November 24 - Weekly Improvement & Progress Thread

silverhog1 · 2017-11-24T13:45:31+00:00

discovered TRP 30 days ago
haven’t fapped in 30 days, went cold turkey from doing it at least once a day for the last few years, noticeably more confident, more sex drive, more motivated
started working out again, been doing 6 days a week for the last 30ish day’s consisting of cardio/ body weight exercises (holding off going gym until I can mentally make this a solid habit) - gained 4-5 kgs in a month from this, mostly lean muscle - I’m now 75kg.
eating healthier since TRP which also adds to the above
definitely noticed more women check me out due to gains
reading TRP material on the daily; currently reading the rational male, going through some other ‘unplugging’ material
successful dread game in LTR, increased sex from 2-3times per week to about 7 times per week, among other small things
starting to watch my body language, voice tones, moving slower etc
smashed my university exams, awaiting results
got a phone job interview today for a job to keep me afloat for the summer while I set something up for my desired career
getting up earlier around 7am instead of 8am ish - trying to get to 5:30am

That’s all I can think about for progress since TRP 30 days ago. So far so good, but so many things to improve on and and so little time.

h4nkz · 2017-11-24T14:42:19+00:00

gained 20kg lean muscle mass since the last 2 years, about 10% bf
got up at 5am in order to go to the gym before work and have more time after work
practiced playing guitar at least 30min / day
benched 90kg for 3 clean reps this week
I'm dating a 9/10 girl I had an eye on for a long time
quit any kind of smoking 2 months ago
finished 2 books recently which helped me improve myself
quit porn 3 months ago
reduced gaming to about 3hrs/week
I'm in the process of learning to put myself first and enjoying myself
overall took some steps towards my goals

Disguised_Devil · 2017-11-24T16:03:18+00:00

Good

Been one month meditating. I started with 5 min per day, but now i can meditate for 10 min.
On wednesday i went to a party. I felt like i had a full IDGAF mentality and attitude. Even though i have been working on this since i've found TRP (like 4 months ago) i feel like now i have better way to improve it.
At this same party i picked up a chick (HB6). Couldn't make the pull because because i fuck it up at the LMR.
Broke my sobriety streak and went back into drink. This might seen as a failure but i realized the problem was my lack of action. Alcohol just intensifies your current state so if you're depresed and doing nothing, this shit will gain greater proportions. The key to yield results is: do not stand still and moderation (only drinking at clubs, parties, bars etc, and don't drinking to much to get hangover).
Started reading The 50th Law and still reading Think & Grow Rich.

Bad

I'm having a "good procrastination" problem. I'm reading to much posts from TRP, NoFap and other self improvement stuff from the internet. That wouldn't be a problem if i was trying to gather knowledge. Most of the time i was just passing through posts and videos not paying proper attention, just fooling my self. I'll limit my time and only see TRP and other stuff at weekends.
Relapsed into masturbation. But at least it didn't involve porn. Now, My current streak is 12 days.
Did not sleep properly during this entire week.
Didn't make much progress on some personal projects.

