInsightful answer! Thank you. I think you identified the root of the problem... I have felt all my life that I have to protect others and that it fell to me to ensure people were comfortable. It is difficult when my desire to please coincides with a request I'm not sure I want to fulfill, and is worse when it includes the fear of rejection. Something I learned via intermittent fasting is that when you fast ( i.e you aren't putting food inside you that your body needs to expend energy to digest),… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/16 06:25 AM |
| 1 | How do you not care about what others think of you?How do you not care about what others think of you? What is not often discussed is the kind of way we talk to ourselves internally is often a mirror of how our parents talked to each other and talked to us. To me, no one is born with poor self esteem. Trust me, live long enough with a crappy enough parent ( who lacks self esteem) and they will do their very best to pass that horrible trait onto you. It's very hard to undo what amounts to a couple of decades of negative conditioning. I have a dif… | /r/seduction | 05/11/16 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever been so much of a beta that you felt ashamed for not liking fat chicks, and posted a long confession on Reddit begging for feminists to forgive you?The date goes great. We have a ton in common (similar backgrounds/upbringing, interests, favorites, humor, etc.) I can see the conflict. I don't think it makes the guy a loser for feeling this way. Usually the situation is reversed. A woman is on the fence for a guy she likely does not find attractive, but acknowledges that the guy has what are seen as desirable and attractive traits ( kind, provider, stable, funny, etc) Being lonely is not fun for most people. Guy finds someone he can share wit… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/16 04:07 AM |
| 8 | I am struggling with hypergamy now that I've started working againShe should be ashamed of herself. If the husband has done nothing wrong and everything right, (more or less) and she says "I love you" to him (I assume she does) then looking for better shows me that she exemplifies the TRP doctrine of AWALT.... which is an insult to the women who aren't. I'm going to disagree with this. There's a saying I like, very much, a Chinese proverb - "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the 2nd best time is today" Yes, it would have been infinitely better if… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/16 01:45 AM |
| 16 | I am struggling with hypergamy now that I've started working againHe is a good provider, a hard worker, a great father, good looking, fit, and a leader. He is also a great captain in our marriage. I've watched him rise up through several levels of management with his leadership skills, and he does very well in his field (sales) which requires being outgoing and somewhat aggressive. I know women find him attractive (and the older we get the higher his SMV rises), and he is so committed and faithful to me, and does not entertain flirting and outside advances at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 01:55 AM |
| 6 | Most girls are usually really nice, if you're cool/attractiveMost girls are usually really nice, if you're cool/attractive OK, no offense, I just don't get this at all. If Girl X is willing to bake you cookies and do your math homework because she thinks you are physically attractive, but will laugh in the face of some guy she thinks is beneath her who summons all the courage he has to ask her out, no offense, but I don't see two people. I don't see a "Nice Version 2.0" and a "Heartless Bitch Vista Edition" What I see is a heartless bitch who simply was n… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/11/16 12:00 AM |
| 6 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriagebut everybody's good until they're not. Men know that women have the capacity to be absolute angels throughout a relationship only to turn brutally mean once they stop loving their men. I disagree. I don't see a person with two sides, I see one person with one very specific side and a big giant mask they wear because it's socially appropriate/politically correct. Someone who is "brutally mean" is always at their core a brutally mean person. That's all they are. It may just be the circumstances i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Has any guy ever referred to you as the "fairer sex"?Should this sort of chivalry be encouraged? Is there a way to reassure men that I'm not going to be easily offended, especially at words not directed at myself? IMHO, someone who acts as a "gentleman" is someone who is considering the feelings of others. I.E. an empathetic trait. My take is to not interfere with that process if you happen to meet someone, man or woman ( though social convention puts the pressure on the man in most cases) who wants to extend to you "gentlemanly" behavior. Persona… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Simple Questionsshould you be best friends with your SO? Personally, I think the "ideal" state for any relationship is to really get to know each other and really try to understand each other before having sex. That being said, that kind of circumstance is the exception rather than the rule. There have been a few girls I've met in my life, I could not wait to talk to them next, I could not wait to hear the next thing that came out of their mouths. I genuinely enjoyed communicating with them and it only heighten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 07:56 AM |
