Small field report from yesterday, wanted to get this written while fresh in memory.
I was in a bar with few new friends I made a while ago, listening to my friends band playing in a local music competition. The music was way too loud to have a conversation for me and I decided to just enjoy the music. Later on we changed bars, but for some reason I was still not in a mood to game at all.
It gets late and one guy starts talking to me about how we should go looking for girls and I agreed as I was interested how he "looks for girls". So, after the second round of walking through the bar literally just looking for girls I decide to help the guy out and open the nearest table with two average looking girls. I asked their opinion about a theme for my friends birthday party, I quickly mentioned to the guy that he does not know the friend I was talking about as the guy looked like he was about to call me out lying to these girls or something. I got a feeling that this set was not going to end well.
We continued light conversation, what do they do for fun, did they like my friends band, etc. I didnt have to lead the conversation too much as the girls felt quite interested about us and I decided its time to escalate this, but the guy wouldnt stop talking. He just talked and talked and felt like someone who really likes hes own voice especially now that I got him few girls he can talk to. Talking is of course not bad, much better than silence, but when you talk about how hard it is for him to approach girls in bars or get dates its not really productive thing to do when you are trying to get into someones pants. I had to literally close his mouth with my hand to give the girls a turn to talk, but I did it in a funny way to save the guys face. He didnt seem too happy about it, but he finally got the message and the girls giggled and thanked me.
Now I need to mention that my biggest problem by far currently is escalation. I can approach any girl I see in a bar and have a healthy conversation and make a new friend, but thats it, we flirt, have fun and end up as friends. While going out with bunch of hot chicks as the only guy is definitely cool and helps my game, its not something I only want to do.
After getting a ton of signs from both girls I start playing with one of the girls hand while talking to the group, the girl doesnt seem to mind this and I feel great this is going well. Except the guy suddenly feels insulted that I mentioned the girls how he was drunk when I first met him after they asked about it. He tells me how I was supposed to be his wingman and support him, the girls dont seem to mind the wingman part but more annoyed about the guys reaction, whats the big deal, people get drunk all the time. My girl even tries to save the situation by trying to change the topic to the wingman and how great How I Met Your Mother show is. I started to get really irritated by this guy and it was getting closing time in the bar anyways, so I take the girls number and leave.
TL;DR: Tried to be wingman for a guy who ended up blowing the perfectly ripe set.
Any tips how to handle situations like this?
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