PoopflyMcGoo · 2017-11-24T23:26:49+00:00

had a nice holiday with my wife she cooked all the trimmings then we fucked like crazy.
2nd job interview lined up at competitor for twice salary 40k-->70/80k
got super motivated at work, really killing it at work as to not get fired before the holidays, before getting upcoming annual bonus, or before getting a new gig (would look bad in interview if I said I just got fired), and also on account of maybe getting another offer somewhere they could match or better.
talked to/day gamed the best looking girl at office hb9, 5,7" 115lb skinny with incredible ass, rode elevator down at end of night and walked her out talking about her. Was a positive interaction and now I could consider next interaction ok to ask for a drink sometime. She said she's a whiskey girl so I'd probably take her up on that.
going to the mall to pick up Kyrie sneakers and then play ball in them at the gym heavy.
a movie I was in premiered 2 weeks ago to decent reviews. Nothing special but has some potential. Going to progress other projects.
consumed a ton of content to help my perspective on life and who controls who, why things are the way they are, just trying to open my eyes and shed more light into the dark unknown. Going to try and read more books like Rich Dad poor Dad.
down smoking 3-5 bowls a day, had a great 3-day break around time of interview, felt great, but then smoked a lot yesterday while watching football all day. Going to monitor smoking and watching football. Season almost over.
credit scores up to 728/729/715. About 4200 cc debt. Making monthly payment on time for over 18 months.
looked at an open house across the street and realized we have a great deal 1645/month. Open house was 1900 for a piece of shit apartment.
continued talks with friends about possibly opening a sports bar juice bar restaurant cafe similar to the one we frequent.
met Toby McGuire on Sunday and smoked vape with him at the club.
have a huge event coming up this week nov 30 with other famous friends so looking forward to working that.
spoke to former colleague/business partner about a potential job offer at a company where a bunch of our old coworkers are starting to work. He's been there for 6 months and the boss there remembers me and likes me.

Negs - took week off from gym because had been getting too sore from lifting. Still looking physically fit with 8 pack 5'9" 148lbs. Will be back lifting either today or tomorrow. - fapping like crazy while wife is at work. Going to try and lower to once a week. - been drinking wine past two afternoons due to holiday but overall drinking is way down to at most 5 beers a week mostly on Sunday Monday night. - haven't been going out to as many clubs and bars with friends and instead at home with wife. Haven't fucked another girl in 3 months. - been realizing you need a red pill attitude at work while keen on false perceptions someone may have, but it's ok to lighten up with friends over beers after a hard day. - found out my younger brother got admitted into a drug rehab program where he takes the bus every morning to a out patient day care. - my grandmother fell out of bed and hurt her hip and she's gonna be ok but she's in a nursing home and is getting really old.

DrownRanger47 · 2017-11-24T16:39:03+00:00

Improvements:

I managed to read 1 hour everyday
I worked out 3 times a week
I became more social and tried to game everyone
met a girl this week and I plan to go on a date with her next week
did voluntary work as a nurse in a hospital
drank 2 liters of water almost everyday
reduced gaming to maximum 30 minutes a day
started to respect me more and put me first more (damn, it feels so good)
got at least 8-6 hours of sleep every night
reduced alchool intake very much

Failures:

relapsed to porn today (I had a 8 day streak)
haven't managed to eat healthy consistently and have a steady diet
failed to integrate fasting into my diet
didn't learn for an exam as much as I wanted
another girl gave me lots of IOI and I failed to see them and escalate ( yes, I was a fucking idiot, I know)
advanced very little towards my goals
didn't meditate at all

Tqleo · 2017-11-24T16:46:06+00:00

POSITIVE:

1- Two weeks ago I started working out and eating healthier.

2- Improved my performance at my job by focusing on tasks measuring them by time and quality.

3- Got a raise because of point 2.

4- Reduced the amount of time using social media.

5- Quit Smoking

6- Increased my reading of TRP.

7- Started to have a passive dread on my LTR with great and quickly results.

8- Stopped talking to toxic people that didn't add value to my life.

9- I've never been so focused on self improvement than now.

NEGATIVE:

10- I'm not controlling my money spends as well as before. Still working on that.

11- Between almost everyday Gym and almost everyday Sex i'm tired as fuck.

12- I wasn't able to sleep the correct amount of hours these past days.

highcountryWarlord · 2017-11-25T00:34:34+00:00

Just back from climbing a 13,500 mountain. 3500 vertical feet, 7 miles round trip. Went with a grappling buddy and one of her friends. We smoked his ass, probably waited around a total of an hour on him, both on the uphills and hard downhills. I have 15 years on his ass, he just couldn't keep up. Felt good. He was also Beta as fuck, living in the high country and moving to Houston so his girlfriend can pursue her dream PhD in poetry. Can't make this shit up.