| 6 | Setting Boundaries With Guys You LikeHow do you set boundaries with guys you like? If someone asked me, what's the best way for a guy to learn how to talk to girls and be comfortable and try to attract her? I'd answer, learn to talk to everyone around you, without regard to what they can give you or their benefit, and simply learn how to talk to people in general, and doing that, talking to women will come naturally. Best way to learn healthy emotional boundaries with men, is IMHO to learn how to establish them A) First with yourse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 07:39 AM |
| 22 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageSo all in all, I need advice from you lovely red pill women; your own personal experiences in your marriages and why it is beneficial for both parties, or any further advice you may have in bringing my partner back down to planet earth and remind him of how much he is adored. First, I want to acknowledge that this situation is obviously a very difficult one for you. I'm sorry for your pain and confusion in this trying time ( Man or woman, I think general empathy is always a strong base to start … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 07:26 AM |
| 9 | 15 Things Men Want From Women...IMHOReally good list here. A few I might even add here would be, if no one minds A) Don't engage with a guy in any kind of relationship if you don't find him attractive. - I know this seems a bit nebulous, but sometimes it appears a woman will date a man to start, maybe she's lonely. Maybe her options at that point weren't plentiful. Maybe she's on the rebound and this guy is a stark contrast to the last that hurt her. Maybe all her friends are with guys and socially she feels left out. Maybe her bi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 10:47 AM |
| 18 | She can cheat. She might cheat.if you spend your time worrying about her cheating you will push her to it. Honestly, will disagree here. People will cheat, man or woman, if it's in their nature and value structure to cheat. That's it. Now they may or may not cheat depending on the circumstance in place. A married couple might never cheat, but if they had the option to, they might, but maybe both are just, sadly, sort of very unattractive people who can't get someone to cheat with them. A beautiful woman, based on some posts I… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/16 11:24 PM |
| 139 | Charisma: Forget you exist in any interactionDuring any one conversation you should aim to follow the 70/20/10 rule: Listen 70% of the time. Ask questions 20% of the time. Offer small input 10% of the time. I think this strategy can be pretty effective, but with some context. Once you've hit upon a topic where the person is interested/has some skill, then I think you can shift to this ratio. Here's a tricky thing I've learned with conversation/interpersonal skill sets, part of the art of being a good conversationalist/active listener is to… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/16 10:58 PM |
| 7 | Word of advice for Asian and Indian guys that want blondes.Things I've noticed More Asian men with Caucasian GFs or wives than I've ever seen before. Still very very rare, but not unicorn rare like it was 20 years ago. Typically, at least to my observation, and with some depth to the situation, the AM/WF couple either met through work and/or college/graduate school. I don't see many examples of post college/non working type unions, which leads me to believe a great degree of context/social proof over time is probably a mitigating factor Everything will … | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/16 09:25 AM |
| 3 | Why are most of the decent men ignored over the asshole?He did all the chivalry shit his mam and dad taught him, treat her like a lady, a human being, held the door open, gave her his jacket, never stared at her tits that were on show for everybody to see, paid for everything and got friend zoned after he emptied his wallet on her, but she never told him friend zone, always kept him on the edge to give her free shit and entertainment from her boring ass life. Base point here - Do things because you want to do them, because it is an extension of who y… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/16 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Talking to you was the most exciting thing she did all dayAlmost all of them are bored out of their minds. Most girls go to work/class go home, lounge and watch netflix, eat some food that's awful for them. They then proceed to stay up late watching some crappy movie then wake up miserable to repeat the process. For some you can throw in an extra activity like going to the gym or cooking. Most aren't doing that so I'd say my breakdown is fairly accurate for a large portion of women (and sadly men too). This post helped me a lot, it helped me see things… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/10/16 08:51 AM |
