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[–]JensenMse2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Same story with me as well...in a 19 month LTR who just suddenly started getting cold with me the past month. I'm suspecting she has the feels for a new guy now. I've been afraid of ending things, despite my gut feeling telling me to end things and continue with my mission.
Funny thing is just yesterday I decided to do some cold approach the first time after almost two years, thinking I might just try and see whether I still got it in me, and besides I had nothing to lose...and I got three new numbers. I'm now seriously convinced to end my LTR and start spinning plates.
Long story short: LTRs are really the Red Pill on hard mode.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LTRs are really the Red Pill on hard mode
LTRs are medium mode. Some benefits, some costs. You want to play on hard mode for no benefit, get married.
Numbers are not lays. But if you can approach, you'll get there.
[–]Rian_Stone1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's not, i wager you got complacent. I guarantee your willingness to explore other options earlier would have kept her acting right.
Not that it matters, anything other than a hell ya is a no, rides coming to a stop
[–]Self-honest1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I blocked her on everything to give her space
Keep it that way. Delete everything. Never speak to her again.
[–]G_Banger1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago* (10 children) | Copy Link
Same thing is starting to happen to me right now... Girlfriend defensive of her phone, she wants to stay home on Valentine's tomorrow and not hang out (which seems extremely strange to me), less sex than we used to have, she's very distant when we're not hanging out in person anymore, doesn't show me as much affection in person as she used to... etc, etc. Not sure what to do.
I have a gut feeling it's time to cut the cord, but I'm not great at this shit.
[–]Giddleor[S] 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
My advice is to follow your gut. It don't lie and I didn't listen to mine. I know you hate thinking about it, but you either pull back and see what happens or my advice would be to pull the plug. Your friends are there for a reason, like mine were. Ifor you gotta bawl your eyes out to your friends over the phone or in person or your parents or sibling or whomever, do it, just never to her.
[–]G_Banger2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I would never cry to her... I'd get pissed if anything. I feel weird breaking up with her if I don't have a legit reason. About 8 months ago I caught her msging with her ex, but she didn't really do anything and it was mostly pleasantries, but that's it. I'm tempted to try and break into her phone or get on to her Facebook just so I can find some hard evidence and say "BOOM that's why we're breaking up!"
If I don't find anything, then all is good, right?
[–]JensenMse0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah crying like that is pretty much the worst thing ever. It just shows her you can't even hold your frame, that you're so spineless you'll just fall into hers in a whim.
[–]sd4c0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That can backfire. When you find infidelity on their phone or computer, the blow to your ego can be unexpectedly large. You went in looking for an excuse to leave, find one, but are now so shocked you can't rally enough mojo to hold firm to a break-up.
It's brutal.
[–]Redpilledaccordingly2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Ghost her and wait for her to contact you. Do not "cut the cord" and give closure. No even talk about breaking up with her, just ghost. Start running game on other girls too.
[–]G_Banger0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think I might do this... Valentine's tomorrow, just ghost it LOL
[–]Giddleor[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ghosting is great that's what I did! It's hard at first but gets better and leaves you with the upper hand.
[–]allyoursmylove0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
too many red flags, cut the cord.
[–]Mineralrecords0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There's more than enough red flags in her behaviour just from the few sentences you have written. Don't break up. Just dread her hard. Don't justify your actions, don't try to explain yourself, nothing. Just be a cold ass motherfucker and act as if you are single. The relationship will fade away eventually. GFTOW.
[–]throwaway_dpel0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
very similar to my situation.
17 male, just out of LTR with my girl of 3 years since I was 14 and she was 16. I was a bit of an asshole to her for the last while and I regret big time treating her how I did. not because I want her back, but because that is not how to treat a girl.
I lost my virginity to this girl and she was my first everything, before we met she had fucked a lot of guys and at the beginning of our relationship she flirted with a lot of guys. she snapped out of that but I could never get over her sexual past and so that ruined our relationship because of how I treated her.
now, 3 months on and I'm happy, shes going out with some fat guy for Valentine's day and I'm hanging out with friends.
it gets better!
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