Winter mountaineering is where it's at. Fuck that shit in the summer, just waiting to get fried by the next lightning bolt unless you leave at 3 AM to be off the summit by noon. Save summiting for winter, with awesome skiing descents, and climb/backpack/camp in the warm season. Yeah, it was about 25 degrees on top, but the wind gusted to at least 50 MPH and there was snow, awesome stuff, got some great Tinder pics.

The grappling buddy annoys me. She's in splendid shape, 5/10 face wise, introverted and very smart, PhD in geology, into hard rock mining. She'd make a great plate, but I know from Facebook (and I had nothing to do with the discussion) that she identifies as asexual. It's a damned shame, I'd like to train her in but prolly not worth the hassle.

DSetupDTitleDMenu · 2017-11-24T16:15:19+00:00

Started to try and repair my relationships with my three brothers. I'm not holding out hope that I'm going to be best mates with my neckbeard brother, but I'm sure good things will come of my other two brothers.
Smoked weed for the first time in my life. At age nearly 21. It's not like I was straight edge or anything, I just grew up in the middle of fucking nowhere and was isolated in my childhood and adolescent years. Anyways, weed's pretty cool and all, but it makes me content with being bored and doing nothing. Not something I'd do every day.
Had to shave my head after trying to bleach my hair. Ginger hair and bleach don't mix.

anonswede · 2017-11-24T17:03:09+00:00

Baby steps progress.

Good:

Back in the gym
Introduced myself to cute receptionist there and got her name and smiles
Minor chatting with 5 or so gym-people, and girls on the bus / train
Abs coming in while maintaining weight and gaining strength
52 days into NoFap, aiming for the 90 day milestone as a challenge
Feeling much less socially anxious & more dominant, having solid eye-contact with people as I go about my day - had a big black guy nod approvingly at me for not breaking eye contact first, which was fun
Reading and studying going well, including a bunch of Red Pill book recommendations
Applied for a STEM masters degree programme next fall, and about 6 courses to choose from this spring
A few Tinder matches and even two women messaging first

Bad:

Side-business revenue down
Looking for a job, no dice yet
Posture needs work, years of hunching over and being ashamed of man-boobs (which are now pretty solid pecs!) have taken its toll
Only minor chatting, need to work on continuing conversations with new people after a sentence or two
Wussed out on approaching a few girls that gave IOIs
Tinder game weak, lacking good pictures and the non-responsiveness / flake is high

Conclusion: Cold-Approach difficulty level = Sweden. When I get good at it here I feel like I'll be awesome at it in other countries. Looking to get out more to events / parties, but lacking a good social circle right now. Next step is more cold approaches at campus and while in transit, while focusing on lifting and getting a day job. Much more confident after a workout, good thing to capitalize on for approaching.

Shaney96 · 2017-11-24T19:26:59+00:00

First one of these. All criticism/advice is appreciated.

Postive

Blocked past LTR on everything.
Started BJJ yesterday.
Gym 3-4 times a week for the last couple of months (2 weeks were 3 times, the rest 4 times).
Started 5-a-side football 3 weeks back.
Began getting my head into drawing and designing a garment now and again.
Meditation everyday.
Reading something self-development related every day.
Keeping on top of my macros - my cut is going smoothly and I'm probably the most aesthetically pleasing I've ever been.
Keeping on top of posting on my Insta every day (any advice towards growing this would be appreciated. Insta linked upon request).
NoFap streak continues. Started from last Wednesday (my 21st) and aim to keep the streak for as long as 'possible'.