| 4 | A life lesson I will take to the grave, and hopefully you will tooBesides you two weren't married its not like she did something that wrong The problem with rationalizing others behavior is you begin to rationalize your own, which ends up, IMHO, being an emotionally unhealthy way to live life. If two people have an openly stated commitment, I don't see a huge issue if the OP has a problem that his ex GF ( then GF) decided to sleep with her boss and likely kept sleeping with him as well. She could have given him herpes, she could have given HIV, she could have … | /r/TheRedPill | 29/10/16 08:47 AM |
| 2 | Women loses weight and husband becomes 'jealous' of new found attention so she leaves him..what im taking from this is: never settle for something you arent entirely happy with. I agree with this, and think there is a flip side to this coin. When men lose weight and get into shape, the results and reactions from women are pretty interesting. When I lost a good chunk of weight and bulked up some, a woman I work with, who previously never talked to me ( not that I want to socially engage anyone at work more than needed) and actively made it a point to not associate with anyone who impac… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/10/16 08:13 AM |
| 1 | Outsider questions - marriage?Many of the men on TRP are against marriage... My observation is whenever you see a person really angry about any particular subject, it's a sure fire indicator of some kind of lingering hope. Guys who say, "Marriage is not for me, it's just something I was never into and feel is a good fit" in the vein of casual conversation, that's someone who is totally indifferent about it. Guys who say, "Marriage is a scam!" and shout it from the rooftops over and over, whether they are right or wrong, that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 11:44 AM |
| 9 | Does He Actually Like Me?There are likely too many variables at play here. Some men are just generally kind people, if they are kind to everyone, and they are kind to you ( I use "kind" instead of "nice", as I think using nice can really start to tilt the perception of men and women interact) , then I can see the level of confusion increasing. Some men are shameless flirts and will flirt with everyone and this is the base method of behavior. Sometimes the women in this question start to assign attraction indicators to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 03:19 AM |
| 1 | What is feminine enough?I want to take a moment to apologize for my previous profanity. It won't happen again. As said by Lucius Vorenus, "We ( the men here) are not fit for your company" | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 02:56 AM |
| 2 | What is feminine enough?One of the accusations levelled at me (there was a RP blogpost all about me) was that I am unfeminine. How can that be? How feminine do I need to be to be OK for the RP world? Things to consider, from the male perspective From the view of my filter of what you are saying, you are really saying ( to my best understanding from the guy perspective) that you want to know how to be more attractive to the men you want, and you consider the possibility that this nebulous "femininity" is a deal maker. G… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sLadies of RPW, .... She's in her late 30s, pretty, single, successful..... Any tips on how to approach the subject, or resources you could send my way would be greatly appreciated thank you! X To qualify, I'm a guy, not a woman, thus not sure if it's appropriate for me to answer or attempt to answer this, but will try to do so in good faith. From my observation and experience, people can only move at the pace that they can personally endure, on their own, in the path to self improvement. The "gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 01:45 AM |
| 2 | Even tough-looking guys can be betasHate to sound like I'm judging, but couldn't you just mail them to her? I mean, it's not like she doesn't have your address already ( i.e. exposing your return address if they didn't know it) If you spent X amount of time dealing with this/having a sitdown, what is the value of your time? I.E. is the cost of postage and trip to the post office worth the value of said time? As for a matter of principle, there was a scene in A Bronx Tale, where Lillo Brancato ( aka future criminal) asks street bos… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/10/16 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Personality Doesn't MatterYour personality, views, and hobbies ultimately don't matter. Your dominance and status are what women really find attractive. My observation is your personality will have direct impact on things like your status and dominance, which in turn, impact how you deal with women. Work is it's own battlefield, it's also a "game" and there are general rules and power struggles. You can simply do better with honey instead of vinegar in work situations and having people like you and having strong interper… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/10/16 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Please, Break Up with Me!Men live by an objective moral code.....Women would just defend the woman regardless of what she's done and hamster away why it's ok. I see it a bit differently. When someone, man or woman, talks about women in general, most women, to my observation, see the discussion as "you" i.e. if someone says "Women love money" They will translate it to "You, the specific woman in front of me, love money" I don't think most are defending other women ( because I honestly think most of them despise each othe… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/10/16 04:40 AM |
| 29 | The not so gentle red pill truths.......being a video game geek that lacks social skills is not going to win you any points with hot girls and cool guys. The reason this bothers me ..... ......if high SMV males and high SMV females hate you BUT respect you and acknowledge you, that's a lot better than them not even knowing you exist. You can do whatever the fuck you want once your status is so high to where it doesn't even matter. People.... are generally miserable because they obsess about validation Ok, look, I'm not trying to… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/10/16 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Before and after: How things have changed since I've lost weightEveryone judges you on how you look Yes, everyone judges you by how you look. But not everyone needs to push it in your face or make their disdain open and viewable to the person in question. Basic civility. Basic respect of boundaries between people and strangers. Like I said, if people decide you are not for them, they can walk away from you. I see little incentive in this life to be any more cruel or brutal to my fellow man ( or woman) than is absolutely necessary. But to each their own. Anyo… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/10/16 02:36 PM |
| 2 | Scottie Pippen's Wife of 19 Years Cheats on Him with Rap Star FutureWhen I was in Chicago, as the rumor goes, Pippen was always pretty much broke. He signed a really bad contract with his first contract with the Bulls ( this was before rookie slotting salaries) Also he was apparently notorious for being bad with money. He also played in an era where salaries not what they are right now. He did not transition into broadcasting like a lot of his peers. Apparently, Jerry Reisendorf, realizing Pippen was broke at the end of his career, gave him one last "Thank you" … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/10/16 12:16 PM |
| 5 | Before and after: How things have changed since I've lost weightI've always felt treated like garbage (sometimes rightfully so) I met a woman who was one of those Before/After picture examples. She was not a younger woman, so the way she was marketed ( I think they paid her a little, the advertisement) was meant to appeal to an older crowd. This wasn't a situation where she or I were trying to hit on each other, we just had a normal conversation by chance like two regular adults. She said something that really hit me, I mean she dropped something like 200 po… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/10/16 11:28 AM |
| 63 | The "wolf in sheep's clothing" approach."Bitterness is drinking the poison yourself and hoping the other person dies" To each their own. I knew a guy with very very high SMV that was engaged to two girls at the same time, he also broke up with a girl ( who probably would have married him on the spot) by convincing her he was terminally ill, he also was rotating anywhere from 8-20 women all at the same time, depending on his work schedule. He convinced a woman to divorce her husband for him, with no real intention of getting LTR/marria… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/16 07:39 AM |
| 72 | Married business traveler cheats, she explains why - plus a few TRP lessons I implemented along the wayHe's doing everything he thinks is right to appease her, and it's only pushing her away. He's at home mopping the floors while she's under me in another city. They've been married for 3 years, together for much longer and she clearly hates just how beta he's become. Going to try to broach this carefully, because fully believe "To Each Their Own" but am going to disagree with the idea that , at least when it comes to cheating, that said husband is doing something wrong and that he is equally to b… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/16 05:32 AM |
| 1 | "When women see a guy with an obese girlfriend, that guy basically becomes a non-entity to them -- even if he's hot"It seems like the girl will see the fat chick as less of a threat/competition and ignore her existence and pursue the hot guy like she didn't exist. Or would she unconsciously think there is something wrong with that guy for being with a fat chick? My observation, from formerly working with a guy who was probably considered an All Star catch. ie. HG10/10, is he would get hit on all the time. No matter who he was with. If he was with a girl who was attractive ( in context, many times this was wit… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/16 04:31 AM |