Negative

I think about my past LTR way too much. It's multiple times every day. I live in a small town, work for a small tech company that contains - almost exclusively - male introverts. I know this is just an excuse, and I've made the most sociable my gym buddy, joined the football team with a couple others, and aim to ask a few who live in the town if they'd like a pint sometime.
I feel that living in the environment I do has a large effect on my headspace. I literally speak to no girls. I've come straight from Uni to a small town with few opportunities and little social-vibe, so I've learned a lesson: When I get back to Uni, make the fucking most out of it, because I didn't push myself nearly as much as I'd have like to throughout my first two years.
I go out every weekend to party/meet people, however I'm yet to form any social/friend group. There's one group of people I can chill with, but my ex is much more a part of that group and I really don't feel seeing her will do me any favors. I don't even miss her herself, and I recognize that my thinking of her is due to the lack of 'other stuff' going on in my life and, in particular, the lack of people I talk to. I spend my working hours behind a screen, with 3 people near me whom I can talk to, and the social opportunities that are around me, I am beginning to try and make the most of.
I see my period at this seemingly desolate place a time to go 'monk-mode', however, my (by far) biggest weakness is to do with my ability to express my sexuality towards women. Yeah, I had a HB7 ltr for a year, and ended it when I began feeling isolated and I no longer wanted the relationship, however I jumped into the abyss with no friends, a job I didn't (and still don't) really enjoy, no social activities, and few hobbies. So yeah, that's a lesson in itself. But here I am, and I'm trying to make the most of the cards I've dealt myself, as this is entirely my responsibility.
No, I don't see women as the prize, but now and again, when working out, I get thoughts like "my ex will want me much more when she sees the fat I've cut and the muscle I've gained", which is just bullshit, but I believe these thoughts stem from my complete lack of communication with other women.
I will use the weekends as times to go to the local club and try to get out of my comfort zone with girls. As I say, I've gone out every weekend for the last month or two, but rarely do I ever feel completely uncomfortable, and this is something I really want to do. The last time I really got out of my comfort zone was the night I lost my virginity to my was-ltr (only been with one girl).
I visited the ex 3 weeks back to 'catch up' or whatever. I'm sure my motive for going over there was to try for an easy lay. I did try, and got rejected, then cried into her. PAH! Pathetic! Not be doing that again..
I think the important thing for me now is to, well, work on myself. I think a big part of that is experiencing more with women. Some say "time's a healer" with getting over an ltr, but I feel that getting my dick wet may help, and I think actually creating an emotional connection (that doesn't - by any means - mean ltr, as I don't believe that's at all what I want at the moment) with another girl will help. There have been (and still will be, I imagine) where I've felt 'not good enough' and shit. I definitely think my external world has a lot to do with this. When I first discovered TRP ~April 2016, and then got into my first ltr, I had full control of the relationship (so I believe). I reflected every day, had a hell of a lot of Uni-related shit going on in my life, and was purely focused on myself. But now I'm at a job that has made me realize my area of study probably won't be where I spend the rest of my life, I feel like I've lost some purpose, and I'm currently struggled to find this purpose.

Pardon the ramblings. This was much less positive/negative than it was a "here's some shit to get off my chest, and instead of journalling it, I'll put it on TRP to see if others can shed some of their light on my situation". Cheers for reading any, if not all, of this text.

AskForARoast · 2017-11-24T17:58:20+00:00

Overall 7.75/10

Fitness 8/10

I think I've found a decent workaround for some lower back pain.
didn't do all the sets and reps in my training program

Social 8/10

uh good I guess. been a bit lazy about the whole pickup thing this week.
this one chick who's ignored me is now totally hitting on me.
I have this fucked up need for validation. I crave the validation for girls Im not even attracted to, like girls who are so fucking beneath me. Also if girls show IOIs then stop, I suddenly start wanting their validation back even if I weren't attracted before.

School 8/10

2 major tests, both can go either way. last time I said that they both went the wrong way. hopefully this time they go the right way.
did most of my work. not stressing about school. a couple of years ago I was totally stressed out but these days I have a great balance of work/rest.