| 4 | Hot girls, the truth about guys that manage to get with a good number of them, and why their approach is better overall even if they don't get laid. But the catch is....That's an acute observation. Why don't loners last long? It seems strange that talking with randoms would be valued so highly in comparison with other traits/characteristics. Just about all studies in human isolation confirm that being isolated has some pretty pronounced mental, emotional and physical effects. Consider that movie, I Am Legend with Will Smith. Once he actually met a human again, he freaked out, he couldn't handle it. Without his dog, for those 2-3 years in total isolation, he mig… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/16 01:09 AM |
| 3 | Thankful as fuck for everyone here [Discussion]Anyone have advice to best search for older TRP stuff? I.E. Through Google or some other search. I've read someone there is really great stuff in the first 2-3 years here that is only really accessible through specific search. Any help in advance would be appreciated. Also thanks to all here, this place has helped me a ton. Brothers helping brothers. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/16 12:31 AM |
| 5 | "When women see a guy with an obese girlfriend, that guy basically becomes a non-entity to them -- even if he's hot"Conversely, when I see a potentially high smv dude hanging around with mid to low hb's, I assume there's something wrong with him (low confidence, beta, etc) When I see it ( let's not kid ourselves, no matter our views on it, when things break social norms, people notice, it's very human ,even if we choose to judge or not judge it) I consider "context" Robin Williams married his nanny, I think it was his 2nd wife. People ask why Governor Arnie banged his not so hot looking maid/nanny/housekeeper… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/16 12:17 AM |
| 16 | "When women see a guy with an obese girlfriend, that guy basically becomes a non-entity to them -- even if he's hot"I was wondering for a while why women had gotten so nasty to me since I was with her, when I was with her. My observation is because they are comparing themselves constantly. If you, i.e. a HG9 or HG8 or whatever are with a girl see sees as a 4, it opens up questions she doesn't want to face If she has him ( i.e. you) and she believes she is better than your GF, why doesn't she have someone like you As Chris Rock says, if a man sees his buddy with a great woman, he says, I should get a woman lik… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/10/16 11:38 PM |
| 11 | don't understand hookup cultureThe better you learn how to deal with other people, the less conflict ( I hope) the rest of your life will be. If you can, get a job in sales or telemarketing, or at your age, door to door. Learn how to take a No, learn how to talk to people by doing it , learn how to read people and get them to see things your way by the way you communicate. See it was a learning experience, trial and error, and worry not so much about girls at this point. I suspect your problem is not solely how to talk to gir… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/10/16 07:10 AM |
| 4 | Still Digesting My Pill (Open Discussion *negative/positive criticism are both welcome)"Bitterness is like drinking the poison yourself and hoping the other person dies" Anger is good as a tool, as long as you have the ability to process it as a learning tool and then let things go. Doesn't mean you forget, it does however mean you "forgive" (Not women, but yourself for "allowing" them to harm you for so long) You don't matter to women. You only exist as a tool for how they feel about themselves. They shouldn't matter to you. You should never allow them, in a general sense, impact… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/10/16 03:17 AM |
| 7 | Charismatic techniques 101- Controlling Frame.My observation is the best way to get good/be effective at engaging people in general, including women, is to simply talk to as many people as possible. This is where I think it gets tricky. I find that others I know who enjoy the understanding of human behavior will tend to practice engaging everyone. You can't do it if it feels like work ,and if there's nothing about it you enjoy, then that's what it will be - a chore, just another form of "work" for you. One advantage I see in guys here on th… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/10/16 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Race, SMV, social ladder, and a theory of how it varies based on your location in the USA.My observation is people date as what they see as "everyday" I used to know a white woman who dated Asian men almost exclusively. When she was growing up, she lived in an area that was heavily Asian in general. The boys she grew up with were Asian, the people she associated with were Asian by default, so what was she going to be open to dating? Asians. Best answer I have for Asian men in America - Travel. If you fish in a pond where the fish just don't like your worm, go fish in another pond, an… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 11:42 PM |
| 20 | Your capacity for violence.Observation I've made from my own experiences, is that when you take a protective stance, tell, don't ask. I.E. "Sit down, wait for me to come back" or acknowledge a beta in the group "Take the women here, to the back, sit them down, wait for me to handle this" Other factor is how you act when shit is not about to go down. Always be calm, polite, be a gentleman. Women do notice how you treat others, esp older women, children, those who are incapable, etc. I really don't care if some crazed femin… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 11:22 PM |
| 9 | You should learn some skills that could come in handy in the future. Keep quiet, and with them, you can blow her mind.My observation is for beginners to take a dance/exercise class. Most guys here are at the gym anyway. Usually there are free classes implied with membership at a large enough gym. In that type of environment, there is a lot more margin of error for beginners/learners. Also if you can do 50 percent or more of the movements and you look like you are having a good time and enjoying yourself and not self conscious, then just about every woman around you will be pleased. If you can do 85 percent or m… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Feminist Podcaster Spouting Red Pillisms"This is the thing about being an asshole. This culture and what 'society' has taught women to be attracted to turns perfectly nice guys into pieces of shit! Like why would a guy not be a dick if it works? If being nice is not gonna get you pussy and being an asshole is gonna get you pussy...Under what circumstances would you be like 'I'll be nice anyway! Haha, that's fine, I don't care if I don't get laid and... everyone thinks I'm a little bitch while my friend is this jock... and the girl I w… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 10:41 AM |
| 13 | If you're a TRP newbie, you absolutely have to do this Tinder experimentOP states he is Asian. My observation is that most Asians are working at a general disadvantage, esp if they are trying to match with white American women. I have seen more Asian men with white women in the last two years than I have in the previous 20, the tide is changing somewhat, but there are a lot of stigmas and stereotypes and other issues that seem difficult to hurdle. ( The general mass media perception of Asian Americans does not help. You can literally be almost as racist as you want … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 10:10 AM |
| 6 | Understanding the 80/20 rule. Don't confuse top .2% for top 20%Yes and no. Yes that being able to speak words puts you above most guys. But no in the Tinder part. Online it's all about looks. You could be a total fucking nitwit and women will accommodate you. My thought is whenever possible, change the context to your strengths. I would likely be better off looking like Channing Tatum and having his fame and bank account. However the "gifts" and skills I have are dancing, public speaking and phone "closing" I'm no dancing machine, but often I am usually the… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 09:31 AM |
| 5 | How to Recognize Crazy BEFORE You're Targeted - A Guide to Identifying the Borderline Woman. (Part II)How could anyone be inclined to mess around with a woman of this nature? Ugh. It disgusts me. If you crack an egg into a bowl, want to know the best way to get a piece of shell fragment out of the egg white and yolk? Use the broken part of the shell in your hand, the fragment naturally attracts to it, latches on and you can easily lift it out. If you are "broken" yourself, you see nothing unusual about someone in front of you who is clearly "broken" I was with a BPD girl for a year and a half. H… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Girl cheats on a guy, guy believes she can't forgive herselfShe a wreck because she sees the writing on the wall. Even if we assume that she's 100% truthful about what happened he still failed a huge test and continues to do so. That's why she's a wreck. She knows they're finished. My observation is lots of women who cheat are terrified that other people within their work/social/family circle will find out. I.E. if the woman and man in the relationship happen to work together. Or they got together from a group that's a mix of male/females that socialize … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/16 02:40 AM |
| 30 | My cheating husband just inherited $3 million from his father’s estate — should I still divorce him?Used to work with a guy who ended up a mechanic. I'm talking hard core all the way to the bone skill set this guy had. Could literally fix anything with wheels on it. Made a great living. Met a single mom with three daughters. All three were 5 years old or under when they met. Married her, raised the three girls as his own, when the last one graduated college, that he paid for ( mother didn't work, she was a stay at home mom/homemaker), and after he had already put the two oldest in college, the… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/10/16 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Chart of Male-Female Suicide RatesDude, I think I know what your problem is..... Thank you for the gift. But I cannot accept it. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/10/16 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Chart of Male-Female Suicide RatesI've been dealing with depression for years, but have refused to go to therapy or take medication for it. And it's mostly because I know I would feel weak if I had to get outside help for my own personal problems. There is a movie called The Homesman, where a young woman, socially and sexually rejected by men, takes the task of transporting three mentally ill women across the western plains to a full time care home ( a rarity of that time) Before she treks forward, the man who rebuild the prison… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/10/16 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Chart of Male-Female Suicide RatesSomething I struggle with is the idea that I can never break "character" I.E. in order to hold "frame", it's almost like being an actor in a movie where no one ever call cut , there are no breaks to go back to your trailer to sleep, there is no tolerance for missing any of your lines. It's very human, to have weakness. But if you show weakness in public, esp around women, then you have to suffer a host of social consequences for it. I don't think any guy can be "stoic" without a deep and persona… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/10/16 03:40 AM |
| 8 | There are no cool girls, just cool ex boyfriendsI've come up with a theory that people who are considered "funny" do so to mostly amuse themselves. Because clearly being around most other people isn't going to do the trick. The distinction I use is if the person is an active listener and has that skill set and actually chooses to use it. If the person is genuinely trying to listen to you, when you speak and converse, ad is not just waiting to talk, even if they aren't "interesting" per se, I can totally respect they are least attempting to en… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/10/16 08:50 AM |
| 1 | 5 Easy Ways To Get Past Her DefensesOf course some women won’t like that you are direct and honest because they don’t want their reality of getting their ass kissed shattered. That is their problem not yours. Can you explain this in more detail? I think I have the gist of what you are saying, but more specific detail would help, at least seeing your perspective. Thanks in advance. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/10/16 07:36 AM |
| 4 | To the young man I saw at the gym last night:For people who are newer to a gym, I'd recommend group exercise classes. It's a good way to acclimate, also people are generally supportive and you get to know people over time in these classes and can meet some interesting people ( I would not recommend it as a method to meet girls though, if you form a "habit" of training, not sure if that violates the shitting where you eat principle. ) Alot of people do feel shame, they look at big leaps and don't look at practical baby steps, and all seems … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/10/16 07:23 AM |
| 4 | Older Men Date younger WomenI've talked to a few older women, one consideration that they have but is mostly unspoken is , at a certain age point, an "older guy" is a higher risk for health problems and needing full time care. If a 65 year old dates a 40 year old, she has to consider in a few years, he might have a serious healthy issue and does she want to spend her 50s caring for an older guy. If they've formed a long term relationship, it's harder to disengage easily ( i.e. Most women are concerned with public perceptio… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/10/16 11:33 AM |
| 10 | Never Reveal You Read TRP: A Reddit AnecdoteStrategy I learned is to reveal things about other people to get the person in front of you to trust you more and reveal more about themselves Person X: Well I'm getting divorced, it really sucks. My husband and I just didn't work out, it was hard, we fought alot, etc etc You: I read an article ( you can just make that part up) that said one issue about divorce is time away from each other because of work, etc. Do you feel that as an issue or something else maybe that you can see now more clearl… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/10/16 02:46 AM |
| -1 | I'm not even mad.My take is long distance works under some pretty extreme circumstances. I mean over the top extreme. Basically if the guy is a true 1 percenter, lots of women will consider it ( do it? not sure) The reward payoff is too great for them compared to the negatives of the trade off. Don't be me wrong, the women won't wait forever, but if the math breaks down and you are their version of a unicorn, they'll deal with it ( but probably silently assume you owe them for it) Distance can be bridged by time… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/10/16 02:32 AM |
| 5 | 5 quick tips to increase the likelihood of having succes with femalesMy take is it's very human to complain but with some caveats Only complain to men you know very well who you trust very well ( i.e. your "brothers" ) If you'd die for him, and he'd die for you, i.e. Ride And Die Together, then you should be able to say anything you want to each other Only complain about things you can't control. If your parents molested you, complain all you want. If you are upset you aren't losing weight and you won't put down the fork, that's different. As for women, it's alwa… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/10/16 02:23 AM |