Goals 7/10

haven't been productive this week
fucked up sleep schedule
Spending just a bit to much money on snacks.
just happy really.

soovoo · 2017-11-25T07:10:15+00:00

Started TRP a week ago
Started taking only cold showers
Starting waking up early without hesitation because if your first choice of the day is full of hesitation, the rest of your day will be shit
Got a job / started working (minimum wage, but I'm 17 so its a start)
Developed a better workout plan and implemented it in the gym
Quit smoking, drinking, and bitching
Started meditating
Reading "Models"
Started walking with confidence, improved my style, looking everyone in the eyes
Had the week off from school, so I spent a lot of time ripping my own ego apart and questioning why I do the things I do
Ready as fuck to go back to school with my swagger but also ready to just focus on myself and let happiness find me while I grind and improve myself.

vandelayarchitect · 2017-11-26T22:09:39+00:00

I had a massive scare and something felt off so i came here to help clear my head. Short version is i almost left my ltr of 13 years because the sex was bad for a....wait for it.....single mom of 2 special needs kids. It was because we hooked up and the sex was amazing. Like, off the charts amazing. This went on for awhile, then she drops the i love you and wants me to leave gf, even though she pursued me for months, knowing i was in ltr and wasnt going to leave.

I noticed she was surrounded by orbiters who would regularly text, snapchat her asking for sex. She wouldnt say no, she would "stay silent", but then always be quick to tell me about it.....just some kf massive shit test central. Then she made a comment about time running out because she was pushing 30 and a single mom. This was red flag city and idiocy and mind cloudiness on my part due to the amazing sex.

She got wasted and started texting me about a coworker texting her asking for sex. Then said she didn't want it, but if she did she just wouldnt of told me. Wow, that was a wake up call lol. I feel like a fucking dumbass, but know i dodged a massive bullet too.

ThatHungryCaveman · 2017-11-24T19:41:12+00:00

Smoking 2 cigs a day, vaping just a bit. I don't bring cigs to work anymore since 1 year and a half ago.
Dressing better, more "conciounsly", not just the easy way as before, but keeping my casual style because it's what i like.
Reading more. 48L, some trp and other non related books.
Keeping few plates spinning around and "feeding" them each weekend.
Meeting more girls and setting dates for next weeks talking the basic stuff and not tolerating bullshit. More confident.
Eating better.
Listening other company proposals and negotiating.
Started to work and build a personal project that I had in mind since years ago.

Cons:

Didn't hit the gym this week... ill go this weekend. Really busy week.

Work_In_Progress92 · 2017-11-24T20:21:49+00:00

Good

I'm starting to see some improvements with my lifting - especially the upper back and quads. Been hitting the gym hard M/W/F and sticking with SL 5x5.
Reading more often. Been reading 48 Laws of Power this week.
Decided that I'm going to go for my MBA after I graduate this May.
School wise I've been slaughtering it with exams. My lowest grade on a quiz/exam/paper this semester has been an 80.
Becoming more social in classes. I try to talk to just about everyone unless they are extremely annoying.

Bad

Trying to find some part time work and still no interviews scheduled.
Pigged out Tuesday and got Popeyes.
Still not gaming.

msmahamed · 2017-11-25T01:26:36+00:00

good: started meditating again

made progress on personal projects

nofap day 13

started daily journaling

bad: currently broke due to bills

ate like shit today

went out wednesday, pretty much orbited this girl i knew. realized that none of the TRP stuff’s gonna matter of i’m fucking around with people like that. so, i’ll take that realization as good.

other notes:

i’ve been paying attention to myself a lot more, and have been noticing my procrastination habits. for me it usually starts with a spike of restlessness, then i wander. but i noticed that as soon as i feel it, and make a conscious effort to throw myself back into the project, then i get moving again. I’ll keep experimenting with this, but so far it works. I also try not to do that “yell at myself in my head thing” when i do that i feel like ass.

Martysteiner · 2017-11-25T01:49:00+00:00

. Reduced smoking . Have been reading several body language articles . Began to eat healthy, have been drinking more water and consuming less carbs.

theoracleofbromaha · 2017-11-25T05:25:18+00:00

The Good:

Gaming hard in the new city that I moved to. Been doing well when out and have a solid routine. Went out last night for Thanksgiving and found a nice cute girl who I hooked up with.

Lifted all week and diet has been solid.

Have gotten more respect at work and have pushed past certain mental hurdles.

The Bad:

Eating like shit on the weekends and drinking when I go out throws off my physical gains.