| 28 | You have to suffer sooner or later.Basic rule of success in life Do what everyone is doing, but do it better than them or Do what no one else has thought of yet, everyone needs and hasn't realized it yet and do it well Sacrificing today for a tomorrow that might never come, that's a tough way to live. I've done it, I don't recommend it. There has to be a balance. Think about tomorrow, but live for today. Going to be careful how I say this, people who were severely abused as kids tend to lock into survival mode. Be safe, make supe… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/10/16 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Don't get into a LTR if you are in your 20'sMy take? Some guys don't want LTR or marriage, if so, cool for them. Wish them well on their journey. Some guys do want LTR and/or marriage, if so, cool for them. Wish them well on their journey. If you want LTR and/or marriage, I think you have to open to good people, whenever they enter your life. One piece of advice I got was younger was "No Hard Fast Rules" other that adhering your basic "code" of what you feel is acceptable conduct. (i.e. I wouldn't sleep with a married woman, other guys do… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/16 08:21 AM |
| 27 | I just realized how the book “The Art of Wordly Wisdom” has impacted my life and I want to shareIn the workplace, something I learned is the art of saying something, but saying nothing at all. One key thing, some people go way way too far to reveal absolutely nothing in their workplace culture. If people don't know anything about you, esp women, they will just make something up. People in these kind of environments are gossips and are bored and will rip others to shreds. You also don't want to labeled a "weirdo" or "that guy" and deal with the work culture social fallout that comes with th… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/16 08:03 AM |
| 1 | You don't need to be a 1% man to just get laid.One thing I learned when I was young was maximizing your rate of contact while factoring in time. For example, a guy can talk to one girl at a time, trying to see how things go, but that could mean you only talk to 4-5 girls in a night ( maybe that's too low or high depending on the circumstance) When I was young, I found out that I had a natural facility for public speaking. I did not know until later that it's one of the biggest fears that many people have, to stand up in front of a crowd and … | /r/TheRedPill | 16/10/16 07:31 AM |
| 5 | How to Recognize Crazy BEFORE You're Targeted - A Guide to Identifying the Borderline Woman. (Part I)Was in a relationship with a BPD girl for about a year and a half. Mirroring other comments, she was promiscuous and she was a cutter ( i.e. self harm) She had serious abandonment issues and would fly into rages. She was also a little heavier ( I think this might be common, as BPD's tend to want instant gratification, and that might apply to things like drugs and food and alcohol, etc, etc) At the time, I was not in a good place emotionally and the way I was raised, I didn't recognize the abuse … | /r/TheRedPill | 16/10/16 06:53 AM |
| 7 | Women treat handsome guys like kings.The way I see the OP's post, anger is simply part of the process. I , too, for a long time, was really really angry. Not just about the sexual marketplace, but on a bunch of other issues too. Anger IMHO and letting it process itself is part of the healing process. One aspect of TRP that I think goes undiscussed/underrated is that "self improvement" at some level, is about healing yourself and forgiving yourself and accepting yourself. It's really hard to do. How do most women avoid it? By jumpin… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/16 09:26 PM |
| – | "10 Easy Ways to Deal With Me When I’m Being a Bitch"Something to consider is that most people, esp most Americans, are socialized as adults in the workplace. Odds are you spend more time at work than you do with your family or friends. And in the modern workplace, male/female interactions are rife with pitfalls and threat to the average guy. Say the wrong thing, make the wrong joke, get taken out of the wrong context, look a little too long, have something be misinterpreted. And on and on and on. I think most men generally look for zero conflict … | /r/RedPillWomen | |
| – | Analogy for what men look for in womenSo what feeling does an ideal woman inspire in a man? My take.. when a guy is with what he believes is the right woman, he feels he can take on the entire world and nothing can stop him. There is no better feeling. Most men, my observation and experience, will respond most dramatically to women who are nurturing and empathetic and that appears to be authentic. It's sort of sad to me, because a little nurturing, to the average guy, is basically rocket fuel. But most guys I know get little to none… | /r/RedPillWomen |
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