I have spent way too much money on getting around the city unerring to avoid drinking and driving.

Have not put in as much off hours learning new skills in the tech world.

PB0034 · 2017-11-25T05:37:42+00:00

Good:

No Fap
3x StrongLifts
3x C25K

Bad:

Fucked up sleep schedule
Too much CoD WWII

Acquin · 2017-11-25T09:56:07+00:00

In a little over a year of lifting I've gained almost 20kg and look better than ever style and grooming wise. Likewise, I've been able to switch my personality to love women's hypergamy. It's amazing how quickly they open up when they know that you aren't a trademarked nice guy.

Unfortunately I lack like minded friends. Many encourage me to drink and whatnot. Hardly any of them gym. Whilst I have gym friends they don't give a shit about diet so can't get visible abs like me. Thankfully my insecurities keep me going to the gym and that will never stop. In my engineering course I just do not meet the same likeminded people. However I did start martial arts and am doing fine there. The lack of like minded friends is quite demotivating when it comes to other hobbies I want to do more of though (e.g. Shooting random skits).

Merwebb · 2017-11-25T17:35:33+00:00

Looking my best in years but succumbing to binge eating.

Still looking for the reason

SuperbGolfer · 2017-11-25T23:58:31+00:00

Pros: kept up my workout schedule and greeted more people on the street today. Also got my T levels checked, I'm at 350 which I wasn't happy about but at least I'm not abnormally low.

My conversations are also becoming less and less awkward so that's pretty good.

Cons: wasted a huge amount of time playing video games

djcarrigangster · 2017-11-27T01:10:27+00:00

I've always been a twig, but I started lifting a month and a half ago and I'm proud to say that I've gone from 127 to 142lbs. The most I've ever weighed! I still have a long way to go, but it's awesome to see my hard work pay off.

Also got a higher paying job, started making actual headway in paying off my debt, doing decent in my online classes, and started repairing my car.

norcalguy510 · 2017-11-27T07:12:49+00:00

Last wednesday failed 335 deadlift. Yesterday fucking smashed that shit. Plan to hit 345 this coming week.

Only been lifting 1 year so im amazed at the potential im unlocking, and looking forward to where i will be in another year

bTHE66 · 2017-11-24T23:11:31+00:00

Stood my ground: I posted a funny post in a group of guys and girls. This one girl insulted m e using common fem speak that I were a chauvinist and misogynist and how can I find it funny?

Now there were my friends and people who know me in the group. I stood my ground used frame to convey that the fictional character in the post is not oppressed but it a happy person and molded the idea into my frame and threw a few insults at her. There were whiteknights but at the end there were a few guys siding me.

Lessons learned: 1) Hold your ground. Feminism is a bully. Old school lesson: If they punch you, you punch them back harder, next time they won't punch you.

2) People who disrespect you online/or in person are never your friends and well wishers to begin with. Don't care about them too.

Feeling emancipated. Thanks to the RedPill.

I can post the whole text convo on the group as a field report there are lessons to learn for all. But it seems sensitive to privacy. I can send the sceenshots if you people are interested in private.

Thanks !!!

roboisdabest · 2017-11-25T01:21:34+00:00

Good:

I am managing to read at least an hour and a half a day. Recent purchases - The Art of War (Sun Tzu), Meditations (Marcus Aurelius), The Way of The Superior Man (D. Deida)
Improving weekly at bouldering.
Booked a beach half marathon for early next year as a fitness goal
Booked some winter skills courses and a trip to slovenia to climb Mt. triglav next March
Maintained lifting and running program
Cut down drinking massively. Have not smoked any weed in a few weeks.
40 credits away from a law degree and in the process of setting up my own company.

Bad:

Still in contact with oneitis
Have not managed to quit porn
Still smoking cigarettes
Didn't get a particularly good grade in my coursework
Sleep pattern still a mess

Wish me luck for the coming week.

edit - grammar.

Title	November 24 - Weekly Improvement & Progress Thread
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Date	November 24, 2017 1:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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